Drugs and Frame Question

AnyDoughnut · 2019-01-24T14:50:20+00:00

If you cannot perform adequately without drugs/booze you have a problem that you need to work on. Overcoming phobias and anxieties can be difficult, and there is no easy way to make them go away. You just need to repeatedly put yourself in social situations without drugs/booze and face your fear continually. If you do that a number of times your fears and social anxiety will go away.

Though despite what I wrote, I am all for a little bit of alcohol and mind altering substances to loosen up and enhance intimacy, but not if used as a crutch.

Caper67 · 2019-01-24T18:06:19+00:00

If I had a dollar for every time I've seen a fella doing good with a woman while early in the night only to absolutely blow it up like the fucking death star because he kept pouring the alcohol down his throat, id be rich. My past self included.

Like AnyDoughnut said, if you need any substance to mask and buffer more serious underlining issues than it's a big problem. Most young people obviously use alcohol as a form of "balls" to finally approach women but the problem most of the time is that by the time they finally drink enough to have the balls, they're all ready too gibbled to be anything resembling appealing.

Just get desensitized to the things that you need to overcome and one day you'll wonder why you ever needed substance to do it.

Mind you, I still have a social drink on the weekends ( water vodka lime ) But it's been quite a while since I've considered myself "drunk."

I can't drive drunk, I can't walk drunk, I can't play my guitar drunk, I can't grapple when I'm drunk, I lack basic motor skills when I'm drunk. So gaming women isn't going to be any different despite that drunk mental belief that you're a walking Don Juan when you're really a Jim Lahey or a Frank Gallagher.

mitch_flow · 2019-01-24T18:40:26+00:00

If you think it's hard holding frame sober, on weed you will be chaff in the wind. There's a reason it's taken 80 years to get it legal, in general devout hippies were not strong alpha males.

Title	Drugs and Frame Question
Author	sosex1992
Upvotes	0
Comments	4
Date	January 24, 2019 2:22 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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