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[–]htbf10 points11 points12 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
WTF
You need to chill. You can't just call people and make your wife take a stupid polygraph because of a Wil baseless accusation.
[–]quicklogaccount6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It doesn't look like she did, with this guy, from here. Mommy played an inception trick on you, looks like she's finally getting the boy back home.
Dude, we're hardwired not to be made cucks. It's bound to give us anxiety. In every other case of "did she cheat" I saw over here I usually made this reading. Guy is upset with the relationship because of a million reasons, brain wants out, guy won't break up, and brain hacks itself triggering some hardwired mechanisms, such as "don't be a cuck", to cause the guy to break up. In every other case I said it because the guy was upset at his girlfriend. But it doesn't look like it's your case from here. From here it actually looks like you were depressed and someone triggered a really fucked up switch. It's particularly easy to trigger it when people are insecure btw.
[–]TehJimmyy2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I am 19 FYI .
All i can understand is that your mom hates your wife. And seeing you calling that guy or asking a polygraph shows that you are a boy with no frame. You need to deal with other issues first than your wife.
Best of luck
[–]UnluckyPenguin points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Did she cheat?
You have the worst scarcity mentality I've ever read on here. How did you even find this sub?
Married for 28 years
If she cheats on you after being together for 28 years, it's really not that bad. It's not like she's going to get pregnant with someone else's kid. And it isn't cheating if you leaves you for being a blackhole that sucks the happiness from everyone's life.
Stop focusing on the negatives that didn't even happen. Just remember the good times and live life day by day. You're depressed because you're fighting a battle you can't win. Stop fighting that battle and get over your depression.
Am I being delusional?
Yes. What is it exactly that you're afraid of? I feel like you're the type of person who wouldn't care so much if she cheated on you, as long as she still loved you the most. So what exactly are you afraid of?
[–]alphasquatch1 points points points 9 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
She is the only thing that has ever given me happiness in my whole life of abuse and mental illness. She was the only thing I have ever believed in 100%. Now I have a doubt, a very small one, but just enough to destroy us both.
I've seen a handful of cases recently in my personal life like yours. Everyone at some point will think their significant other is cheating on them. You get past it by realizing it doesn't matter, and living in the moment. If your mind starts wandering into the past or future, forget it.
I think what you need right now is assurance that life doesn't need to be seen through the lens of abuse and mental illness. If you get the time, try watching this: Life After Life
Recently, my friend's wife past away shortly after giving birth to a son and it's been on my mind a lot. Life is too short to focus on the bad things.
All-in-all, try to live a life full of joy and ignore the people in your life that perpetuate negativity, like your mother, people get delusional in their old age - don't be one of them.
I could go on forever, but I'll stop here for now.
[–]Jc9681 point2 points3 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Word of advice. No one here knows your wife or her sex life. Do not let Anonymous internet strangers who are mostly less than half your age decide the fate of your marriage. You are a grown man, act like one. Only You know if you love her, if she is trustworthy, context of the situation, her personality/behavior,etc and only you can make that decision.
All the best to you
If you come to the realisation that your mum has been manipulating you, you need to make it right with your wife quick smart. Damage has been done and you need to plug the holes before the ship sinks.
[–]smirk_addict0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't think she is cheating. But I do think she should leave you. You've probably fucked up your kids too.
Your dread game is Jedi level though.
[–]stephcurryftw0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"I called the guy".
Mistake number 1.
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