Does completely ignoring someone if they rejected you count as part of RedPill?

bupkiss1290 · 2018-03-15T17:17:33+00:00

Ignoring a girl so that you can move on with your life and get better is very RP. Ignoring a girl because you are pissed things didn't go your way and want to get back at her is NOT RP.

I understand that it's easy to get a kick out of someone else seeming miserable, especially one that it appears you really liked. But to me, this comes across as pure butthurt and makes you seem way too emotionally invested in whatever the fuck your dynamic was with her. Also, never shit where you eat. I learned that the hard way so I warn everyone I know not to do so.

My #1 rule when a situation doesn't go my way is to get BETTER, not BITTER.

No need to completely ignore her at work. Smile, say hi, if she initiates small talk, engage. Then don't message her outside of work or try to set up plans. Lift, take up hobbies and game other women.

ImmunosuppressedTau · 2018-03-15T17:21:56+00:00

I think you are coming off as butthurt here. I think the approach you should be taking is that you should give off an air of you not caring that she's snuffed you. Like you'd still stay hi or engage in small talk with her but not much else because you've got more things going on in your life. Almost like she's yesterdays news - she's there, she exists but she doesn't hold your attention because you are on to better things. You are the prize. She has missed her opportunity. This is all a complete fabrication for now. You should be working on yourself to such a degree ( lifting, dressing better, extending your social circle etc) that this will absolutely be the case in the near future. At which point you will not be pretending and simply be.

2comment · 2018-03-15T18:58:09+00:00

It's good not to go into orbit but...

It's also a lack of outcome independence. If you hadn't been overtly nice with agenda behind it to begin with, you wouldn't have to feel butthurt about it later and retract it.

The way I think of the game analytically is simply a series of binary escalations (not literally yes or no answers though). I expect a 'no' somewhere down the line just due to stats. No. Yes, yes, no. Yes, no. Yes, yes, yes, yes, no. Etc. I can invite and escalate, if they accept great and if they don't accept, I just try again later or chase another opportunity. Minimal hurt feelings and ego bruising.

If I made rejections awkward afterward, I would have missed a lot of opportunities in a lot of directions. You can also learn to reject others with style using the same logic.

mrpthrowa · 2018-03-15T16:03:35+00:00

people need to add value to deserve your attention yes.

donedreadpirate · 2018-03-15T16:40:53+00:00

There's a difference between only engaging with people you find worthy of your time and being a complete butthurt loser like you.

Title	Does completely ignoring someone if they rejected you count as part of RedPill?
Author	pro-complainer
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	March 15, 2018 3:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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