LTR Redpiller here.

Not much of a problem until recently with the gf when we're alone, but I often find she throws out shit-tests when I'm around her friends or we're in a very public space (like the subway).

These usually throw me off and I don't realize what they were until after, and then I subtly damage control things back.

How do you deal with these? Is it just a matter of training myself to be more aware, or just work on my frame more?

My frame recently regressed a bit, but I'm making good ground now. One more big thing though:

How do you deal with her calling you a pussy for not saying you love her?

I understand how ridiculous that is and I called her out on it, but it was tricky. Some of you may say dump the bitch but honestly I played it off well enough and she felt stupid after (told her how she was equating femininity with inferiority/weakness, and she ate her words).

I've said the "L" word to her before but I don't quite 100% know, and don't like saying it if I'm unsure. How can I mitigate a situation like this, where she's calling into question alpha status about doing something beta (saying I love you)?

Confusion!