Doing great yet no rarely getting second dates?

Triadis3 · 2017-03-01T13:41:11+00:00

You're probably causing some cognitive dissonance.

If you're out getting laid first time every time then you are probably both exuding fuckboy status and selecting girls who are looking for a fuckboy.

Then if you get all beta and intimate an hour after getting naked and sweaty, the girl doesn't know what to make of this and bolts.

Hell, even if you don't get all snuggly and do each others' hair, the girl who is in it for a hookup often gets her needs met and then is "on to the next one".

So, like everything, the answer is up to you... do you want to continue to have ONS, look for a relationship, or spin plates?

The amount of beta sprinkles (TM) you need is different for each scenario.

SuchPressure · 2017-03-01T13:51:07+00:00

My guess would be that you open up to much to them. Mystery plays a big part in attraction. Keep some stuff for yourself.

Cuddling only makes this worse. You are telling her that you need her. You don't, you have 3 more like her waiting for you.

No mystery, female attitude,.. nice when you are with them, but it won't make their hamster run wild thinking of you.

Keep the personal info you share to the minimum, cut the cuddling, and don't push to hard for the second date. Give it a try and let me know.

Hviterev · 2017-03-01T17:04:05+00:00

Kick them out after you fuck

BestSC86 · 2017-03-01T15:47:53+00:00

Well something isn't right....

Maybe it is because the Op is clueless about what is actually going on in these "great" date.

So see if this makes any sense to anyone...

Op claims that his first dates are all GREAAAAAAAAAT!
Op always has sex with every single girl......
Op claims that the sex is GREAAAAAAAAT!

Yet when he tries to set another round of GREAAAAAAAT dates\sex, the girl turns him down?

Are we going to believe that that a string of girls are all going to just want to skip these great dates and fuckings? OR is more likely that these GREAAAAAAT things are really just meh and the Op isn't reading the signs.

About the beta thing which is the common reason given by TRP...I would agree if he is suddenly showing her wedding dresses and talking about lifelong looooooove but if it is just cuddling that is nonsense. Even hookup girls want post sex comfort unless Op is dealing with real sluts or prostitutes.

It is more likely that the dates are boring and the sex is meh otherwise at least a couple would come back around for a second fucking.

poochman · 2017-03-01T17:30:03+00:00

Are you getting these girls off Tinder/Online? I had this same exact problem when I was on Tinder. In my opinion, tinder girls are much much more likely to fuck you and chuck you because they have a gazillion Chad matches they are waiting on, especially the hot ones. They also are more slutty for the most part (in my experience), and any relationship/needy vibes will send them running even after fucking you. Once I switched to in person approaching only, the 2nd date issue went away for the most part.

Also, my problem in my early years was that I texted them and pursued the 2nd date too quickly as well after I fucked them. If you fucked them right, they should be the one reaching out to you. Go radio silent on text until they do this, but it doesn't seem like you have this problem.

SeamusAwl · 2017-03-01T13:29:40+00:00

If you are not getting second dates and yet are having sex with them, them I suggest you learn how to have better sex. You suck on bed if a girl doesn't want you again. Read Sex God Method.

Title	Doing great yet no rarely getting second dates?
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Date	March 1, 2017 12:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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