I've been spineless for far too long. My girlfriend isn't mentally healthy.

TL;DR I don't want to see her again. I'm breaking up over text and blocking her. How do I best go about this without triggering a possible stalking?

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Ever since I committed to her in February, my life has been hell. At least twice a week, major drama happens. She will yell and taunt me to her best attempt. I will respond calmly.

This never works. She does not respond or understand a single thing I'm telling her.

Two months ago we had a fight, again. I told her I wanted to be alone and she left my apartment. I go for a bike ride to clear my mind. As I'm heading home, she starts blowing up my phone. Apparently she is outside my apartment door and she won't leave until I talk to her face to face. She won't leave and I have to sleep at a friends place. She finally leaves after four hours.

After this I tell her she needs to see a psychologist, if we are to stay together. She does and after two weeks we start seeing each other again.

However the drama continues.

I decide to spend my birthday, three weeks ago, at my parents house, in the countryside. This does not please her and another fight breaks out. When I get back, I'm assuming she is normal again. I visit her. She starts berating me for how I've treated her on my birthday. I want to leave, I ask her to let my bike out of the shed in the yard in front of her apartment (a dedicated shed for everyone's bikes with a lock on the door). She keeps my bike hostage until she gets her way.

Last week we went out for a walk and a fight breaks out. I left my things, including my apartment keys, at her apartment. I want to leave and I want to return to her apartment to get my things. She refuses and keeps my things hostage until she gets her way.

She is clearly fucking crazy. Last night we had another fight and she threatened to commit suicide. I had to calm her down over the phone for 2.5 hours, saying whatever she wanted to hear.

I guess this was my wake up call and now I def. want out.

Over the past three weeks, I made sure we don't have any belongings at each others apartments. I still have the key for her apartment though, but that's it.

Today I have been ignoring her and planning how to end this relationship. I don't think she is stable enough to handle me breaking up with her face to face. I don't want to see her again.

Now my question is: How do I break up with her and minimize the risk of backlash/stalking from her?

My plan thus far:

  • Drop her key in her mailbox.

  • Go home and shop food for several days.

  • Text her "Hi. I don't want to be in a relationship with you anymore. Our relationship doesn't work. My decision is final and I don't want you contacting or reaching out to me in any way. I won't respond. I have left your key in your mailbox."

  • Then proceed to block her wherever she is able to contact me.