Can you explain this behaviour?

SkorchZang · 2017-07-19T15:00:56+00:00

My advice is to just fuck her. Because fuck her.

Don't let what women say mess with your head. It's not supposed to make any sense, it has no truth in it, it's simply stuff women say... It's adorable, wiggly, wobbly and is like purple stage fog. It does not mean anything for you. You smile and go "sure sugarpuffs", and she'll love you for it too.

Remember, that you are the rare sought-after sexual prize, not her. Fucking you is how girls gain admittance. Forget about accomodating their ridiculous LTR needs-and-wants, that's completely off the table to begin with no matter what she says she wants. Only when she's been fucking you for a long time, and making your life so easy that you get lazy and surrender to the ease (and don't feel like chasing any other girls because it's too much effort), only then does she get to do exclusive LTR with you. Not that this prevents all of the typical LTR problems that start when this happens, but that is what the natural order of things looks like for a dedicated girl: plate -> happy longterm plate -> happy exclusive LTR -> cheating/disrespect -> breakup. Naturally as a man my favorite part by far is "happy longterm plate", and I try to drag out this part as long as fucking possible. Because this is where girls themselves often offer to be exclusive with you, yet you get to remain free to see other girls. That's just how they feel at this stage, they are happy and want to feel "yours", plus they think it helps advance their agenda toward that exclusive LTR.

The bottom line is twofold.

It does not matter what girls say. It means nothing because unlike a man, she's allowed to change her mind at any time with no consequences. Today you heard her wanting to "wait for marriage", tomorrow she meets Chad at the party and blows him in her sister's room. If you're thinking "WTF?", then welcome to women. That's just how they are.
There are no LTR-material girls at the outset. In the beginning, they're plates, all of them. If she sticks around, she can earn the exclusive LTR if she wants, by putting in time with you as a plate. Going the other way is putting the cart before the horse.

GreenPiller · 2017-07-19T15:28:24+00:00

I once heard a chick tell me she just wanted to fuck around for now, a few weeks later she told me she wanted Prince Charming, a few weeks later she told me that wanting some random dick when you are horny doesn't make you a slut and just yesterday she told me that she's tired of these fuckboys. Just fuck them and laugh at their nonsense.

Analgruppenfuher · 2017-07-19T15:51:55+00:00

If you're invested enough to type this without having fucked her, you need to ghost

SovereignSoul76 · 2017-07-19T15:53:37+00:00

"and said that she...wants to be more patient now."

translation: "I wish I was magically a better person, with no effort or discipline on my behalf."

I had a plate once that told me she doesn't sleep with guys she doesn't have feeling for. Well skip ahead a few months and I found out that she was bold face lying about me being her only FB (mind you, I TOLD HER I wouldn't judge her or mind if she sees other guys). I asked her what happened to needing to have feelings. Know what her response was?

"I said that's how I wanted to live, not how I was living."

Don't project your personal feelings of personal/social accountability onto women; they have ZERO concept of what it means.

max_peenor · 2017-07-19T16:27:06+00:00

She is not really hot

She probably realizes she needs to go into lockdown mode sooner than more attractive women, since the wall is closer for her. This is a pretty classic move. She is trying to unseat herself. Let someone else play that game with her.

mrpthrowa · 2017-07-19T17:32:22+00:00

Listen to what she does, not what she says.

Kwantuum · 2017-07-19T18:37:00+00:00

It's not like she is the "one" for me but I don't want to just fuck her if she really wants a LTR, because I also like her as a human, not just as female.

You literally heard her say she was a slut. AWALT, just stay vigilant, be the man she wants to fuck and it WILL happen.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-07-19T18:48:02+00:00

"I also like her as a human"

 ha ha ha ha ha

quicklogaccount · 2017-07-19T19:55:06+00:00

Okokok.
So you'll relinquish "only sex" to people you don't like as "human beings"?
Man, time to unplug there.

Anyways. She just changed her focus, it happens to lots of chicks.
Your hard shelved hoe is pretty "self supported", she doesn't require the stability a relationship provides and instead just fucks around and draws validation from it. She might be functional or dysfunctional, it doesn't really matter though.
Your ordinary chick isn't like that though, they want the stability and support relationships provide and figure out being less sexual filters out the men that are less willing to commit, and these men are often less attractive, thus making being less sexual easier for them.

You know man, your relationship will grow to a very common case of "she was a slut to everyone but not to me". You can avoid it if you manage to get her to be a slut for you too, but if you don't your relationship is pretty doomed.

Title	Can you explain this behaviour?
Author	KiseKaze
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	July 19, 2017 2:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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