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I suppose you could leave and get a new girlfriend and do exactly the same thing with her.
/r/askMRP29/11/22 01:54 PM
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Bingo
/r/askMRP23/11/22 11:23 AM
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You are psychoanalyzing the circumstances in which you met her and taking "100%" responsibility for how you set the stage in the relationship with your wife as a crutch. You COULD be taking 100% responsibility for why you are not getting what you want out of life RIGHT NOW. Stop thinking about your harpy wife (the past) and start thinking about why you're a miserable soul who doesn't get what he wants TODAY. You are stuck in the past. Go live.
/r/askMRP23/11/22 11:22 AM
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Experience is the antidote but you need to embrace your fear of failure. It's going to hurt a lot worse before it starts getting better. Embrace the suck.
/r/askMRP22/11/22 05:49 PM
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You obviously want attention. It sucks when your wife isn't that into you. Been there. Attention from other women can help you build your confidence back up which you are lacking (you are, see: your post). If you haven't been able to build that back up in 4 years, I'd suggest it's because you are living paycheck to paycheck with your confidence. Lifts are important but if you can't hold frame without being jacked, it isn't the lifts holding you back. Building muscle builds confidence but it's a …
/r/askMRP21/11/22 02:50 PM
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LTRs can have ebbs and flows. Mine ebbs when I'm struggling with something else in my life. Usually existential. As soon as I conquer that thing, it flows. So... it's on you buddy. She's just responding to you. What are you struggling with right now that is hurting your "vibe" or whatever you want to call it? That's probably a better question than "what stunt can I pull to make her mate guard me?" I won't disagree that sex with my wife is better when she feels competitive for my attention. That …
/r/askMRP19/11/22 01:41 PM
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I think he could start by doing basically anything.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 10:32 PM
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Imagine sleeping in your car so your wife won't fuck with you loool. I started a huge fight with my wife this weekend and it ended with her in lingerie creaming on my dick I didn't sleep in a car alone lmao.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 10:11 PM
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No one is going to help you.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 10:08 PM
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I'm sure her husband spends a lot more time investigating her accounts than I do.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 07:18 PM
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Top of the list of most boring things I could imagine spending my limited free time doing: investigating my wife's social media activities.
/r/askMRP07/11/22 05:43 PM
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The world is out to kill you forever and you are alone and there's no escape. There are no real breaks, only fleeting moments of the illusion. It can make you miserable at times but if you're smart, you'll realize it's necessary because if you don't know misery and defeat, you don't know joy or success. If you're really smart, you'll learn to enjoy that feeling of self loathing because within it, you build your character. It still sucks a lot. Get over it and either finish the book or don't fini…
/r/askMRP01/11/22 04:08 AM
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Hey bro just wanted to stop by and give you a heads up that there's a 100% chance your wife is fucking other men. Especially the tall ones.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 09:55 PM
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I know the best has yet to cum.... I see what you did there. Since discarding useless guilt over spending time away from my family, everyone is happier. I am more present when I'm physically present. My daughter has joined in on the guilt train here. She's 5 now. Her and my wife hate it when I leave. It's cute. Just means they like your attention. Gotta do you, though. Girls are funny like that. If you were home all the time they'd just take you for granted anyway. They don't know what they want…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 10:36 PM
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My failure is my wife has taken it on herself to track everything on a note pad and budget app. Where as I just look at the overall and compare. There's plenty in savings and she runs by her purchases with me so I'm trying to figure out if I should leave it be or take more control. For now it seems to be working and the budget we set out is helping. Do you trust her to work within the boundaries you have set? If you set a budget and you have her tracking it, that's okay. Up to you. I mean, for m…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 10:15 PM
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It's just disrespect, she doesn't take you seriously. Best thing to do is to take yourself seriously and take it out on the gym. Don't take her seriously and engage. That's a great way to get a restraining order and lose your kid.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 04:26 PM
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To give you an idea. My wife was like this. Punching, screaming, throwing. She grew up in an extremely dysfunctional family where physical abuse was common w her parents. Don't engage. You did the right thing by grabbing the remote and moving on. I took comfort in the fact that I knew I could beat the living shit out of her, and so I started laughing when she'd do it. Eventually, though, something will have to give. This isn't a relationship you want. The last time my wife threw something at me …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/21 03:29 PM
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Yeah I guess I just came here to get my dick wet. When I really boil everything down, I just didn't understand how women think. That was my problem. So MRP stopped serving a purpose for me. That said, I'm back for a reason. I haven't figured out what it is yet, either. I guess I'm feeling nostalgic. This experience is the most invigorating and freeing thing I have ever done in my life and I see the light at the end of the tunnel of quarantine opening the door for more adventures. I had a setback…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 04:51 PM
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I miss the anger phase.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 03:17 PM
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Isn't that weakandsensitive? Can't remember.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 03:04 PM
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Yep and I think that's all fine and well. Again, it's a toolbox, use it for your desired results. Just make sure you're getting your needs met. Sure thing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 03:02 PM
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He was a very insightful man and I learned a lot from him. Overall, I would say J10 is a little wholesome, though, for me.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 02:55 PM
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Disagree. There are points in time when you must speak. They should be few and far between and should be taken very seriously but it's necessary at times. If you're doing it right, when you speak, the world will stfu and listen. It's also appropriate to outsource work to professionals and, in many cases, a very wise decision.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 02:37 PM
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Sometimes you have to lay things out overtly. When I decided to stay with my wife, I also wrote out my terms. We signed it in blood (seriously, finger-pricked blood). She's been a great FO ever since. Good luck. I hope the same for you. That said, I do have some comments. MRP is leadership training for men The red pill is about fucking, period. You don't have to invest so much leadership in a woman to get laid. So is "M" The Red Pill about leadership or getting laid? I don't know anymore and tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/21 02:22 PM
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I think you misinterpreted my statement I wasn't saying who gives a shit you called out your wife I'm saying who gives a shit what their wife does when she gets called out.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 11:09 PM
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This guy fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:31 AM
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Most guys here just really aren't lifting enough and give way too many fucks. I'm not even trying to DYELB the thread but Jesus Christ it's so easy to do it and it's like nuclear hot sauce dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:30 AM
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There is absolutely nothing wrong EVER with expressing your disappointment in your wife's bullshit. It's just not necessarily going to get you laid but it can. I call my wife out all the fucking time who gives a shit (what she does with it)? Edit: clarification
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/18 10:27 AM
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You're missing my point. You have so many questions to answer for yourself that your question about couples counseling is irrelevant.
/r/askMRP10/09/18 10:53 AM
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Don't worry about it. When she says you're mean it should be foreplay. I get told I'm a mean, steamrolling, JERK all the time. Almost daily. She's testing you. Can she manipulate you into not doing what you said you were going to do? That's the test. Not the words you use when she calls you mean.
/r/askMRP09/09/18 10:48 AM
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Your post started with you being introspective. Enlightened even. I'd keep going with that train of thought and see where it takes you. I don't even see the connection to the second half where your wife wants something from you. Focus on what you need from you right now. Edit: looks like you came to that conclusion yourself, just read your update.
/r/askMRP09/09/18 10:40 AM
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Yeah same. Gotta trust the gut.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/18 10:37 AM
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This post started out amazingly and ended terribly. You were on the right track. What happened?
/r/askMRP08/09/18 09:13 AM
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Does your judgement sometimes side with her?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/18 09:05 AM
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When I realized I was having to massage a woman who talked mad shit about me behind my back to initiate really boring sex. Then when I decided to stop tap dancing for her she physically attacked me. That's a low point right there. I accepted my role in ending up where I was. I realized I was androgynous with women and couldn't do any better so I set out to fix that. I did. My oh my how the story has changed.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/18 11:04 AM
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Took me a while to figure this one out. Basically as long as you aren't consistently failing shit tests and you're hot, you're good. It's okay to fuck up, even big fuck ups, but you gotta jump right back in the ring and get on with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 07:20 PM
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Later on, faggot. FWIW I took a 6 month hiatus and came back. I thought about writing a similar post before then. Sometimes it's good to leave a door open. Always enjoyed our interactions. Best of luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/18 03:16 AM
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All of my successes with women have happened organically while I was doing my own thing. I have never gone out and been successful when getting laid was my purpose. I don't know if it's mental or what. Can they sniff it? Neediness? Maybe I'm just not much of a player. I don't know. When I'm busy doing something with friends or colleagues, I always end up meeting girls who want to spend time with me. When I go out to the bar to game the wild woman of the west I fail every time. It has been the be…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 08:35 AM
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I read it and it was basically the same shit we've all read on askMRP a million times. It's like I am a married man, faithful to a fault, dutiful. And yet I was cucked, not by any other man, but by Mother Nature itself. And by society's unrealistic expectations. This part says it all. Weak. He's basically admitting to falling for the joke, and then blaming the world for it. Same old story. Mother Nature didn't cuck him. Mother Nature wants him to sleep with beautiful, young women. He's living in…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/18 07:45 AM
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I would handle it by having a really fucking AWESOME time meeting women who don't suck. I'd be going out every night practicing game. I'd be working out every day after work. I'd be working my ass off, unlike you.
/r/askMRP31/08/18 01:40 AM
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The more I relax and allow myself to accept and enjoy my way with women, the less I think about any of this. About the forum, anything. It's when I try to "do the right thing" and "man up" and repress my masculinity in the name of HONOR, DIGNITY, and KEEPING MY WORD that I start having these fears. When I box myself in. Divorce rape happens but why worry about it? Cucking happens but why worry about it? Because I have imprisoned myself and it is my identity! I have grown to love these four walls…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/18 12:08 PM
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Why would you not be happy about getting to have relationships with women who actually desire you?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 07:11 PM
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Yeah I'm kind of a big deal
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:59 PM
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LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:58 PM
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I'm with you there which is funny since we both fucked other women and didn't care about hurting their feelings. It's knowing she'd be a wreck from losing you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:54 PM
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Pretty sure?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:47 PM
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Fear of failure with other women and fear of having failed with this one, true. I do hold on to some fear of "giving up" like I didn't try hard enough or something so I can understand it to some extent, but if my wife was not fucking me it would be another story completely. I understand the programming to suffer for the greater good and all that shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:40 PM
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What you are talking about is exactly the point I was trying to make in my shitty post the other week. There's always more work to do on yourself. There are always excuses. If you really mean what you are saying, then you have dropped the infinite timeline for that transformation along with the covert contract that she will react to it. That's good. You need to have divorce papers ready for your speech, IMO. Doesn't matter that you haven't been overt yet. You need to demonstrate the severity of …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:37 PM
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He thinks FMoFY speech is literally negotiating sex. "Fuck Me" or "Fine, You" keep being that way but I'll be back to talk about it more, just you wait! Fuck me? No? Okay what if we go to therapy together and talk it out some more? All talk. No action -> No dread -> No options -> No resolution. I'm trying to understand where the disconnect is for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 04:21 PM
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You can create social proof instantaneously by yourself by having a conversation with someone you never met.
/r/askTRP05/04/18 03:57 PM
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You're cutting at 6'2" 175 and you wonder why your wife wants to fuck guys like me instead?
/r/askMRP05/04/18 03:55 PM
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I would be interested in what you have learned in therapy. I do not think your reasons for not plating are excuses. They are legitimate reasons, but at the demise of your happiness. I would be careful of something: your wife stringing you along. Be careful of the word hope. Remember, watch her actions not her words. You seem to forget that. Her words mean nothing. Anything she says during your talk goes out the window when she has you back under her thumb. There's no "end" to TRP. You cannot neg…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 01:17 PM
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you couldn't let go of who you were This is the vibe I get consistently
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 02:23 AM
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Yo why do you think about your ex wife so much serious question I'm curious?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 02:19 AM
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I find your posts particularly perplexing. What is it about being validated by your wife that drives you so? Why aren't you plating? Why don't you give the FMoFY speech? What are you so afraid of?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/18 02:12 AM
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Twitter: Ed Latimore, IllimitableMan, blacklabellogic, start following dudes they retweet wealth of knowledge and easily consumable.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:55 PM
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Only 1 week in but bench is at 225 up from 90lb. DB press... Coincidence?
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:44 PM
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I owed you one for the TRT tips.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:40 PM
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Why are you equating environment with immersion? Immersion is environment-independent. I fuck my wife doggy style while she's doing the dishes and the kids are playing within view. It's tricky but doable. Immersion is about losing the fear of being caught, not eliminating the risk of being caught. Similarly, immersion is about letting go of inhibitions, not eliminating inhibitions. When I fuck my wife in my car in a public parking lot, we are having fun, not worrying about someone walking up to …
/r/askMRP04/04/18 06:37 PM
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No.
/r/askMRP04/04/18 10:45 AM
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She has huge tits no doubt
/r/askMRP04/04/18 12:22 AM
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Ah you're the guy I was talking about in my last post. Mr. Perfect!
/r/askMRP04/04/18 12:22 AM
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Get outta there, you're much better than that!
/r/askMRP03/04/18 09:35 PM
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Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/18 12:48 AM
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Thank God someone did it.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 10:51 PM
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George Soros
/r/askMRP31/03/18 08:11 PM
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Yes. Yeah, just get comfortable talking to people in general. Look at the first post in my history. Would work for you as well if you're more of an anxious person.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 07:55 PM
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Good. So now you understand why your girlfriend or whatever sends you these ridiculous texts. She's your only option and she knows it. She's in charge buddy. Stay with her for the sex for now and start cultivating options. Start tonight. Leave her home and go chat up 3 girls, I dare you.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:57 PM
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Better question is why don't you have the balls to find new women?
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:50 PM
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Fuck that shit. Say nothing. Make other plans with someone more fun.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 06:46 PM
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Women like men with irrational confidence. Many men are insecure and despise irrational confidence because it reminds them of their shortcomings. Find better men to associate with.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:45 PM
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TLDR; You will struggle in life so choose the things that are worth struggling for.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:31 PM
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Smoking weed all day. Not lifting (started at 28). Not approaching women (see first two).
/r/askTRP31/03/18 01:37 PM
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So your experience has been the same. What has dread been like?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/18 09:30 AM
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Well that's a new one.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 07:21 PM
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This is how I deal with my wife.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 06:43 PM
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Okay I'm curious what your response was.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/03/18 06:39 PM
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It's your interview. You're running the show. They should be convincing you why you should work for them and not one of the many other opportunities you could find.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 06:05 PM
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Allow yourself to experience the loss. A great way to do that is not getting shitfaced. Coincidentally having fun with another woman would be a great way. Careful of loss of frame control when drinking is involved.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 05:59 PM
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Kill the interview and be the best candidate. A lion does not concern himself with the opinions of a sheep. Be friendly and act genuinely happy to see this guy. If you show butthurt, anger, or weakness you need to work on your frame. Don't let him pull you into his. Easy.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 05:56 PM
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Definitely this is the answer. It's so obvious.
/r/askTRP29/03/18 04:49 PM
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I tease her often about being one of the kids. It took me a while to get to the point where I don't take it personally or seriously, although I have to be careful. There has to be consequences for bad behavior.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 03:05 PM
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My wife cannot get out of her own way. Self-sabotaging is a nice way to put it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 02:23 PM
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No. At least, not in my experience. The inherent dread and lack of self-confidence is so high in these women that dismissal is the best approach and even that is not reliable. There's no need to contrive a fight, because they live on the edge innately. Starting a fight will bring up every bad past experience they ever had, all their self-doubt, and ends in a net negative (still with sex, but you can get that anyway). The woman lives in fear of loss so by merely being passively dismissive you are…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 01:59 PM
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Was excited to read this when I saw the title. My wife is an adult child of an alcoholic(s). She has pulled some incredible spectacles to get my attention and attempt to provoke emotion from me. I'd be interested in hearing more about your experience. Main thing I took from this was not to be provoked by their emotional manipulation tactics, and I can agree with that. It's the only way.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/03/18 11:21 AM
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Constantly forced?
/r/askMRP28/03/18 08:58 PM
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My metric is how much I'm emotionally affected by the words, actions, or potential opinions of others.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 06:01 PM
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Exactly. Was rhetorical, but he's Purple Pill.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 03:34 PM
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Do you IF? I just started TRT yesterday so no data yet. IF helps me w hunger control. Down to 11%bf since starting. Eat a massive lunch.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 12:22 PM
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Bingo
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 01:40 AM
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The biggest significant thing that happened was the wife started a convo with me about sex. I most likely talked far to much, in fact I know I did. Progress. We all fuck up. You're recognizing it in a post-mortem which is a good step. Basically, I initiated, got a hard no, went to go do other things and she states, "You didnt come up here to hang out?", I said,"You always were a good puzzle solver." Smile and a wink and just stand there with a smirk. You would be amazed at the implications for h…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 08:12 PM
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Good boy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 07:12 PM
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Oh shit. I just read this after responding to him a minute ago. Spot on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:54 PM
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What I mean is, those happy families, it's like looking at someone's Facebook feed and feeling bad that you aren't living as cool of a life as they are. It's the highlight reel. For all you know, that is the only time that family has done that. They certainly have shitty moments. That Dad has probably sat alone at a bar, not wanting to go home, daydreaming about a trip with just his son and not his annoying wife. Know what I mean? And maybe one of those times when you were having one of those mo…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:46 PM
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What ever happened to his forums anyway?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:13 PM
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I just thought she was being honest when she said she was gonna take the kids and find a nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 06:11 PM
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My wife is really funny about medication which isn't necessarily a bad thing. Thanks for sharing. Will let you know if I bring it up. I like the analogy.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:59 PM
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Nothin wrong w that
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:44 PM
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Good deal. Feelz were hard for me to wrap my head around for a while. I mean, the (I feel like) blah blah blah (right now) concept. Wife has said some fucked shit. Doesn't matter. She adds value and my dick is wet.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:43 PM
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Congrats on killing the oneitis. It's a game changer. Remember the conversation you had where you both "felt" good doesn't mean shit to her after it's over. She feels whatever she feels and that can only be assessed in the present and should be dismissed for the future. You like to talk.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:27 PM
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Your MAP is all about "vocalizing" expectations and being someone for other people with a little bit of Disney fantasy sprinkles and "discovering yourself" mixed in. This is a recipe for failure.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:23 PM
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I believe your first year you should set aside a significant amount of time to gaming other women (and sure fucking them if you want). Once you get abundance, time is better spent on things that matter, especially if your wife is giving frequent and enthusiastic sex. So, you have come to the realization that spinning plates is a time sink and makes you value your relationship less. Not a bad thing necessarily, but a fact.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 04:14 PM
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Man, I miss my work orbiters. Buncha post-wall 2's at my new gig. It made for easy practice. Curious about your wife's mental health, mine has major anxiety/abandonment issues and frequent mental breakdowns/tantrums. I'm considering options for how I broach the topic with her getting help in a way that is productive. I have concerns about SSRI'S. What's worse, crazy horny wife or mild mannered wife with low libido? I'd rather deal with the crazy. Thoughts?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:59 PM
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Sorry man but remain focused and don't let off the gas you have a fresh start to look forward to, stay positive.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:55 PM
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Ninja moves when you do nothing and she hops in bed naked. It's all possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:53 PM
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5 minutes is enough time to escalate to sex. Think about that. Also, reading Day Bang is nowhere near enough to know you can pick up a girl. Go do it. I read a book about building spaceships and now I know I could build a spaceship. See how retarded that sounds?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:50 PM
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I’m observing other people I see couples and families all looking quite happy. With rare exceptions, I’m the only single father there. Not constantly; but this type of scene often fills me with a sense of melancholoy. I think “why don’t I have my beautiful wife by my side”. I think about how I was a drunk captain all those years; and did not lead my wife and family properly. Then I come back into the moment and enjoy my son’s company; or the woman walking by in the red dress. This is not the sam…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/03/18 03:44 PM
1

She's part of a group I workout with. Cutie.
/r/askMRP27/03/18 12:28 PM
2

Do it man what do you have to lose?
/r/askMRP27/03/18 12:56 AM
2

That doesn’t sound very fulfilling. And marriage will be fulfilling how?
/r/askTRP26/03/18 09:13 PM
2

gaybot
/r/askTRP26/03/18 09:10 PM
3

Comfort is a gift that should be earned. "I love you" is a phrase that should be gifted. Being married does not obligate you to "be the oak" and provide comfort to your wife. Comfort does not necessarily even soothe her needs and is more of a bane than a boon to your SMV. Comfort is for momentary appraisal and approval of a woman who has worked hard to earn it by doing something that makes your life better and should be given on your terms. Usually, a smile and a kiss will do. Remember: pussy is…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 09:02 PM
2

You're not even ready to read the title of that post gaybar.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/18 08:40 PM
17

I have no idea. My wife lost her shit this weekend when I was recognized by a hot 23 year old fitness chick. Sobbing, hiding in the bathroom, I had to take her home and white lie to our friends about why we left without saying goodbye. The sex was fantastic. Edit: Meh, go figure, I came home to a love note and a dozen roses. I feel like a princess!
/r/askMRP26/03/18 07:48 PM
2

Maybe, but I doubt he's posting on a sub about sexual strategy because he doesn't care about getting laid.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/18 12:26 PM
2

This is all good stuff but make sure frequent and enthusiastic sex is part of your MAP unless you are: A eunuch Not serious when you say this is about you Seems you have factored it out. I don't like the "baseline sex" frame. It's settling for ego protection. 3 years is a long time. Too many plebes shout victory with dry dicks. This is about getting laid, not getting paid.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/18 03:16 PM
26

A real alpha would upper deck both toilets and leave for 3 days without a word. He'd then go shit in as many ONS's toilets as possible. This is 101 stuff bro.
/r/askMRP23/03/18 12:19 PM
3

She's not sick she's perfect
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/18 01:32 AM
2

Have cut way back and feel much better no doubt. Quit smoking too. Still dip like a fucking maniac. 12% bf easy w no beer + intermittent fasting, and regular lifting. I love beer but just not enough to look and feel like shit.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 04:47 PM
1

Is your wife fit?
/r/askMRP22/03/18 04:42 PM
1

Is your wife fit?
/r/askMRP22/03/18 04:42 PM
1

If I had a dollar for every "please divorce your poor wife, you're hurting your children!" PM's I've gotten I'd have like 6 bucks. Enough for a burger. Not too bad.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 04:36 PM
3

