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Kids - doesn't really have much relevance. You'll find that solid frame carries over into parenting. Shit tests - ain't going away any time soon. Don't plan on your wife changing - you are the one that needs to change. It's most definitely not going to go over well with your wife (according to her words), but I highly recommend you ease into it and only work on yourself for 6+ months. Sex - One way or another, you are going to be getting a lot of sex in the future. It might be with your wife, or…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/06/15 12:22 AM
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As if you're saying open marriages are only for the 'big boys' Well if your SMV sucks, your wife is going to be able to pull all the dick she wants while you'll have a hard time finding a woman. Most women are chasing the commitment and you've obviously got none of that to offer. Plus, they could go fuck someone hotter if they just want dick. I've seen it in action and it can be difficult for the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 10:10 PM
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That's a glaring red flag. My wife's friend cheated and got divorced and now she doesn't care to hang out with her. Her friend doing it brings it to "normal" and socially acceptable.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/15 12:30 AM
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Well in that case, mothballs in your vacuum bag will help with the fleas.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 04:04 PM
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There's a lot going on there in your post. Your frame is non-existent, your wife treats you like a kid and you struggle with self confidence. The ultimate goal is to internalize the process - meaning that it's far better and easier to be the guy you want to be than to pretend. Women also are pretty good at spotting when a person's behavior is inconsistent and will shit test it immediately. I'd just pick one item at a time and work on it, it's going to be a long journey. I wouldn't bother with an…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 12:22 AM
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Are you hurting for money? Just pay someone to take care of the pest problem and be done with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/15 12:14 AM
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If she's got a friend in a similar situation they can trade off taking care of the kids on a regular basis.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 01:26 AM
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You don't need to lecture him. I imagine that he already feels royally guilty for fucking up his house, pissing off his guests, embarrassing his wife and worsening his situation. He got drunk, fucked up and caused some issues. He probably really is having money issues, but telling him what to do isn't going to help. Showing up and fixing it won't help him either. I'd call up and ask if he needs any help patching up the window. And then proceed to say absolutely nothing about the events. If he wa…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/15 12:21 AM
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I don't know what branch you are in, but in the Air Force we had a First Sergeant (it's a job, not a rank) that served as an advisor to the troops. I'd speak with someone in charge about your problems with your wife and ask for advice. If you do go down the divorce road, you should let them know about that before you announce it to your wife. Basically you are poisoning the well here - if you wife claims abuse or tries to get you into trouble at work, you'll have documented complaints about her …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/15 10:09 PM
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educating her on what people view as 'boy things' philosophy, engineering, simple home/car maintenance While it's certainly desirable that everyone have some baseline competence in those areas (your son is learning to cook right?), I have to wonder if its going to cause her difficulty later. Will she be pissed her husband can't change the oil in the car? If she's capable of doing "manly" better than most men, perhaps you've built a leader and that may not be what makes her the happiest in a rela…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/15 07:35 PM
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You can communicate the same point without using words that are disrespectful. Including a word she's probably going to find offensive just escalates the situation without anything gained.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/15 07:19 PM
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In my marriage I feel like my wife is also a mirror of her dad, and her dad fucked it up big time. Although it is perfectly possible that I'm just a shitty leader.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/06/15 04:36 AM
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Mother's Day was a month ago. Just don't mention it and move on. You are so wrapped up in what your wife wants that you've failed to included a single bit of information about what you want. Everything you've done is a reaction to something she's done. What do you want to do this weekend?
/r/MarriedRedPill05/06/15 10:40 PM
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Why do you think that acknowledging that your woman might cheat means you don't trust her or will spend your life worrying about it? Is it possible that my wife will cheat on me? Sure. Probable? I'm doing my best to make it improbable. Do I waste my time checking up on her or worrying about it? Not at all. If she does cheat on me, I'll either find out and kick her out and get a new woman or not find out and it won't really matter. If you are miserably paranoid over that prospect then it speaks t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 10:28 PM
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The equivalent for men would be to say that men will always fuck a hot, young woman that makes herself available. Sure you can find plenty of guys that will manage to turn down that 19 year old hottie in the red dress, but everything about their biology will be pushing the other direction. Even the most moral of guys might fail to temptation.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 06:49 PM
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You sound a lot like me. I've worked through most of those challenges (and still working through some of them) and maybe we could bounce some ideas off each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 02:36 AM
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Can you learn to laugh at it? It's got to be at least a little bit funny.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 01:19 AM
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I'm going to guess that your wife snooped, read some Red Pill material and thinks that your tactics are "abuse." She probably got confirmation with discussions with her mother. I'm not really sure where to go from there, but it's interesting that she came home. If you were so abusive that she needed to lock the door, why would she return? Just to cover the obvious - have you ever hit her?
