Do I confront Oneitis Plate about this?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-08-12T08:10:40+00:00

The problem here is your "oneitis". You need to unfuck yourself on this point. She's a plate. Plates bang other dudes. It's ok to have a blanket policy about not wanting to hear about it, but the real problem is your feels.

GreenPiller · 2017-08-12T09:22:23+00:00

"Oneitis plate" you guys are quite paradoxical

RedPillFusion · 2017-08-12T11:08:00+00:00

A "oneitis plate" is an oxymoron and cannot exist. Each is handled according to your level of investment. Given the rest of your story, it's clear she's someone your are pining over, so you need to work that shit out within yourself.

It sounds as if you are wanting to use your plates as defense instead of offense, which is not going to get the results you think it will. She's not going to be hit with dread after she learns all this in response to her massive shit test to you. This will do nothing but show her you're not happy about it, and she will learn what she needs to knoiw about where each of you stands on the relative value spectrum. You will then be the one demoted, not her. Don't play yourself.

3rdLion · 2017-08-12T08:51:28+00:00

She's not yours, it's just your turn.

BestSC86 · 2017-08-12T14:53:12+00:00

You are just a dick to her...did you misunderstand what a plate is?

I don't think she is your plate....I suspect that you are an orbiter or you MIGHT, I say MIGHT, be one of her plates, if you have actually fucked this girl, for when she can't find someone she is actually attracted toward. But I don't think you are in any way plating this girl....she dominates the entire relationship and frankly she is either one of those sluts who is always telling everyone around about some dick that smashed her hard the other night or she views you as an orbiter friend like the gay friend....ie a GF with a penis.

Machopsdontcry · 2017-08-12T08:03:32+00:00

Tit for tat my friend. Next time invite another one of the girls you are seeing and see how she reacts.

The alternative of course is just to act like you don't care and move on.

You have many options available to you so I don't think you should worry too much if you end up losing this girl. If you feel like she's doing too much annoying shit just drop her so you no longer waste time feeding into her blablabla gossip.

walawalawa · 2017-08-12T09:17:14+00:00

I've got about 6 plates

You peaked my interest...

and a oneitis.

Then lost it. You've to find a way to stop obsessing over this "one" girl.

I've written here many times from experience. The only time I stumbled last year was when I over-invested and expected more from what was by and large...a fuck buddy.

She could never be more because of her own fucked up personality--the manipulations, the malingering.

Then I read your post and it has the same ingredients:

Manipulative girl...with gay friend orbiter and of course the hot guy fighting over the two of them...

Drama.

It gets under your skin because...you somehow feel like she should be fully 100% committed to you while you bang other chicks. I get that too.

But cut her loose, she's causing you more pain than is worth. Do better next time. Lesson learned.

sd4c · 2017-08-12T10:42:26+00:00

Improve yourself until she is clearly beneath you: this is how I cured my worst three cases of oneitis.

Title	Do I confront Oneitis Plate about this?
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Date	August 12, 2017 8:00 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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