I'm happy with it. She's making an effort. Adds a lot of value. Sex is great and frequent. Kids are happy. Lots of reasons. I don't know what will happen but right now my life is good.
/r/askMRP22/03/18 04:23 PM
1

I have considered this because I decided to just assume my wife will revenge cheat on me at some point over the next rest of my life if we stay married. Conclusion I came to is that what matters most to me is whether she's pleasant to be around, I'm getting all the sex how and when I want it from her, and she's serving my life in quantifiable ways. I chose to sleep around, I will deal with the consequences as they arise. NBD. Either way, I'm happy. I think ultimately, though, I would end the rel…
/r/askMRP22/03/18 02:28 PM
2

He gets me when he starts saying shit like, "how will you ever be a suitable partner..." and crap like that in his lectures. "Always tell the truth" etc. I intend to finish the book at some point but I had to put it down for now. Good summary. Like anything, take what's useful and discard the rest. These kids latching onto him are sad, sad, sad.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:41 AM
-1

Feelz.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:34 AM
3

Who gives a fuck about what kind of name we get.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:30 AM
7

Seems it's time for a reminder around here. Rule 0 post, my post, this post taking flack. This ain't a self help group. That's just a component.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/03/18 12:30 AM
1

How is it? I couldn't get into it. Put it down. Watched all his Maps of Meaning lectures and a lot of his appearances (Rogan etc.). I like what he's doing a lot I just draw the line at all the "how to live your life" BS. He's not someone I want to be. Weak arms, drowning in his clothes, obsessing about what dead people did to other dead people and how he could imagine becoming any one of those dead people.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 07:32 PM
2

I don't disagree that he's helpful to many men. Who cares if you or EC's piss off some guys, though? I guess I am missing the part where TRP is supposed to reach a mass audience.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 06:13 PM
2

You target a niche market.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 06:10 PM
3

For me, I'd rather MRP be hard core than try to appeal to the masses with feel-good shit like TFA. That doesn't mean I don't think he's a good dude or that he offers no value. I just don't think Married Red Pill is about being an awesome dude, kick-ass Dad, and amazing "masculine" husband. But that's just my opinion. Many disagree with me. Edit: feelz = clicks = followers = $$$. To appeal to the feelz, you need a softer, bigger, butterfly net.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:38 PM
2

The feelz train is making its way in here.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:33 PM
2

I'd rather it be a dark hole where dudes get a slap of reality and start swapping notes on married man game than a self-help center for the manipulated man but that's just my angle and I'm just some dude who wants to learn more about maximizing sexual access and gain as a married man. Thought that was understood since TRP is about sexual strategy. I wrote this after reading the responses in stone's Rule 0 post, where it became clear to me that it is not. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm just here to p…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:31 PM
1

Yeah there's that side of it too. Ego is a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:25 PM
2

This is the flip side of the coin of what I was complaining about the other day.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:17 PM
2

Wow this did not end how I was expecting. Did you go out and get some hot tail before creating this dumpster fire?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 04:16 PM
5

I find his stuff to be the "you go girl!" equivalent for men.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 12:57 PM
1

At least you realize it and aren't trying to pretend you have abundance caus some chick looked at you at Starbucks. Now you can actually work on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:42 AM
1

Tramadol, maybe it was placebo, who knows. Phenibut, I took 1.5g and for 20 minutes felt like I had a Halo around my head, couldn't feel my feet, and had a crazy head high. Then I cooled off and was just focused and mood lifted all day it was sweet trying again tomorrow. You can get the shit on Amazon and yeah it's a nootropic. Careful drinking on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:37 AM
2

Yeah got a little buzz nothing crazy. Better to just take them like they're designed. Never tried snorting or smoking oxy. Have a shit ton of Flexeril and Tramadol. Tramadol fucks me up. Don't do much of that anymore, just tried phenibut recently it was fucking crazy you ever try it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/03/18 01:31 AM
1

I always be escalatin'
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:23 PM
1

That's fuckin great.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:20 PM
2

Loved The Manipulated Man and The Polygamous Sex. Probably my favorite reads. I get ya. There's a time for the anger. Anymore when I read stuff like this, I just think meh, I don't blame her.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 11:17 PM
1

Damn I can't find it but one of my favorite comments on the main sub was answering a guy asking if he should talk to pretty girls or if he should be focused on his mission and the comment was like of course you should talk to pretty girls y'all act like you're Floyd Mayweather or something.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:37 PM
2

Were people booing?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:12 PM
2

I'm knocking on people who read a few of the verses that demand women respect men and call it "RP Truths". Surely you've seen it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 08:02 PM
2

Bingo.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:58 PM
1

This is the kind of discussion I was hoping to provoke. Would be interested to read that post if you ever make it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:56 PM
3

I don't feel bad for these guys. All it takes is some light research and mild ownership to find TRP. If they find it, and don't accept it, their problem. A man with no agency got fucked over? Oh well. You still have a brain, even when it's been washed.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:53 PM
2

Yeah and you got downvoted and blasted for that post which I think is a symptom of a bigger problem.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:21 PM
2

Nah what I mean is, if you're OYS, posting your updates every week, that is fine, but you are not OYS if you think self-improvement is the means to the same end. You can never stop improving. It's a vicious cycle of chasing your next improvement. That doesn't mean you should stop, but if you are not getting the results you want (sex) then don't fool yourself about how much "better" you're becoming. Self-improvement is a rabbit hole. Sex is only 3 holes.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 07:19 PM
1

Among many comments on other threads, yes. Look at the Rule Zero post. Follow OYS and see who is in an endless swirl of self-improvement, not getting their needs met.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 04:29 PM
2

You actually understood my post very well; of course I am not advocating no one lift, be a part of their kid's lives, or try to improve themselves. I intended it to be crass and a bit exaggerated. I don't feel like grabbing all the examples over the past 2 weeks right now but maybe I should, since I clearly did not get my point across for most.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 04:27 PM
1

Yeah, but my point, although intentionally crassly delivered, is that working on yourself indefinitely is not being red pilled. You have to get results. Results = sex because this is sexual strategy, after all. Don't fool yourself that it's just about becoming some kind of arbitrary "better man".
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:06 PM
1

It exists because most men are losers and you aren't allowed to talk about this stuff publically without character attacking, career ruining levels of backlash. All it takes is saying one thing to one person anymore. IIWII.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:03 PM
3

Yes, that's what I'm referring to. I get IOI's everywhere I go. Am I fucking these girls? Shit, am I looking back? Am I talking? Am I getting their number? There's a lot more to it. A girl giving you the eyes doesn't mean shit if you can't execute.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 01:00 PM
3

Never tried it, I've only snorted Vicodin.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:57 PM
2

Yeh, lots of people spout opinions. I'm interested in the constructive criticism. Either criticism I can make constructive or criticism provided constructively. The attaboys? Not much value there. How much coke you on rn bro? You dropped mad paragraphs in that comment.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:56 PM
1

Could be. I'm not there yet. My thing is, once they are in school and starting their own journey, my wife and I can both work, and we could feasibly raise them effectively separately. When they're 0-5 I believe nuclear family is best. My opinion.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/03/18 12:52 PM
1

The psychological stuff is interesting. Swapping notes. And, HA!
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 06:25 PM
2

The pills or the coffee?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 06:23 PM
3

Could be. They've PM'd me plenty.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 06:23 PM
3

It was a question, I'm glad you read deeply into it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 05:53 PM
2

Nope
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 05:47 PM
2

Who's "we"?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 05:41 PM
14

Marriage Things I have done or that I would have done at the onset: Never combine funds If you must, get a credit card with an additional user (your wife). Make sure it can track the spending and break it down for just that user. AmEx is good. She will use this for all purchases, most of which should be groceries. She does not use your money to buy herself clothes, trinkets, or other impulse-purchases. You put a hard limit on spending on this card. Keep your pre-marriage home. Rent it out. Only …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 10:51 AM
1

If you're not getting laid like a boss I am of the opinion you are missing something very important in a man's life.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/03/18 12:04 AM
3

That's what we're all doing. Point is to swap notes.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 11:53 PM
1

Nah there are a lot of us it's just hard to differentiate because I don't agree with your statement that their version is much different. It's so similar it's hard to tell. Gotta look for the nuggets. Nuggets are in the thinking behind the actions. The mindset. Main one: they're never their own judge.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/18 10:14 PM
1

Call it out when you see it.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/18 09:53 PM
1

Words like temptation are used manipulatively.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:20 PM
2

I love Twix. Having to use extreme discipline lately. Has gotten me from 16-12% bf so far and I feel great. I was totally eyeing this Oreo cake at the grocery store today. How do you guys deal with wanting to be fit but loving Oreos? Well, sometimes I just eat a fucking Oreo and get on with it.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:19 PM
25

Uber driver is only worth 10? They're getting underpaid constantly.
/r/TheRedPill18/03/18 09:14 PM
1

Good deal. Always interested in hearing how people make this work for them.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:09 PM
0

It's worth valuing your biological desires.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:08 PM
1

Cool cool. Curious really. Living apart, being legally separated, and sleeping around with other women seems like someone who is not married lol. Living together changes that.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:03 PM
-1

Surprised this got downvoted. Here's an upvote to counter-faggot the sub.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 09:00 PM
2

What's wrong with having fantasies about sexy young women lol that's normal as fuck.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 08:59 PM
1

The trend is not conducive to MRP, it's tradcons trying to LARP red.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/18 08:50 PM
5

Wife and I had mad sex while she was pregnant. M getting bored of these tradcon types. "I'm not gonna fuck other girls but I want to fuck other girls what do I do???". Nothing, man, you do nothing, because you chose a life of contradiction.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 03:06 PM
1

This comes up every couple months. Why not deal with it directly?
/r/askMRP18/03/18 03:02 PM
1

Would make a good post.
/r/askMRP18/03/18 03:01 PM
1

Did you move back in together?
/r/askMRP17/03/18 10:01 PM
1

I was raised to be a God-loving, feminine, woman-pleaser. Don't really have any good excuses.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 07:46 PM
1

Been there. I have a soft spot for these guys, turns out.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 07:33 PM
1

He seems cute
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 07:32 PM
1

Cool
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 07:32 PM
2

It's something you kill over time by focusing on other targets.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 06:11 PM
3

Yeah it's obvious. That's okay. Work on that. You have a ton of shit to work with here. I'll throw you a bone. It was refreshing seeing someone trying to make sense of things instead of complaining about some situation with their wife. Now take your validation and get fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:57 PM
3

OK. So, step one, learn to take criticism. Your post isn't bad, but it misses a key point that you'll be better for if you accept. It's your first post. I took an opportunity to poke your frame and it was super easy. A lot of great information is in this thread. We're here to swap notes. Recalibrate and try again.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:54 PM
3

We are fucking with you, idiot. You seem like the kinda guy who needs it spelled out for him. I want you to succeed.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:49 PM
2

Internet dudes are able to fuck your frame. Think about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:47 PM
2

I wanna see more K-close FR's around here personally.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 05:12 PM
3

K
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 02:37 PM
-5

Nice DEER. I bet she doesn't even deep throat.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 02:30 PM
4

Butthurt ego hamster and weak neg. You can give up your need to rely on your wife as your only avenue for sex, that is true. Huge difference. Sex is a need. Your argument is trash and your mindset is weak, defensive, and steeped in Christian Theology. It's hilarious how you limit yourself to only two options on either side of the spectrum. Your last paragraph destroys your second. If there is no need, there is nothing to master. Keep living the dream. You might like /r/MGTOW.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 02:26 PM
2

Yes you do. This was a brutal read. Stop kidding yourself. You got a K close lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 01:47 PM
3

It is discussed at length. Sarcastic defeatism must be a bitch.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 01:33 PM
5

Garage analogy is a good one.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:44 PM
3

The idea is if you can turn a pile of shit (your life, not your marriage) into a pile of gold, you'll acquire the skills to turn a pile of gold into a pile of platinum and a pile of platinum into a pile of rhodium. It has nothing to do with being content in turning shit to gold and proclaiming victory. Most men married thinking they were getting a pile of rhodium. It's called TBP.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:39 PM
3

I like LinkedIn okay, helps me stay connected with people who could help me make money.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/18 12:47 AM
4

Give yourself time to chill out on a more regular basis so you don't have to binge-chill.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 10:12 PM
2

It isn't an option? Shit...
/r/askMRP15/03/18 08:52 PM
-1

There's a difference between only engaging with people you find worthy of your time and being a complete butthurt loser like you.
/r/askTRP15/03/18 04:40 PM
1

Sounds like she gets her fill with your head up her ass. That's some kinky shit, really.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 04:25 PM
12

Good luck with the divorce, man. Weirdest thing that happened to me with a married chick I had just met. We're making out in her car and she stops, looks at me, and says, "I love you". Nothing else impacted me, but that... That opened my eyes up wide. Loser husband was texting her the whole time. "Hey baby are you okay? Are you coming home? I miss you, I love you. Be careful. Where are you?"
/r/askMRP15/03/18 03:14 PM
1

Yeah. Kind of miss the misadventures of ddp phase. Explosive personal growth and a ton of fun. Interested to see where else this goes.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 02:49 PM
1

It's fucking unbelievable.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 02:32 PM
2

Worse than my case. I had nagging low back pain, some days excruciating but most days inconvenient. Spent thousands on tests, chiros, PT, name it. Stopped worrying about it. Stopped catering to it. Stopped feeding it.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 02:30 PM
3

Great book, changed my life.
/r/askMRP15/03/18 02:09 PM
1

Yep
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/18 03:44 AM
1

Making jokes about your wife making rules and being the boss and shit is cringey as fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 05:57 PM
3

Sign of the times when sexual strategy is so abstracted from self-improvement it becomes a possible side effect and not part of your mission. Edit: Wait I think there's a sub for that...
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 05:41 PM
1

Yup. So simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 05:18 PM
3

Funny, was talking recently with /u/CaptainRaise about how OYS is becoming the new judge and sexual needs are getting left out of it because of hamstering fear of failure and/or tradcon bullshit (speculating).
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 02:26 PM
35

Come on man.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 12:25 PM
1

Maybe you're being honest with yourself for the first time in a long time.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 11:06 AM
1

One of my favorite parts of corporate life is watching the chess game and predicting the next move. Positioning yourself to fit in and win the game. Interesting read.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 11:04 AM
4

Amazing how you hit DL7 and suddenly have your balls back ain't it? Keep not giving a fuck, keep going out, keep her guessing. She should be. You have better shit to do than sit around with an ice queen who texts other men.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 11:00 AM
1

You would say this list sounds like a BPD woman? I would too.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/18 10:49 AM
2

List sounds like my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 05:33 PM
2

Same.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:56 PM
2

Well done man. If it's complicated you're doing it wrong. Did you ditch the ring?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:52 PM
1

Thanks. It's tough but it's life. Gotta keep moving forward.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:39 PM
2

Meh. If your needs are met.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:38 PM
1

Back in the gym, it’s been great. Pushing my numbers back up to where they were a couple months ago. Feeling strong. Doing a water fast right now, first time I’ve tried it. I like the mental challenge. Wife has completely dropped the emotional tantrums after our “talk”. Basically, I told her if she wanted to be in my life she’d have to learn to find happiness in her own life and stop depending on me to fulfill all her needs. It’s been nice. Laid out a vision for a future with her again and I’m h…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:21 PM
2

Loved working on my old rusty Ranger. New project car sounds fun. Sounds like you're doing well man glad to hear it. Getting out and practicing game?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 03:01 PM
3

Good work. Careful who you share the dark shit with.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:59 PM
3

Well done. I haven't had strange in a while, it's been on my mind. Trying to give wife full access for a while. Would be interested in hearing more about what you did to get the closes.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:58 PM
1

Good for n closing. 220lbs and top 5% I hope you're like 6'5". I married a masculine woman too and it sucked. Lived in her frame. You might be surprised how she relaxes into a feminine role and frame once you get your shit together and stop being a validation seeking nice guy.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:56 PM
3

Lots of negative self talk, why?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:52 PM
2

Look into LDL levels on Keto, mine are elevated as well but I'm not worried about it at all. Doing a fast right now myself, 60 hour water fast. Good luck. I like boozing.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 01:37 PM
1

How high do the db's go? Sumo squats, Bulgarian squats, Romanian deadlifts, dumbbell press, incline press, decline flies, bentover flies, standing flies, curls, supinating curls, pullups, one arm rows, bentover shrugs. You'll have to add weight soon enough especially legs, traps and chest. Use it to get a base and then invest in equipment or join a real gym. Unless they have db's up to 100 then you'll be good for quite a while, especially with what a skinny fuck you are.
/r/askTRP13/03/18 03:15 AM
3

So your wife is having a hard time dealing with the kids growing up and you got to be the bad guy for those bad feelings.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/03/18 02:42 AM
1

I did vitamin d and fish oil with cold showers, good info though.
/r/askMRP11/03/18 07:15 PM
1

What ever happened?
/r/askMRP10/03/18 04:47 PM
1

Thought you had kids... Edit: nevermind I just got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 04:01 PM
1

Only you were there and know the nuances.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 01:46 PM
1

Be cordial, no reason to have your feelz hurt over one girl. I've had to do this twice in the past few weeks in social situations. Last one, I just smiled, said what's up, gave them a hug, had normal banter during the event, and said goodbye when I left, just as I did with most everyone else. What do I care? I treated her as I would have treated my sister.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:38 AM
1

Yes, just get used to talking to women you find attractive. First girl I flirted with, after being in an LTR/married for so many years, I was literally shaking. Hilarious. I was higher SMV than her, too, and she was obviously receptive even. Do it to get outta your head.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:31 AM
1

K-close is good if logistics don't allow you to F-close at the time (you're busy/leaving/don't have much time). I've fucked up some where I could have gone in for the kill and backed off. I'm married though, so logistics are much more complicated for me. Sounds like that's what you did, too. You made the K the highlight instead of it just being a natural thing that happened during the game. You won a bet at a game you knew you'd win and tried to line up another date before even kissing her, let …
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:27 AM
1

I missed the part where I was worried about her finding out. Only reason I can think of is divorce rape I guess. She did find out, by the way, and stayed with me. Question why this woman has ignored you and your needs. Maybe it's because you've been an unattractive loser. I agree, though, enjoy the perks. The consequences aren't a threat or a warning, they're just reality. It might be possible to invest that time in gaming your wife or pursuing other interests more valuable than women and still …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/18 12:34 AM
3

Already some gold.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 09:51 PM
3

It's amazing to me the lack of troll radar in this subreddit.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 06:12 PM
2

Lift some paragraphs into that post and I'll give it a whirl.
/r/askMRP09/03/18 01:40 AM
3

Good for him.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/03/18 12:26 AM
1

We have our hands full with 2. Did have a scare in January though. Was trying to figure out how to turn the master closet into a nursery.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 07:07 PM
2

Self improvement is just another form of compliance for them. There it is. "OYS" becomes the judge. Bit of a mindfuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 06:19 PM
1

That's a helluvan RP husband in the delivery room story. You weren't huffing and puffing with her and fainting at the blood? Hope you watched the whole thing like a real man. I'm starting T next month. Already fucking like bunnies I told wife be prepared for ddp3.0. She looked scared and hyperhorny. Should be fun. Hey there's always the Fleshlight. Or your neighbor's wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:30 PM
1

Oh man, I forgot about the 6 week no sex thing. Add it to my list of why I'm not having another mini-ddp. Good luck w the baby mang, for as much work as it is, it's actually pretty awesome. I don't think this is your first so you know what's up.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:22 PM
2

I said lack of sex. Could be, even, only getting duty sex. They know who they are. Edit: Wait... Why 4 months?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:11 PM
1

Woof. I didn't see anything in there about how it ended. I wonder...
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 05:10 PM
3

The tradcons here, the sooner they accept this shit, the sooner they can actually operate in abundance and OI. I'm bored of reading OYS/FR's of MRPBros still frustrated at lack of sex after a year, 2 years, etc.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 04:21 PM
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The big question is how to be the kind of guy women in general want to have validation sex with. Don't pin your success on your wife's reaction or your frame will always be fucked.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/18 10:19 AM
2

Looks like the rope is tugging, well done man you've come a long way. Let her think you're fucking the girl at work. Let her convince you not to.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 02:57 PM
1

The tape story, I was like, goddamn!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/18 11:49 AM
2

She may get flustered when you do shit for yourself that doesn't benefit her. It's a shit test. Do your thing.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 10:06 PM
1

Sure thing, use it.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 07:35 PM
3

Sweet I gotta add it to my list
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 05:39 PM
1

Prob TRT. I've done everything else.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 05:25 PM
2

Early 30s, I don't put my feet on the bench.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 05:25 PM
3

Fuck yeah man
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:16 PM
2

There's always somewhere to go. You never arrive...
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 04:07 PM
2

Yeah thought my OPSEC was tight as shit too but long story short I forgot to delete a chat and she got into my account somehow. Sloppy.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 01:31 PM
2

It's a mindset more than anything. The fitness is icing on the cake.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 01:22 PM
2

I took it to 11, wanted to see what else was out there for myself. Backed it down now to where I'm not spinning plates or anything atm. My wife found out I slept around. Once you hit 11, there's no going back if you stay attractive. She'll always know you will fuck other women unapologetically if you want/need to. I don't know if my marriage will last. Time will tell. I suspect she'll justify fucking another guy somewhere down the line, but maybe not. Not worried ab it. I'll move on to other thi…
/r/askMRP06/03/18 01:18 PM
1

Glad you made this a post
/r/MarriedRedPill06/03/18 03:42 AM
5

I'm not advocating anyone answer to anyone. Do this to answer to yourself.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 02:01 AM
7

Did you copy/paste this from /r/askMRP? Feels so familiar.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 12:32 AM
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I'll be honest, when I get on a roll/in state it's an 8 but after a few weeks of not gaming women I get that approach anxiety again/sometimes clam up. Here's another. Write down your confidence level on hitting on your wife. If it's not an 11/10 you have a shit ton of work to do.
/r/askMRP06/03/18 12:29 AM
1

no shit.... Never put my feet on the bench, liked the challenge of balancing. Guess I'm a ruhtard.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 08:05 PM
2

Had to pass up a cutie last month. She kept inviting me to her house for drinks. Oh well. She quit and filed harassment charges on another co-worker.
/r/RedPillWorkplace05/03/18 07:48 PM
2

