Dating other woman while in a relationship, am I a RPer or just a cheating scum?

[deleted] · 2015-03-24T13:03:31+00:00

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MrEiffel · 2015-03-24T12:20:38+00:00

TRP is Morally Neutral, we can give you advice on women and how to achieve your goals, but any moral quandary is for yourself to figure out.

Personally I always have multiple women even in LTR's since it would be boring as fuck to be with one woman. They know they're not the only one, not because I feel morally obliged to speak the truth, but simply because it's to much bloody work to hide it.

So do whatever it is you want to do, just remember you only have one life so don't spend it wondering why it wasn't awesome.

MarriedRedPillMan · 2015-03-24T13:45:17+00:00

If it bothers you morally than that is your thing to decide, we aren't your morals. Moving on though, it is just easier for you to be upfront about things. If you want open relationships whatever, If you want to cheat, whatever. The point is to make yourself happy and to turn you into who you want to be sexually.

vandaalen · 2015-03-24T13:14:35+00:00

Although this is an obvious trolling attempt, I'll still answer it for the benefit of others.

I want to explore other woman, I mean, I'm just in my early twenties. Im curious. I'm unexperienced.

So why don't you just plate your girlfriend? Is she your special snowflake?

Personally I don't have much respect for guys who lack balls and abundance mentality and try to hide their intentions from their partner and cheat on them. I value my integrity over my sexdrive. That said, it's up to you. You need to be able to stand your look in the mirror and if you are fine with it, do as you like. I don't give a shit.

I am not opposed to have some side-pussy though. Just tell her that you want to fuck other women as well and live with whatever consequences arise. Many women, even wifes, are OK with their man fucking other women as long as it is strictly sexual, it's nobody they personally know and they will never lose face and have to explain to anybody else why they let their man do it.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-03-24T13:02:05+00:00

It's not our place to shame you or try to orient your moral compass to "True North", wherever that may be. You do whatever works for you - just realize the risks of such behavior - namely the jeopardy you're putting into your main relationship. As long as you understand the risks, do what makes you happy.

sundaybrunch11 · 2015-03-24T18:30:18+00:00

Jesus Christ, wake up and smell the trap. This is a troll post. Most likely written by a feminist.

Snarigun · 2015-03-30T03:58:22+00:00

Cheating scum

fnordsnord · 2015-03-24T15:39:56+00:00

Only you can answer this; TRP is about technique, not moral decisions.

If you have accepted monogamous status and are still seeing other women, you are lying to her. Are you the kind of guy who lies?

Me, I will never be monogamous again. But I don't lie about it.

despoticVeracity · 2015-03-24T13:37:42+00:00

TRP is varied. Different people have different views. As such, it's difficult to say what TRP as a whole advocates. That said, there are general trends.

TRP does not, on the whole, advocate cheating. I have seen it mentioned in terms of the final stages of dread in a married relationship, but even there it was tenuous. Some voiced that they'd rather just divorce without cheating.

TRP does advocate multiple plates if possible. It also advocates being willing to drop a plate without concern.

In regards to whether TRP disapproves of cheating: much of TRP values are based in masculinity and what a man should be. TRP presents itself as self-improvement and a bastion of manliness, not just as a seduction or PUA textbook. Often values spoken of are those of loyalty and honour. These obviously go against cheating.

Similarly, you should be able to get what you want from a woman by asking, telling or doing it in front of her. Running around behind her back goes against these traits. It's akin to getting her plastered so she can't say no. If you have to use subterfuge like that, you're better off raising your SMV.

There's also abundance mentality to consider. Your commitment is the prize. If you're not satisfied and can't get what you want from her, why are you still giving a facade of commitment? Is it so you have a fallback plan? That's branch swinging behaviour. That's not taken kindly to by TRP.

Many hold TRP men up to be better than the tales of cheating and dishonest women often posted. We scorn branch swinging and say 'AWALT' with derision when a woman cheats on her BB husband. When a large portion of the community condemns cheating women, Ee can extrapolate that it is against cheating men as well. I'd personally suggest that it's worse, in that you expect that behaviour from women, not men.

On the other hand, there has been drama and a mod push against 'bro-knighting', which refers to comments dissuading posters from going out with women who already have men. Similarly, I've seen tales of being the 'other man' posted in the community without criticism. I'd hazard a guess that this only applies when you are the other man, as you have no obligations to the unfortunate cheatee. I would be wary of taking this as approval of cheating.

My personal advice? Tell her you want to have a threesome, or that you want to fuck someone else in front of her. If she says no (or you're not ballsy enough to try it), demote her to a FWB or plate. "This 'serious relationship' thing isn't really doing it for me. Let's try something more casual for a bit."

She knows where you stand. If you're high enough SMV, she'll stick around. Either way, you internalise abundance mentality and don't have to skulk around to get laid.

Title	Dating other woman while in a relationship, am I a RPer or just a cheating scum?
Author	lurkingallday-123
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Date	March 24, 2015 12:03 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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