Cold approach tips please

Big_Parsley1637 · 2021-03-25T23:30:03+00:00

If your dog walks up to a women something like "I was training him last night to seek out beautiful women, I can't believe it worked so well!" Its kind of corny but breaks the ice and gets the ball rolling on intention. If shes game at all to flirt she will probably hit back with something to make you think on your feet. Remember these come backs and have something prepared for them. Commit fully with you body language (square up to her, look her in the eye). It will work better if she stops to pet your dog. Have your appearance on point (haircut, clothes, cologne). Make sure the dog is groomed and doesnt stink as well. Overwise its like having a dirty car in this scenario. The pickup line wont do any heavy lifting. Your energy has to carry you. It might be better to get your feet wet in cold approach before you show intention this hard and fast.

Only use the dog as an opener and then pivot quickly after 1 or 2 back and forths to a real conversation.

Good luck!

CoyoteMiyamoto · 2021-03-25T22:23:35+00:00

Don't make it complicated.

Some short phrase like "I like your energy. Can I get your number?" or "Give me your number, I'll hit you up."

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2021-03-26T01:27:42+00:00

and be a useless cunt without him.

Whoa, mate. Stop the self-pity.

Self-pity is a legit mental illness. I suspect this will be a bigger challenge for your than your presumed shyness. Why? Because you don't even understand that you're doing it like once every two minutes.

Look, you can't always keep it from coming around, but you don't need to invite that crap inside your house as a guest. Stop entertaining it.

You're not a some kind of helpless, powerless victim of somone else's opinions. Refuse to see yourself that way. You're the judge and jury of your own life.

my problem is I am so fucking shy

Self-fulfilling prophecy.

You're not going to have much luck if you begin from the very start by mentally packaging yourself as "that fucking shy guy."

Fix your frame. Either act like tou have something to be embarrassed about or else don't act that way.

and no doubt women can sense that.

Who cares what they can sense? You're the prize here, not them.

If they're good enough at sensing things, then they ought to sense the need to impress a man and show him a good time. If not, then they must be boring and insensitive.

This is how women think. Obsessing about whether men can sense their feelings and see their supposed weaknesses. Meanwhile being desperate not to say the wrong things or screw something up with a man. Being desperate not to seem weak.

So you've really got your roles confused here. You're setting them up as the man in the relationship.

I've been reading the Mystery Method and thinking about what I can say

Your overall frame of mind, attitude, and belief system > your tone and phrasing > anything you actually say.

but my autism is giving me blanks.

Iron Rule of Thomassi #3.

Oooops. You thought this was an excellent time and an excellent place to self-deprecate.

It wasn't. A good time for self-deprecation is not any time in the next 15 years. A better time for it is never.

I'm also worried I'll end up using my dog as a crutch

Jesus Christ that's no "worry." That's another prophesy right there. Sounds like a plan of action.

So what's it to the dog if you use it as a prop or a stage gag? Either way it gets to smell it's way around so it'll be happy.

So go for it. Be proud of that slobbery bastard. The great thing about dogs is they don't overcomplicate things and they don't need to be told that the world is their backyard.

Educational-Club-387 · 2021-03-26T04:04:08+00:00

There is no other way around it other than exposure therapy my friend. Go say hi, then hi again, then hi one more time, then a hundred more times, and then a thousand times until you get good. Keep going, enjoy the process and have fun. Take this from someone that has cold approached probably over a thousand girls, just had 30 - 50 dates in 3 months in Costa Rica all from cold approach, and got two instant lays for the first time. Get out there man.

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Initial-Horse-583 · 2021-03-25T23:36:43+00:00

smoke weed, it’ll calm your anxiety, then just go in and say fuck it

Title	Cold approach tips please
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Date	March 25, 2021 10:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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