I've considered switching to bar but I like the ROM, holding my legs up and balancing while I press. The thing I like is also the thing that can hurt you though, you're right about that.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 07:44 PM
11

Who has time to get names? :) That's the spirit
/r/askMRP05/03/18 06:55 PM
1

Outside of OYS and lifting (which is technically part of OYS), gaming other women is the answer to 90% of the shit I see on here. I did it to a ridiculous level my first year. I don't see that effort from a lot of the guys. Seems they prioritize everything else with ease, but when it comes time to actually see if they could do better, fear masqueraded as other shit takes over. I will not cheat on my wife I must need to OYS more I'm not fit enough yet for my wife to come around I'm giving my wife…
/r/askMRP05/03/18 05:04 PM
1

I like getting the bloody knuckles.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 02:57 PM
2

So start with your car and home. Need an oil change? Do it. YouTube. Emergency light on? Go to AutoZone, have them scan it, research the problem and fix it. Replace the water pump yourself. Put a new thermostat in. New spark plugs. New alternator. Change the brakes yourself. Rotate the tires. Install a pocket door in your bathroom. Tile your laundry room. Install new flooring. Buy the tools as you need them for everything you do. Instead of paying someone, invest in the tools and time to learn. …
/r/askMRP05/03/18 02:54 PM
1

What ultimatum? OP needs a taste of abundance.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 11:09 AM
3

Jump jobs between companies and negotiate your salary. Be willing to walk.
/r/askTRP03/03/18 08:18 PM
3

I wish we had gentler methods for the man to "win" but advanced Dread Game that cultivates a truly DNGAF attitude so that you no longer rely on your wife for your full sexual gratification is really the only way to win. I went through a phase in the beginning, when I started getting results, where I was thinking... Why do I have to treat her this way? I can't believe I treated her so sweetly for so many years for nothing but a wife who preferred to sit on the couch and get high than fuck me. We …
/r/askMRP03/03/18 05:21 PM
2

My wife, I think, actually gets off on telling me no. Seriously. She now knows that I am on the razors edge of making a decision to fully nuke us after 25 years. But part of me just sits back and just laughs at her bullshit antics. I think mine gets off on crying about how I don't give a shit about her. Same ol routine over and over. Trying to be a little more comforting lately. Wife also knows I'm near the nuke button... Well, she found the papers and knows I fucked other women. Told her I'd gi…
/r/askMRP03/03/18 11:02 AM
1

He needs to game other women. Mutual desire is but a faint memory.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 10:21 AM
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OP do not get this bitch pregnant. Whatever you do, do not impregnate this woman. You have a chance here at a fresh start, doing it right. Don't fuck it up. As I said in my reply, do not trust her to take her BC.
/r/askMRP03/03/18 10:12 AM
2

I just read all your OYS. Seems you are putting in the work, reading the books, trying to get into a workout routine that works well for you. Keep that up. You don't have kids. There is a very nice life you are working towards that probably doesn't include your wife. The thing I did, the thing that cured my oneitis, was approaching, flirting with, and N, K, or F closing other women. Didn't take much. You obviously don't have to actually kiss or fuck the girls you game. You need to shift gears in…
/r/askMRP03/03/18 09:57 AM
1

Yeah now I'm doubly confused. Maybe it's provider in the sense of the child having an active father and her saving face publically. Provider on a comfort level?
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:39 PM
1

Got lost at this part. So your ex-kinda-girlfriend you knocked up is giving you approval to sleep with other women? Sounds like she wants him to be her provider and is bargaining. Remember OP, all contracts are null and void once she gets what she wants.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 02:37 PM
5

Consider working from a Starbucks. Tell her you're busy as hell and taking control of a lot of shit at work (focused on your mission and not her) and you need to focus. Start lifting, no one cares about how good you are at rolling. Sub some of your hobby time with networking events or start attending a social fitness group that includes women (check breweries, there are a lot of free options). This has to be something productive for you that involves meeting women. Flirt and practice game. Your …
/r/askMRP02/03/18 01:46 PM
5

Happened to me a lot after I started dressing nice. Wouldn't you know it, not long after that, getting pussy.
/r/askTRP01/03/18 08:43 PM
2

Then you've done enough work to get what you want. Keep going.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:23 PM
5

By the way in case you're another one of the spergs, don't actually threaten your wife and tell her if she doesn't get in shape you're going to fuck fit girls.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:18 PM
1

What's your bf% and height?
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:16 PM
9

Prepare her for it before you say, "get your shit were going to the gym". Ask her what kind of workouts she likes to do. Make her a part of it. Get her excited about it. Take it slow.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:15 PM
2

An idea. Go start flirting heavily with other women. Go way out of your way to flirt with a retarded number of women. Make it part of your MAP. Get really comfortable with the idea of fucking other women. See if you can make it happen. Whether you actually go through with it is another story.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:13 PM
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You have to be the kind of guy women want to impress and be prepared to get your needs met elsewhere if she doesn't get on board. That's it. Tell her straight up. This is what I said to my wife, a very long time ago: "I want to have the kind of sex life fit people have". Tell her you want to get in shape, you want her to get there with you, you will support her efforts. If she doesn't? You're still going to have the kind of sex fit people have.
/r/askMRP01/03/18 08:02 PM
3

Really they are just as brainwashed as everyone else in society, the reality is they have no fucking idea what they want. When you're steeped in Red Pill reading it's easy to forget that the women are just as brainwashed as you were. It makes it seem like women know what they are doing. They don't. That's the biological paradox. Actions not words. It's all summed up in that one phrase.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/03/18 05:18 PM
2

I think this shit will sort itself out. The fight against biology, I mean. People will not be able to help themselves but to want what they inherently want. Maybe I'm an optimist.
/r/TheRedPill28/02/18 12:08 PM
1

Good job deleting all that social media garbage and focusing on yourself. Girls will find shit to complain about. It's rare you need to get involved. Be careful taking sides. Decide if it's worth your time and consider the likelihood that there's absolutely nothing for you to do about "the problem".
/r/askMRP28/02/18 11:17 AM
1

Leave it to military food services to have no fun naming cereal. Sounds like you have the makings of a new oppressed identity group. Maybe Trudeau is for you after all.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 09:12 PM
1

The forgotten race
/r/askMRP27/02/18 08:26 PM
2

Trudeau beat you to it but he'd probably hire you to lead gender reform.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 06:40 PM
1

You could become a woman and scissor the doctor, path of least resistance just sayin.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 06:04 PM
1

I hear ya, gotta be your own advocate.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 05:43 PM
2

Yeah man. Mine did the same shit, funny. Had to harrass them for the results. Looked at me like I had 3 heads when I said I wanted my T checked in the first place. My shit is low. I feel it. I'm working through it but I know it's holding me back. They just don't seem to take it seriously... I wonder why? Nah I don't. FI. Looking back though the T clinic was a little trigger happy to start injecting me ASAP. Trying something else now.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 05:11 PM
1

Thanks man. My main concern is getting locked in at the t clinic. I'm going to try another option that's online where I can self-inject so I'm not having to drive out to this clinic every week for eternity. That's assuming they decide to even give me test cyp at this place. Will see what's up. I've been dealing with it for a long time, NBD to wait another month or so to go with something that will be easier and cheaper long-term.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 03:42 PM
1

The docs are ignorant of this issue. Went to the T clinic, at least they're plugged in to TRT. Docs here just send me to Endo's who DGAF or say meh looks fine, normal range. Yeah, normal for a 70 year old.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 02:40 PM
1

Awesome thanks man great info here appreciate it!
/r/askMRP27/02/18 01:46 PM
1

Thanks man. Reached back out to GP and told him what I'm up to so will see where it goes.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 04:17 AM
7

Other girl's ass to your wife's mouth then drop the papers next morning.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 09:46 PM
1

Roche ECLIA methodology 7.6-42.6pg/mL. It's within range.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 09:07 PM
1

My estradiol was super low last year 8.8pg/mL
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:49 PM
1

Okay noted.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:48 PM
1

They plan on tracking estradiol to determine if AI is needed. Will check up on dosage thanks.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:48 PM
1

Yeah I hear ya. This clinic is like $35/shot which doesn't sound bad to me to get started. Feel like the GP would be more likely to get on with it if I was already doing it, just based on his personality and shit. I'll think on this, thanks again man.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:21 PM
1

Awesome, thanks man. I guess the place I went is a "T shop" but the levels don't lie. If I get the "diagnosis" from them and get on TRT, then bring it to my GP in 6 months and ask him for a script, do you think that's a decent approach? I don't mind spending some money upfront with the T shop to get me started.
/r/askMRP26/02/18 08:11 PM
1

The financial analyst who built the report in Excel left 10 years ago. Very significant business decisions are made off of that report, we need to replicate it. What's it doing? We have no idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/18 01:18 PM
1

Not exactly. Sex is very enthusiastic. She's submissive and I get what I want. I do tune her out and I hardly comfort. My problem has been moreso that she relies on me to be everything to her. Vampire. I haven't been able to lead her out of it, so I suppose I gave up and just started tuning her out and preparing my exit. Trying to sort that all out. If I'm going to be married, I want to be able to bring my wife somewhere and have her make friends with people and be real. She's judgy and unrecept…
/r/askMRP25/02/18 07:31 PM
1

I think it's the trying to stack on to Jack 2 weeks in.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 07:19 PM
3

Finally nailed that down. I was blocking myself from going there, assuming there was not. I laid it out for her. The vision is that she continues to be a SAHM for one more year and when the kids are in school/preschool, she will use the ~15 hours a week to prepare for when they are both full-time in school. I gave her some options and freedom to decide what she wants out of life, but told her I expect her to come to a decision very soon. She had some ideas as well. I want her to do something she…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 07:18 PM
1

I let the DNGAF go unchecked. Need to make more of an effort to include her on the ride. Whether she can handle the new ride though is out of my control.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 07:03 PM
1

Stonewalling can gravitate quickly to "checking out" Can confirm. If you mean the man is the one who checks out.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 06:16 PM
2

Pivot tables tho
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 06:11 PM
3

lead her rather than be a douchebag to her I'm trying a new strategy with wife. In do or die phase. Sex is no problem but my wife is hysterically desperate for a spot in my vision and I have been withholding it to an extent. I've tried giving options but the confirmation bias I was looking for was there, so I assumed I was correct to leave her behind, and didn't put in as much effort to include her as I could have. Took me a while to realize it, but once I did, it all kind of clicked. I've been …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/18 06:08 PM
1

Giving her another chance. Discovered I was harboring some resentment towards her. Your comment made me wonder and man_in_the_world called me on it so I let myself go there. Wife had called me on it too. Turns out, yeah, I resented her behavior since I have been changing into the man I want to be. Turns out, she didn't feel she had a place in that vision. I have tried a few times and there are two possibilities: My visions were not actionable for her She's full of shit So now it's do or die. If …
/r/askMRP24/02/18 11:15 PM
1

Don't bother reading that garbage. Entire community is based on criticizing another community to save its superego. Would be different if they actually posted content and were working on improving their lives in a BP fashion. They're not.
/r/askMRP24/02/18 11:09 PM
9

Had a friend who was in his 30's and lived at home. Played Xbox all day and hit bars at night. Spent 5 years in prison and had like 4 DUI's. Tagged hotties at his mom's house nightly. Why? Did not give a single fuck. They loved it.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 02:51 PM
1

Needed to hear this. Lightbulb moment and I sorted myself out. I convinced myself there was no resentment but it was just repressed. I was able to lay out a vision, own the resentment and start moving forward. Entered the do or die phase of my marriage. Gave my wife an in and let her back on the ship. Owning that decision. Didn't take long at all when I just accepted it. Posted this for a reason, trying to sort myself out. Thanks bud.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/18 01:42 PM
1

Is it Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender or Pathways To Surrender?
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:07 PM
1

I have looked at places and prepared myself for it but when it comes down to the decision I always look for a way to make it work.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:03 PM
1

Yeah. I tell myself I can and that it would be all good but then when I actually go there mentally I struggle to reconcile. Might read that book you suggested.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:00 PM
1

This is where I'm at. Haven't accepted they'd be fine. Although seeing how well they handled my father's death I did think to myself... Wow they are tough little shits. That gives me hope.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 12:21 PM
1

Haha
/r/askMRP23/02/18 12:14 PM
1

Yep
/r/askMRP23/02/18 07:08 AM
2

Just re-read this, it's been a while. she will try to isolate you from your peers and family. Check She might do this by accusing you of something extremely unsavoury to win the sympathies of your natural allies. Check (she didn't have to try hard). Once you are estranged from your emotional support, she will target you with more focus, gaslighting you with repetitive cycles of scorn and forgiveness Ah, it seems I find myself here. I see some trends that line up in this article and some that do …
/r/askMRP23/02/18 07:04 AM
1

Very, very good questions. If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck...
/r/askMRP23/02/18 06:31 AM
1

It's probably the biggest thing holding me back. Achilles. I say to myself I am, and I can actually envision it, but I really don't want to.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:39 AM
1

Yeah for sure man. I've tried laying it out and I was very supportive about getting her moving. I've tried adapting her role in the vision a few ways and nothing has stuck yet. Mine is the same either way. I can be flexible about a role that works for her, but I'm not going to keep spinning wheels either. Have to think on this some more.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:36 AM
1

Yeah but still a valid point. I mean, if she has lost a place in my vision, I could communicate that, but I am trying to give it time. Catch 22 though. I can't see a future with her unless things change but things can't change unless I lay out a future with her. Hmm, something to think about.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:18 AM
2

Very true. Maybe I am the one who needs to shit or get off the pot.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:13 AM
1

It could be that I am not allowing her into that vision yet. When I think about my future now I know where I want to be career wise and with my kids. I know where I want to be socially and with my hobbies. Wife? I don't know right now man, will she even make it a month without an episode? Seems I don't want to throw her a lifesaver to get back on the ship until she shows me she can swim. Why would I want a First Mate who doesn't even know how to swim? I don't know for sure, just speculating. May…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 01:10 AM
1

Loved it, time to read it again.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 12:52 AM
2

Maybe. She keeps things clean for me, cooks dinner every night, handles shit I ask her to, and sex is on demand. It's not that for me, it's moreso the emotional instability from chronic lack of self. The need for us to be one person. Vampiric.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 12:52 AM
1

Thanks for the advice, I suspect it. I had her go to CBT and it seemed to go well but didn't last. She's probably read like 20 self improvement books in the past 9 months, which I can appreciate. I went to therapy myself and worked through a lot of shit. Helped me let go of some things I was holding onto. She communicates her desires but they are mostly vague like, all I want is to be with you. Cause sure as shit, if she wants to relinquish that level of control to you, you will be miserable. Tr…
/r/askMRP23/02/18 12:47 AM
1

I have read his story and saw myself in it entirely. And, no, not really where I want to go. Not sure about the fix thing. Maybe it's hoping that she will fix it herself. I'm not doing a whole lot about it besides sticking around.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 11:40 PM
1

Awesome, thanks for sharing. I don't know. I think I am hanging onto the idea of a no-matter-what nuclear family "for the kids". Possibly hanging onto the idea that I can "fix" her negative feedback loop. Also maybe she's right and there is some resentment for the shit she has thrown my way during my MAP, namely dragging our business all around the neighborhood, my family, trying to turn people close to me against me "because she needed support" while I put my head down, worked and STFU. Maybe f…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 11:25 PM
1

Man, the video, my wife doesn't understand the concept. You're lucky yours does.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 10:24 PM
1

Yep, to make the move if I have to. I'm a fucking retard for getting myself into this spot. If only I had found TRP sooner. Oh well! Moving forward.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:12 PM
1

I own the fact that my poor leadership got me to this point. I can't undo 10 years of faggotry. Glad things have worked out for you. The thing about the script change she can't grasp is that it doesn't mean things will go back to how they were. It's as if she thinks her behaving more feminine, submissive, and like a woman worth keeping will make me act like I used to; the way she misses. Or something, I don't really know.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:09 PM
1

I bottled it up or tried to tapdance. Eventually I got so tired I researched divorce and then found MRP.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:01 PM
1

I've had similar conversations. You can lead a horse to water...
/r/askMRP22/02/18 09:00 PM
1

From her, no. From me, I have put it on the table as a potential option if shit doesn't straighten out. Wouldn't have, but she found the papers. In the past, I would have coddled her and legitimized every emotion, talked, offered solutions, name it.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:36 PM
1

Not really sure man. I'm probably letting it sit there and suffer to some extent. No narrative besides she doesn't want to lose me and just wants us to be together forever and shit. I dont know what you mean by a come to Jesus speech though, like how would that look? Guess I am at a loss for how to nurse it back to health too. Not like I haven't tried shit over the years. Not into the sunk cost fallacy either.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:34 PM
1

Definitely a lot of similarities. Appreciate the thoughtful response man.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:28 PM
1

I have decided not to. Or at the very least to do the bare minimum. Will see where it goes, thanks.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:17 PM
3

Yeah, I guess was Captain Save-a-ho at the start of the relationship and now that I'm not I'm just dealing with a ho.
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:01 PM
1

Thanks man sorry for your loss as well. I'm thankful for the time I did get but yeah that feeling of loss isn't one I could imagine just disappearing. Funny you say that, they defer to me a lot as well, everyone just wishes I would have stayed predictable I guess. They think I changed because of a concussion I got a couple years ago. Literally accused me of mental illness and told me I needed a brain scan. It's crazy. My mom hugged me randomly the other day and said, "I love you and just want yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:50 PM
2

Walked in his house the other day to handle something for my mom. Was there alone. Sat at his desk, drank a beer, and let the tears roll out. It is what it is. I allow myself time to do this in private. Overall I am optimistic and thankful for the time I did get with him. Sorry for your loss man, it's a big one. I have taken a mental note about my family as you suggested and it left me feeling more alone than ever but that's okay, it's helping me improve my frame long-term. my dad made up lost t…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:43 PM
1

Plugged in hard. I don't talk much with any of them at all. So little, they have harassed me about needing to be more open. If it hadn't been for my wife, they would have been none-the-wiser. Has been challenging to settle the cognitive dissonance of my BP upbringing and reality. I think deep down, my father put his needs on the back burner for everyone else and suffered silently.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:31 PM
2

Thanks man. It's definitely tough. Even though I don't agree with everything he taught me, he was a very close mentor; especially in business. We bonded over the years and I felt like we had finally crossed over into a man-to-man relationship instead of father-to-son. Glad we were able to get there but fuck if I don't wish it could have lasted longer. I have grieved in private a lot, but I keep it to myself for the most part. Sorry for your loss as well. What can we do? Deal with it and move for…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/18 05:27 PM
2

Some people are naturally gifted at a certain thing (music for example) but slip up, fail to practice, get comfortable, or whatever, and are surpassed in talent by the persistent whom started at a lower level of skill. It's irrelevant. The positive feedback loop is in motion for him. Work on yours.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:30 PM
1

BJJ probably helps with the weight loss too but I don't think anything can beat lifting. It's okay to have a few goals going at once though nothing wrong with that. Good luck man!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 10:12 PM
2

Yeah but he doesn't close them because he's above getting his dick wet. Alpha Male!
/r/askMRP20/02/18 06:54 PM
2

Yeah agree 100%, I have done as you suggested and addressed it. There's a deeper codependency issue going on I haven't been able to successfully lead her through yet. At some point there's nothing I can do. It is true that I could be more appreciative of her effort to make a change. Edit: I have also addressed it with my family and they backed off and are supportive of me now, not that it matters, I don't want it to be us vs her either.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:48 PM
2

I know you guys mean well but writing paragraphs worth of analysis for these shit posts isn't helping anyone. Let this guy think he's got it figured out. If he's real, he can't even get his dick wet. "The Anal"? Jesus. There's aspie troll retard written all over this post and he didn't come for help, he came to brag about his PhD in ultimatums.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 06:41 PM
1

245 at 6'4" and only 17%bf you sure you need keto? At this height and weight you should be muscular AF but with just a little extra cushion on your belly. I do Keto and I'm 210 at 6'2" and probably 16% right now after fucking off for a couple months but still muscular. I like it but I do it for energy levels, I feel better without the crashes of carbs, not for losing weight. Maybe you aren't 17% really though? What method are you using, Navy? Has a 3% standard deviation. Consider lifting 5x a we…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 06:24 PM
1

That doesn't sound like constant initiating to me. Maybe your game needs some work? Test it out on other women.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 05:25 PM
9

Wife found out I had slept around. Same day my father died. I basically blew her off for 6 weeks while she went around telling everyone we know and causing a scene (still were fucking on the reg tho). I had shit to handle with the funeral, eulogy, more important things. Finally I sort of DEER'd, never apologized, but I told her I stopped giving a fuck a year and a half ago and planned on leaving her when the kids went to school unless things improved significantly. Lots of short WISNIFG conversa…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/18 05:12 PM
1

So you initiate 2-4x per week? Roughly every other night, sometimes even less?
/r/askMRP20/02/18 03:45 AM
1

Yeah, I guess it's /r/TheRedPill but it's a different game. I mean, the stakes are incomparable.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 06:25 PM
1

Happy hours have worked well for me. Have been considering networking events as well, good to know. Also some athletic clubs. Trying to balance it (the time) with hobbies and being a father, and my wife puts out on the reg so urgency isn't there but I don't want to sink back into her being my only option. Always like hearing about plate strategy from dudes on here so thanks.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 01:54 PM
2

How many hard no's do you get in order to achieve 1-2x per week? Ratio matters.
/r/askMRP19/02/18 10:25 AM
1

I will build myself, for myself, to achieve a life of satisfaction where I am respected by those I allow into my life, and they add value worth allowing them into my life in the first place. Think of it this way. Then it's OI. That said, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to know the truth so you can trim the fat asap.
/r/askMRP18/02/18 05:55 PM
1

Interested in your strategy for spinning plates as a married man for selfish reasons. Otherwise it sounds like you've got your head on straight, you don't need anyone here to talk you down. Trust your gut.
/r/askMRP18/02/18 05:37 PM
6

Changed my life. Shit is real.
/r/TheRedPill17/02/18 11:16 AM
6

Yeah, I had a Main Event post too at one point. Starting to think a Main Event is when you, the man, file for divorce. Everything else is just foreplay.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:04 PM
2

It's great to see me again!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/18 04:03 PM
1

