Dealing with anger?

peopleofthepine · 2013-11-20T22:19:24+00:00

Talk to men you feel you can trust not to judge you. Not about red pill, since some aren't ready to hear it. Just about what's aggravating you. Just don't bottle it up because then it's likely to explode at the worst time. Offer them a 6 pack, cup of coffee, lunch, etc. if they'd just listen to you vent. Works wonders.

LuciusExitius · 2013-11-20T22:37:51+00:00

Sports and exercise has always helped me with that but going out and having fun helps too. If I get angry I just try to ask why am I angry about it, and why should let (whatever is causing your anger) to have power over me.

jeebusthecat · 2013-11-21T00:07:53+00:00

Write. 750words.com helps me get through a lot of shit. Freewrite everything you're thinking about 15 minutes a day.

Every time I get mad at someone, I write an angry letter then destroy it.

McMurphyCrazy · 2013-11-20T22:43:52+00:00

Martial arts dude. I prefer Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu myself, it gets all of my pent up frustration/anger/anxiety out of me and would recommend it to anyone who is even slightly interested. I would also look into the striking arts like Muay Thai. Don't waste your time with Tae Kwon Do or Karate. You need full contact sparring whatever you do.

[deleted] · 2013-11-21T01:23:30+00:00

"I have a lot of pent up anger and while im becoming more assertive i struggle expressing and letting any anger, rage or frustration out."
Okay. First of all, rage would be violent. Rage is at the extreme end of anger. If youre experiencing outbursts of violent rage, then find something to take it out on that doesnt matter, like a sports bag. Frustration is pretty normal. Anger is the focus here, lets continue :)

"I do excercise, meditate and play team sport. But what other means do redpillers use to deal with this?"
Okay. Anger is destructive, inherently. Most of the time for most people, anyway. Exercise, meditation, and team sport are not destructive. Youll quell destructive impulses faster by loosening your hold on them a bit, in a controlled manner for a controlled duration. Unless youre doing some kind of fight sport with a decent degree of aggression (wrestling, BJJ, MMA, etc), youre not getting that. For the cheapest solution, beat the shit out of the air.

The chemicals in your body dont give a fuck about your desire to remain collected. So deal with them more directly or deal with how not-fun it is to ignore them.

aaron_the_just · 2013-11-21T18:00:37+00:00

Anger is a normal emotion for a man.

Learn how to control it and channel it to your benefit. Learn how to not show the weak form of anger.

[deleted] · 2013-11-21T18:11:13+00:00

Just like pain is your body's way of saying "you fucked up", anger is your mind's way of saying "somebody fucked up". The way to deal with anger is to figure out who fucked up and what you need to do to make sure that fuckup doesn't happen again (or doesn't affect you if it does).

I find that once I have a feasible plan to rectify the situation in mind that the emotion of anger disappears immediately.

drrrrrr · 2013-11-23T12:28:04+00:00

Lift weights. As Kai Greene said - a man can only put 800 lbs on his back, squat down, and come back up if he has a type of rage in him. Pushing yourself strength-wise will require you to get in touch with your fury, but then you will wind afterwards, you've used it all up. You are just happy, because all the anger is out.

Additionally, anger is not always bad. I think of it as emotional anger and mental anger, with the latter being a conscious choice, and the former being for undisciplined people. Choose to be angry, let it in, feel in flow through you, and express it in some way (to yourself). Sometimes you can even selectively show anger to other people as a way of asserting yourself - for example, a well respected boss who is both seen as a feared leader and good leader, can show anger and shoot everyone's productivity up by 500%. As long as he doesn't overuse it, this is a good tool for him. The trick is, he isn't emotionally reacting to his employees, he is choosing to provide a stimulus (his anger) for them to react to.

NakedAndBehindYou · 2013-11-24T23:27:57+00:00

Anger is often the result of unmet desires, which leads to frustration. There are basically two ways to get rid of this type of anger: either consciously let go of the desires, or fulfill them. Fulfillment of desires often leads to only temporary relief, however; similar to how having sex will relieve your pent up sexual frustration for awhile but not permanently.

Of course, there may be anger stemming from other sources, but I don't know enough about your life to comment on that.

Title	Dealing with anger?
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Date	November 20, 2013 9:49 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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