Condom Issue

Youcheekylilmonkey · 2018-10-28T22:13:37+00:00

Masturbate with condos on. Your brain needs to have positive reinforcement with condoms and associate condoms with cumming.

Basically for the next 3-4 months you can’t cum unless a condom is on your dick. You will eventually actually start to get more turned on by the sight of a condom.

vas_mhtro · 2018-10-28T21:23:49+00:00

Think of it as your homies tight hand keeping you safe from catching the sexual disease with a thot.

BigBallsJamesHunt · 2018-10-28T21:07:51+00:00

Another day, another quality question.

no_condoments · 2018-10-28T21:22:03+00:00

Try masturbating with a condom on. Or fucking a fleshlight with a condom on. They're not great, but you'll get used to it.

falecf4 · 2018-10-28T21:25:54+00:00

Make sure your condoms fit properly.

temerity18 · 2018-10-28T21:22:48+00:00

It is a common issue. What I do is I take her fingers and guide her to gently tap the tip of my dick. This makes me harder than most anything else. When she does that I unpack the condom and then I unroll the condom as far as it will go on my dick. Works everytime.

burnta11 · 2018-10-28T21:43:22+00:00

They're likely too tight. Buy a pack of magnums and see if it helps. You don't need a massive horse cock to require magnums, as much as people might try and say otherwise.

amn301 · 2018-10-28T21:43:39+00:00

Are you using the right size condom?

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-10-28T23:51:35+00:00

I currently have this problem and have for a while. Although I have noticed improvement.

When I’m getting a BJ, I progress to rock hard boner. In the midst, I start to unwrap the condom. As I do this, much like you, I start I go soft to a degree. The thought of the impending condom starts to kill the strength of my boner.

One thing that helped me A LOT was buying bigger condoms. I buy magnums now, because the standard size acts more or less like a turniqet and cuts off the blood supply to your John. I’ve noticed much better sensitivity with the bigger condoms and have had much much better success.

I would also say to have the condom unwrapped and on the nightstand or something so you don’t waste time fumbling unwrapping it.

I’ve also come to accept that I’m not supposed to be a porn star every single sexual encounter. Sometimes your dick strength just isn’t at 100% some days. Could be that your stressed from work, tired, dehydrated, etc.

191john191 · 2018-10-28T21:23:47+00:00

Keep a pocket of penicillin and hit raw you’ll be killin it

light-----------dark · 2018-10-28T21:30:18+00:00

A condom during anal should be more fulfilling.

Charlie_007 · 2018-10-29T22:45:12+00:00

If you like this girl, don’t avoid her. Most girls will want to help you achieve an orgasm. You’re probably just using the wrong size or type of condoms. Do lots of research on this because it’s actually quite common, but easily overcome able with a little practice.

First, practice jerking off with a condom on, preferably with lube. If it goes soft, figure out recovery techniques on your own (first try this without a partner, so You’re not under pressure).

While it’s on, you don’t have to stroke the whole shaft. Just the part right where the shaft meets the head. Rock hard again in no time if you do it right and have the right condom on. Such a personal preference thing. On your own time, try out a sample of different types and sizes to figure out which feels best when masterbating. It’s a bit of an investment upfront, but worth figuring it out.

From here out practice with a condom on for every occasion you masterbate to figure out what works. Also try many different types of condoms. Get sampler packs. But honestly You’ll figure it out, don’t worry.

derrtderr · 2018-10-29T01:57:01+00:00

Put the fucking condom on. You should never reproduce. Even by accident.

Actually. NONE of you should reproduce.

Quaternionz · 2018-10-28T22:17:34+00:00

A few tips:

1) Try different types of condoms. It’s common for condoms to slip off or break if they don’t fit right. If you suspect you might have a bigger than average dick then try Trojan Magnums. Lots of young guys who need magnums don’t realize it until they have a bunch of shitty experiences with normal condoms first.

2) Don’t lose frame when you’re having condom issues. It’s inevitable, it’s normal. Don’t act sad or discouraged. It’ll just throw her off kilter too and ruin the mood. When you’re having problems with hardness just de-escalate the interaction from intercourse back down to foreplay. Go back to making out, groping, and just chilling in bed. Do some pillow talk and just relax. With the pressure off you’ll get hard again eventually, and then you can keep going.

3) Always have lube with you. Always.

4) Learn to have more dominant sex. Grab her by the neck with both hands when you’re fucking her. Spank her, hard. (Go soft at first, and then gradually go harder. Find her pain threshold. Different girls have different pain thresholds). Go online and buy handcuffs. (The real kind, not the pussy kind that have a little safety button that the girl can use to unlock herself). Go to Home Depot and buy a few dozen feet of smooth, comfortable, nylon/synthetic rope (It’s practically as cheap as $0.01/ft at Home Depot. Don’t go to a sex shop where they’ll overcharge you and sell a few feet of it for $45 in fancy little box. Get good scissors and a lighter so that you can cut it up as needed and melt the frayed ends shut). Physically dominating the girl and having her in bondage will get you hard despite the condom issues. It’s a psychological thing. Women also get so wet with that stuff that they start to drench the sheets, so it’s a good idea all around.

