Counterargument to Hypergamy

JackGetsIt · 2015-02-03T03:45:24+00:00

I see three reasons for this.

1) Women in general just don't age as well due to genetics and the modern western diet. Most female jobs are also sedentary so they stop any exercise they were doing in college and submit to a lazy desk job life. Many get married due to pregnancy or have kids in their first marriage and lose shape and looks after the pregnancy.

2) They also lose their looks because the initial comfort of marriage soon leads to complacency which lead to laziness. "I have a man who has power/money/etc and he will take care of me. He will love me no matter what I look like. I can stop trying."

3) Many women quickly grow unhappy in their marriage (there are many reasons for this discussed in depth on trp) and while it would seem logical to shape up and look for a better mate. Their initial reaction is depression. They might want to seek other men but the desire to be depressed and lazy and sorry for ones self is an even stronger force. Many go through a second phase after the depressed stage where they focus on their looks and the guy thinks it's for him but it's really so she can start branch swinging.

oldredder · 2015-02-03T06:14:59+00:00

Just a stage. Many will get more fit again and wear better perfume & make-up when ready to cheat or dump the husband. Or they could try to rekindle the spark by being hotter.

So far at work I've seen 3 wives get fitter and hotter and so far I've seen nothing that they have any intent on being anything but loyal to their husbands. For now...

secret_barber · 2015-02-03T03:42:02+00:00

why would these women stop trying to impress higher SMV men and let their bodies rot like this after marriage?

Because their husbands have given up on themselves. In a LTR, your woman should always (subtly) feel as though she is easily replaceable.

vandaalen · 2015-02-03T06:20:04+00:00

Because women are lazy fucks.

Hypergamy doesn't mean, that a woman will do everything in her power to improve herself to get the higher-smv male, but that she will branchswing if she sees the opportunity, and maybe, but just maybe, she will choose to improve her appearance beyond paistering herself with makeup and squeeze her bloated body into a much to small dress, for a short time just to be able to nail down the better guy.

In fact having been decently hot will also mean, that she just naturally feels entitled to have the higher-smv male.

She gets fat after being married for the same reasons that she will start denying sex after marriage: She's pinned the best man she feels she can get at the moment and shifted the power leverage in the relationship.

edwardhwhite · 2015-02-03T02:35:02+00:00

you can be hypergamous and lazy. you can be not very attractive and hypergamous, still taking advantage of other men giving her the opportunity for sex.

not everyone's an 8. that doesn't mean they aren't hypergamous.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2015-02-03T05:29:10+00:00

"I deserve a man above my SMV". Just straight up entitlement. After all, every commercial they see reinforces the idea that a woman should be able to have anything she wants without doing anything to get it.

MrEiffel · 2015-02-03T11:30:31+00:00

Hypergamy means they will go to another man if he's an upgrade.

If the current man already exemplifies her peak SMV she can reach, or simply due to aging/fattening she subconsesciously realises she will never find an upgrade, then yes the guy is safe in a marriage with a fat woman.

theycallme1 · 2015-02-03T15:10:27+00:00

Even if a woman lets herself go, she will still get attention from other men. She can still go to a bar and walk out with a dude, just not a high caliber one.

TekkomanKingz · 2015-02-03T18:05:57+00:00

In theory this works but in practice it doesn't. Trust me, if anything they are swinging down a notch. Wives don't just gain 40lbs and then lose 60lbs as soon as a high value man (other than you her husband) enters their life.

Often it's another Beta schlubb who offers the novelty of new "feels" and he's often a step below you since he's willing to deal with your new fatter Wife.

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-03T19:19:02+00:00

People in dead bedroom LTRs stop seeing themselves as sexualized beings. After that, there is no reason to appear sexy, and no motivation to work out so you look good naked.

This happens all the time after a couple has children. Children kill the sex life. Men are locked down as fuck. Both stop giving a shit and get fat. It doesn't violate hypergamy at all.

justskatedude · 2015-02-03T03:40:49+00:00

Maybe they are satisfied but that doesn't mean things can't change 5 years down the road. Also how are the husbands rated compared to the wives? If the wife picked up a guy 1-3 points ahead of her then she may think she hit her ceiling and is satisfied for the moment. Everything can change if either persons SMV changes or if she becomes unhappy.

Title	Counterargument to Hypergamy
Author	entropicfreedom
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	February 3, 2015 2:31 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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