Devastated. Currently going through Divorce Rape, Light Switch effect, false assault allegations, and on and on.

do_it_or_leave · 2018-03-22T12:12:04+00:00

Looks like you need a lawyer.

You didn't provide enough info to be asking people what to do.

Things like, how did you end up homeless? If you had a lease with her she can't kick you out. Even if she let you live with her she couldn't simply kick you out after some time.

Go lift some weights, take a cold shower.

You need to stop behaving like a girl in a moment of crisis.

fnordsnord · 2018-03-22T19:26:11+00:00

Okay, step #1: Get a lawyer. Find a friend or acquaintance who is both divorced AND native. Get his recommendation.

This lawyer will be able to advise you on a criminal lawyer if you are being charged with false assault allegations.

Hand in hand with getting representation is to go ZERO contact wih your soon-to-be-ex-wife. Do NOT respond to her via phone, text, or social media. But keep a couple of ALL texts, letters, and phone messages she sends YOU. Above ALL to NOT let yourself get in a situation where you are alone with her.

Step #2: Open a bank account in your own name and make sure that your salary is deposited THERE and not in your joint account with her.

TRP_Philly · 2018-03-22T13:34:37+00:00

First thing you need to do is get your mind straight.

You did not provide enough information for a detailed plan of action but if your mind is not right I guarantee you will not be able to get past this.

ArticulateSavage · 2018-03-22T14:01:03+00:00

Need some context here, OP. Got kids? How old are you? where from? age? age when you married? I'll do my best to help you but you need to fill in the blanks.

For example, if you have no kids why are you still in UK when you could be with supportive family members in your country of origin?

I understand that you are in terrible emotional distress. Writing this out may help you avoid catastrophising.

Dr9 · 2018-03-22T15:50:01+00:00

1) Man up, straighten out, and calm down.

2) Find out about if there is extradition between your home country and the UK (assuming your'e getting divorced in UK) - lawyers won't like it but that may be a viable strategy. But keep that in your back pocket as a LAST RESORT and for god sake's don't let it slip to her lawyers.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2018-03-22T21:15:15+00:00

Word salad.

If you want help, you're going to have to write something more consistent than word salad.

NewBoomAction · 2018-03-22T13:24:49+00:00

Get to the nearest gym and workout. Lawyer up. Delete fb.

Seriously, though. You need to focus on creating a positive feedback system. You're going through hell rn. Good luck.

Title	Devastated. Currently going through Divorce Rape, Light Switch effect, false assault allegations, and on and on.
Author	Breway
Upvotes	10
Comments	8
Date	March 22, 2018 11:35 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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