Whatsup. So I made a post last night about being iffy on the Thailand move.

I think it’s a great opportunity and after hearing some other perspectives I know I must go do my thing.

Here comes the issue - there is a girl I’ve known for years. I’ve always wanted her, but we just started dating 3 months ago. My SMV has raised significantly since high school - thanks TRP.

This girl is definitely no unicorn but she has been very good and loyal to me. I love her tbh and would love to see where our relationship goes. She knows and has accepted that I am leaving in 4 months. She has told me that she doesn’t want to take the relationship further due to the impending feelings of heartbreak she knows she will endure. It’s unfortunate to be honest. I tried to tell her that we have 4 more months together I’d rather spend them having fun with you than limiting our relationship because who knows when I’m back we can probably pick things back up where we left off.

She has suffered heartbreak in the past and doesn’t want to make it worse by continuing to date me. I travel on the weekends sometimes and even then she misses me terribly so I understand where she’s coming from. 6 months will be a big blow. I’ve been through the heartbreak ringer myself so I know how she feels.

I told her that I’m not interested in being in her life while she is actively trying to get over me. That shit doesn’t make sense to me. But I’m not gonna deny free good sex and a good time before i leave so we have agreed on friends with benefits. It worked out good for the first week, I guess. But now she is really being weird. Usually she is free to hang and now all of a sudden she is not. Knowing TRP I can only chalk it up to her finding a new guy or trying to find a new guy to spend time with since she knows I will no longer be available in the coming months.

Its beginning to hurt boys. I have to do what I have to do of course and I know I won’t regret it or maybe I will , who knows? But right now I want to minimize the games and the damage we may potentially dish out to each other trying not to let our feelings get the best of us.

Any tips on navigating this step back friends with benefits situation? Can I still be that guy to her even though I’m leaving? Or would it be best to chalk this up to the game and move on.

The summer just started and I legit have 4 more months in my city. I have one other plate that I don’t really care for and would prefer not to waste my time with meaningless activities.

It’s unfortunate because this girl really could’ve been a good LTR for me.