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/15 12:59 AM
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First of all, thank for your writing the Surrendered Single and the Surrendered Wife. Both books really shaped the relationship that I have today. Your book outlines the same strategies my mother has intuitively used to create a happy and healthy marriage of 35 years. Before reading, I didn’t always understand their dynamic, but now it makes sense and I hope to follow her footsteps. Your writing has also helped me realize that being feminine is okay and traditional gender roles often do work bes…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 11:46 PM
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I wrote that the wrong way I guess. I meant that she should call the power company tomorrow to have it canceled on some date in the future. I suppose she could ask him when he'll have it cleared up and then call to have it canceled on that date. He basically knows that if he lets shit hit the fan, she'll come and fix it. I'm suggesting that she let shit hit the fan, shrug and say "I'm not worried, I'm sure you'll fix it." Nobody died because the lights were out for a day or two or their credit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 11:21 PM
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I deleted the previous comment because I didn't read your comment well. Still you are treating the symptom rather than the disease and you could always go find a boyfriend.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:43 PM
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You can just point the DNS on your router through OpenDNS and turn on logging.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:41 PM
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So basically, your husband has never been a responsible person? I'd have him deal with it. Set a deadline, tell him to let you know how much he needs to pay what he owes and the deposit. Give him the money, schedule the power to go off in a month and then wait. Now you need to walk a fine line here - let him deal with the natural consequences of his action or inaction but remain supportive. If the power is off for more than 24 hours, you get the kids and go to a hotel until it gets turned back o…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 10:21 PM
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I'm not sure that spying is the answer to her problem - it seems to violate his privacy and what would she do with the information anyways? Knowing he is looking at porn does nothing to fix her problem. Besides that, spoiler alert, he's looking at porn and getting off when your not at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 09:08 PM
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In order to protect my credit, I took control back while I tried to figure things about. Well then you didn't follow the advice in The Surrendered Wife. Transfer the bills to his name and then let him fuck up his own credit. As for the sex, I've had exes that wanted sex more than me and it can get annoying. It's a normal thing that can happen and I've got no clue what you should do about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 09:01 PM
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As for the financial: Even though you make $200k, there's no requirement that you live like you make $200k. If you are tired of working, you could live like a person that makes $50k and be done working in 7 years. Also, living off of $50k might mean that your husband has a fighting chance of being able to support you if you want to switch roles and your kids aren't going to grow up accustomed to an expensive lifestyle. You don't need to ask your husband, you can just set the budget and be done w…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 08:58 PM
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Not really. Last week I gave her some specific tasks and she knocked those out. She gets easily frustrated and tends to do a crappy job when she doesn't feel like doing it. In her defense, she's been doing chores really well and she works a full time job as well.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 12:16 AM
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After I watched a TED Talk about Agile for families I decided to give it a go in my family. There was a bit of a struggle with pulling my wife along with it, but since there's no real set objective to the family meetings, there's really nothing to fight about. We just discuss "What worked last week, what didn't work last week, what do we want to work on this week." A theme of mine recently has been developing healthy routines so I mentioned that chores around the house wasn't really going that w…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/15 12:11 AM
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I'm so tired. I feel like I work all day at my job, then come home to do chores, then hit the weekend to work on projects for the house. I want to take some time to work on friendships and fun activities, but all I see is a pile of work waiting to be done. In reality, I probably waste quite a bit of time. I also need to work on scheduling a reasonable amount of work so that I don't get burnt out. I've been getting better at it, but there's still a long way to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/15 11:53 PM
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So she cheats on you, apologizes, then jumps immediately to kids? I'd wrap it up if you are going to sleep with her, it seems like she's a bit desperate to lock up the relationship situation. You should probably just walk away from this. Do you want a kid in 5 years?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 08:21 PM
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Pick a program and start doing it. If you want someone to choose for you, here you go: Starting Strength, track your calories with MyFitnessPal, eat 500 calories below maintenance. Keep doing it until it stops working.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 08:15 PM
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My major breakthrough was understanding that women do the choosing. It's far more effective to show up, be attractive and then scan the room to see who is noticing you. If you are walking up to a woman that has zero interest, it's an uphill battle. My advice is just to socialize, sit back and observe. After a while it will be painfully obvious which women are into you.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 05:23 AM
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The problem with video games is that they give you a sense of accomplishment when you haven't produced anything. Don't let it be a replacement for real accomplishment. I did a cost/benefit analysis years back and found little benefit with a high cost in terms of time.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/15 01:01 AM