True. Or even positing to begin with. An example of how who is saying what and how they are saying it to whom is all that matters. This morning, wife starts bitching about how she's replaceable and blah blah. I said, "shut the fuck up and worry about being the best you can be". She couldn't get enough of me before I left. Why? Because it was light-hearted, cocky, and dismissive in tone and was said to a woman by a man she finds attractive. Duh.
/r/askMRP15/02/18 03:51 PM
1

Nah I just teased her like a little kid but that would work too
/r/TheRedPill15/02/18 12:04 AM
7

That's great man, well done. Excellent FR. Having been in your shoes, anticipate this to be one of many of these instances, but don't worry about it. My wife has thrown like 3-5 "Main Events" at me, progressively more intense, and by the end of it I'm basically like... meh. Last one was after she found out I was messing around with other women. Now she's a peaceful little kitten dancing on thin ice and it's kind of annoying and transparent at this point. Anyway, don't rule out the possibility th…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 09:11 PM
1

Fuck Off
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 08:27 PM
2

Literally had a chick say to me, "you're passing all my tests". Looked at her like she was retarded and had some fun with it but really I just wanna play the game too. -xcomment
/r/MarriedRedPill14/02/18 07:41 PM
1

Literally had a chick say to me, "you're passing all my tests". Looked at her like she was retarded and had some fun with it but really I just wanna play the game too.
/r/TheRedPill14/02/18 07:40 PM
2

This requires having frame in the first place. Say this with weak frame and it's butthurt. Say it with frame and it's diabolical.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 06:40 PM
1

"Oh yeah, I guess I did stop asking you. Maybe. If you play your cards right." Doesn't have to be some genius retort.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 06:26 PM
3

It's Valentine's Day? Bro... Bro. This plate should only be adding things to your life. You have enough going on. She should be an escape. A fun, feminine energy in a time of disorder in your life. Not just additional baggage and drama.
/r/askMRP14/02/18 10:02 AM
6

My wife found out I had messed around with other women. Never apologized. Thank God for WISNIFG, it changed my life. "You're right, it's probably over, trust has been broken, right?" "I don't want to be in a relationship where my wife is trying to get me to make up to her the rest of my life.". "I can understand why you'd feel that way." "Okay." "You have to make a decision to stay or leave. I don't expect you to just get over it immediately, but I expect you to act as a woman who wants to save …
/r/askMRP14/02/18 09:57 AM
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By summer time, I will allow some lucky lady (or ladies) to share this new found vibe with me and will reward them by fucking them seven ways till Sunday. And this is where you win. You didn't let the little bit of sexual attention from her change your frame. I thought this was going to end with you putting the list away and finding hope in her change of attitude, but it didn't. That means the pussy has lost its power over you. Well done.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 09:03 PM
1

Appreciate it bro
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 08:26 PM
2

Yeah... and a kicker, the day she found out, my Dad died. I figured the marriage was over and just proceeded on with handling shit for the funeral etc. I let her have her tantrums and be emotional but set boundaries when and where necessary. Did a lot of dumb shit too and got really depressed for a month and a half or so, losing my father and realizing the time I would be losing with my own children as a divorced father was tough but I'm on the other side now. Will see where it goes ;). It's nev…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 08:16 PM
2

Basically told everyone in my family and hers, mutual friends, and destroyed something very dear to me which I had her pay to get repaired. Cried and cried, screamed, tried to make a bunch of demands to access my finances and shit. Whatever. There's more to the story but her lack of grace and tact has caused me problems in my life on enough occasions I have to question whether it's worth keeping her around. There is value there, and nobody is perfect, I get that. Staying because I have kids and …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 08:06 PM
2

Yep. I came close recently after she found out about a few girls I had messed around with. Funny because her reaction to it, I basically said, "the way you are handling this just reminds me of why I stopped giving a shit in the first place". Best of luck to you, sounds like you are doing just fine!
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 07:42 PM
2

When you look at her - you don’t see the girl who wants you now. You expect that. It’s a given. And if All she adds is that - you feel apathy about her. About her needs and wants. About her moods. About tracking her cycle or passing her shit tests. You simply cease to care. This pretty much sums up the irony of men who arrive here attempting to save their marriage and get their wife to be attracted to them again (or for once). This is essentially what I was getting at in OYS a while back. Great …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 07:24 PM
3

Think about what is wrong with you where you would allow yourself to not have sex for two years. That's where you'll find the little nugget you're looking for.
/r/askMRP09/02/18 02:56 AM
6

Haha
/r/askMRP06/02/18 09:43 PM
5

Haha
/r/askMRP06/02/18 09:43 PM
12

Well yeah. Stick up for yourself. Work on yourself and find other women. This one ain't worth the effort. Not married. No kids. No brainer.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:47 PM
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Get out while you can. There is only one dude I see a need for concern over in this story.
/r/askMRP06/02/18 08:36 PM
4

Okay, so you've been working your ass off and no one is noticing. I actually get why that would be frustrating, but it's hard for me to relate because it's like you're showing your movie to 1 critic when there's an entire audience of women available. Think about some ways to satisfy your needs for validation so you can move past it. It won't be pretty and it might cause you moral discomfort but you don't know where it will go. Test the waters and take it a step at a time. Game other women.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 11:39 AM
1

Right there with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 01:18 AM
11

Woah, woah, woah hold up. Couple things straight: It is okay to get angry It is perfectly reasonable to get laid more than 1.25x/week. That is not a good goal. Your first covert contract is with God. You're carrying the hypothetical cross up the hill in the dream of finding Nirvana at the peak of your suffering. Your other covert contract is with MRP itself; the process. If I do x I will get to y with the added clause of and if I don't, I am simply not good enough. Wrong. The contracts were neve…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 09:25 PM
1

I think it was sarcasm but I tried to get the joke from several angles and just couldn't.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 07:01 PM
2

Are you a 2? It's pretty hard to be a 2. I mean, it takes effort to be a 2. Like, a lot of effort. Also, I never said that you can have this with your current wife (or with your ONEitis), just that it's possible for you to find women who do this for you. You're a 2? There's a boatload of 1's waiting for you.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 07:01 PM
2

This belongs in the wiki or at the very least stickied on the main sub (which I think makes it to the wiki anyway). It could be polished to not just answer OP's message but as a broader, "this is why you have to do the work". I'm not in the business of brown nosing mods, there is real value here. I've never seen the question answered with anything of substance.
/r/askMRP05/02/18 06:48 PM
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To seriously answer you, I mean, you are saying that the odds of being able to get a woman so fucking crazy about you she'd do all these things are the same as dropping out of high school and getting into the NHL? That's laughable. Work on yourself man, there are a lot of women who would do this for you. Also, let it be known that I never endorsed marriage; never said "you should get married". It's just something I did a while ago and I did the work to make it work for me. There's a lot of fear …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 06:29 PM
1

You ever heard of PUA's? How about all these writers who build entire careers around discussing sexual strategy? Not everyone learns what they want and gets on with it. Some are permanently fascinated by the discussion. Nothing wrong with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 06:17 PM
1

Cathy Newman?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 06:15 PM
1

Dudes at work will be like, "my whole week depends on this game" and I think Jesus Christ your life sucks but I smile and say, "drink it away!"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 05:52 PM
3

Never understood the emotional torture manboys put themselves through for the accomplishments of other men. In the NFL? You're a man on your mission. Watching NFL? Hamster yourself all day about how it's "improving your flag football strategy" but it's really just simulated, vicarious masculinity. Get a life.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/18 05:50 PM
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I'm married so I guess that means I'm invested in the long term aspect. Bothering to take the time to pursue multiple when I'm getting all I need at home started feeling like a time sink. I know I need to keep options open but I also know I'm capable of cultivating them if necessary. I have done it, I have "cheated" on my wife. She knows this. She's wasn't happy about it but she ultimately decided to stay. When you have a chick at home caring for your children, cleaning your house, cooking you d…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/18 04:12 PM
2

Funny, that same night this girl we had met at another bar beforehand kept coming up to us and went in to get my number right in front of my wife with the excuse of "we should all smoke together" although my wife and I don't smoke weed. Wife kept cool but was like, "you should go home to your boyfriend". Would have been funny as shit if she pushed the girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 03:16 PM
1

No sperming the vag on the rag?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 03:06 PM
1

I wrote a post called The Myth of Shark Week in mid-2017 and never posted it. Should probably do it. I do track my wife's cycle because she isn't on BC and so I use that as BC. Risky but 100% success so far. She was never on BC and I only got her pregnant twice, when it was planned. 13+ years. Don't try this at home unless you DGAF if she gets pregnant. Edit: (or if you have a leaky faucet, knowhaddamean?)
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 03:02 PM
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I do it so I know when I can nut in that pussy with lower risk. Never understood dudes not getting any during "shark week". Hate that term btw. All that week means to me is I get a free pass to nut. Tampon in.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/18 12:50 AM
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Fair enough. Don't disagree you shouldn't be logical in your actions. I'm speaking of instincts in more of a "trust your gut" way and not a biological instinct like crying for milk when you're a baby, but obviously was not clear about that seeing as the literal definition of the word would mean otherwise. I think we are sort of saying the same thing here. If your gut/logic are not in sync, best move is to bail, no matter what that combination looks like.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 04:56 PM
2

Wild story, man. Glad you made it out of there. I wonder if you had killed him, how you would feel about that. You trusted your gut and didn't. Good for you. Your friends are like all the people who watched Lone Survivor and said they'd kill the shepherds. Most people react this way, putting themselves in your shoes but with way more bravado using after-the-fact knowledge; it's easy to have abstracted 20/20 muscles and strategy.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 03:29 PM
2

Having my wife whisked away by this bro never even crossed my mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:28 PM
3

If you are having this conflict in your head in real-time and your gut instinct isn't to just grab the beer immediately, you've already lost and should take the out. There's no "trying to be alpha" when it comes to instinct. If you aren't, your instinct will reflect that. That doesn't mean that leaving is not "alpha" (term is retarded), it means if you go with your instincts you are good, if you go against them and try to put on a facade to impress your wife, you're "beta".
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:24 PM
1

This is essentially where I'm coming from.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:21 PM
3

This is a very fair assessment. Men take risks. I took option 1. Option 2/3 are the same to me because if you back down and don't usher her out you just made yourself a target for the rest of the night and missed the opportunity to show you aren't a pussy. Not saying you are necessarily a pussy if you leave, as long as you are doing it from a place of logic and not fear.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/18 02:07 PM
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Surprised by the broad-sweeping assumptions that: I took my wife out with my bros Just because I said he was big means I am not Him being big means he's jacked 8%bf and high SMV like the fucking Rock or something I didn't have a read on the guy during the confrontation I should always be in fight mode scanning my surroundings. No thanks. We were having fun together. Been there a hundred times never had an issue. If someone jumps me they jump me. Not gonna live like that. I left my wife open to a…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/18 05:58 PM
2

Why be intimidated by wolves or afraid for your sheep?
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/18 05:46 PM
3

Agreed.
/r/askMRP07/11/17 10:45 AM
5

Yeah, we know. We know this isn't about your friend.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 05:22 PM
2

I'll join.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 05:21 PM
1

Dirty old man
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 05:19 PM
5

Press A, B, B, A, A, B, B, A. Then plate her.
/r/askMRP06/11/17 05:18 PM
2

I have this hanging in my house.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 09:49 AM
1

Would depend more whether my needs were being met. I wouldn't like either scenario. Second is probably worse, assuming she's saving her best for the side piece.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/17 09:13 AM
2

I like pressing her and making her continue the lie.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 11:16 PM
1

You would have gotten so hard
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 10:39 PM
2

My girl accidentally lies all time! So glad it's normal because I was really sweating it
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 10:36 PM
1

Women are all about their word bro.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 07:58 PM
1

First song, I had a frog in my throat and was a little pitchy. Tone was okay, but I was hesitant to reach out for the notes and hold them and it was a negative feedback loop. Second song, I killed it. The next three I sang elsewhere, I was on point. The first song, it was a combo of nerves and also it being a really difficult arrangement. I practiced it for hours and hours, but my confidence wasn't there. Learned a lot of valuable lessons.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 05:18 PM
9

She's so busy tho
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 03:54 PM
3

Butthurt
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 03:54 PM
2

Desire.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 03:23 PM
2

Takes stones to speak publically and be interviewed on video, /u/Rian_Stone. I sang in front of 100 people for the first time in 10 years and was nervous. Have sang a few times since then and it was easier every time. You probably shattered some of TBP's fantasies with that.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 03:15 PM
7

Yes. If the replies here are people linking you to shit you should have already read and internalized, you're being a fucking drain. Go make something of yourself OP. Do the work.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 02:11 PM
8

You won't know when she cheats. I can second CAD's sentiment. Was with a married woman in her car, husband texting her and we were laughing. She went on a weekend trip with him 2 days later posting all the lovey dovey photos to her Facebook. Don't worry about her cheating, worry about getting your dick wet on your terms. I almost just accidentally linked you to porno my wife and I made last night.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 02:08 PM
1

I remember reading Pook straight through on an overnight flight. Never went to sleep that night. Felt high.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 02:00 PM
2

Badass. I always enjoyed the adventure when I was a traveling business man.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 10:08 PM
1

Great post man I have nothing to add just wanted to say thanks for a quality piece.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 10:07 PM
3

That's awesome. My wife's thing is constant FOMO, inability to be alone, chronic neediness and dependency. I enabled it for years. Things got really ugly when I stopped.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 09:58 PM
3

nice
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 03:06 PM
2

That was a fantastic read. Thanks. Say you party down one weekend, then a random drug test at work, oops! So two things can happen, Guess What Happens Next: you could tell the truth that the coke was on her ass and how could you not? doesn't make you a bad person; or pretend/admit you're an addict and agree to go to rehab. So it's unanimous? You keep your job at McDonalds and the system gets another data point confirming it is right. I hope the parallel between this and anything written by Solzh…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 12:26 PM
2

Did it just fizzle out after everyone was done getting their feelz out?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 11:35 AM
4

It's really pisses people off when they can't manipulate you you put yourself first. Edited for clarity.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/17 09:35 AM
3

It's going to keep me up all night.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 07:50 PM
6

I always saw GLO as being the red pill torchbearer for the young bucks, teaching them purely how to get laid, and TFA as the purple pill coach for married men, teaching them to become more attractive men and find a balance (Mark Manson and Ian Ironwood come to mind). Neither really speak to me directly but I have pulled some good info from both. Isn't that the whole fucking point? Guys swapping notes and seeing what works for them. I thought it was understood that none of these dudes are the Mes…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/17 12:45 PM
2

That pineapple crush flavor tho...
/r/askMRP02/11/17 11:50 AM
1

It's a trap.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 11:49 AM
1

HOLD UP. This post pisses me off because I see my old self in it. You'll get a lot of tapdancing here around what you can do about this. This is how you fix it: 1. I will have sex in a car. 2. I will sleep with more than one woman in my life. 3. I will party. You might blow up your marriage. I've come close. It was worth it. DBAP.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 11:46 AM
3

In most cases, if you have to ask the question, you haven't put in the work.
/r/askMRP02/11/17 11:35 AM
3

You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, it's a good position to be in. Good luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 11:19 AM
3

You can not shit where you eat dude but talk to the girls you work with. Get used to having conversations with women, it will help with your approach anxiety. Don't speak good English? Even better. For dread, go live a fun life and when you talk with her you can tell her all the shit you've been doing. That's about as good as it will get. All women shit test so learn to recognize it with others, instead of your wife. You gotta get out there and start building abundance. Approach. DNGAF -> Approa…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:13 PM
1

I did not know that. Interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 03:50 PM
2

It's a cautionary tale wrapped in a catchy rhyme within a word association. They aren't mutually exclusive.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 03:42 PM
1

The Polygamous Sex is basically AF:BB strategy for men but it's Mentee:Sex Object(s) or something like an expanded Madonna:Whore complex. Top 3 books I have read on intersexual dynamics, especially coupled with The Manipulated Man. Those two books could be the whole sidebar. Ironic they are written by a woman.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/17 03:34 PM
8

Do the work ----> Good luck. It's a fun ride let me tell you. You have a chance at major transformation, don't fuck it up.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 06:52 PM
5

So you are a socially autistic dude who's wife cringes when he escalates too quickly. That's what I got from this.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 06:40 PM
3

I'm interested in Buddhism. That said, this reads like a DEER on behalf of TRP and your rationalization of why you subscribe to it. Anger has its place. It's an emotion. Let them be angry. You don't have to defend it, explain it, excuse it, or rationalize it. Overcoming it with Buddhism, or whatever method you choose (punching people in the face boxing, lifting weights, whatever), it's nothing to applaud. It's just OYS, which is nothing to applaud.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/17 12:19 PM
3

That's what's complicated?
/r/askMRP19/10/17 06:49 PM
2

My wife keeps complaining about needing comfort but she can't stop sucking my dick.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 05:05 PM
1

Boom
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/17 04:55 PM
1

Told her she fucked up, in more ways than one. Withdrew my attention. Laid out a path for divorce, told her I have an open position for wife, laid out my expectations, fucked her in the back of my car. If I didn't have kids... It would be "bye". I want them to have a nuclear family.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 03:44 PM
1

He left?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 08:24 PM
1

Yes.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 03:25 PM
1

Because the value gets buried. You have to know where to find it.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:39 PM
1

Sounds like it gives you power.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 01:11 PM
1

Flair has one purpose. I say the benefit is in the comments by RP men. It's especially in the value of their comments to unplugging, BP men. Mod how you see fit, it's a question to consider.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 12:32 PM
1

They were. Was good for the new guys to get fedonked with reality.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 12:22 PM
2

This is about improving your life and having the secondary after effect of your relationship...all of them improve. If it were just about sex then go do that. Sex is easy. Women are giving it away these days. There are forums...hell just become a PUA and be done with it. There's a reason why cheating is at the top level of dread. Your relationship is on the way out. But you don't need permission nor advice on how to cheat from here. There is value there. In the guys on their way out. Yet nothing…
/r/askMRP18/10/17 12:17 PM
1

I feel it takes away her power How?
/r/askMRP18/10/17 09:25 AM
1

You misinterpreted what I meant by lessons. Edit: Or you mean locking the thread is moralistic. That's not the motivation for locking the threads though.
/r/askMRP18/10/17 08:52 AM
1

Does it matter?
/r/askMRP18/10/17 08:51 AM
1

If she oversteps those boundaries after you made it 100% clear to her what they are, you end the relationship. I'm in this situation right now. Set a firm boundary last year, 100% clear, and my wife not only overstepped it, she leaped across it in full sprint in desperation.
/r/askMRP17/10/17 08:13 PM
1

Then you're new as fuck
/r/askMRP15/10/17 07:28 PM
1

Triggered.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 06:08 PM
1

Do you mean recall?
/r/askMRP15/10/17 06:07 PM
1

Results are reality.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 06:07 PM
2

You are your own judge.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 05:41 PM
2

"Moral principles aren’t blue pill. Thinking that everyone has the same principles as you, and that most people don’t succumb (or even value) incentive over principle, is." -IllimitableMan I don't get your point. You do you, man. Don't try to set some kind of moral barometer to broadbrush the community with and you'll be less disappointed.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 05:32 PM
4

Then don't do it. Red Pill is amoral. Another low value post by /u/RedPillPurple.
/r/askMRP15/10/17 03:48 PM
7

iamalpham.com
/r/askTRP15/10/17 03:20 PM
1

I do
/r/askTRP13/10/17 11:52 PM
2

Yeah I figured. There's always some truth in a joke. Really it's just about integrating it into the experience during sex. Only talk about it during sex but bring it up frequently while you're fucking her (dirty talk). This helps her associate fun and pleasure with anal. You're just breaking the ice with it and making it part of the experience. Read her and eventually take it a little further and lube your thumb and stick it in her ass while you fuck her doggy style, just teasing her with it. Ma…
/r/askMRP13/10/17 03:14 PM
3

I miss not having to read dumb shit on askMRP.
/r/askMRP12/10/17 10:31 PM
1

I have some pointers if you're serious
/r/askMRP12/10/17 09:45 PM
3

SGM is about when you are having sex. Everything else in the sidebar is pretty much leading up to it.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 06:05 PM
5

How often do you get out of the house? Your dread game might just be weak.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 06:03 PM
1

Craigslist
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:22 PM
3

You, in general, as a human.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:16 PM
1

Low effort.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 04:12 PM
7

I wonder if he squeezed her bags too.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 04:08 PM
4

To add, you are trying to make it about how to handle late night rejection when it's really about you not having solid game. Work on that, and then when you do get rejected, you'll just roll over and go to bed and fuck her in the morning.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 04:05 PM
2

It's not about the beard and if after two years you still don't get that, start over completely. You're at level 0 right now anyways, might as well get productive.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 04:00 PM
3

Shit I'll put music on and have a dance party in my living room. Basically, anything where you are engaged with her. Watching a movie is just not a good way to create sexual tension man. Play a game together or something. Something where you can tease her, kino, escalate, and it happens naturally as part of the experience. I do not watch TV with my wife, ever. But obviously you still need to work on being attractive as well.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 02:04 PM
4

Guessing this is a troll post but if not... You gave her a very safe and comfortable night ordering in, cuddling, watching a movie, giving her mound rubs (the fuck is that?), etc. I mean, you basically set her up to fall asleep.
/r/askMRP11/10/17 01:30 PM
1

Do you have any other book recommendations for this? For power talk? Besides what's in the sidebar.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 11:04 AM
1

Double bind man. Double bind. It got me. I did say, "are you doing anything that should make me want to?". "Will you be faithful?". I am choosing to stay with you, so yes. "How will I know you won't just go fuck some girl?". I guess you won't.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 07:57 PM
2

Crazy dude, I'm in the middle of a comfort test shit storm right now very similar to this. I wrote a whole post yesterday and closed my browser by accident and lost it. I'm moving offices and my wife went sifting through my shit and found divorce papers and is asking me if I'm sleeping with other women, if I have a new apartment or other women in my life, etc. I told her I want to sleep with other women and basically I have been planning on leaving her once the kids go to school. I denied any in…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/17 07:17 PM
3

Haha
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 11:41 PM
3

It wasn't a dig.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 11:09 PM
5

I keep expecting you to burn out. No brakes on this train.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 10:45 PM
3