Occasionally you’ll have girls go “Whoa, whoa, I don’t like being touched like that.” Or “I don’t know if I trust you enough for handcuffs.” If that happens just next her. Either she sees you as her beta bux and isn’t comfortable submitting, or she has psychological trust issues that aren’t worth putting up with. Nine out of ten girls love this stuff, submit to it enthusiastically, and beg for more of it once you get started. That one masculinized feminist chick who fundamentally distrusts men will try to convince you that you’re the weird one for wanting to have sex like that, but don’t take her crap. She’s the weird one. NEXT! (Seriously girl, I already have you naked in my bedroom. You’re a scrawny 100lb and I’m 180lb of muscle. If I wanted to do something without your consent I could hold you down and just do it. You’re already physically helpless here. Handcuffs don’t change anything, and they’re so much fun).

Also, good on you for realizing early that condoms are necessary. It’s common for betas to not care about condoms because they’re always in LTR-mode and figure that there’s no appreciable STD risk if they’re only going to bang 3-4 girls over a lifetime anyway. If you want to do the Alpha playboy thing and get your N-count into the 100’s then condoms are a must. I was retarded when I first started and it took a serious STD scare to set me straight.

Also, don’t eat random girls out unless you’re very certain of their herpes status, or have been seeing them for a while and are considering an LTR. Going down is fun as hell, but it’s not worth the face herpes. I still give in on this more often than I should. If I’m with a 20 year old HB8-9 who just shaved then I can’t help it. Try hard to avoid it if possible, especially with the lower tier girls who aren’t worth the risk.

Charlie_007 · 2018-10-30T05:19:16+00:00

EVERY guy has had this issue at one time or another. Dude your so not alone. And girls will have seen this before so it’s not a biggee. But don’t ask her to have raw unprotected sex just because you hate condoms. Everyone hates condoms. Here are my thoughts:

1) if you turn all your energy towards her and making sure she is having a good time, it will take the pressure off you. She shouldn’t be kissing you on both sides of your face wondering why your sad or mad. If your doing it right, when you noticed that was happening you should always first open the package and then put the opened rubber aside but at the ready , or even on but then say “not so fast, I want you to play with you some more” and make her cum at least 1 more time. Girls can cum multiple times if you do it right. Ask her to make sure she tells you what feels good and what works. Don’t let it get dry down there - Use lube it needed, but not too much. I don’t know why this happens but Playing with her nipples will help keep her self-lubricated, In case you don’t have lube on hand.

Take the pressure off yourself and make it all about satisfying her and you’ll see that so much of this problem is just phycological. It happened once so now you have issues with thinking it might happen each time, so it does. If you focus on satisfying her, you’ll make her happy and because she gets all wet, hot and excited by the finger action you’ll see yourself get hard again. Maybe even put it on, guide her to stroke you and then get to work on jacking her off one more time while she does this. Seeing her all hot and bothered should do the trick.

Also Maybe ask her to help put it on. or at least rub your balls while you put it on.

2) stop masturbating in between the times when your with her. If you are masterbating too much, your not allowing yourself the build up time needed to ensure you won’t go soft when the time comes. Do NOT masterbate daily. In fact stop all completely. You’ll notice your issue goes away.

3) NEVER and I mean Never have “sex in the raw” unless you 100% want to be sure of being a unintentional father. I have 4 friends this has happened to and their lives are HELL. In 8 months I’m astounded you didn’t get her preggers. Was she on the pill?

Plus you absolutely will get an STD if your now out having sex unprotected. And let me tell you how nasty that is.

4) if you do, definitely masterbate with lube and a condom on 100% of the time, and don’t EVER pull it off to finish or you’ll just train your dick to not cum in a condom. You’ll see an improvement but it takes patience.

Try masterbating with different ones on. See what feels best.

Master getting the condom on FAST. If you can’t get it on fast, it’s not the right brand or size.

5) definitely experiment with lots of different condoms. Find one that’s comfortable.

Spermicide ones are best protection against pregnancy but do you ever see a reaction? you may have a latex allergy too, so check for non latex condoms. a lot of women have a spermicide and/or latex allergy as well. Non-latex condoms can be very expensive but what a difference!!!!

Try polyurethane condoms (thinner) like Trojan Supra bareskin or Polyisoprene condoms like Skyns or Durex Real Feel. Lamb skin condoms are really nice but provide no protection from STDs so generally they are only for married / monogamous couples.

Maybe Add a little touch of lube both inside and outside. It really makes a difference. But not too much inside or it will slip off. Also Make sure it’s lube and not something like massage oil or petroleum jelly which breaks down the condom and makes it so porous that anything can get thru!

The thing about a larger size condom is so true too. Do you struggle to get it to roll on?

Check this out:

https://luckybloke.com

6). Are you drinking alcohol, smoking Pot or doing Jule or anything like that? Don’t get Whiskey dick. Smoking definitely impacts a boner. It’s well known that booze and drugs have serious impacts on performance.

7) whatever you do, once you do get it on, do NOT pull the condom off mid fuck. Guys who do that are idiots. Judges are calling that rape and putting guys in jail, because it’s without consent .

8) is this a new girl? Sounds like only your second girl. If so it also might just be normal nerves. Everyone suffers the same thing from time to time, Especially with lack of depth in experience. Know that your not alone.

Random_throwaway_000 · 2018-10-28T21:34:59+00:00

Get into a LTR that's on birth control then.

Title	Condom Issue
Author	Bakers77
Upvotes	9
Comments	23
Date	October 28, 2018 9:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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