Consequences of Losing Frame while alone

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-10-28T16:17:14+00:00

Yes get that sadness out. Cry, jerk off, take long session of it. But not more than 1 day.

After that Key elemnt is to occupy your mind.

rockybottom69 · 2017-10-28T16:19:49+00:00

Your happiness is under the sole possession of yourself. This is something that comes as an understanding or realization, not something that is forced. I guess you could try and brainwash yourself into believing it, but that sounds tedious and pointless when you could use self reflection to reach an understanding naturally. Absolutely feel your emotions, like sadness, but observe them and where they are coming from. Trace them back to the patterns of thinking which caused them. Observe and watch your thoughts and emotions. You'll develop an awareness of yourself. Once you have some first hand experience of this, you'll most likely come to realize that you are solely responsible for your negative emotional states, and that the outside phenomena aren't causing your unhappiness, but rather your negative thoughts and reactions to them. If you can come to realize this and understand it, those negative thought processes will naturally be dropped, and wala, welcome to effortless frame. But this is something only you can do. It takes some time and complete openness to self observation.

BarksRosaRota · 2017-10-28T16:27:51+00:00

I tried to keep it all in, tried being tough, but my head was throbbing with pain after a few days.

I went out alone in the night and cried for about 2 hours, and even started laughing, I remembered all the best times we had, all our trips and wild nights together. The first time meeting, first date and first kiss etc. Sounds a bit beta...

...but I cried, and I told myself that I wont ever experience that with her again, and I laughed and cried until I just sat there watching the moons reflection in the lake, hot tears running down my cheek, chuckling to myself.

And I went away, and my headache was gone, and all the pent up emotions had been aired out.

After that it was so much easier to hold frame, even when she tried to re-contact, I was able to hold frame very easy. It was like eating a steak before someone tries to offer you a hot dog.

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2017-10-28T17:39:05+00:00

Recovering from a breakup, particularly if it was your first "meaningful" one will take time...so allow yourself to go through the emotions. Don't fight them and don't think you are weak or crazy. The best advice I can give is to get back into something you previously enjoyed but maybe set aside once u got into the LTR..like.playing guitar, cars, art, whatever...

Once you have some distance you'll be able to look back without having those feelings. Then take the time to learn about yourself and what NOT to do going forward.

lsarcreator · 2017-10-28T19:51:19+00:00

Instead of faking it till you make it, which isn't bad at all, try to go out and do some hobbies/activities/lift so that you take your mind of it and actually do grow a frame.

Also try talking to some other girls while you're at it.

For home, if that's where you always feel the loneliness and sadness then the obvious approach is to bring time spent home to a minimum until your mentality changes.

Title	Consequences of Losing Frame while alone
Author	nichespace
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	October 28, 2017 2:15 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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