Can we make a new subreddit called /r/askNEMYMRP for Not Even Married Yet Married Red Pill?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 10:11 PM
2

Glad to get some insight into the convention and looking forward to the video. Cool how you tied in contributions guys have made here. True representation of the community as a whole.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 10:09 PM
3

Great read. One of the things that helped me was preparing for divorce, as part of my MAP. Then it really became all about me. Your wife is not your barometer.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/10/17 07:33 AM
2

You can see this deer from so far away, plenty of time to avoid a head on collision.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 02:08 AM
1

I wish!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 11:09 PM
3

No. You just outted yourself as a true bitch.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 11:06 PM
3

We can't solve your oneitis buddy and no one is going to help you use red pill means for a blue pill end. You see the strings dangling from the puppets, and you still think the play is real. You are already being betaized by this broad. Evident in your post. You're not even married dude. IDNGAF that you and her have long chats about marriage in X years when A, B, and C happen. Get outta here with this shit. Now, go ahead and write me a 500 word DEER.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 10:45 PM
3

Let me Google that for you. Shit tests come in many forms. Seems like you just need to keep reading.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 06:38 PM
6

It's not ideal, but you can still get ripped doing bodyweight workouts. Work with what you've been given, that's what men do.
/r/askMRP07/10/17 06:33 PM
7

I would have been one of them if I had found the place when I was engaged. It's weakness. "Their" woman is their barrier to rejection, their prized possession, their ego.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:47 PM
20

If you made your way here as an engaged man, that is the biggest red flag of them all.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:42 PM
3

This post sucks balls.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:17 PM
8

Yes.
/r/askMRP06/10/17 05:16 PM
3

How the fuck did you eat eggs and get dressed at the same time? Good FR.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 04:39 PM
1

Needed to be said
/r/askMRP06/10/17 03:21 PM
3

I think this is PI worthy.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 08:45 AM
5

Actually she’s the big breadwinner. I am a freelance illustrator and raised our kids, take care of all the other shit. She makes most of the money and I operate it all stay at home Dad. FTFY. You've hamstered up your importance in her life. She doesn't need you lol she's using you. You're her free live-in Nanny.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/17 08:43 AM
1

We aren't lions. She's not yours, it's just your turn.
/r/askMRP04/10/17 09:57 AM
5

Good luck.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 10:05 PM
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If she'll do it in front of you it's much worse when you aren't there. You want to hear that it's you, that you can fix it. If you're in good shape and owning your shit, leading your marriage, and she doesn't want to follow, you have to make a decision. Only you know if you're lying to us. She's gaslighting you, making you think you're the crazy one. I would get your divorce papers in order and prepare a real exit. You admit that you fell for the 'open communications will solve everything' falla…
/r/askMRP03/10/17 09:51 PM
4

How many of your colleagues can you deadlift into bed with your wife?
/r/askMRP01/10/17 11:25 PM
0

A man wouldn't be on the internet asking if he should fuck his wife or not you massive faggot.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 10:16 PM
0

This question comes up way too often here. FUCK YOUR WIFE.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 09:47 PM
1

I think she's the male one feeling inferior for her weak lower back strength and fake penis, jealous of the biological men she works with and their ability to arouse her girlfriend.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 11:03 AM
2

This made me laugh so I kept reading it.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 10:23 AM
3

Was great reading this again. Now that I am in these shoes, it makes a lot more sense and was a refreshing slap of reality. If I'm being honest with myself, I am seeing my lifting suffering, losing time with my kids, at risk of becoming the drunk captain not around enough to lead my family, and I have met so many flakey, shitty women. At the same time, I love the process of connecting with a new woman, flirting, and escalating and would not have chosen monogamy for myself if I knew what I know n…
/r/askMRP01/10/17 09:44 AM
3

This reply is why I don't give a shit about most, if not all, of the new guys here. Reminds me of that floppy lobster guy who rage quit after we gave him shit for abusing his dog.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 09:07 AM
1

All that is in your control is #1 so don't worry about the other shit. It will turn your marriage around or it won't. Focus on yourself.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 11:00 AM
3

When your wife needs your help with a few things legitimately and you think it's appropriate, absolutely no problem doing something. If she's just compliance testing you with shit she had plenty of time to do, fuck that.
/r/askMRP30/09/17 10:56 AM
2

Good news for you is that this will probably come really easy for you. Seems like you are holding yourself accountable, you're fit,, and have your shit together. Read your heart out but most importantly apply what you read in real life to you, your wife and other women.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 06:40 PM
1

I miss /u/ButtslamAntifas
/r/askMRP29/09/17 06:34 PM
3

You're gone from 7am to 11pm all week, travel every couple weeks, spend a day or two in between traveling, and you're worried about spending too much time with your kids on the weekends? I don't get it.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 07:03 PM
1

Meh. Guess I was right.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 06:36 PM
1

Hmm my wife used to bitch and moan at me about my beard, refuse sex. In the middle of sex one time I went and shaved my beard LOL. So gay. I had a huge beard last year and fucked her whenever I wanted. It's not the beard. Still, if she has a preference, she has a preference; that's not up to you. Using sex to get her way? Now that's a problem.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:37 AM
10

I think men are equally to blame for becoming soft, emotional creatures. It's easy to cheat on a loser.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:27 AM
2

This is simple just tell her next time what your expectations are and also let her know you will inform her of what you're doing ahead of time. Accept your fault and correct her behavior. Win, win.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:21 AM
1

Most men are bitches, that's why. Was with this guy's wife the other day and he was sending her these cute little texts all worried about her and we were laughing at him. She told me she loved me. I mean, Jesus Christ. We just met.
/r/askMRP26/09/17 10:17 AM
1

I like this breakdown. I always talk to (almost) everyone in the bar and I promise you I am not trying to fuck your wife right under your nose, I just enjoy being social. You never know, wife's hot friend might show up later. It's about abundance and desperately trying to work your way into a group because you think a guy's wife is hot is like next level scarcity because, as you say, success rate is really fucking low. Probably a hottie and her friend sitting at the bar without a man anyways.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 10:11 AM
6

I probably would have done the same thing up to the point of inviting them to sit with us. I would have engaged in conversation, been jovial, etc. and then just left the awkward silence for them to leave. Like, "cool well you guys enjoy your night maybe we'll do a shot later! Have fun meeting everybody." Shake their hand again and -silence-. Universal polite GTFO.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 10:04 AM
3

There's such low effort from guys in here trying to learn. They don't even help themselves. I struggle to make an effort at all to help them. Occasionally, I'll try to break it down for someone, but usually it's a waste of time, they just make excuses or get butthurt, delete their post or account, and it's all for shit. All the information you really need is in the sidebar. MRP is kind of becoming just a bunch of punk questions and guys 3-12 months in telling them to Read, Lift, STFU, and OYS. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/17 09:59 AM
1

Well since that's the only pussy you can get you better stay in.
/r/askMRP25/09/17 03:23 AM
1

Nah man I didn't leave. I have caught her in several lies. Women lie all the time to preserve their emotions because emotional harmony is more important than facts, read Practical Female Psychology. Feelz over realz. No, all my shit is not golden. I fail to see how you posting your failure on an anonymous internet forum makes you ballsy LOL. Way to break frame and get butthurt haha. Your wife must destroy you.
/r/askMRP25/09/17 03:17 AM
1

Same here difference is you're being a punk a year later
/r/askMRP24/09/17 09:31 PM
1

Shut the fuck up
/r/askMRP24/09/17 08:49 PM
2

Caught mine too. Move on.
/r/askMRP24/09/17 08:43 PM
1

Yeah well you've had a year so figure it out
/r/askMRP24/09/17 06:30 PM
0

Okay so you're in good shape. For some reason you are highly suspicious of your wife. No kids right? Why not move on? Maybe your gut is right. You are acting kind of spastic, even with the multiple responses to my reply. Is it possible that this woman actually has been gaslighting you for quite some time and you are losing it? That she has completely destroyed your frame? You need to take yourself back man. Or is it you? Are you unstable? Be honest with yourself because this isn't behavior of so…
/r/askMRP24/09/17 08:51 AM
3

Omg are you fucking his wife?! She's bi?!?!?!
/r/askMRP23/09/17 11:47 AM
7

You are needy. I don't see any evidence here of your wife wanting you to kill the puppy. I see a man emotionally torturing himself and taking it out on his wife. I see an insecure person who is operating in fear. You are outcome dependent, have no abundance, act unattractively, your idea of dread is going to the strip club, and you come here asking us what to do about her? Nothing. Do nothing about her. You should be happy your wife is even letting you fuck her 2-3x a week bro. A lot of guys her…
/r/askMRP23/09/17 09:52 AM
2

Careful not to immediately return to the old treatments after some sex. Get used to treating her this way. It creates tension. It's necessary. It's not cruel.
/r/askMRP22/09/17 09:56 PM
1

acted as if I DNGAF There's your problem
/r/askMRP22/09/17 12:37 PM
1

I deleted all my shit mang moving on. Left MMG since Wiki.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 10:35 PM
4

Why did you offer to leave? I'd have to be escorted by the state. "I am not leaving my house or my family. If you would like to leave, there is the door."
/r/askMRP21/09/17 02:58 PM
1

Yeah it's crazy and it's fun so who gives a shit I'll take a girly, flirty 5 over a RBF 7 all fucking day.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:52 PM
2

Who gives a shit what your wife would think?
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:47 PM
1

I have two requirements: cute and submissive.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 01:40 PM
1

TextNow. For $2.99/mo you get premium subscription with no ads and it locks in your number. It's great for Craigslist deals, networking, etc. You can do all your communication through it if you really want, only giving your real number to close friends and family.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 12:36 PM
2

My favorite with clothes is "they all look the same on the floor in the dark".
/r/askMRP21/09/17 10:11 AM
1

101 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married
/r/askMRP21/09/17 10:02 AM
5

It falls under the "it's only awkward if you're awkward" category IMO. I drop RP truths in conversation. Women do too like this chick the other day said to me, "you are so good at shutting me down". I didn't say, "well, what you are referring to is called a shit test and bla bla bla" like some kind of fucking autist. I said, "yeah caus you're full of shit".
/r/askMRP21/09/17 09:56 AM
1

My wife isn't allowed on my phone. Fingerprint and Norton app locking enabled. No questions asked. Edit: Her phone is unlocked. I use a burner app for other girls so they don't get my real number.
/r/askMRP21/09/17 09:18 AM
2

For me, man, this kind of stuff... This is the kind of stuff you worry about when you aren't the prize. I've been there ok? Commit yourself fully to the red pill and trust the process. It's ugly. You are in anger phase, hyper-focused on the marriage. The marriage is irrelevant. Your wife ain't special. Redirect your attention inwardly and you will flip the script. To answer your question: Read. Lift. STFU.
/r/askMRP20/09/17 10:53 AM
3

God man... I'm no fucking Angel and I do a lot of shit people would say is horrible and I just can't imagine this. This is the perfect example of why it's different when men have extramarital sex and when women do. With women it's fucking personal. I'm happy for you to be moving on. Good luck to you in your new life.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 11:42 PM
1

Let it go bro. Get one of her friends to move in or something, stay with a friend and pay your rent while you work it out or whatever who cares. Then LTR your side chick so she can rip your heart out and you can finally be free of both of them.
/r/askMRP19/09/17 11:41 AM
1

I'm very happy for you!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 06:00 PM
1

What do you want? Some hamster food? What do you really want? Think about it and reply when you know.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 02:54 PM
1

Oh fuck now I get it. Shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 02:37 PM
1

I had a hard time following his hamster about her hamster and Chad's hamster, too.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 02:23 PM
2

It's so easy after you do the work so stop worrying about her because the only reason you are worried is you don't have abundance. Do you think I wonder about my wife eyeing another guy or chasing some dude? No. Fuck no lol. She should be worried about you. You've got it backwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 02:22 PM
3

You can never STFU too quickly. Answer is STFU for you, because she's going to fucking pop you in a millisecond if you engage in dialogue. Comfort her with your presence. Look into her eyes, smile, put your hands on her shoulders, pull her close and hold her. Put your hand on the back of her neck while you are hugging her, pull her head away from you, and kiss her. Hold the kiss. This is their language.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 09:40 AM
23

For you, the answer is no.
/r/askMRP18/09/17 09:25 AM
6

Well played
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 09:22 AM
11

Just worry about being Chad and all your problems melt.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/17 02:15 AM
1

If she's the prize, no
/r/MarriedRedPill17/09/17 10:53 PM
4

Have to add, Anthem is a fantastic novella on individuality.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/17 11:59 AM
1

True
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 05:36 PM
2

I might have to incorporate that in there.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 05:16 PM
21

So much truth here. This is what frame is all about. You can exist as yourself, being sure, knowing you have unlimited options and potential. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/17 03:36 PM
1

Hehe
/r/askMRP15/09/17 02:52 AM
3

Cool. I don't really consider this notes on how to spin plates but rather notes on how to become a man with options.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 10:14 PM
3

Oh my God what is happening here I literally have nothing to do for the next 20 minutes and I just can't even push myself through this heaping pile of hot garbage.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 10:06 PM
1

If you're waffling about so much you have to write a dissertation and prompt an internet community of complete strangers with no legitimate credibility the answer is FUCK NO.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 09:57 PM
0

This is always the key.
/r/askMRP14/09/17 09:19 PM
1

I just enjoy the process, it's that simple for me right now. Maybe I will discover what you are saying. Some kind of connection I do not get with my wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 11:01 AM
6

If by "concentrated on the marriage" you mean "am sexually exclusive with my wife" then I get where you're coming from.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 10:58 AM
4

I loved the Blue Pill breakdown. I've probably met some of these (types of) people in real life and have their numbers in my phone.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 12:11 AM
2

Maybe one who knows I'm not exclusive I guess.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 09:53 PM
0

Solid advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 08:12 PM
1

haha, maybe when I get signed
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 07:55 PM
2

Ha, no but seriously more like a bunch of new guys blow up their marriages on a Rambo rampage imitating and moving too fast. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 07:55 PM
1

Sure, thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 07:37 PM
2

It's not really about planning necessarily. I mean, a wife or LTR will always be more complicated than some random chick who just wants your dick. I have absolutely no plans of looking for a new LTR or wife. Even if I divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 07:37 PM
5

People would rather hang with the biggest scumbag who makes them feel good and has fun than the nicest dweeb any day. It's just reality.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 05:46 PM
4

The last part, that's the part I'm going to find out. Does it cement my decision to leave when the kids go to school and she goes back to work. My wife is a slut for me. I don't have any issues there.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 05:45 PM
3

I get you. Sometimes I don't either. I'll take it off when I'm deadlifting or something and just leave it off. I still act the same all the time. I prefer wearing it when I game women. Nothing to hide. Nothing to have to "work into conversation" otherwise and no risk of the woman feeling like you were trying to trick her and subsequently wanting to get you back for it. When I go for the N or the K they ask. They're observant. Like I said, it comes with a lot of rejection. No biggie.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 05:43 PM
6

This is what I love about this place.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:26 PM
0

I think it's fine, be as involved as you like. I remember reading about it. She's the chick you're fucking at work right? I don't see an issue with connecting on an emotional level with people at all, especially people you have regular sex with.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:10 PM
1

I think the difference is you entered marriage knowing this about yourself, and it is what you wanted. You have spoken before that you like the dual strategy, and even promote it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:06 PM
7

Yeah. It's ironic that many of us end up here trying to rectify our marriage to a particular woman, usually due to lack of sex, and end up discovering that the solution to the problem had nothing to do with our marriage or the particular woman at all. We do nothing to rectify our marriage, and it becomes rectified, and then we don't care so much about it anyway. The problem we came here to fix, it stops being a problem. Then you look at yourself and think... huh, well this is interesting. I got …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 04:02 PM
7

Your problem is way bigger than this but the answer is text her "fine but it's not going to stop me from doing it" and send her a picture of something that's dirty, like a dog covered in mud or something. Make her laugh, keep it light, and don't be needy. The answer to why she said "never" is read, lift, STFU.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 03:40 PM
2

If that's working for you, your needs are met, and you are satisfied, then those are perfectly acceptable concerns and resolution.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:06 PM
1

Glad you took something from it.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:04 PM
5

Just laughed my ass off at this: obviously I'll stop if there's a hard no...not tryin to rape my wife. This is understood, hahahah. I don't get it though, sounds like a total shit show for sure. You went home, your son cried his eyes out, and you tucked him in. Your son is a teenager I am guessing. I don't know, but honestly man, I don't know if you remember what it was like being a kid that well. We tend to idealize youth but it's a very confusing time in life. You're in school all day, you're …
/r/askMRP13/09/17 08:52 AM
11

lol this is terrible advice
/r/askMRP13/09/17 08:24 AM
2

Would help to know how you found out. There is very little detail here about your relationship. All I know is you're a novice lifter and your wife forgets your birthday. With that, I will say your strategy is to continue getting in shape. Your strategy is Dread. For now, focus on the 12 Levels of Dread. You would be wise to improve yourself through these steps before you decide what to do about this situation. It will become less significant to you because you will be prepared to handle it. Swal…
/r/askMRP13/09/17 08:22 AM
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It's easy to lose sight of this, specifically in the beginning when you're angry. The opposite of being a nice guy is not being a mean-spirited jerk. The opposite is being a man who knows what he likes and wants, and gives freely to that purpose without any strings attached; no expectations. As long as you are incentivizing because you genuinely like the behavior and want to encourage it, without covert contracts, then by all means, absolutely!
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 08:16 AM
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That's a good way to look at it. I wish I would have kept a lot of the stuff I wrote and never posted.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 08:00 AM
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Yep. Good. All I'm saying is when your daughter loses her shit, wife might have a hard time. Speaking from experience. Mine was on board too.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 10:59 PM
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Great book. I read it after (I think you?) recommend it to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:44 PM
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Dude that is absolutely the best way to learn about cars and exactly what I have done. With the internet, you can fix your cars, renovate your house, shit you could probably repair a fucking broken arm with no prior experience. Never underestimate your intelligence. Good work facing a challenge, taking leadership, and getting the job done.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 04:44 PM
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Fuck the instructor or GTFO of here with that shit. Did you seriously tell your wife a girl looked at you? WOOF.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 03:35 PM
1

This makes infinitely more sense. Great work man.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 03:20 PM
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I agree but I really DGAF about it anymore. The 12 levels are just a means to an end for me and her reaction is completely irrelevant. I see them more as the 12 Steps to Being a Valuable Man. I'm DL11 with low comfort levels. It's interesting territory.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 02:19 PM
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Benching 275 at 140 and 23% bf for 5x5 is unbelievably good.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:47 PM
1

I think your end goal sucks and you should rethink it. It's negative and it's about someone other than yourself who you have no control over.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:47 PM
2

Sex is not good and you're having it at least once a day on average? Huh?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:43 PM
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I think you are right to practice mindfulness because you clearly know what needs to happen and you're just getting in your head about it and not making it happen so the sooner you stop faggoting about up in that head of yours the better.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:40 PM
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Getting the kid out of bed. Been there. You gotta detach. She's going to pull out every manipulative play in her book. And your wife likely does not have the frame to handle it. You are going to be breaking your wife of it just as much as your daughter. Make your decision. Be the leader. Don't let up. Manage their emotions. Stay firm. Prepare for a few nights of low sleep, chaos, and your wife and daughter being very upset.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 01:38 PM
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Yes I would definitely have to say naivety and lack of personal growth and life experiences greatly contributed to my decision. Before finding TRP, I remember actually saying to my wife (and I know this is spergy as fuck): I feel like if I were to start dating someone now, they'd be getting donedreadpirate 2.0, but you, you've been with me so long, you know everything about me and still see me as the boy you met.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:36 PM
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Kind of in this weird place where I think DNGAF is getting too extreme but it's almost impossible for me to change it because of the nature of DNGAF. You look back on things you used to worry about or focus on and feel absolutely no emotion towards them. I read my old posts, like about my wife shit talking me or her having a higher N count at the time and I see how stupid it was. I posted here because she was mad at me that I sold a gift I got her that she never used. I mean, wtf. I realize now …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 12:06 PM
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The fuck dude? You pulled all that from that one line? Bullshit. Get to work.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 10:06 AM
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Don't sacrifice the integrity of your mission for women. Nice.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 10:04 AM
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Blowjobs are overrated. Anal is overrated. PIV is where it's at. Far superior. Also your question is retarded, sperg.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 09:58 AM
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I'll bite. My kids are very young. I do enjoy quality time with them. Just got back from a very nice vacation to the beach. We rough house, go to the pool, and do other fun things together all the time. I get babysitters and take my wife out often. My family has a very nice life. You are right, my wife spends a lot more time with them than I do. She's a SAHM. Agree it fucks with the lifting when I have busy weeks but I'm not usually going on 3 dates in a week. My hobby as a musician is that I'm …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/17 09:40 AM
1

