ELI5: Shit Tests

Pushnikov · 2014-07-21T20:20:58+00:00

Shit tests are artificial social constructs. They are based on some people's inherent views of social status. For women, they can't separate the idea that you are alone from always being judged by the group, even if no one is watching. It's why women can be so hard on themselves about shit that no one saw or cares about. There is some mystical almighty force that makes them think everything they do is judged by everyone at all times.

So, they naturally expect other people, specifically men, to be the same way. So, when you are with a woman, imagine you are in front of a huge group of people when she says shit, and you will understand how she expects you to act. Would you let a five year old girl angrily tell you to do something in front of a crowd of people watching you like you're the center of a tv reality show? No, you'd laugh at the little girl. Same applies for all shit tests. As men, we understand privacy, so you think that when you are alone with a woman you can be "yourself", "explain yourself", and so on. These are all shit test fails, because she expects you to constantly be acting like you are being judged by anyone and everyone.

When you have some intimacy, you can open up and "show vulnerability", but you have to realize this is just a show - and in the end the crowd is still watching in her mind, but as the star of the reality tv show you are giving some rare insight into your existence. Then you're back to a woman's full solipsistic reality tv show.

redpillshadow · 2014-07-21T17:55:09+00:00

Shit tests are fitness tests. Women need a way to find out whether the male before them is a suitable partner or not. Shit tests are not the only way to check that. Social proof, body language, pre-selection, status are other indicators.

She needs to know whether the man is worth leading her. If she is able to break his frame with a simple question then a lot of other people are able to do so. He is a follower and below her. Not worth her affection (if he has beta bux he still could be worth her time though).

Enphuego · 2014-07-21T23:41:19+00:00

It's like kicking the tires on a car. If the car can't even take that, it must be a shitty car and you don't want it.

Title	ELI5: Shit Tests
Author	Mans_Right_To_Choose
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	July 21, 2014 5:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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