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Ideally she'd be mad at the woman, not you. I would have feigned obliviousness "Really, you think she was interested?" or deflected her anger towards the situation "Well it's not my fault all these women keep hitting on me." Some of the reason she was mad was probably your seeming interest in the girl.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 08:36 PM
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Gossip and chatting about TV are the way we discuss topics that are too controversial to discuss directly. For example, discussing a politician that cheated on his wife is a good way of finding out what others think of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/05/15 04:47 PM
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Just go slow. You want to exercise a nice slow fade that's built on an internalization of the concepts. This isn't PUA where you can get good enough with the script to fake it for long enough to get a girl to bang you. Your wife will see and notice the changes and if it happens too fast it can rock the boat in a bad way.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 09:56 PM
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If we look at this from your wife's perspective, she went to the mall to do the thing you asked, bought you a cookie and took care of her responsibility for the dishes. You proceeded to point out she was overweight, told her she was in a bad mood before retreating to play video games and making comments about pregnancy. You failed to reward her for any of the things she did right and didn't do anything to help her mood. I probably would have suggested she go for a walk and make sure she ate some…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/05/15 07:30 PM
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Well things aren't antagonistic, it's just that she tends to be so focused on her needs in the immediate term that she's not paying any attention to what I might need. In short, I'd say you can best describe her behavior as selfish. An example might be if you get up and grab a glass of water during a movie - you might ask your partner if they want anything while you are in the kitchen. I used to do this but stopped because my wife never returned the favor. In fact, she'd deliberately wait for me…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 04:59 PM
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A homeless person asks you for a dollar. You refuse. The homeless person begins to argue with you about it. What do you do? Do you try to convince the homeless person that you are right? Do you give in and give him a dollar? Would you spend a couple hours of your day debating it? Are you going to be up at night thinking about it? The answer is none of those things. You are going to continue on doing what you are doing because it's just a waste of time to do otherwise. The homeless man has zero p…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 04:45 PM
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You shouldn't have expected your wife to be impressed. It's about you not her and you should act like it. Invite a few friends out for drinks to celebrate your new raise and invite her along as an afterthought (although at this point I wouldn't invite her if she's going to be a wet blanket). She knew you'd blow up if she pushed the button, so she pushed it. I would have come home, told her that I'm switching jobs to a new one and that me and a few friends were hitting the bar for drinks to celeb…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/05/15 04:08 PM
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Not returning the favors doesn't do jack - if this were some version of game theory where two players play mean/nice cards, you need your partner to at some points play nice cards. If everyone is stuck in a tit-for-tat loop of playing mean cards no one benefits. I can play the mean card and deny her favors all day, but unless she's going to change her behavior it's pretty pointless.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 09:36 PM
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My situation is tough to figure out. My wife is always demanding/begging for favors but she does nothing that could be considered a favor. I'd reward good behavior - but what is there to reward? There's plenty of sex going on.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 06:38 PM
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http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder Quite frankly it gets me nearly every winter and I have to be proactive about getting sun and taking a vacation or two.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 03:40 AM
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Season is a big one. Many people get mildly depressed in the winter. It can be improved with exposure to sunlight and some types of light.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/15 01:50 AM
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I just change the light bulb because the bulb burnt out and I like living in a well maintained house. What else do you need for motivation? Unless my wife is actively working in the opposite direction of my goal (like cluttering up the house) it doesn't really matter much to me. She'll help if she wants to and if she doesn't value it, chances are that later on she'll figure out how much nicer the place looks.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 10:07 PM
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You don't need to justify your actions. If you tell someone no, and then don't give a reason there's literally nothing to argue about. The more you attempt to justify your decision, the weaker your position looks. If your wife tells you that you are selfish, shrug your shoulders, say "OK" and then change the subject. You are being selfish.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/15 08:16 PM
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Keep in mind that 90% of the flak about hookers having STDs is just women shaming the women that fuck up their sexual marketplace and the guys that are getting laid.
/r/TheRedPill24/01/15 09:23 PM
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Prior to TRP I'd done a bit of weightlifting in high school and more recently about a year and a half of CrossFit. The high school weightlifting had a decent effect, but the CrossFit gains weren't anything to write home about, although I'm partially to blame because I simply wasn't eating enough to gain. After TRP, I got serious about it. I went over to /r/gainit, got on a real program and started tracking my calories like a hawk. The results from this round are impressive. In fact they seem unr…
/r/askTRP11/09/14 04:58 PM
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Well I don't let her run around wild with my checkbook buying shit. I took off some for utilities and food, but if I was single I'd live in the same spot and have mostly the same bills. Plus I get fucked a lot.
/r/TheRedPill11/09/14 03:22 AM
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It wouldn't really make sense from the government's point of view. The mandatory paternity test would cost money, delay the production of a birth certificate and put more newly single moms on government assistance.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 10:21 PM