It's usually not bad but if it gets in the wrong place you'll get a nice raw spot on your dick. Happened to me yesterday.
/r/askMRP12/09/17 12:13 AM
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The one where you fuck her raw with her tampon still in. That's the most effective usually.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 10:56 PM
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I guess it's validation, but for me, I'm going for F closes ultimately so I don't see it that way. I'm not just getting numbers and throwing them in the trash can for a little thrill. If you're never going for the numbers, you likely don't have the balls for the kiss, and you're definitely not fucking. It's all part of the same process. I prefer organic as well but it's an option so fuck it. I'm figuring it out as I go. Hopefully there is some value add here. When you're married and you want to …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 07:28 PM
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50/50 was not meant in terms of closing if you mean K or F closing. Number closing, yeah, very close. F closing, fuck no. I don't think most single guys are F closing 50%. But somewhere around half of them will be like, "wtf dude?!" and the other half will either: 1. Be open to me still but politely tell me no (no number, and yeah I hand them my phone with New Contact open in which case I smile and shake their hand). 2. Open to me still, give me their number, and say we should talk (plausible de…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 06:22 PM
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I'm in tech and make a lot more than that but he picked that number for a reason. I hope...
/r/askMRP11/09/17 03:30 PM
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$70K isn't a lot of money? According to whom? Her? She makes more I gather? Who gives a shit. If you feel like you are worth $70K at this time, and you have lined up interviews at that rate, then you are perfectly aligned with your vision and mission and should give absolutely zero fucks about her opinion. Are you vying for beta bux status with her? All she would care about is whether your dick was filling her pussy with thunderous frequency, if she were attracted to you.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 02:49 PM
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Haha yeah that's the truth. I have said and done some pretty fucking stupid shit with women I'll never see again. And who cares? My wife on the other hand has been witness to the worst things and she still stays with me. That's why we say give her a chance to catch up. That it's harder to game a woman who knows you like that, than some young girl you've never met. It's true. If you can game your wife successfully, you will do so with ease in the field. But like you say, practicing in the field a…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 02:34 PM
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You should hear about the time the nurse cupped his balls. Wife gave him 8 blowjobs in a row that night. Crazy dread. Takes major confidence to just stand there chatting up a nurse while she cups your balls. Way harder than meeting women out in the wild.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 12:12 PM
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LTR =/= sexual exclusivity
/r/askMRP11/09/17 09:57 AM
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I think it's hilarious that you think those two points are your problem. This is cringeworthy up and down. The mate guarding, the "CC" catchphrase, the book carrying, the solid HB8 with AMAZING TITS bit, the bitchy fight, and then you backing down immediately and walking with her anyway. Yikes. If I were her, I'd be dressing up to attract a real man as well.
/r/askMRP11/09/17 09:45 AM
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Great timing for me. I didn't have angry sex yesterday but my wife just got back from a trip to her parents' house. It's a very stressful environment. Lots of yelling, dad is alcoholic. I refuse to go anymore because of some accusations he threw on me, in my post history, and I decided to cut people out of my life who don't add value. Anyways, she got home and was really drained. Like she had seen a ghost. So, I teased her like that a good bit. Started escalating. I got our kids busy doing somet…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 09:36 AM
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Very nice, thanks. I don't get this sentence though: You need to do this outside of your house where you might feel the stakes are too high and don't have as many opportunities for game. What do you mean? You should put yourself in a situation with high stakes or you shouldn't? If not, are you saying staying in and reading this material is just a good way to get started before you do?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 09:16 AM
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Always be escalating, get her worked up, make texting light and sexual, and ask. The nudes themselves are overrated. It's the submission I like. It's just so much more worth your time to be escalating in person where the real vagina is and be doing other shit when you aren't around her. Nudes are a fun way to keep the tension going during the day, though, if done right. I made a post of a successful text for nudes FR if you want to look at my history for an example. Also, you best be getting lai…
/r/askMRP11/09/17 09:13 AM
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Hells yeah.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/17 02:10 AM
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Up to you. You take what you want to from anywhere you want to. Never worked on my wife, not sure where you pulled that. Maybe you meant life.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 06:12 PM
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LOL
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 03:26 PM
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It can get a little autistic in here from time to time, multiple times a day, no doubt.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 02:51 PM
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Right, every rejection is a step. Every close is a leap. Every day is a game. I oscillate as well. Will go hardcore on weightlifting, diet, sleep, projects, whatever, then I'll spend a week partying and whatnot. The actual F close doesn't matter to me. Maybe since I'm getting all the sex I could want already. It's more about the can you than the did you. One thing is for sure; you have to try.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/17 02:50 PM
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As long as he buys it if he wants it and doesn't buy it if he doesn't want it, it's all good.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 01:04 PM
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I have paragraphs of opinions on this.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 11:24 AM
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It's amazing how you will not give a shit about this stuff soon enough. I was making out with this 22 year old bartender last night it's like fucking hilarious when you think about it. Scarcity mentality ruins you. Work on abundance. Fuck your wife. You know, metaphorically, but also just fuck her. Basically what I'm saying is all in the sidebar. It will be hard for her to deny you when she knows you could just go make out with the bartender at your local restaurant haha.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 11:11 AM
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Just buy yourself one and take the kids in the trailer if that's what you want. Girls do dumb shit like this.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 11:03 AM
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Pick a program dude they're everywhere diet included
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:57 PM
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It's kind of bad timing for you to run dread but you must be fucking since she's pregnant. Just read, lift weights, and be a happy go lucky and supportive husband for now. When baby is born you will both be busy. Take charge. I would focus purely on lifting and OYS in career and at home. This gives you about a year and a half to get in really good shape and do a lot of studying. Then, decide where you're at and how you want to approach the relationship.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 12:21 PM
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I hate your attitude. Massive faggot. Guys, this is what life looks like when you are a drifter taking no ownership for the outcomes. David Wagner calls it The Black Road. AKA Blue Pill. Don't be this guy. This post is the antithesis of OYS. So, OP, now that you have admitted your problems, what's your MAP? Wait, almost forgot you don't know what that is. Read. Lift. STFU. Get to work, fairy.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 12:00 PM
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Why the fuck would you do that dude, if you were single and wanted to take some time off from dating to focus on yourself then maybe but you're married. ABE. Always. You're reading too much.
/r/askMRP09/09/17 11:32 AM
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And we're all sad they were killed, superficially
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 01:48 AM
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Meaningful... Hmm. That's a concept. The people who loved you in your box. The people who loved you when your needs were not met and abandoned you when they were. That's up to you. As far as God, that ship sailed long ago for me. Follow your heart.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 12:17 AM
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Man, thanks for sharing. You, me, /u/GargantuaBlarg29, and /u/drty_pr all kind of started around the same time so I enjoy watching the progress alongside me. I think God is being used as a toxic shaming mechanism against you. You did nothing wrong man. You put yourself first. That's never wrong. I would hate to see you go forward feeling you wronged everyone. Fuck everyone. You stopped wronging yourself for once and it felt damned good. Good for you. That said, this is your life and your choice.…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 09:40 PM
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Awesome thanks bro
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 04:47 PM
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First of all thank you for the extremely detailed response. That's my problem is finding the second one and it's ~ $300 just to talk to you guys. Any specific questions I should ask on the phone with the admin that could help? I have a guy who was honest but basically seemed like he was going to roll over and settle instead of fighting. Bad impression.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 04:30 PM
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Exactly. Speaking her language.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 02:37 PM
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One of the best ways to reinforce behavior and set boundaries with your wife is to use other people as examples in the form of gossip. Well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 02:21 PM
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AM is good for this so well done there. Women are masters of rationalizing so why would you directly call out something she's using her feels to justify when you could just fuck with the hamster instead and get 100x the return. Which is what you did, inadvertently. You showed her you're worth fucking so she fucked you. Or she just took a fucking massive dump that morning.
/r/askMRP08/09/17 09:24 AM
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This reminds me a lot of a book I just read called Healing Back Pain by Dr. John Sarno. The idea is basically that your brain creates pain to distract you from the underlying emotions it is attempting to suppress, most often anger. In your post, the anger is the distraction. Interesting.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 09:10 AM
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Always be escalatin'
/r/askMRP08/09/17 09:05 AM
3

Would be great to hear your opinion on finding and vetting RP lawyers.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/17 08:47 AM
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I don't understand this the mentality I see here sometimes where it's like "I own my shit! My wife doesn't have to do shit! She just vaginas!". Like that's the goal. If you do everything she adds no value and all she contributes is pussy, I see absolutely no value in having a wife. I don't 50/50. Similar situation to yours. My wife has no access to finances and just made some cash which she wants to give to me directly. Plan on spending it on something she would benefit from. I ain't worried abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 11:40 PM
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I'm a great guy
/r/askMRP07/09/17 11:06 PM
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My internal dialogue on a regular basis is just like... Am I doing what I want to be doing right now or is what I don't want to be doing right now worth it to me for some other but specific reason?
/r/askMRP07/09/17 07:38 PM
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Awesome. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 05:14 PM
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Looking forward to listening. I always love a breakdown. So where are you at, with influencing your wife and bringing her into your new frame?
/r/MarriedRedPill07/09/17 02:48 PM
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If you have a 60% success rate and only get laid twice a week you are not initiating nearly enough. Maybe you're cool with 2x a week though. If you aren't into the sex you just stop.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 12:50 PM
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Depends how she comes at you man. You could pressure flip Have better conversations with your friends in my presence, lady. It was kind of silly of her to be talking about her boobs with us, don't you think? This could be total overkill. So AM: She needed a confidence boost and I'm the kind of guy who lifts people's boobs up.. Or AA: Oh my God you're right, we should totally start talking about cocks with my friends! Hold on I'm texting them all right now.. Or smile, STFU, raise an eyebrow, star…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:33 AM
2

Haha. "Yeah I think these smoothies are making us gain weight anyway." I'm not even drinking them...
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:17 AM
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The fuck? What's with you and smoothies? I admit, wasting food every single day would piss me off a little. Are you trying to start a smoothie thing and she's just not into it? She prob grabs 3 Egg McMuffins every morning on her way to work.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:14 AM
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Just go out. You're overthinking it. You want to go? Go.
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:05 AM
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Good job keeping cool. It's not necessarily bad to call her out. Don't be so dogmatic that you stop being human. Just wait a while and keep being the happy go lucky guy you are and don't be butthurt about it. As far as she knows, you've known for months. Hamster will go into overdrive when she learns that you have known for a long time. Why didn't he get mad? Does he not want me anymore? How long has he known? What's he doing? Is he texting other girls? You gotta be attractive to her for this to…
/r/askMRP07/09/17 10:01 AM
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It's on my list, good?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 07:25 PM
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This post kind of covers it
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 06:28 PM
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Funny, I am a singer and the lyrics/poems are my favorite part. I think that for the right combination of man and woman, and Iron Frame, DL11 could probably last forever. I don't know when or if it will ever be necessary to talk about it. I don't think she'd leave me but we'll see. I do not have a certain destination in mind where I can say: If I had that! Then, I'd have everything!. I think one woman for eternity just ain't my thing. And yeah, months not years.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 04:13 PM
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I'm at a point where I have turned my marriage around. I can basically grab my wife whenever and fuck her. In between writing this I literally was fucking her doggy style while she flipped breakfast sausages on the stove. It was hot. She does everything I ask. We just got back from a great vacation. Spent the weekend together in the mountains, then picked up the kids and went to the beach. It was epic level vacation. I'm talking hiking a mountain, walking with wildlife, stargazing, road trips, s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/17 01:20 PM
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She cheated, you are spinning plates already, why root through the garbage? Especially when she already told you it's over.
/r/askMRP05/09/17 05:04 PM
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The wasted time
/r/askMRP04/09/17 03:34 PM
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If you're serious, I'll add it to my list.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 09:12 PM
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Yeah, I guess it is. If it were called How to Trick Fools and Manipulate People it probably would not have sold so many copies. The intent is up to you.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 08:44 PM
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I think you are confusing communication with frame but maybe not. I don't see how any of it changes your frame. Maybe it changes the perception of your frame to others.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 04:53 PM
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Are you really in their frame or are you getting what you want by making them think it's what they want, that you are on their team?
/r/askMRP03/09/17 02:18 PM
1

You are sitting around feeling sorry for yourself instead of just fucking the dumb chick you like and getting on with your life. Make a decision.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 10:48 PM
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Let the lawyers handle it bud. Refocus on yourself and getting to a place where this doesn't happen again. Could be the greatest turning point of your life if you do.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 08:27 PM
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Now read NMMNG because you are one. I'd put money on you not getting your needs met because you're too nice to make them priority. Good luck, fairy.
/r/askMRP02/09/17 08:13 PM
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Yes. But also this is what being completely unhappy and taking no action on it because you are afraid feels like. You have imposed many restrictions on yourself there guy. Why are you so afraid to lose that which you loathe? Here's life. Take what you want from it unapologetically. Capisce?
/r/askMRP02/09/17 08:54 AM
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Anger? Lift weights and read with a fervor unimaginable. Also don't qualify your questions with the type of answers you want, faggot. You have a chance to go through one of the most transformative experiences of your life right now. Don't fuck it up.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:38 AM
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It's been covered by the other comments but I'll echo their responses and add that you don't want to lead as dictator of parenting. Your wife will many times have the correct instinct and other times will not. She's human after all. But you should support each other as parents and deal with disagreements in your own time. Kids are watching. And kids are manipulative as fuck. Also, there will be times where you are wrong. Be open to her influence, but know where you stand.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:34 AM
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Sometimes my wife even has better ideas than me. No need for autocracy when you have a good FO.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:31 AM
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They'll do it right in front of you too. My son will tell my wife I said he could do something I didn't say he could do, right in front of both of us. He's 3; it's crazy how early they learn to do this. Trust but verify.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:28 AM
1

Wait so she's not fucking you, you make over a quarter million dollars a year, and she's leaving for 3 years? And you aren't sure what to do here?
/r/askMRP31/08/17 11:22 AM
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Wild, bogey. Best of luck to you, your family, friends, colleagues, and community.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/08/17 11:16 AM
1

Did you mean to post this here? Answer is in the sidebar. And you probably want TRP not MRP.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 11:54 PM
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If you're happy, keep doing it, and if it blows up, deal with it. Not that hard bro. Doesn't sound like you are prepared for that, though. So prepare yourself.
/r/askMRP29/08/17 10:35 PM
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No doubt. Then figuring out how decisions made in the past fit in.
/r/askMRP27/08/17 04:44 PM
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Truth. Mine was repressing innate desires in the name of "doing the right thing". Mine was a failure to take what I want from life out of fear. Had nothing to do with my wife, turns out. I'm not only talking about sex, either. My anger was from trying to play the role of a character I didn't believe in.
/r/askMRP27/08/17 12:25 PM
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From one man who had accepted permanent chronic back pain to another, take a chance and read Healing Back Pain by Dr. John Sarno.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/17 11:05 AM
1

Delete it. I have two. Delete it twice.
/r/askMRP25/08/17 12:52 AM
2

Your girl is gonna be sucking so much cock.
/r/askMRP24/08/17 10:55 PM
1

Yep. The feminine imperative can, and will, exceed blood. Sometimes the best law of power is Give No Fucks.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 06:51 PM
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Imagine the intensity of the music playing, sweat dripping down his forehead, loud clicks, you can barely make out his face on screen in the black room illuminated only by a single light. He stops. He breathes heavily then takes a long drag from a cigarette and inhales the smoke back through his nose as it exits his mouth. The music stops. A computer screen is shown. This man types out the last words he will ever communicate to his elderly mother: "Go fuck yourself, Mom". Clicks send. End scene.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 12:38 PM
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There are women who are worth investing in with the caveat that you are always prepared to drop them and you will not have lost more than you gained. Marriage (read: The Law) disrupts this dynamic and swings power in favor of the woman. You better think long and hard about that. LTR does not. You will still face the same, or very similar, relationship dynamics if you are married or exclusive. As to the rest of your post, you still haven't accepted TRP. This too shall pass.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 12:27 PM
1

I'm seeing a trend towards purple here lately so I welcome this kind of shit. Yeah, alpha up for yourself, but Jesus, the point isn't to use red pill means for a blue pill end. She's no princess. I have a no princess policy in my house. Daughter and wife don't get a pass. Yes, women should be held accountable for their actions. Mine can stay if she behaves. She adds value, but I'm living my life regardless. Sure, she is the girl who gets most of my time and resources and knows what I like but sh…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 08:52 AM
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My whore is a wife. Agree on your points. Doesn't matter to me how beta you are or whatever. Just because it's your fault you let it get to the point where she is doing this kind of shit doesn't mean she gets a pass and certainly doesn't mean you don't get to pass. It just means you accept the failure and move the fuck on. You can right? I mean... You have options. No? Then take the 3x a week wet hole to fill while you unfuck yourself if you want but don't delude yourself. Plan all the way to th…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 06:34 AM
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Victim puking as a result of your MAP is backwards. No one gives a shit that your 80 year old mom had an opinion and your wife is AWALT. Cut people out of your life who don't add value. Forgive them or don't. Sounds like you are still working through it, which is fine. Don't fool yourself that you don't give a fuck, because you just posted this for a reason. So, figure out how to let it go and move on. People close to you get upset when you change. It makes them nervous and question their realit…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 06:26 AM
2

The first year*
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 07:48 PM
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It's pretty amazing actually to watch a woman transform into your biggest fan. It is leadership. Leadership really is the pinnacle of the process. Re-establishing that is essential to MRP. She will still test, but less often. You will squash it with less effort on your part over time. She will become more vulnerable to you as you become less vulnerable to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/08/17 10:54 AM
1

Well... This is pretty fascinating shit man. I prefer the term "theologist" to "sperg" though. You hurt my feelz. Anyway, based on my result I would say this is accurate because my relationship turned around very quickly, all things considered.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/08/17 01:33 PM
1

How is your DEVI?
/r/askMRP21/08/17 12:05 PM
0

I think you are just witnessing female psychology with a woke-ness, and seeing it in action with your own wife is making you go, "OMG! It's realz!" Eventually, maybe, she will want your validation more than others. Don't factor this into your map. Like, at all.
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:45 AM
1

How and when do you initiate? Lead me through a day of your interactions with your wife that land you a rejection. If you had to guess a percentage, how often are you rejected?
/r/askMRP21/08/17 10:28 AM
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Love how he goes into detail like no one has heard of it. Reminded me of this.
/r/askMRP20/08/17 05:37 PM
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This wasn't a "test". This could have been handled quickly and diplomatically. Your wife deferred to you for leadership and you told her to figure it out and hung up the phone. Sometimes, that's not a bad approach if it's because you value your time and don't waste it on stupid shit. In your case though, and it's clear in your post history, you are entitled and you resent your wife. The actions you are taking are not because you are an Oak with a DGAF mindset; they seem to come from your resentm…
/r/askMRP20/08/17 10:22 AM
1

Great (and quick!) Read. I enjoyed this one.
/r/askMRP20/08/17 09:39 AM
3

This is why I always check comments before bothering to read. Nice summary right here.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/17 05:59 PM
4

Dammit, you left out the part about the doctor. Did he ever tell her the sex of the baby her and her boyfriend are having?
/r/askMRP19/08/17 08:55 AM
2

Woah
/r/askMRP18/08/17 09:31 PM
2

I can't spend all day putting calculations into my phone bro, output is manageable.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 02:04 PM
3

Doesn't track my daily cum output? I'm out.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 01:50 PM
1

Right which is why these communities are so necessary. All this feedback, if you can't take it and make something out of it you're just being a fucking floppy lobster.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 01:47 PM
3

Good for you man. Failing is just part of the filtration system. It weeds out the weak. It isn't permanent.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:39 PM
2

Always appreciate a recommendation here, will add it to my list. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 12:27 PM
3

This is (only part of) the problem. You admit you are doing it for the reaction you get from her. I'm not going to give you the answer, figure it out dickwad.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 09:47 AM
4

I feel no urgency to strive for abundance mentality. I feel like it's easier to say fuck it than do what is required of me* (FTFY). This is what I did in high school. I was smart, I was always told I was smart, so I was afraid of failing and not being smart. So, I said fuck it, because then it was my choice and of course I did not do as well as I could have because I didn't apply myself, out of fear. If I could go see me in high school I would kick my ass. Instead, I get to just talk shit to you…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 09:41 AM
9

His FO is flirting with all the other Captains at port, it's just him on the boat.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/17 09:31 AM
3

Yeah he probably is. Never thought of mirroring it... I am the leader so I bring most of the ideas but look to the other talented guys to add their flavor and criticism. Will have to think on this. Maybe I can get him to start being more honest with some maneuvering.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 06:07 PM
4

Truth. I play music with a guy right now who agrees with everyone 100% of the time which is impossible and so obviously fake that I resent him because I have no idea where he stands. Won't last long.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 05:56 PM
1

Thank you. I will continue on this path.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:37 PM
1

I stopped reading after your question. It's been covered, but you need to become attractive.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 02:28 PM
4

Great review man I have enjoyed watching you progress alongside me. Good work! Keep going.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 02:19 PM
2

I just OD'd on feelz
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:59 PM
6

You could put that together but, you know, that would take work and then you couldn't just come here bitching about how someone else didn't do it all for you. Would hate to see you have to contribute something to a community you frequent, seeing as you are a natural consumer and not producer.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/17 01:58 PM
3

Survival of the fittest bro it's a harsh world out there. Life will continue to be difficult for you. It's too bad you are tossing out your chance because feelings.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 01:46 PM
2

I was laughing to myself reading the post, then I hit this comment and went audible.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 07:30 PM
7

This guy reads
/r/askMRP16/08/17 04:00 PM
5

Your story is not unique. Funnel your anger towards lifting heavy weights. Keep reading. If you want a schedule, here ya go. Good luck, faggot.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 03:25 PM
1

/r/marriedredpill400
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:32 PM
3

Yeah something doesn't sit right but whatever, life is crazy. FWIW, I'd like to see more posts from guys like you on philosophy/mental model/whatnot.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:21 PM
2

I like your answer to what is the benefit but more specifically I meant what is the benefit, right now, of me overtly telling my wife I'm going to spin plates when she has told me herself she wants to be ignorant of it?. I still smell a covert contract here because I never personally and overtly set the standard. She just sensed it and set her own boundaries, which I respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 12:04 PM
2

It helps build the mental model. Reduces entitlement. The things you were worried about or desiring aren't really a big deal when you realize you're at least the billionth person to feel that way. It applies to everything. Edit: and when you realize it won't change your basal state anyway
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 11:05 AM
3

Hey great response. In your situation, I would do exactly the same thing. However, I am not in your situation. I could redefine the terms of my marriage anyways, and have considered doing so, but I'm always left with the question: what is the benefit? My wife said to me: "I don't want to know about your side chicks. Why would I? Just so I would be jealous?" I have to kind of agree there. She said that after making a comment about my flirting and if I do that with 'all the other girls', and I smi…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 10:59 AM
1

That's something I am still working on. You might read The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. It's sort of purple pill, but it talks about a lot of what you/we are going through. Essentially this is part of life and that's a good thing. Without problems, there can't be happiness, because happiness comes from solving problems. Problems are fluid, so there is no end to the pursuit of happiness. The problem isn't you, it's your superego, which has been filled with bullshit since you were born. Like, …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/17 09:30 AM
2

That's a valid point, no doubt.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:20 PM
19

This is a major fucking caveat to this post. This is advanced level shit and yeah, you will find out how your wife really sees you if you get caught. A lot of the guys here, their wives would LOVE to be able to toss their bitch asses to the curb, get 50%, and get to be the victim are you fucking kidding me it's like their version of a wet fucking dream. Plus most the guys have nowhere near the frame to be able to handle any of this: the plates, the drama, the main even nuclear shit test. Focus o…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 09:02 PM
1

