Couldn't get it up, devastated

ghosts_of_me · 2018-09-13T03:14:32+00:00

Never again should you tell a girl to leave the room so you can jack off lmao what a retarded idea man.

Sorry that happened. I have no advice other than the above.

BeeBopJoe · 2018-09-13T01:48:32+00:00

Its just performance anxiety since you havent had sex before. After a while it goes away, just dont let it bother u or affect ur frame.

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-09-13T03:30:14+00:00

You have a severe pornography addiction. 20 days will not cure anything judging my the degree to which you’re hooked. Head on over to yourbrainonporn. You must embark on the hardest journey of your life thus far

lovs2spuge · 2018-09-13T02:03:05+00:00

I can concur that NoFap absolutely kills libido. I’ve tried it twice, for the exact same reasons you have, and during each trial i felt like absolutely nothing would make me horny.

I was in a very similar situation recently. Was seeing a girl for ~a month. Got head by the second date, 2 weeks later i went to her place after a night out and couldn’t get it up because i drank too much. I was absolutely crushed, lost a bunch of confidence, and she definitely noticed. (Sidenote: if she’s gonna suck your dick, then she will fuck you. Don’t make the same mistake i did. Unless she’s on her period, fuck and don’t fail to escalate like i did)

Just understand that her opinion of you doesn’t shape who you are. Who cares if you couldn’t get it up? It happens. I’m sure it has happened to a large percentage of guys. It’s easier said than done, but don’t be so hard on yourself.

I’ve found that taking an Ashwaghanda supplement helps with my libido and ability to keep it up. You can look it up if you want, there’s been some positive feedback from it.

Edit: also sidenote.... do not over drink the first time you’re trying to fuck a chick.

BrutalMan420 · 2018-09-13T01:51:51+00:00

start jacking off dude. im tired of the nofap advice that gets thrown around here as if it is a universal thing that will always work for everybody 100% of the time. i tried nofap and it killed my libido, when it cane time for sex it was less enjoyable and i could only go the once instead of the usual 2-3 in a session.

having said that your story is fucking terrible dude. you really messed up sending her away to jack off to your phone. you should have called it a day and collected yourself for another time. you really doubled down on the fact your dick wasnt working that day. it would have looked better and less desperate if you nonchalantly said “guess im bot in the mood, next time ill call you round to my place and we can finish what we started here” or literally anything except hey can you leave the room TO JACK OFF TO PORN because the real girl in front of you isnt doing it for you... hard to recover from that but ive seen cases where if she doesnt already think you are a loser that sometimes the girl will take responsibility on herself she couldnt make you hard and so will try harder next time. if youre lucky she will think the latter.

wobbleelbbow · 2018-09-13T05:47:45+00:00

Anxiety. You need to become more comfortable around this girl.

fronny23 · 2018-09-16T08:31:28+00:00

After years of ED I was finally prescribed Viagra. 50mg was only partially effective so I went onto the 100mg tablets from healthpharmshop.com. The effect was amazing, 1 hour after taking the 1st tablet I had the hardest erection I'd had in years and the stamina I had was as though I had gone back to my 20's and 30's. My wife was highly impressed with my performance especially when we had sex for 3 nights in a row and now walks around with a smile on her face again, as do I

Title	Couldn't get it up, devastated
Author	wellhellothere45
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	September 13, 2018 1:39 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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