Ok hear me out first.

I have a oneitis, I recognise its a oneitis, the only reason I am not pursuing her or giving her any attention is because she is back in her home country since quarantine, and she may or not be in the same city as me in the future. So theres no point for me to even consider pursuing her.

Now I recognise I have built this fantasy of her being the unicorn, but I have managed it well, I still approach and ask out girls as normal, I am still living my life my life as normal. Its like I can suppress the dumbassery of the oneitis, but the feelings linger, but they have no power over me.

My younger self would have done the dumb things and pine over this girl, believing the fantasy is just a matter of time happening, and stop myself pursuing other women, but its completely different now, I am wiser and more in control.

So what are your opinions, is the fact that I can control and suppress a oneitis, that it doesnt affect my actions, isnt this just an example that I am in control of my emotions and not vice versa.

I always have the motto, never be ashamed of your thoughts and emotions, they are just a reflection of your true ego, but be aware and in control of your actions and behaviour.