You can lead a horse to water...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 05:49 PM
1

You do you. Be your own judge. These are not synonymous with "everyone is a special snowflake". I don't see the connection you are making there. You think spinning plates while married or having your wife work full-time are decisions that these men can't make for themselves once they have improved to a point where that is required of them? Like you are dropping some super RP wisdom by telling us to do so? It's not "everyone is special", it's "every man for himself". Again, you do you. Is it not …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 04:25 PM
3

You have to read all those books?!
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 03:32 PM
3

I don't hate it because it's mean I hate it because it's a low value response to a low value post. AKA a pointless exchange. Not worth the response because the poster didn't even put in basic effort. So little effort that me saying "read the sidebar" is too much investment on my part.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 01:17 PM
1

I'll make some edits to my response to your other post. I have a feeling I'll be able to do this with most of your content. I didn't realize advocating plates while married your wife having a job was revolutionary. The thing about this forum is that when most of the men come here, they are not at a place in life where they can handle their marriage... let alone spinning plates on the side. It's fine if you can, but you aren't going to relate to most of the community; it is what it is. No one is …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 12:29 PM
4

I'm imagining this dude "reading the sidebar" in 5 minutes thinking wow there are a lot of external links here... Glad I finished the sidebar at least.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:48 AM
5

I have a hard time believing you read the sidebar and don't know what oneitis is. When I say "read the sidebar" I actually mean "read the material that is referenced in the sidebar".
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:40 AM
9

I hate doing this... Read the fucking sidebar ------->
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:28 AM
2

Respond to my comment. You responded to your own post. There is a Reply button under my comment
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:26 AM
4

It's called oneitis.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/17 11:17 AM
1

Took my wife and I a year with the first one. She asked me to get my sperm count checked and I refused. Told her if it happens, it happens. It happened. And with the second kid it happened FAST. Careful chasing this infertility bug. There are a lot of people ready to make a lot of money to get her pregnant.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:31 AM
1

Sounds to me like your idea of an awesome vacation is not her idea of an awesome vacation.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 09:26 AM
3

She's addicted. Also you gotta trust the process man. Continue with dread level _.
/r/askMRP15/08/17 08:58 AM
9

You established some sort of frame when you basically said fuck it to her, concerning your marriage. Other than that this is pure shit show. Edit: your post history marriage (life?) is pure shit show*
/r/askMRP15/08/17 12:04 AM
4

Hint: it's working
/r/askMRP14/08/17 05:24 PM
1

I just re-read everything in this thread because it resonated with me when you posted it. I always want more. What you are referring to is called The Wound of Existence and it is completely normal. It is what has pushed our species to constantly innovate and improve. From The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck by Mark Manson: An obsession and overinvestment in emotion fails us for the simple reason that emotions never last. Whatever makes us happy today will no longer make us happy tomorrow, becaus…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/17 05:03 PM
10

Fishing, hunting, lifting, working on trucks, leading a whore wife through her miserable existence because you knocked her up... one of these things is not like the others.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 11:31 AM
2

This is one of the best exchanges I've seen on here.
/r/askMRP11/08/17 11:28 AM
2

Hahahahahaha
/r/askMRP11/08/17 11:26 AM
4

TL;DR: Guy who works out casually, watches a lot of TV, quit a great job for pussy, and doesn't take what he wants in life doesn't understand why he's unattractive. Get a grip. Delete your wife from your puke up there and it's just a story of a lackadaisical average dude. So, give her space, create a life... Wait a second... I think the answer to your question has already been covered.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 12:41 PM
1

Need your help writing metal lyrics
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:19 AM
1

How about you get really fucking strong and find the answers for yourself. Or Google the benefits of weightlifting at the very least. Top 10 worst questions in MRP history.
/r/askMRP10/08/17 11:18 AM
3

I didn't realize advocating plates while married was revolutionary. The thing about this forum is that when most of the men come here, they are not at a place in life where they can handle their marriage... let alone spinning plates on the side. It's fine if you can, but you aren't going to relate to most of the community; it is what it is. No one is going to be juiced up on your advocations because they aren't solving the problem, they are the product of you solving your problem. This community…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/17 11:03 AM
1

He's right. ASAP.
/r/askMRP09/08/17 10:55 PM
2

No
/r/askMRP08/08/17 09:19 PM
4

Prepare to leave. Plan all the way to the end. You have a lot of work to do, guy.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 05:26 PM
1

Agree with providing comfort after sex, it's a good move. A lot of the dynamics at play get lost in these basic questions.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 05:20 PM
3

Buy Becoming a Supple Leopard. Learn your weaknesses and work on mobility. Understand the dynamics involved in basic lifts like bench, dl, squat. He has some great advice that's easy to understand around generating torque, your mental model, etc. Edit: oh yeah, also videotape yourself and critique based on what you learn
/r/askMRP07/08/17 02:49 PM
21

TL;DR: I'm afraid of my girlfriend but I used to fuck hot chicks whom I continue to orbit on social media.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 02:46 PM
4

Man you can't approach TRP this way. Like... Do alphas do X or whatever. It's all about your frame. One man can do X and she gets tingles, another, lesser man does the same X and she's disgusted. It's not only what you do, it's who/why/how.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 01:41 PM
2

I wasn't feeling autistic enough yet today, thanks.
/r/askMRP07/08/17 12:28 PM
1

You know it is subconsciously which is why you are asking. Trust your gut man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 12:23 PM
5

You are very outcome dependent on your wife getting in shape. Also your dread game sucks ballz. My suggestion is to re-read the 12 levels of dread, take them really fucking seriously, and completely forget about your wife getting in shape.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/08/17 12:20 PM
1

Honestly you fucked up most by caring. My wife tried to start a fight with me yesterday... Contrived. She did something as fast as she could, so I wouldn't have time to help, then called me out for not helping. Funny. "Would have been nice if you helped!". "Yes, that would have been nice.". She tried guilting me some more which I completely blew off and continued doing what I was doing. Proceeded to go out with friends and family and as she saw me making everyone at the table laugh, she lightene…
/r/askMRP05/08/17 10:50 AM
15

Her? Whatever. You? You need to read, lift weights, apply the knowledge you gain here, post in OYS, and become a man who knows what to do when his wife gets railed by another man.
/r/askMRP05/08/17 10:21 AM
1

It's a good thing
/r/askMRP03/08/17 11:17 PM
1

Sounds like you didn't read one of the first books in the sidebar. She makes you repeat something 10 times? You give her time to ask 100 questions about something you're uninterested in?
/r/askMRP03/08/17 11:05 PM
1

No one is going to find your fire for you.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 02:01 PM
3

Good job not engaging in more conversation about the affair or DEERing to get her feelz fixed. Best thing you could have done is not rebook her flight and stay the extra days yourself. BONUS - you used that time for some much needed introspection and you created dread. See how easy dread is when you put yourself first? Effortless.
/r/askMRP14/07/17 10:06 AM
1

My wife found condoms and a napkin with a girl's number that I had thrown (BURIED) in the trash. I blew it off and gaslit/pressure flipped. Never came up again. Don't talk about the texts. Make it about her and what's wrong with your relationship.
/r/askMRP26/06/17 01:35 AM
1

I don't get this timeline. She called you 15 minutes late, drinking a diet Coke, and she looked buzzed? And it was 10:30pm? And what, she didn't tell you she was out? And then didn't text you until the next morning? How much later were you going to stay up waiting to talk business with her? This shit is confusing which leads me to believe you have turned minutia into a full on scandal.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 06:44 PM
1

This is funny because she literally painted my house for free today. You can't make this shit up.
/r/askMRP22/06/17 04:22 AM
1

I like it.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:59 PM
1

Is there a decree? She's horny you fuck her?
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:14 PM
1

I get you. But why bother? Do I owe her an explanation?
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:09 PM
1

because chad gives no fucks that he does not find attractive enough to fuck. You got it.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 09:26 PM
2

Sweet man another great read. Looking forward to the next.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 08:54 PM
4

They literally drank margaritas at the Mexican chain restaurant.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 07:15 PM
1

Interesting perspective
/r/askMRP21/06/17 06:23 PM
1

Is there any situation where you would turn down sex? Like, if you know it's going to be shitty and less satisfying than jerking off...do you do it just to do it or do you say "Meh, I don't need this". Many times in my marriage, wife has been drunk and I think "Hell yes, drunk sex!" Only to get started, and it's exactly the opposite of what I'm expecting. Wife is sloppy and unsexy. Chatty and annoying, and starfishy. The annoying is unignorable, I start thinking "This is so lame." Occasionally, …
/r/askMRP21/06/17 06:19 PM
1

I think it's the loss of attraction
/r/askMRP21/06/17 05:20 PM
1

Lots of value in this community. When something surprises you, you can learn a lot from others' interpretations.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 05:02 PM
6

Got it. Okay so this was the plan (overt). I get home at 4:30, start my workout. She leaves at 5, the kids join me in the gym (I have stuff set up for them to do so I can workout with them), kids and I do dinner, maybe go to the pool if weather is good, and get ready for bed. Meanwhile, she would have a few cocktails with the girls and be home a couple of hours later. Obviously a little tipsy. So ideally, it would have looked something like that. What happened. At 4:45 I asked her if she was abo…
/r/askMRP21/06/17 04:43 PM
1

Okay yeah you are on to something here. I don't get your question though, you want more details about last night or you want me to explain how this same night would have played out where I would have fucked her? I've already fucked her sober since this, btw. And I greeted her with a smile this morning. I am not feeling any mate guarding here and I think the jumps to butthurt conclusions are missing the point, although I won't deny there might be something to it.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 04:01 PM
2

It could be pride.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 03:02 PM
2

Yeah I don't feel like giving her any time or attention today you're right.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:58 PM
1

I was 100% sober. I don't need to get her drunk to have uninhibited sex.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:44 PM
3

This guy gets it.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:28 PM
5

You are assuming I am in her frame. It was not punishment, it was lack of attraction. It was not a covert contract. Expectation was set in advance.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 02:16 PM
4

Boom.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:54 PM
2

Maybe when you're both drunk...
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:52 PM
1

Issue was not slutiness it was drunkenness. Expectation was going for a few drinks, < $20 worth, back home by 8.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:47 PM
1

Sometimes, if we're both tipsy, it can be good, but we have great sex sober. I prefer the sex sober.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:38 PM
0

Me. I was face fucking her.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:35 PM
2

Haha it was right before the BJ.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:29 PM
5

Yeah, I started out that way. Then half way through the BJ, after she had accidentally kneed me in the balls and started yawning because she was so fucked up, I lost interest.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:25 PM
1

What's the madonna/whore thing?
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:22 PM
1

You think I'm butthurt? And that I was bored, waiting for her to come home?
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:20 PM
2

Acta Non Verba. Walk past the shit.
/r/askMRP21/06/17 11:39 AM
2

Good to meet you, I have read a lot of your stuff. That's probably where I saw it. Or here, here, or here. Either way, it all came from there.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/17 01:30 AM
4

You did her a favor. She agreed to come over. Now she doesn't want to come over and she wants you to do her another favor. I smell shit. Usually when I smell shit I go somewhere that doesn't smell like shit, where I won't step in shit. Sometimes I have to walk through a shit-filled yard, and I do so with grace. But other times I can just walk past it or go through another yard that isn't full of shit. And then there are times where I just look down at the shit and laugh. I know I could step on i…
/r/askMRP21/06/17 01:13 AM
1

Too bad he can't delete the actual fuck up...
/r/askMRP20/06/17 11:56 PM
1

You have two weeks to create the conditions where it's possible.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 03:46 PM
1

So you don't want a divorce?
/r/askMRP20/06/17 03:39 PM
1

So she just proved the pussy does still have power.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 03:11 PM
1

She puts on the waterworks, it's over.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 03:09 PM
2

I'm willing to bet you didn't even read The Mindful Attraction Plan, much less follow it, and this was not you entering Phase Six.
/r/askMRP20/06/17 03:05 PM
1

I usually fuck her brains out. I call it You Get My Cum Week. Deleted this parable I wrote initially to respond to this dammit. Anyways the point is, Shark Week ain't shit, it means nothing, starts nothing, stops nothing.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:39 PM
2

No way dude I don't want to have to talk about how sad you are that you hurt your girlfriend's feelings all night!
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:29 PM
1

"Hey I'm going to my Dad's for dinner see ya later"
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:18 PM
2

Yeah this, there's so much wrong, the way I would handle it wouldn't even work for him. This is the point I was trying to make in Macro vs Micro... Hey she said X so I did Y, WWRPD?
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:14 PM
1

Do you mean after the call or before?
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:04 PM
6

Uhh dude Try to go back to being happy go lucky even though she will be a downer Uhhh YES. You fucked mostly when you DEERd but worst when you fell completely into her frame. It's over, move on, worst thing you could do is bring it up again, NO, worst thing you could do is not be happy because she isn't.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:01 PM
6

I don't care about your feelings neither does she go read the sidebar, lift, and forget it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 02:44 PM
5

She's probably just finding a dick in herself for the summer but she'll definitely want him back once she figures it all out.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 02:06 PM
3

Jesus Christ what did I just read...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 12:53 PM
1

This took me a few months to accept but it has paid dividends. Wife is a much happier person and a much better version of herself from my including her and giving her guidance (unplugging her). I hated her at first. Then I hated myself. But she was just being a woman, as she should and I was just being a beta, as society said I should. Lessons learned. We're having a lot of fun again. We fixed it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 09:48 AM
22

Oh shit are you the 1000 foot rope guy? Love this analogy and I have used it. Didn't realize it was never posted here. Did some research and saw you had posted it in /u/atlhart 's She doesn't know the rules have changed. Guess I assumed it was some old MRP lore. Either way, it stuck with me. Great to see a post about it. Thanks for sharing.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 09:09 AM
1

Yeah, that's true. Men get caught in jumping through hoops for girls to keep them too, it's just not with sex, when they have oneitis. Like, supporting her GNO's and shit... Or 3x weekly "climbing" sessions.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 02:38 PM
2

But he's afraid to lose dreading losing her because she's so fit and hot and has cool hobbies and an interesting life and: wait a second?
/r/askMRP17/06/17 01:36 PM
8

You're still angry. It's cool, you have a right to be angry. It gets projected intentionally or not. I know it's hard to accept this but she is not to blame, you are. Once you get through this, you'll realize that was the case the whole time, because she will be an awesome wife. Or not. And you'll still accept the failure on your part and move on. Either way, it's all on you. Welcome to LTR hard mode over a decade ago. You just didn't know you were playing. Stings right? Fuck it.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/17 01:32 PM
5

Maybe. You remind me of myself. Almost said that in my first response. I was already in a fuck it mindset when I started. So what can I say... My wife took it as far to physically attack me twice. Everything she's known is being ripped away. She's going to claw and kick and scream. And eventually, I have a feeling, she will come around and be the happiest you have ever seen her. Give her comfort but let her know her behavior is unacceptable, however you do that. Don't stall progress for her but …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/17 01:22 PM
8

Rambo to me is not the man who makes quick progress but the man who thinks he deserves the benefits of quick progress without putting in the work. Only you know which one you are.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/17 12:53 PM
5

Could it be... Could it be that you're.... Booorringg? You say you're fun but 90% of your post is like statistical shit. And basically it's just all the shit you're supposed to do if you OYS. OYS doesn't = getting laid. No girl ever is like dayyummm that boi pays his bills and values a healthy lifestyle! I'm gonna suck his dick! Oh unless they want to lock you down for provisions... but she already did that. And for real 70/30 on you doing all the chores but 40/60 on parenting? And you have a na…
/r/askMRP17/06/17 09:46 AM
1

So much material here. Can't wait for Thanksgiving.
/r/askMRP17/06/17 08:38 AM
1

What is it you just did? What do we call it?
/r/askMRP17/06/17 08:13 AM
2

Great write up. Gossiping can be used to your advantage... just don't be A Gossip.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/17 01:09 AM
3

You missed my point. As long as I keep my frame, everything is going in the right direction. But whenever I lose my frame, the repercussions are merciless. She stops inviting me over, gets cold and is generally ghosting me. One misstep is associated with all the bad behaviour she had to endure in the past and which she used as a rationalization for the divorce. As long as I do X, she does Y. You don't like being punished by her. It's working. She's on Dread Level 4. Dread Level 4: Begin conditio…
/r/askMRP16/06/17 11:14 AM
1

I have low back and hip problems. There have been several occasions I had to do major deloads. Fucking sucks. Just ordered a trap bar. Will let you know if it helps. Hoping to alleviate the lumbar stress so I can push past a plateau I reach where my SI joint goes haywire. Check it out. RDL's are my most-likely-to-fuck-me-up lift but trap bars can be used for the others too.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/17 10:39 AM
1

Well, you got there faster.
/r/askMRP16/06/17 10:21 AM
2

Well.... Did you really fuck up or are you just trying to diffuse an accusation? This is different than saying I'm sorry. This is admitting you fucked up, kind of in a blasé fashion that shows you're okay with making mistakes from time to time because you're human.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 09:35 PM
1

Takes me a while to get there but I'm happy with it
/r/askMRP15/06/17 06:46 PM
7

'Yeah I should really not park the car under the tree where all the turkeys roost, they really shit a lot.' On the plus side it covers all the windows up so the neighbors won't see us in there. They'll probably wonder what's going on in that shit covered car, bouncing up and down.. skreek skreek. Had to see if I could turn turkey shit sexual.
/r/askMRP15/06/17 06:42 PM
6

I mean dude your dad just had a heart attack, it's okay you broke frame just go back to normal like it never happened and you're good. I imagine a lot of shit starts running through someone's head when something major like that happens. You said it, you are human. Make sure you're trending up. Are you? Good. Keep working. Now to address the real problem. Your wife is Dreading you. Why?
/r/askMRP15/06/17 03:16 PM
1

Your story doesn't elicit any sympathy and just sounds like a fat kid complaining about how his (pretty decent) wife is stealing his prime years. Which is laughable. And all you've done is like... Play basketball and go from 40-35% body fat? What's even worse is you signed up for all of this as an RP aware boy.... and you're still getting laid! There's like 0 chance you can do better than your wife right now. And there's a HUGE chance she can do better than you. Get real.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 08:33 PM
6

No it's not. Embarrassing would be watching porn, getting fat, playing video games and NOT fucking your wife. Trying to be better is never embarrassing. Neither is fucking your wife.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 05:18 PM
2

Nah it's only hard because you have no idea what you're​ capable of yet. You thought you just won something big. Just wait. Keep going.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 04:57 PM
1

Awesome man I get it. Felt like I was reading about myself when you were talking about your Dad. I have also been trying to enjoy the distortion of the bigger picture for now. It's refreshing and exciting but it also brings up other, not so good things. It gives you a chance to find yourself.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 04:56 PM
3

A) You remind me of MilfHunter trying to get chicks at the grocery store. If you did that to my wife, she'd laugh in your face and walk without answering you, but if it build confidence, go for it. It's a good exercise.. just getting yourself chatting up random women at various places and whatnot.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 04:51 PM
6

I applaud that you are taking the time to analyze your experience and improve yourself. You recognize that you have work to do and you aren't ashamed of that. You have the right attitude and I think you will do well. That said, this is not what sex looks like from a woman who desires you. I'm skipping the whole approaching part. That's whatever. You're getting used to taking to other women. Came home late, spent 5 minutes listening to the wife and then got ready for sleep. So did she. When I cam…
/r/askMRP14/06/17 04:44 PM
4

I guess the hard truth is, I have never done something in my life to be proud of. Achievements I've made, but I am not proud of them. I always lived a life lead by others and I never lived up to my expectations. Don't fall into the trap of making MRP the next group of "others" you rely on to lead your life. That's what you're doing. Stop asking, start doing.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 01:03 PM
1

Man, this is exactly the kind of insight I was hoping this post would stir up. Appreciate that. I am in the soul searching/mental cleaning house phase myself. Got my shit together, now I am trying to figure out what I really want in life. For me, music is my woodworking. I'm good at it, but no good enough that I'm going to go somewhere with it. And I'm not sure I really even want to... But then I felt adrift, like I had all this open ocean I could sail and no idea where to go. Can relate. I'm cl…
/r/askMRP14/06/17 12:58 PM
4

You're either a troll or hopeless, either way, same result.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 11:26 AM
4

Number... Bro... You ask a lot of questions. Generic questions like How to be proud of yourself, communicate better, and get out of the house more often. You ask a lot of questions. I have to wonder, have you tried talking to people and leaving your house? Have you done anything to be proud of? You're asking for quick fixes. Put in the work.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 11:21 AM
4

Confirmed trolling.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/17 10:21 AM
3

You're a good sport. And yeah you were my next guess. Thought I was sticking up for you over there.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 07:34 PM
1

Yeah lol. And the weird English. Just seems like something he would do too.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 06:53 PM
1

kidding. seems plausible though.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 06:06 PM
1

/u/alpha_as_chiwawa
/r/askMRP13/06/17 05:56 PM
2

This journey was many years, MRP was like the icing on the cake. I didn't read anything that made me take action, I just did it. Most influential reading for me though was MAP, hands down. Specifically the Red/Yellow/Green concept. It clicked. I was able to easily identify shit and handle it/prioritize appropriately. I paid off one of my cars and all credit card debt, refinanced my home, took over finances, started collecting unused items around the house and held multiple yard sales/got wife in…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 01:05 PM
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Time to go buddy. You aren't married. You don't have kids. Don't drag this out the rest of your life. Iron Rule #7. She ain't special. You have a lot of work to do on yourself. Monk mode or you'll end up in the same situation.
/r/askMRP13/06/17 11:03 AM
1

I would not engage in serious conversation when she brings it up like this. "Totally", eyeroll, on to the next topic. If you want her to want to lose weight, keep losing weight. Also, it helps to talk anecdotally. Basically you are bringing her into your frame when you say, Damn, I can't believe how much Martha let herself go. Sucks for Steve. If I were Steve I would totally say something or try to get her working out. I mean, I'd give her a chance to make it right. It's like she doesn't even ca…
/r/askMRP13/06/17 10:04 AM
2

