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[–]Certifiedfamilylaw3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It doesn't get easier but it does get better
[–]SophisticatedDalek 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As in you still have to work hard but you actually start to reap the benefits?
[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes.
Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy
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[–]Shamlei1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You chose that pain the moment you kept reading TRP when everybody on the internet told you it was pure cancer.
It might or might not get easier, we might all be lying to you, maybe you were destined to stay miserable your whole life.
Winning isn't always the goal of fighting, after some time working on improving yourself you will notice that there's no going back, no matter how hard it gets or how lonely you are, the short high that gives any drug in the world won't be enough to make you forget about how shitty your life is.
Humans aren't made for happiness, we thrive on pain, because that's when we feel really alive, when we're hurt.
Embrace the pain instead of running away from it, not as something bad but as a challenge that you are happy to overcome.
[–]RampantPornAddiction 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
18-21 is tough. The so called 80/20 rule is much more real. Plus you're competing against older men who have their shit together. 21-25 can be easier. The 80/20 shit is less prevelant, but you're still probably broke and living with your parents (the average age when people move out is actually 26). You'll at least have a full time job, more friends (maybe), and you'll be more of a man with more to offer.
[–]FattiesMakeMeGag0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree, but I feel if you're in the top 20%, 18-21 is so easy. I'm 20 right now and have no problem with girls.
[–]Pitchfork51 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I fratted it up that age and honestly find it easier to actually get laid from 26-28 so far.
I missed 24-26 in an LTR.
There were more girls when I was younger but a lot more competition and they didn't want a bad rep.
I mean I banged more girls then on a monthly basis for example but it took a bit more logistics and crap.
Now it's like oh you like me? Well come over?
[–]BurnerTRPask0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
You'll learn to not give a shit.
Right now, your focus is clearly sex. Focus on you, and keep improving.
It also seems like your confidence is shot. You're pitiful because you think you are. Another reason to focus on yourself even harder.
[–]SophisticatedDalek 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
Ya that's the plan. Goal for the next 3 years is to graduate and hopefully get a good paying job and be obese level bmi while still low fat (currently just breaking the overweight barrier). To be honest my main motivation recently has been that if I can get that job after graduating then I'll no longer feel so limited by money which has been something I've felt all my life and will also have more freedom of movement capability which would give access to girls from anywhere in the world. Which I've discovered already I do well with Dutch, Polish, and Asian girls much more so than American...
The main problem is these three years though. I much more enjoyed working than school this shit sucks. Can't even afford car insurance at the moment D: And I don't know what to do about the hornyness. I can literally wack off a dozen times a day and it won't go away.
[–]Shamlei1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Your future is based on women 100%.
Reading you It's like all your ambitions exist so you can have women.
Make a real plan about what you would like to do in your life (Location, job, hobbies anything) and do it as if women didn't exist.
When you get a full picture of the life you want , make a plan to get there, then each time a bitch comes around grab her by the pussy.
[–]SophisticatedDalek 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Eh to be fair I did choose my school based on it being a good location for tech. My main ambition in life honestly is to not have to worry about money and then save up enough as fast as possible to not even have to work if I didn't want to (though I probably would still in some capacity). Basically largely /r/financialindependence. I basically want freedom from being owned by anyone... whether that's the business you work for (who you rely on for income), parents (who you maybe have to live with or ask for financial help from), or anything really. Then I'd like to work on a cool project(s)... not sure what exactly that is right now though.
But that being said ya it is kind of annoying to never get girls... that's pretty shitty. Hell isn't the main reason /r/trp advocates lifting because it makes you more attractive to girls? I doubt the main reason is that everyone there plays a sport that requires the specific muscles they're building or because they need it to help with combat or something. Ya they look cool as well but I imagine it wouldn't be suggested as hard if girls weren't into them at all.
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[–]Shamlei0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You can do all of that for girls, but remember one thing ; if you don't get them you'll be unhappy.
That's why you feel like shit right now, you're fixated on girls. If you don't have girls in your life right now you have bigger problems then.
Work on creating a social circle and becoming the leader, work on your career, create a business maybe ect...
What trp teaches mainly is that girls are attracted by high value men, so get those muscles, money, social value, hobbies ect...
[–]SophisticatedDalek 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
True. I think what you're trying to get at is if I don't feel good about myself then no girl would either. For me feeling good about myself would be to not have to worry about money anymore, have the ability to not be really stuck in one place (not even having car insurance is a problem here), and also have a really good muscular build, which I still feel like I'm not quite there yet. If I was the type of person that could feel comfortable without the above things, then maybe I'd have less problems with girls even now, but that's just not who I am and so I'll have difficulty attracting girls (especially the types that I'd be interested in or that would potentially be interested in me) until I am there.
So I should use the next 3 years of university (and maybe a bit after while transitioning into my career) to really focus on getting to that point without feeling depressed about my current situation since I have no control over it and feel good about myself that I'm at least doing everything I can to work on it (studying a useful major I enjoy a lot, lifting weights, etc.) and if a girl gets interested in the meantime then great, but I shouldn't be putting focus into girls but rather the things that will get me to a point where I feel comfortable myself and that will put me in a good position long run where I legitimately feel awesome at which point girls would be more likely to chase after you rather than you having to because you're the best and don't need the girl, but she can stick around if she wants because hey I think she's cool.
Here's what people don't realize.
Even the biggest alphas in the world spend time focusing on the places to be and what to say and how to bring home chicks.
Because they like getting laid.
Most people that are best at it have a plan in place.
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