Caught plate snooping

babydocnorman · 2015-03-03T23:13:54+00:00

I realize leaving an early 20s girl in a room with my Facebook all day is like asking a fat kid to not eat cake,

Yeah, you set her up good. If you bring this up, she'll probably claim entrapment, lol.

Her hamster is spinning at about 1000 rpm now, so I would wait to see what happens before you say something. If she's extra nice to you, consider yourself the beneficiary of a slick, unintentional dread move and enjoy the benefits. If she reacts the other way: challenges you, wants to check your other social accounts, etc, then you need to use the pimp hand (note to feminist lurkers - this is a metaphor) and enforce limits.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-03-03T23:32:44+00:00

Take it out on her ass.

PhantomDream09 · 2015-03-03T23:48:30+00:00

The "gotcha" response is passive aggressive, and comes across as juvenile. You learned something very important about this woman, but there's really no need to expose your hand. Information is valuable, but you don't always need to act on what you know. You can keep your distance from her if you think that will help, but you've really only verified what you (should have) suspected all along: this woman cannot be trusted. Put a password on your keyboard, and don't give her access to anything you want kept private.

stillnoturday · 2015-03-03T23:07:24+00:00

why send her anything? just dont talk to her...its a plate

cray-cray-cray · 2015-03-04T01:25:59+00:00

I always kept an open plate policy. I made them understand that they couldn't fuck around with my computers, but they could see anything they want, as long as they could deal with reality. As part of that deal... I got to be honest all of the time, and they got... well, not a lot I guess, but they got honesty. If they wanted to look, that was fine. I had the same deal with all plates. What was not acceptable was fucking with my computers, because they are important to me. I wouldn't let a burglar fuck with them... why would I let a plate fuck with them?

Thinking about sending her a screenshot of the browser history and saying "busted" then go radio silent for a while and let her stew.

That might seem like fun, but it will just fuck her up more, and she'll never get over it. She'll become ridiculously obsessed, and nothing good will come out of it.

so I'll password protect that shit and install a key logger...

Why would you install a keylogger on your own computer? Just remove her access and be done with it, if you care about it. This is what this sounds like to me...

I'll leave a hamburger on the floor, and put a hidden camera there to see what my dog does while I'm gone.

If you give a shit, don't leave a hamburger on the floor and you'll know exactly what happens without all of the extra trouble.

AlphaAccountant · 2015-03-03T23:14:50+00:00

Thinking about sending her a screenshot of the browser history and saying "busted" then go radio silent for a while and let her stew.

To me, sounds too radical.

I realize leaving an early 20s girl in a room with my Facebook all day is like asking a fat kid to not eat cake

So you admit that part of the fault is yours.

Personally, I would just bring it up playfully next time you see her. If the message doesn't come across, she denies it or starts freaking out, push harder, go into boundary setting mode while holding frame.

secret_barber · 2015-03-04T20:16:17+00:00

Plate, alone in your place? ...don't do that.

oldredder · 2015-03-04T09:59:27+00:00

All my devices are locked. I don't stay logged in but even if I did the computer can't be opened. My phone can't log in to those things. That's a choice and I never regret it.

My computer is Linux and I have a guest account set up for a girl to use. If she wants she can see the web but she has no idea, often, how to use Linux and her account is isolated from mine. No view of anything of mine.

This guest account has never been used. No girl's been safe enough to let near the computer, the house at all. None are worthy yet but if worthy she will use the guest account only - never mine.

Everything of mine is password protected. Files of importance are on SD card and that goes into my pocket without her ever seeing there was a card.

UnluckyPenguin · 2015-03-03T23:50:17+00:00

Even if you weren't tech-savvy, you would have realized she found out about other women you are talking to.

She will bring it up with you. Or, as women love to pretend, try to get you to bring it up by asking pointed questions.

I've had this happen several times. Hold frame. As long as you know you did nothing wrong, then they can't be offended if you didn't break any rules.

Title	Caught plate snooping
Author	Trujillo_Caudillo
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	March 3, 2015 11:01 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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