The second one is lethal. I love it.
/r/askMRP12/06/17 10:26 PM
2

How long was a while back, out of curiosity...
/r/askMRP12/06/17 06:41 PM
2

This is a delicate balance. My wife has been working really hard on something I asked her to do. I rewarded her with appreciation, time and attention. Now, she wants me to just sit on the couch and keep giving her the validation. Had to kill that this weekend. Got shit to do. You've been rewarded. It's over. Moving on. Edit: Proof this works. Got home from work last night, she had appetizers on the counter, cooking dinner, "I've been thinking about you all day", kids in bed, lingerie, smash town…
/r/askMRP12/06/17 04:17 PM
1

Glad you enjoyed it good luck
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/17 04:09 PM
2

Didn't chiwawa say this same shit?
/r/askMRP12/06/17 04:09 PM
1

I think I know who's next on the chopping block.
/r/askMRP12/06/17 04:07 PM
2

I'm getting you and chiwawa confused...
/r/askMRP12/06/17 11:19 AM
1

I don't remember you being from another country/ESL. Okay then, that changes things. Is she from the same country as you?
/r/askMRP12/06/17 10:38 AM
1

I'm not gonna read your post because the headline says it all. Give it time.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 11:34 PM
1

Ah right... not my case but makes sense.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 11:10 PM
1

I like your feedback lately. Upvote.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 11:06 PM
2

Pretty sure both these guys are trolls. "Suggested a nice round of fucking". Who talks like that? Hi wo-man let's sex tonight?
/r/askMRP11/06/17 02:18 PM
2

Yeah I got you, I'm applying to jobs like crazy, we'll see
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 01:40 PM
1

I'm not OP. Agree saying it is not necessarily needed. Worked for me, not recommended.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 01:23 PM
2

At the start of my MAP, I told her explicitly: You are not my friend. I have friends. You are my mate. It helped reframe the relationship as sexual. Might not be great advice for everyone but it needed to be said.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/17 12:23 PM
10

My only problem with the 12 levels is that I don't think you should wait that long to start dressing nice and looking your best. Even if you're fat, one of the quickest gains you can make is dressing better, smelling better and getting your damn hair cut. Your wife might not care as much, if you do it early on, but who cares? Tackle the low lying fruit.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 04:54 AM
1

i guess all that glitters is not gold
/r/askMRP11/06/17 04:43 AM
1

I take it back again, I was right, get a life.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 04:41 AM
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Throw some trash on the ground and give her that Daddy look. Good catch. Edit: I give so little fucks I can pull this off.
/r/askMRP11/06/17 04:02 AM
1

Haha
/r/askMRP10/06/17 10:21 PM
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I liked it a lot. I think /u/prarrott is dead on with his claim of it being over simplified. I would say optimistic and idealistic as well. I look at it poetically, as a mental state. I'm particularly captivated by the Layer portion right now because that's where I'm at in life, but I recognize you don't necessarily just walk around like a big boner fucking the world with your greatness all the time, living on impulse and notion. It's like anything: take what you want from it.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 09:13 PM
1

Happy for you man, that's good to hear!
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/17 08:17 PM
3

One time, like 6+ years ago, I "planted trees in the wrong place". I planted them exactly where I said I was going to plant them. She thought they were inches in the wrong direction and I got wicked butthurt about it. I used to always make the mistake of engaging her ridiculous assertions, like she was worthy of me entertaining them. Funny how it never resolved anything...
/r/askMRP10/06/17 05:51 PM
3

Excellent breakdown. She should know how YOU like YOUR coffee. Get it? That's the prize mentality. When it's actually true (for all things not just coffee) she does see you as the prize.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 05:46 PM
1

I can agree with the oversimplification piece, if not idealistic, it's definitely not how things usually shake out. It's why I didn't just walk in the day I stopped feeling it and quit. Hoping to get some real life insight from other guys so thanks for that. I'm sticking with what I have while I look for other options.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 02:20 PM
3

Quit it all. Besides maintaining your house.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 10:05 AM
2

Don't be ashamed about it, you are taking steps to improve. I don't know what kind of rural area you are in but there's a mall so it can't be total BFE. What are your "inside hobbies"? Sounds like video games, porn, and TV.
/r/askMRP10/06/17 10:00 AM
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It was kind of a boy who cried wolf thing for me, but you caught the reality. I was thinking, oh this guy again with another cynical, invented story about his relationship, just let it go and get a life, jesus. You took him seriously, and I think you were right to do so. I hope he reads this: /u/alpha_as_chiwawa
/r/askMRP10/06/17 12:14 AM
3

Heavy. And early in his MAP. But it could be the beginning of him establishing his frame and setting some expectations overtly.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 11:54 PM
3

But I don't think you're talking the "fuck you or fuck me" conversation? You are saying, let her know you know what's up. I imagine this happening in a jack10 sort of way...
/r/askMRP09/06/17 11:49 PM
3

I overlooked that completely as him hamstering. I don't see any point in dragging it out either, if that's the case. Learned something again, thanks.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 11:36 PM
2

I never considered Chad as a place or thing, only a person. Is this in the sidebar? Did I miss this? Profound.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 11:19 PM
1

This is a big question. More to follow.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 10:52 PM
1

there's always a blowie in the fine print
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 10:50 PM
3

I have to say you have one of the worst cases of living in your wife's frame I have seen since I joined. I really hope you stick with this because I'm going to enjoy watching you escape. Take on this mentality: Fuck her. Forget it. She's nothing to me. She's gone. I'm moving on. Join something social. Join a social group. Start going out without her. Keep lifting. Hit on girls constantly. You need to start building your own life. You are living in her life. You are missing out on your life. Edit…
/r/askMRP09/06/17 10:36 PM
2

That's a very solid point. Yeah, I do it for mental clarity, less lethargy, and really I just like the food a whole lot better. I was never big on potatoes and rice so eating bacon everyday instead was an easy sell. I would definitely not argue that my gains have improved from it.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 07:27 PM
2

Ha yeah she does that too. As a consequence there has been constant swirl between teams on our main objectives because we are leaderless and the teams all battle for power with no one ever there to veto (because she doesn't know what the right answer is). Her boss is even worse. He never shows up in the office, just panders to higher-ups, uses the two tower style management where he pits two main teams against each other to create competition and drive the best solution, which is fine, but then …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 06:47 PM
1

Push, Pull, Leg
/r/askMRP09/06/17 01:33 PM
5

Yeah I work for a lady like that. She does it to hide that she actually has no idea what the fuck is going on. The trick is you have to know the answer (or know that you could figure it out) yourself and be ready to bail them out when necessary.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:45 PM
2

Agreed. I have a huge problem with the way it uses hope and fear interchangeably to mentally fuck people into submission. Children are especially susceptible.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 11:32 AM
8

It's STFU for your thumbs when you're new. It's fine to text. Edit: nicer.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 11:20 AM
5

I helped her avoid some pitfalls that I fell into but if I were to do this for her it would take away the joy and satisfaction she would get from the finished product. Exactly. Be more like those bumpers in a bowling alley than rolling the ball for her yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 11:14 AM
2

Yeah, you will learn more. Not necessarily faster, but more.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 11:12 AM
2

Upvote for a good read. Especially the comments.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 09:45 AM
2

Grew up around this. It's a mess. Mom hated my Dad's ex, had to watch her kids every other weekend, treated them like less-thans, animosity grew, rebellious teenagers, a lot of noise. Sometimes my family (me) got lost in all of it. It's better now that we're adults but there are still grudges and snide remarks.
/r/askMRP09/06/17 09:23 AM
7

If there are no kids involved and nothing major at stake (losing half your assets and future income) I say follow this rule 100%. If you're in an LTR or plating women, you can follow Iron Rule #7 explicitly and you will be better off for it because there is absolutely nothing to lose besides pussy from one woman. If you're married, especially with kids, there is sort of a normal distribution for this rule. Some are hopeless, some will fix easily, everyone else falls somewhere in the middle with …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 09:12 AM
6

When you shower in the morning, at the end of the shower, turn the water ice cold for as long as you can take it. Wake up an hour earlier than you normally do for an hour of peace and quiet. Drink coffee and listen to the birds chirping. Read MRP or sidebar material during this time. Schedule haircuts every 2-4 weeks Get teeth whitening gel and toothpaste​ Yell at the top of your lungs and get your anger out. Call yourself names, scream, then talk out loud about what you are going to do to fix i…
/r/askMRP09/06/17 08:57 AM
1

Neither
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 08:33 AM
1

christ....
/r/askMRP09/06/17 01:10 AM
1

Hefty.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:54 AM
2

Oh shit he even mentions the subconscious mind. Weird day.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:44 AM
3

Now I'm wondering about a lot of shit. Maybe I was wrong about Macro vs. Micro. Maybe the value really is in the Micro and the Macro is just the cumulative.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:37 AM
2

I am not fully aware yet. I do things subconsciously to assert my dominance. I do things consciously I learned here. There is value in the subconscious that I need to tap into.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/17 12:29 AM
1

It's unfortunate to be indoctrinated into a religion but ultimately it's on you to make what you will of it. Well, my wife, yeah, she came around, we'll see if that continues. Little bit of hysterical bonding there. Time will tell. I'm a giving it time kinda guy as well. So let's see.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 11:56 PM
1

Wild... would not have guessed. Although, if you knew me, you'd have no idea any of this shit either. Haha yeah, The Letter. Jesus.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 11:54 PM
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I actually really enjoyed reading this. This is where overall trends matter. Like, if you hold the power in your relationship, get laid constantly, and you were busy and just blowing off her dumb shit, good for you man. Sounds like something I would do 100%. Sometimes I just blow her off completely caus IDGAF what the hell she's talking about. And no fucking shit just as I am typing this my wife just asked me to come upstairs to give her my opinion on something - that is gold. But... If you're a…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 10:47 PM
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Don't look at it this way. You are making huge fucking progress. Don't beat yourself up over some dumb fight where you relapsed. The important thing is that you are level headed about it, learning from it, and accepting your misstep. Keep pressing on. You may have surprised yourself. You are bothered​ by the affair. You just didn't realize it. Will be interesting to see where your story goes. Keep losing weight and lifting for now. Focus on that as much as possible. Other than that, read like yo…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 09:28 PM
0

hb?
/r/askMRP08/06/17 07:20 PM
1

Drunk guy doesn't realize how drunk he still is. Gets behind wheel. Surprised he can't drive.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 07:16 PM
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I want to start this by saying, for me it was never about the sex. I'm young, come from a conservative family, and frankly you can't miss what you've never had. Fuck off. I ended up here after a link to Rollo Tommassi's "Just Get It" article. I took a long hard look at myself in the mirror. Recognized myself as a piece of shit, that my relationship is currently in shambles, and that I needed to make changes. For me. Partially for her, but mostly for me. Now we're being honest. One of those chang…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 06:36 PM
2

Yeah exactly. Mine would short-circuit to shame. But this is the mental model for killing your ego and growing up. Neuroplasticity.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 05:24 PM
2

You're angry. It sucks. I still wouldn't bring her though. I think it would do you well to experience that. Beginning of some sort of frame maybe, because right now it's laughable. 0 frame, 0 dread. Maybe after this week you'll be 1 frame, 0 dread.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 05:16 PM
1

Good, and np
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 05:09 PM
2

When you do shit you tend to justify it to protect your ego from acknowledging you're a dumb fuck and your ideas and behaviors are shit. That's it's actually your fault.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 02:46 PM
2

11 months ago. ~7 years. Abundance, something I did for me, let go of things, move on, it's just your turn, sex isn't a big deal, AWALT Ego investment
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 02:12 PM
3

Something that's really fucking important though, and doesn't come through in text at all, is your underlying motivation. If you're sexualizing, making a face, pressure flipping, power talking, whatever, it really doesn't matter. If your intention was to dismiss, if your intention was to set boundaries, whatever your intention, you do the thing that communicates it. I think we get over analytical about shit sometimes.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:58 PM
1

Not sure if that's a jab, but as long as your entire style isn't dancing monkey, I don't see any problem with being goofy to deflect dumb shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:30 PM
0

My wife used to tell me she doesn't like muscly dudes. Uhh yeah that's why she's fucking my brains out, now, because she hates it so much. Don't listen to that shit. Conversations with your wife should be taken with a grain of salt. That's why I mostly just use it to turn things sexual and have fun. I'm rarely actually listening to what the fuck she's saying. It "pisses her off" RE: turns her on. The other day she passive aggressively told my son that I think her topics of conversation are borin…
/r/askMRP08/06/17 01:26 PM
2

My default is to just always make it a sex joke. * Yeah, I know you like that 8" gig, girl. * Damn, I thought you liked my 7.5 gig... Or I just make a silly face, mocking her, and keep talking. I don't think it's bad to put her in her place from time to time, though. Especially in front of other people.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 01:18 PM
1

Only difference between LTR and Marriage is the legality man. As far as relationship dynamics it's the same shit. So, yeah, read it.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 12:51 PM
1

Great, enjoy the ride it's fun as hell.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 12:43 PM
1

Damn thanks bud means a lot coming from you.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 12:42 PM
6

This was a better read than OP's post.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 08:41 AM
7

So.... She likes to be friends with girls?
/r/askMRP08/06/17 08:21 AM
1

Yeah, it's counterintuitive until you actually use your intuition.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/17 12:02 AM
3

I don't know if it was the most difficult thing... But the most important thing was just killing the ego investment man.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 10:43 PM
1

Well... Good. Get on it!
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 09:16 PM
1

Good luck on yours
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 09:16 PM
6

you realize that life is not about being comfortable, but rather living. This has been my latest revelation. I'm looking at potentially moving to a job with lower pay so I can live somewhere I want to live and do things day-to-day that I enjoy more. Defies logic of my old self because I am very comfortable right now. My life is super fucking convenient, why change? Income is high, expenses are low. New perspective says, fuck it dude go for it.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:53 PM
2

Further, maybe, but possibly we've traveled the same distance. This comes to mind.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:30 PM
2

It's brutal, it builds confidence, before you know it you've picked yourself back up so many times you rejoice in being knocked down.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:25 PM
2

Happy to
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 07:16 PM
1

When you accept that you're the one creating the conditions that make it acceptable, it becomes easy to resolve.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 06:58 PM
2

Yeah man, it was my first post here on MRP. It's been handled, rest assured.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 06:52 PM
8

Yeah man, it's cringey for me to even read it but it's the truth, glad it could help motivate someone.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 06:51 PM
1

I wish you the best. From what I have read I am positive you will be better off for it.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:36 PM
3

if you have some serious oneitis going on, it does a man a world of good to see the shit your wife says to her friends, or orbiters, about you. When people think the other person can't hear them, you might be surprised at the shit they will sling about you. It hurts like crazy at first, to read all this hateful stuff and talking about you in hateful ways, but it propelled me to do even better and to not worry about her. Truth. I overheard my wife spewing vitriol about me to my own mother on our …
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:22 PM
1

Tough. What's your exit strategy?
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:18 PM
1

You have 3 kids right?
/r/askMRP07/06/17 04:11 PM
6

When I got started, after reading all the horror stories, and having never checked up on my wife, I got a little freaked out and spied on her a bunch. Now, I don't even think about that shit. I think it's appropriate to check occasionally, to be sure your investment of time is not being wasted. Otherwise, I don't see a point of obsessing over it. So, maybe somewhere in the middle with a lean more towards not worrying about it?
/r/askMRP07/06/17 03:07 PM
11

Sometimes when I get home, I just want to chill the fuck out for 30 minutes and decompress, but my kids come running, jumping up and down, my wife is excited to see me and tell me about her day, the dogs are licking me, it's the opposite of what I wanted at that time but when you're the leader everyone is looking to you so get used to it. There are guys who would kill for their wife to take some initiative. Don't make something that isn't a problem a problem. It's a great sign. It means she want…
/r/askMRP07/06/17 02:59 PM
2

Forget about your wife. This is hard to do at this stage but if more could see it this way, it's amazing how much progress you can make, and how quickly.
/r/askMRP07/06/17 02:25 PM
5

This is not when you practice STFU/DNGAF dumbass. And there is no light in this story. Her asking your permission is not a win. She feels she can walk right up to you and say "hey I'm sleeping at Chad's house, cool?". And you're such a cuck you agree and try to act tough like it's because you don't care. If you didn't care you wouldn't be here. You are in such a place of weakness with no leverage, the best you can do is use this as motivation to improve yourself. Get your finances in order, get …
/r/askMRP07/06/17 09:01 AM
5

Been following your story. Get your shit together and then GTFO. Have some self respect.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/06/17 08:03 AM
1

This is great advice. The relationship is often the focus at first and then as you progress you realize it is not the most important piece - not even close.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:17 PM
4

Really like your take here. I would say I married and had children because it was what I was "supposed to do". Raised religious and conservative. It was the logical next choice and I had no idea about any of this stuff at the time. That said, I do find joy in it and I made out pretty well considering the circumstances. Being red pilled threw me for a fucking whirl.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 11:13 PM
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An oldie but a goodie. I read this a while back and there is still a lot of truth in it, and perspective I'm trying to work towards. I find myself occasionally being hard on myself for getting locked down so young, for various reasons.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 08:59 PM
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Yeh saw that after. I don't either.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 06:48 PM
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NVM just saw /u/sh0ckley 's comment
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:44 PM
1

Do you wear your ring? Either way, can you describe your thoughts and strategy on the matter?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/17 05:21 PM
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I get angry when she tries to control my behavior Ignore it, if she gets in your face, smile and ignore it. I didn't know she was planning on using everything for tomorrows dinner and she starts jumping on me. Reason doesn't matter. It's not something you tolerate. You are intolerant of it by completely dismissing it, because it's a total joke to you. Just leave the house and go do something fun, say nothing.
/r/askMRP06/06/17 04:10 PM
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There's so much stupid shit happening in this scenario. You sound like Jesco White mixed with Cartman. You are responsible for your own hunger bro. Why are you in a situation so often where there isn't enough food, to the point you get angry? Ever thought about buying more groceries and asking her to cook more food? I don't get it. Seems like my mom, where she only makes a little so my Dad won't keep getting fatter. You sure you're not fat? Skinnyfat​?
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:47 AM
5

Hahaha. All these flavors...
/r/askMRP06/06/17 11:35 AM
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I get it. Been there. Give it time. Develop your frame or you'll burn your shit to the ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 09:51 PM
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And there's that. /u/prarrott put in the work to get there. He had the confidence. The closing is just icing on the cake.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 08:56 PM
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That's not how it works. The confidence gets the kiss, the kiss doesn't give the confidence.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 08:50 PM
8

Good, now go out and game some women while you have all this free time. At the very least try to get a number. My advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/17 08:16 PM
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I think there are many options when you know, especially when kids are involved and things get complex. I'm choosing to stay for now, because I want my children raised with a SAHM until they are both in school. I want my wife to go back to work and start making some money too so things will be easier in the divorce (already working on this). I have a master plan, and I'm having fun with it in the meantime. Not so surprisingly, things have done a 180 in my marriage because of this attitude. Maybe…
/r/askMRP05/06/17 12:23 PM
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Yeah this is common, for women and BP men to condemn men who don't have or want children as babies/immature/selfish. My mom and sister used to tell me I was selfish since I wasn't ready to have kids. No logic, lots of feelz though.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 06:03 PM
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It's a good one. Get on it /u/sh0ckley! I'm right there with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 05:59 PM
1

Yeah, this is an interesting case.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 03:56 PM
1

Yeah, agreed. We're on the same page.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 03:53 PM
1

You aren't being denied sex-- you've denied her the gift of being married to a man. KO Second, stop flirting with random girls. I know it's fun and it validates you, but it's low value behavior. You mean in general or just if you're this guy?
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:52 PM
1

What are your living arrangements?
/r/askMRP03/06/17 01:39 PM
5

Yeah this whole "we signed a contract" argument is terrible. Nothing sounds sexier to me than ink going to paper...
/r/askMRP03/06/17 09:21 AM
1

If you don't love her, divorce is something best done right away. This is garbage advice. Putting it off will just make it worse in the end. There is no substance here. You're throwing out some assumption about the outcome to drive your narrative.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 09:19 AM
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But: don't just next her, get a new girl, create the same situation you are in now cause you don't know how to handle this shit I think this is the part some guys overlook in the beginning. It's you, and you're just going to recreate the same shit with someone else if you don't figure it out.
/r/askMRP03/06/17 09:14 AM
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It seems like you should be posting in /r/affairs with your question. MRP isn't really here to facilitate cheating (not that we care if you do). That said, if you want to stay married, you have a lot of work to do. You're angry. It's understandable. Have you started reading the sidebar?
/r/askMRP03/06/17 08:47 AM
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Oops. Im starting with teasing her about it and trying to figure out her type. Last week we were at a bar and I had her picking out girls she likes. Will see where this goes...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 08:39 AM
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Haha I'm working on that myself...
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 08:24 AM
2

awwww shucks!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/17 12:30 AM
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Yes, you get it. You can make mistakes, say stupid shit, be imperfect. It's all good. It's just a whisper in the wind of your tornado of frame. When you don't have the macro, these micro situations are YUGE. When you focus on the macro, you DNGAF.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 11:42 PM
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when they're discussing the how, the how is the lines you'll hear guys drop in their FRs, backed by the psychology described in the sidebar, curbed by the healthy restrain of not going rambo. I have more respect for the how posts. See the forest for the trees though. It's not just one conversation or choice or boundary. Totally. And this is not meant to be a neg on people posting FRs or asking questions, although I could see it being taken that way. More along the lines of: you don't just look a…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 09:56 PM
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Think about it, you can introduce it slowly and methodically, you don't pull out any crazy whips or chains, it can happen naturally, then before you know it, she's got a ball gag in her mouth with her hands tied behind her back after that wedding. Amazing! Amazon.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 08:07 PM
1

If this is the case, I need to up my plate count considerably. Girl at the grocery store was totally eye fucking me yesterday.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 07:48 PM
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Congrats! Keep up the good work. Choking is like unlocking the cheat code to kink.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 07:44 PM
1

Right.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 04:09 PM
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My point is though, give her a backrub if you want to, but she shouldn't need a backrub to have sex with you and you shouldn't give backrubs to get sex.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 12:38 PM
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and I'll remind her of this incident. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/17 11:56 AM
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Haha the other night... Wife: I need to brush my teeth. I don't want my breath to smell. Me: It doesn't. Wife looks at me sideways, letting me know MY breath stinks Me: Go get me my toothbrush girl.
/r/askMRP02/06/17 11:52 AM
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