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I felt ashamed of the actions of one from my gender Don't bother. It's not your job to answer for them. If anyone should be ashamed, it's the women that engage in shitty behavior.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 10:01 PM
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Society shouldn't look down on those that accumulate massive amounts of personal wealth, so long as it was gained through voluntary trade. You see Bill Gates with $81B of personal wealth and think "he removed $81B from the economy." It couldn't be further from the truth - by necessity he must have provided more than $81B worth of goods and services to the economy. The wealthiest are generally the people that have already contributed the most to society and they should be honored based on that al…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 10:00 PM
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That's true, mine doesn't count what I'd lose if I got divorced.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 09:08 PM
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Hmm $13 CPI by my calculations. If I counted the tax reduction from being married, I'm probably getting paid to fuck my wife. Are there really guys with a CPI ahead of $100?
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 08:56 PM
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Do you have a link? That sounds hilarious.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 06:46 PM
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I read Ayn Rand as a teenager too, and it really helped me shrug off the chains implanted by religion, family and society. If you reread it as an adult, you'll start to see the detractors point a bit. It's a bit of a black and white word where you've got producers and looters and everyone fits neatly into one category. It appeals to emotion heavily and gets a bit repetitive as well. It completely discounts altruism and charity and doesn't have any provision to deal with inequality of opportunity…
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 06:38 PM
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Charitable donation and investment is the responsibility of the successful capitalist You should take one step back on that statement. No successful capitalist needs to donate money to charity. They choose to and to no small extent they do it because society rewards it. If you change a gift into an obligation you'll find that no one is interested in providing it any longer.
/r/TheRedPill10/09/14 05:53 PM
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Your situation is far from hopeless. If you are 6'4" you've won the genetic lottery, now you just need to do something with it. At 21 you've got plenty of time to work on it.
/r/askTRP10/09/14 01:11 AM
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There is nothing quick and easy about this. Your success will be measured over months and years, not days. There isn't a magic formula that will get you laid tomorrow, but if you are continually improving the difference a year makes will be impressive. Eventually it will become an effortless part of who you are.
/r/askTRP10/09/14 12:44 AM
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Since time is a critical resource for you, don't spend it on areas that aren't likely to produce. I wouldn't drop Kate for a couple of weeks since she's the only one in your roster that's actually producing results. I'd hang out with Mary this week if you can manage it. Postpone any dates that aren't Kate or Mary if you are busy. You sound predictable though, which isn't helping your cause. Scheduling everything - boring. If you have a night off or some free time, invite a girl to come hang out …
/r/askTRP09/09/14 11:51 PM
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I doubt it has much of effect on the economy. He probably produces more in 40 hours than all the suck ups accomplish in 65. So long as he provides value in excess of the money he takes home, it's a net win for everyone involved.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 11:44 PM
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Your new nuke-from-orbit phrase: I'm disappointed in you (or the team). Clearly the dynamics in this group are fucked and it's on you to restore order. It seems as if the last boss tolerated or encouraged this kind of backstabbing. You can have a come-to-Jesus meeting about it ("I'm disappointed in this team because I've heard nothing but negativity since I've gotten here. We need to focus on the job at hand and work as a team"). Either that or you can let them into your office, let them vent an…
/r/askTRP09/09/14 09:12 PM
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Just block her and forget about it.
/r/askTRP09/09/14 12:03 AM
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Friends aren't exclusive like an LTR, so you don't need to find well rounded friends. Focus on what each friendship is good for, and enjoy those things with that friend. Find other friends that fill in the gaps that your current friends can't provide. If you find a friendship provides no value to your life, then go ahead and drop it. Your married friend might be great for hanging out with when you want a quiet night away from home. Your engaged friend and friends might be fun to hang out with wh…
/r/TheRedPill08/09/14 11:04 PM
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Seems like she didn't expect you to want to meet her parents and caught her off guard. She then reacted badly by telling you she didn't want to see them. Later she realized that her previous reaction sucked, so she changed it the next day. Then you refused to meet her parents so now her mind is in a WTF? state. She thinks she's fucked up, but then again fixing it isn't working either. It's not a shit test - do you want to meet her fucking parents or not? If you do, act like it. If you don't, act…
/r/askTRP08/09/14 10:51 PM
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I'd have my friend bump me so I "accidentally" spill a beer on them and then be extremely apologetic.
/r/askTRP08/09/14 10:21 PM
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This is going to be one of those twisted scenarios where you have to prove your innocence, and that will be difficult. In the court of law, you won't need to prove your innocence. You say nothing, get a lawyer and let him deal with it. In the court of your college campus, you are pretty well fucked unless you can prove it. You might try the "there is no evidence that I leaked it, I did not leak it and all we have is one person's word against another. Also, it could have been a third party, who k…
/r/TheRedPill08/09/14 10:18 PM
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You are so into her frame it's ridiculous. Who cares if she takes a while to text? Invite her to go do something you want to do, have a fun time and stop trying to impress her. If she's interested and you have a fun time, sex will likely follow.
/r/askTRP08/09/14 09:53 PM
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Just kick her out when she's already out of the house. Bag up her stuff and hand it to her on the street.
