I went on 5-6 dates with a woman I met, and in retrospect acted completely 'beta' out of my utter infatuation with her (I just found and read the fascinating materials on this site tonight).
In retrospect, I should have acted much more dominant, less pandering to her, and should not have expressed so much interest in and admiration for her up front.
Anyway, recently she tells me that she's not sure she feels 'chemistry' between us (after I asked her whether something was bothering her when she was quiet), and she's not sure what to do because she really thinks I'm special and she understands chemistry can grow in time.
In truth I am indeed a very high value male (powerful social standing; good looking; talented). I want her very much; if I didn't I would quickly move on to the next. What concrete things or strategies should I execute now to maximize my chances with this woman and generate maximal attraction/chemistry?
============= UPDATE: Despite some interesting feedback, I have not found an answer that makes sense to me: on one hand people are saying that I can be very attractive to woman X if I start being alpha, and on the other hand saying that once woman X has perceived me as beta, "the ship has sailed" "no chance" "you're ingrained in her mind as beta" "nothing you can do." I am not going to shut myself off to other women, but it is both intellectually and sexually interesting to me to see what, if anything, it takes to flip this woman's perceptions.
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