College???

Yozki · 2018-11-25T08:09:44+00:00

I almost failed in the middle of my college esducation and the one thing that helped me save my life was forcing myself not to miss a single class and take notes.

I know a lot of people who partied and drank during the week but you sound like someone who can't handle that, I know I couldn't.

salvador_ii · 2018-11-25T08:08:03+00:00

I flunked out of college twice, each time it felt shittier than the last. My identity was wrapped up in academia so it was a big blow to my ego as well. In retrospect it was easy to tell what I was doing wrong, as I lived in a constant state of anxiety and depression.

I had to address some hang ups I had from childhood, grow more comfortable with responsibility, and find something that I wouldn’t mind doing for money. I ended up moving to a different state to finish a degree, which made everything harder. I had no family or many friends there, and I’d never really considered living there before I got offered a scholarship. (Westcoast to Midwest) I lived in an empty apartment for months, I’d never lived where it snowed, I used public transportation the whole time. It was hard, harder than if I had just gotten my shit together earlier, but everyone learns at their own pace.

If i could snap my fingers and motivate you to finish college, I would. I’ve noticed a fair amount of benefits to having a degree, but that’s wishful thinking. The truth is you have to give a fuck. Not just about college, but about yourself and life. A sacrifice is going to happen no matter what, the only thing you get to do is make a choice as to how.

Good luck out there

qball43 · 2018-11-25T11:17:44+00:00

Treat it like a 9-5 job. Spend all your time 9-5 either studying, working on homework, or in class.

Lostitink · 2018-11-25T10:37:15+00:00

I’m on college round 2 first time I was a 2.5 student that didn’t really care and thought I was smarter than the system. This time around I use my resources, such as free tutors and all the online help that’s available through YouTube for all math and physics stuff. I focus on how I learn and not so much on how they teach me. It’s not the teacher fault if I don’t understand something. It’s my fault because I didn’t put in the effort needed to get the result I wanted. Now, I’m a 3.8 student and I feel like I’m just crushing school. I put in the effort and I want to be the best. I always ask people what grade they got, if I’m friendly with them and I make it a competition. I want to be the best. That’s how you need to look at it. College is your job. Everything else is secondary to success in school. I also go to the gym almost everyday and make a point to do this to relax and not think about school. You got this man. But you need disciple not motivation. Sometimes it’s going to get hard. You have to push through the laziness at the end of the semester.

randomTATRP · 2018-11-25T10:05:50+00:00

it isn't easy. i'm on my last year of college but i'm still fighting with my laziness. but since i've found trp, it has gotten easier. you know you got shit to do and don't postpone it, just do it. just like for the gym, you know you have to do it but you don't want to, but you still do it. discipline>>>>motivation

uniquan · 2018-11-25T12:54:39+00:00

I never liked the idea of homework, instead I call it librarywork.

Anon241469 · 2018-11-25T15:56:56+00:00

Be healthy (eat, sleep, exercise)
Go to class
Do your homework
Study

slaterhuckle · 2018-11-25T12:59:30+00:00

I also flunked out multiple times it took me 10 years to complete my undergrad. Looking back it was retarded to even go to college in the first place. But society had conditioned me to believe that was self worth was tied to my success in college and I should finish what I started. In the end it felt good to accomplish graduating, however the amount of debt I incurred for my degree was not worth it by a long shot. I would not recommend anyone go to college if you have to take out loans. Far better to just get a full time job in a trade like construction or something useful and just work for a few years. College is a lot of bullshit for practically nothing and at the end no one gives a fuck if you have a degree or what its in. Probably the single biggest regret of my life is wasting all that time and energy trying to "play the game" and succeed in this totally arbitrary academic landscape where you do all this busy work and spend a lot of effort on shit that you can just learn for free on the internet anyway. But if you want to succeed it just comes down to putting in the work, doing the homework and the reading, studying for the test ahead of time and keeping up with everything. If you really want it bad enough you will sacrifice your time and energy and make it happen for yourself. No amount of reading self help articles is going to help you because in the end you just have to grind it out and do the work yourself.

Velebit · 2018-11-25T15:45:35+00:00

I am lazy but I have a masters because I have high IQ and don't give up easily.

People who are dumb or mediocre in intelligence have to have great work ethic and put loads of hours of reading and working on a certain subject without feeling bored and demoralized.

While I would on average spend 5 to 10 hours prepairing for an exam my colleagues would literally spend 10 times as much. Standard examples are 'a couple hours every day for a few weeks' which means probably like 20 days of 3 hours or around 60 hours.

Title	College???
Author	idaaaustin1
Upvotes	9
Comments	9
Date	November 25, 2018 7:11 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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