/r/TheRedPill06/09/14 02:20 AM
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Worst case, just find a 30s woman hitting the wall with a kid. The landscape is so parched for a woman post 30 that she'll be incredibly glad she's scoring an alpha at all.
/r/askTRP04/09/14 06:46 PM
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I kinda doubt it. Filling the world with attractive guys will just encourage the cock carousel and reduce the incentive for women to do anything to improve themselves. Meanwhile women will be getting plated like mad and we'll all probably be banging the same girl. The wall will be worse if all the attractive guys are playing in the younger pool and unwilling to commit. At least there will be plenty of sex.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/14 08:29 PM
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Slut shaming is the public humiliation of women that sleep around. I'd hope that you don't see advice around here that encourages you to call a girl out on it. That would be pointless and cruel.
/r/askTRP02/09/14 07:38 PM
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When you go to a party, don't get drunk if you want to get laid.
/r/askTRP02/09/14 07:44 AM
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I read the book. She kinda half-assed the experiment in my opinion since she her job was pretty scammy. She quit the experiment part way through because she couldn't handle it. Plus she's a lesbian and rather liberal so she sees things through a different lens. Overall it was a worthwhile read and was pretty interesting. I'd be really interested as to what would happen with a hetero woman that had to live out a full 6 months as a man.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/14 07:39 AM
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She's probably just curious as to how things turned out for him.
/r/askTRP01/09/14 03:01 AM
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Just focus on being fun and enjoying yourself. If you are good looking and having the time of your life, you'll just find attractive women on your arm. Just getting back from a hostel, last night went like so... Went out with one girl to see some sights along with two other guys and she was right by my side the whole time. Got back, met up with another girl that wanted to do dinner, ended up being just the two of us "it's a date then!" she says, get back and immediately asked if I want to go out…
/r/askTRP30/08/14 11:50 PM
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Can we go with the golden rule here? I've always told dates that didn't go well that I had a fun time, but wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship, then I ended contact. Be clear and don't give a reason (it just fucks with people's heads and leads to attempted negotiation).
/r/askTRP30/08/14 11:30 PM
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You feel deeply attracted to who she is and how she looks right now. If that were to change in the future, then you should be willing to walk. If you are willing to walk, you choose of your own free will to stay with her. If you are unable to walk, you stay because you need to. I'm sure your woman would prefer to be the woman you choose to be with.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 11:23 PM
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I didn't graduate from college and it's just a non-issue. Every once in a while I hear a girl friend or coworker talking about desiring someone with a college degree and I'll actually point out that I don't have one. It's like people can't even conceive of me not having a degree since I'm successful. It's actually amusing to watch how quickly they hamster it into not counting somehow. If really pressed on the issue, I just say that I had an opportunity to make a lot of money that I took instead …
/r/TheRedPill30/08/14 11:10 PM
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You aren't even close to your potential yet.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 10:22 PM
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"What? I'm not that easy. You'll have to beg for it.". Then keep instigating but toying with her so that she has to amplify instead of you. Like go in for the kiss, then stop right before you touch her and make her close the last inch. Or just get really into something and then at the last moment when she expects you to unsnap her bra or something just lose interest.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 10:20 PM
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She's just head over heels for you and not afraid to show it. I wouldn't worry about it. Enjoy the limmerance phase. You'll need to maintain some boundaries such as not during work hours or while out with friends and enforce them just so that you have precedent to keep boundaries later. If you go tired of responding just tell her that you are doing something and need to focus on it.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 07:57 PM
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In some cases it refers to a guy that for whatever reason stops giving a fuck and drops his beta behavior. You'll see it sometimes with guys that are just mentally done with a relationship. He stops doing a damn thing and then is baffled when his girlfriend makes a 180 in her behavior. Sometimes it also happens due to being drunk or completely focused on something else.
/r/askTRP30/08/14 07:45 PM
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You've got to talk to your boss about it. You start with the line "I'm trapped in an abusive relationship and my wife threatens to call you to report X, Y or Z if I do what I want to." Tell him that you are going to stand up to her tomorrow and he may get a phone call. Then when she threatens you, you hand her the phone, look her dead in the eyes and say "I fucking dare you to call him." She won't.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/14 01:28 AM
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Finally a feminist does something about the supposed patriarchy instead of just whining about it. It's probably doomed to failure, but at least I can respect that someone is standing behind their words. Let's just hope they don't turn it a huge joke trying to get some ratings out of it.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 11:32 PM
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I keep a list of tasks I want to accomplish for the day and another list of things I want to accomplish when I have time. If I'm bored, I check the list and see if there's anything I'd feel like doing.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 11:00 PM
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The shortcut way is to put yourself in really, actually scary situations with reasonable levels of safety. You'll be shitting bricks when you are climbing Half Dome in Yosemite or river rafting, but you'll be pretty safe. Military basic training is a pretty good place for this, but I wouldn't recommend giving up 4 years of your life. When you can hold your shit together and act through life threatening situations or a very angry TI yelling in your ear, you'll have no fear of a girl that weighs 1…
/r/askTRP28/08/14 10:55 PM
6

