catastrophic second date.. need advice/criticism badly

Hecticchow · 2015-09-08T14:54:48+00:00

You didn't build up enough of a connection to be going for more than a kiss. A first date at the movies is never a good idea because you don't have a chance to get to have meaningful conversation where you get to know each other.

tino125 · 2015-09-08T15:48:36+00:00

Oh to be 17

r/crigne

*Actual advice: Don't worry about it dude. Move on to the next one. It's not a big deal, everyone has bad dates and does dumb stuff with girls when they're young.

fnordsnord · 2015-09-08T17:12:30+00:00

I like to flip it. In that situation, my go-to would be:

"Sex? Kinda full of yourself, aren't ya? I was just having a little fun."

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-09-08T15:38:28+00:00

Might have wanted you to go for the poonanny rather than playing kissy face for 30 minutes.

Act like you don't remember who she is. Find some other bitches.

FrameWalker · 2015-09-08T16:21:59+00:00

This was my first kiss

Great pat yourself on the back. Next ask out two girls if you can. Find someone who's more pleasant and focus on having fun. Tease a bit.

As far as shit tests go:
1. Stare them down, make them look away. Hunter eyes while thinking about brushing their insides with your jackhammer.
2. Can you pick me up? It's a fitness test. Best response is hmm ok let me try and then struggle really hard while barely touching her and go "Becky wtf do you eat? When's the last time you ran?"
3. >I'm not going to have sex with you

"woah you've got a dirty mind, I'm more of a make out and touch elbows kinda guy"

"I don't think we should continue this"
LOL why is the worst response!!! You're asking them to rationalize and the hamster will gravitate to "I'm not feeling it" ideas:

"that's a relief, got any snacks? "
" yes I agree we would end up doing some very naughty things"
"ok" and pick her up and spin her around

Text mostly for. Logistics. In hs a bit more is common these days so calibrate empirically

Also go for long hair nonemo chicks. likely to have lower partner count

StotheGG · 2015-09-08T16:52:27+00:00

The problem here is simple: you seem boring. I'm not saying you're boring, but this entire set up was very boring. To sit back and watch tv is boring. Unless you have a sharp sense of humor, there is little worth doing. Think about it this way: people who make television their primary form of entertainment don't have much going on. You might respond that it was her idea or something of the sort: but tht's not the point. The point is, you have to be the most entertaining thing in the room. It does not mean you act like a clown, but you have to be able to hold her attention and keep her wanting more. A lot of people talk about 'game' but a lot of true 'game' comes down to whether you're an interesting person or not.

You messed up because you had no objective beyond trying to kiss her. You didn't know why you were there beyond trying to feel her up. A girl is going to say: why am I going to let him feel me up if he has nothing else to offer. Now you might be boring, she might be boring, and you might be incompatible. Breaking things off with someone that you don't have anything in common with is not to be lamented. It is a good thing.

To in terms of suggestions: I'd say, ask yourself if you are actually an interesting person. If you were a stranger, of either gender, would you be able to really be interesting and want to spend time with you? You're a kid, so you're doing well and growing. But that's the point, the more interesting you become, the less you need a woman and the easier it is to keep a girls attention.

secret_barber · 2015-09-08T17:42:15+00:00

For a first kiss, I'd say you killed it. Good job!

That said, be aware of how things are feeling and then react accordingly. You said you were bored with kissing and it wasn't excalating. That is the exact moment when you change shit up. Turn on music, dance. Change locations, make it adventure. BE EXCITING! Take a bike ride to a chill spot, kiss some more.

Her saying she doesn't "feel anything special" is nothing more than her matching your "bored" vibe. Again, be conscious of the feelings around you and take action.

Title	catastrophic second date.. need advice/criticism badly
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Date	September 8, 2015 2:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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