General background: not lacking in SMV, im a borderline Chad. However I don't have much experience escalating.

So I have recurring issue that for the life of me I can't figure out.

I am good at being dismissive, and I find this is good at sparking attraction and getting the girl to chase. However there are clearly points no matter how much they chase that as the guy you must take the lead and direct the interaction.

It is at these points that I am lost. Namely going for the Meetup.

I find that no matter how much they qualify, or chase, as soon as I escalate logistics it doesn't go anywhere and they lose interest.

This has mind fucked me to the point that often I avoid even going for the actual plans saying to myself "I need the girl to ask for the plans"

I know it's kinda vague but does anyone have some insight?