It's a shit test. Respond accordingly.
/r/askTRP28/08/14 10:41 PM
2

The conversation suddenly jumped from her weekend plans to cheating. When you get a random jump in a conversation like that it often reveals information the other person is hiding from you. Your weekend plans have nothing to do with cheating unless she's planning on cheating on you.
/r/askTRP28/08/14 06:48 PM
3

Are you sure it's a well thought out complaint? She may just be sick of doing chores right now. You could just take her out to do something fun. You could also sign her up for Yoga and remind her to go each day if you feel like she wants a hobby but doesn't really have the follow-through to get one.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/14 06:38 PM
2

Why would I argue about feminism when I could spend the time doing something I actually want to do?
/r/askTRP22/08/14 08:40 AM
1

You say it's unacceptable, then you accept it. Kick her out for a week and she'll get the picture.
/r/askTRP22/08/14 08:33 AM
1

Some questions for you: What evidence do you have that this girl your friend is dating is the steak? Has the relationship lasted for years? No one is saying that your friend is gonna get betafied in a year or less, or even that he will ever get betafied. We are just saying that he needs to hold frame like a motherfucker to make a LTR work. It seems like you are turning your desires for a relationship into some sort of evidence for a world that doesn't exist. If you wouldn't be happy with someone…
/r/TheRedPill22/08/14 05:56 AM
3

Don't switch your major. Engineers make more money up front and the market for business and finance is heavily saturated with few ways to objectively set yourself apart from everyone else. If you want to be rich later, it's actually incredibly simple. Save 50% of what you make, invest it using the Boglehead's investment philosophy and by the time you are 30 you'll be rich. When you hit 40, you can retire. For every $200k/year business owner there are 10 others that tried it and failed miserably.…
/r/TheRedPill21/08/14 05:22 AM
2

I usually see their eyes sweep my whole body. I wait for them to make eye contact and smile, they'll usually return it.
/r/askTRP21/08/14 05:14 AM
1

