Does it get easier??

tsargorgi · 2017-10-01T01:37:32+00:00

It'll become more natural like a habit. But it's always work. The type of work will change. At first it's discipline to a routine. Then commitment to the routine despite whatever other changes might happen. Your pain tolerance must increase. Do not look for the easy way out. Do not think you just don't have it. You have to make yourself to have it.

Entropy-7 · 2017-10-01T10:12:47+00:00

Assuming you work a regular job you have maybe 40 hours a week to work on yourself or relax/recreate.

In terms of fitness, you only need to hit the gym 4 hours a week. What is more time consuming is shopping for and preparing healthy meals. Depending on your hobby and your work commute, travel time can be a time-suck. But really, do the math: each day you have 8 hours of work, an hour in the morning, an hour for lunch, and hour for dinner and a two hour commute both ways.

With 8 hours of sleep that leaves you 3 hours each week night and then two 16-hour days on the weekend. Even with travel time and a shower/sauna your workouts shouldn't take up more than two of those hours. Then choose one skill to work on for an hour each night, or a book to devour.

Don't take on too much, however and leave room for down-time.

The etymology of "relax" and "recreate" are important. In the first case you have a cycle of working it and then taking it easy: you go taut and then you go lax and when it comes around again you RE-lax. In the second case, you wear yourself down doing all the shit you need to do or should be doing and then you RE-create yourself to prepare for the next cycle.

It's age and context dependent. As a 19 year old I had a full university course load (21 hours in-class and another 15-20 hours reading or independent/home-work), and I was on the fencing team and debating team, and I was studying karate, and I was in the army reserves, and partying 3 nights a week, and Saturday was "game day" with my buddies. Sunday afternoon was downtime and Monday night was dealer's choice. All of this while having a 4.0 GPA.

One key was that I essentially went MGTOW. Not chasing pussy, not worrying about getting laid and not dealing with all the collateral drama freed up a lot of my time to do other things. When I say I was "partying", it was with a mixed-gender crowd but I just didn't bother with the SMP/RMP.

Now at 50, I am turning into a fat, lazy, old fuck and I really need to turn things around. I only work about 20 hours a week, my commute is 3 minutes, I have access to cafeteria as part of my contract, and I am in an LDR (we will get married in November and then she will join me around Christmas time) so I don't have a woman taking up my time. I just don't have the energy or motivation right now, part of it no-doubt being T-level and part of it just being world-weary.

I gather the OP is somewhere in the middle between 19 year-old me and 50 year-old me and dealing with the personal logistics of running at full steam, even for a single week.

nomyconcept · 2017-10-01T14:49:14+00:00

Learn the power of habit. Sub r/thexeffect is very nice for starting out.

Once something is your habit it is not "being busy" it is just you living your life. So when you cook something you clean up while doing so and after. You start a washing machine every day so you always have fresh laundry and hang it up when you are back home. You go to the gym work out because that is what you do.

Right now you are comparing your life to your before status quo. Once you've been doing it for a while it is just normal everyday life.

yarkur · 2017-10-01T12:25:54+00:00

It gets easier. Every day it gets a little easier. But you got to do it every day. That's the hard part. But it does get easier.

_the_shape_ · 2017-10-01T01:45:21+00:00

I wanted to test what it was like to actually work on myself for a week to see what all that entailed. Kinda "see what im getting myself into" type of thing.

A single week...

Next week, see if you can get down to 5% bodyfat and chisel out a six pack, again in a single week. Feel free to report back with a 'defeated' post if you don't.

Title	Does it get easier??
Author	JeffreyDoe
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	October 1, 2017 1:29 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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