POSITIVES:

  • Was on a 2nd date on Sunday which she initiated by asking me round to hers for coffee during the day. She lives with her parents who were in, so wasn't really possible to escalate to sex with them around.

  • I got the train to her house, the last one home was 8.30pm but she offered to give me a lift back if I stayed later. When she dropped me off, I just said she can drop me off round the corner but she said "I want to see your apartment and have a nosey".

  • We literally laughed all day. She found me hilarious and told me her abs were hurting from belly laughing. Conversation never stopped all day. I playfully teased her all day to her smiling and saying "You're so mean!" with a wide open mouth! I felt I was fun and aloof all day.

  • I went for a kiss at the end by just smiling and saying "Can I have a kiss?", then just leaning in for one anyway. She reciprocated and slipped the tongue in too.

  • I got a message from her the next morning at 10.30am with a link to a restaurant saying "We should go here one Sunday for lunch". I was obviously on her mind.

NEGATIVES/SHIT TESTS?

  • On the first date she openly told me that she's been on a lot of dates from Tinder, but hasn't met anyone she 'fancies' yet (obviously no tingles). I thought that was an odd thing to say. I never reacted but it's got me wondering how many she currently is dating right now. Could be none, could be a lot?

  • She kept mentioning stories about her exes and people she's dated. I just remained non-fussed by this and acted like it was nothing. Why do this? Trying to make me jealous? Not over her ex? Using dread game on me?!

  • We met on Tinder, she asked me "How are your other dates going?". I just smiled and said "Yeah, really well thanks". She followed this up by asking "Have you had any bad ones" and I just deliberately looked deep in thought and said "Erm, no, I can't think of any bad ones".

  • She told me a few times about "how single she is" and made jokes about her not having a boyfriend. The thing is, I'd usually treat this as desperate or a red flag, but she's so confident and it seems her career takes up a lot of her time. Could this be her trying to say "I want you as my boyfriend?". She did it a few times and I can't figure out why say this?

I guess I need some advice regarding the negatives and why she was mentioning exes a lot and asking me about other dates? I know I'm asking for specific advice, but I feel that understanding these behaviours will help me in future interactions (with her or others). Once I understood shit tests for the first time, and could spot them, it helped me massively. Just looking to improve again with these questions.