Beta widow?

tombreck2 · 2014-09-15T18:51:37+00:00

If you are in an exclusive relationship with a girl that still hangs around her exes then you are asking to be cheated on

kingofpoplives · 2014-09-15T20:43:42+00:00

One thing him got on his favor is that he was able to fuck a lot of new girls after they broke up, including two friends of my gf, before we meet. She got angry at him, there was jealousy display from her part. They even hookup for ONS months after the breakup.

Sounds like calling this guy "beta" is your own hamster trying to make his presence feel less threatening. The fact he was banging lots of girls (including her) and making her jealous is pure alpha.

This guy just start dating some new girl and the reaction my gf had was kinda suspicious...she left every mutual FB group they had, she left their whatsapp group, she deleted every FB conversation they had.

More strong signs she is still hung up on this guy. When he started dating someone else all mention of him was emotionally traumatizing to her so she had to delete his presence from her life.

I just wonder how he was able to get this kinda of reaction of my girlfriend, even displaying overly beta behaviour when they were together.

Honestly man, I think you have an alpha widow on your hands here. This guy sounds like an alpha who got a case of oneitis, but went back to being alpha after he became single again.

He was the first to bang her and she bonded hard with him hard. Why did she dump him?

GrandCzarOfRedPill · 2014-09-15T18:51:09+00:00

History and validation. All this time he was her orbiter and she probably never considered he would stop being interested. She's butt hurt.

It's an immature reaction for her to have at 25 but if she was with him for years she may not be too experienced with these situations.

As long as you are aware of what's happening then there isn't much you can do.

How frequently where they in contact with one another?

GovBanana · 2014-09-15T21:25:54+00:00

Here is the deal. My currently girlfriend of 1 year (F25) used to date a guy (M25) from highschool. They dated for 3 years and she was the one who did the breakup.

This sub is turning into r/relationships.

Since the first months, i managed to get access to her mail account.

Why?

After reading conversations between them, i cringed myself over how much a guy can be oblivious in love (too much beta messages). I had no worries whatsoever with him, even that they still keep talking (i saw everything) once in a while and she was already in a relationship with me.

She's continuing to get validation from her ex and you're OK with this? Why?

Heres the catch. This guy just start dating some new girl and the reaction my gf had was kinda suspicious...she left every mutual FB group they had, she left their whatsapp group, she deleted every FB conversation they had.

That's not suspicious at all. She wants him as an orbiter and now he's not. But again, why are you tolerating this behavior from him? Why was she still in all these groups with her ex and talking with him on a daily basis? Why were you putting up with this behavior?

i got no problems passing shit tests, holding frame.

Somehow I doubt this very much.

They even hookup for ONS months after the breakup.

The dude turned her into a plate after she dumped him. I think this says everything anyone needs to know about your girl's "ex".

I am and always was ready to leave her at any time, if necessary (don't worry, no oneities plx).

Great, then you know what to do next.

Title	Beta widow?
Author	GovBanana
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	September 15, 2014 6:32 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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