Depression

fuzzyface1980 · 2016-09-14T09:28:18+00:00

my life is going nowhere

The only important part is this. YOU need to find a purpose to YOUR life.

Think of a knife stuck in your back.

The knife equals - Two dead end jobs and Ivy Leage for mommy and daddy.

The wound - Depression.

Why is it we think we can just conquer the knife by willing it away? For some reason, no one thinks to pull the fucking knife out and let the wound heal.

No. They just try to accept it and control the bleeding. Except is still going to fucking kill you.

Dramatic? Sure. But there's your answer.

jeezydasnowman · 2016-09-14T10:29:59+00:00

Depression is gonna set you back so so far... its an all consuming vortex. Look at what happens to your diet, your lifting, your desire to read and learn, your approach anxiety, etc. when your depression resurfaces.

It starts with recognizing that "there is no spoon". Grades and talent ain't shit - all that matters is who you know and how well you play power games. LIFT - you must become attractive. Get to know the people in positions of power and network with other SUCCESSFUL programmers etc. Stop trying to find passion for the 9-5 grind - it's never going to happen. Whether you're just answering the phone or making decisions in a boardroom working for a corporation sucks horse cock. The sooner you accept this the more likely you will start to come out of your depressed state.

Do what's right for you - fuck the driven betas around you excelling at TPS reports and writing code for other people to profit off of. Lift, learn, and approach. Network! Always have two in the kitty - talk to three girls at once, negotiate jobs with three companies at once, collaborate with three partners at once. ABUNDANCE. Focus right now, this instant, on beating your depression. How are you gonna do it? What will you sacrifice to focus on it? Get a piece of paper, make three columns: lifting, learning, living. Each day put one item in each column that you did that day to further your strength/confidence, your knowledge/mental game, and your networking/seduction game.

Good luck out there ... beat that depression asap.

Lift
Watch some rsd videos on basic social skills, pickup, and frame
Ditch the console/computer - vidya and porn are time wasters.
Know the plug
Have fun. Be fun.
Don't be boring.
Don't talk about your sex life.

Body language: avoid shifting feet, chewing nails, poor posture, fidgeting, shortness of breath. Try to stand still and own your space. Be comfortable in your skin.

Facial expressions: No darting eyes or downtrodden expressions. No deference. Work on your poker face. Don't smile too often or fall into resting bitch face. Keep your face clean - no nose hair or baggy eyes or chapped lips.

Fun: experience is the best teacher. Get out at least 4 nights a week.

Vibes: I smoke a lot of pot. Different strokes for different folks. Basically always avoid religion, politics, sex, your hobbies/gym and work. Talk about movies, music, TV, sports, and general basic bitch shit. Save the serious stuff til after yall have had sex a few times.

Rock climbing
Mixology
Co-ed sports
Improv
Photography
Promotion, beat production, or music discovery for local deejays
Rideshare (Uber/Lyft)

These are all ways to meet girls and find passion without the relapses.

the_red_monk · 2016-09-14T13:51:27+00:00

While I can't say I've "beat it" yet, I'd give "The Depression Cure" a read. Depression is a symptom of a confluence of lifestyle factors. It's worth noting that the incidence of depression in Aboriginal societies is nearly 0 and they live lives more difficult and fraught with more death, danger, and peril than we will likely ever encounter. What this tells me is that Depression is not just mental but context dependent and may very well be a function of living in a modern civilization that removes us from the types of situations we were likely evolved to live in.

While depression is categorized as a mental disorder I think the evidence points to the fact that it's physical (exercise, diet, being outside), relational (connection to other humans), as well as mental and if you don't deal with each part you're likely to fall back into the cycle of ups and downs.

play_time_is_over · 2016-09-14T14:34:18+00:00

Hey man same problem.

Firstly make sure you're lifting.

Also depression is cyclic which means it comes and goes in spans of weeks and months.

Consider going to see a proffessional and getting on medication. Medication has been hugely beneficial for me.

Yashugan00 · 2016-09-14T16:20:56+00:00

I found only one cure for that: hit the gym as soon as you get negative thoughts. Changed my life.

KemalTenebris · 2016-09-14T12:07:21+00:00

Graduated from an Ivy League school? It explains a lot. Intelligent people are more prone to depression and alike.

The thing is, the only way to get rid of depression is to improve nonstop. It is both a blessing and a curse, since it keeps you on the edge, but can be tiring.

You need to find a meaning for all this, my man. To be honest, there is no other way. Read Frankl's Man's Search for Meaning and it will help you big time.

Read my post on Medium here. I still get tens of emails a week just because of that post. It will definitely help.

Another thing is, just take a few days off and plan your life. But do it in a way that is very detailed and is very meaningful to you.

Believe me, there is salvation my brother, there is a way out. But you have to put in the work. It is a contradiction since it is an endless loophole. Depression makes you tired, unmotivational etc and it expects you to get out of it by being the opposite of those. Yeah, still possible.

Hit me up with a message anytime.

Good luck.

Title	Depression
Author	redmanonthemoon
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Date	September 14, 2016 8:25 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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