I'm just suggesting that you don't tell her to get a job, work harder, etc. That part is pretty obvious. A year from now she's going to think "barzerobar made me quit my business and find a job." Instead, I recommend that you just provide support - such as offering to help her put together her resume. In a year she'll think "barzerobar helped me find a job after my business failed."
/r/askTRP20/08/14 07:12 PM
2

"This conversation makes me feel uncomfortable."
/r/askTRP20/08/14 12:22 AM
0

Instead of being the bad guy, I'd let the natural consequences of the situation do the punishing instead of you. That way you can be "supportive" while the world gets the blame for her business going downhill. Do the books, say you can't afford to put any more money into the business and that she needs to sort it out. If push comes to shove, mention that if it doesn't make money, it's no longer a business.
/r/askTRP20/08/14 12:16 AM
2

http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/25/the-desire-dynamic/ Asking for BJs is just going to get you half-assed, occasional BJs. I'd just stop asking.
/r/askTRP19/08/14 07:25 AM
5

The consequences of leaving her on the street at night in a blackout drunk state are predictable. There's a high probability that she'd get robbed or raped. Personally, I would have called one of her friends to come get her. That's just me though. Once I drank with a girl on the train and she got ridiculously fucked up. I convinced the police to skip arresting her and delivered her to her boyfriend (boy was he pissed!). I'd do the same for a guy I met on the train. It's just a certain level of h…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 03:10 AM
1

She was at work and telling her coworkers that she was going out with some guy for drinks after work, but felt a bit uncomfortable going by herself. So her coworkers told her to pretend that she forgot a girls night out and they'd join her to make sure everything goes ok. She feels guilty about this deception, so she offers to buy you the first round. I'd go. Have a fun time, meet everyone and see where it goes.
/r/askTRP17/08/14 02:07 AM
3

If their actions don't match their words, I'd trust their actions. What happens when you escalate? Please don't tell me that this is at work.
/r/askTRP17/08/14 01:42 AM
4

I don't have a girlfriend, but I know a girl that would be really mad if she was hearing this conversation.
/r/askTRP17/08/14 01:40 AM
2

She was blackout drunk and leaving her there would be pretty irresponsible. He could drove down the block and then called the cops to pick her up I suppose.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:35 AM
1

They changed it a while back.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:33 AM
1

Getting a Google Voice number is free and it makes it painless to block numbers and send any unknown callers straight to voicemail. Anyone that is dating should have a Google Voice number.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 01:33 AM
3

"You need to lose 15 lbs." Worked on my wife. Well, she's loosing it anyways so I can report back in a month or two? Her telling you that you don't find her attractive is just a shit test to try to avoid the real issue - her weight. The real bonus is that she can't complain to her friends about your behavior without making it perfectly obvious that she needs to lose 15 lbs.
/r/TheRedPill17/08/14 12:58 AM
1

Tell the person setting you up that it makes for an uncomfortable date. If she wants you to meet her daughter, then have her invite you to a gathering where her daughter will be around. Bonus points if you ask her mom to tell her daughter to avoid you because you are trouble.
/r/askTRP16/08/14 11:36 PM
1

Oh, it gets better. If you get accused of anything on campus, the only competent legal strategy is to STFU. You can't defend because anything you say can be used against you in criminal proceedings. So you get sent into a university trial where you can't speak and your lawyer can't attend. Welcome to justice!
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 12:03 PM
2

I'm going to upvote you and disagree with you. Who gives a shit? It's just cum. If the depths of my sexual depravity disgust you, why would I care? If you are willing to do anything (and I guaran-fucking-tee you that I've heard of much worse) than it's not like women are going to find it a sign of weakness. By all means, don't kiss your girlfriend after you cum in her mouth if you don't want to. Just don't knock it if others do.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 11:50 AM
1

Perhaps he just doesn't want to work with OP. Honestly, I wouldn't want to see my friends at work all day.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 08:16 AM
3

20 years? If you've fucked once it's probably good for another go later on. Just don't waste any time on it.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 07:29 AM
1

I wouldn't have mentioned her going out at all when she came back.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 07:12 AM
3

She gave him a huge shit test that was basically "our" way or the highway and he dared mention the highway thereby invoking the Thermonuclear Dread.
/r/askTRP13/08/14 06:42 AM
1

I did some CBT a long while back. The counselor correctly identified ADHD as an issue. Some education and some new patterns and it's been a big improvement. My experience is that you need to go into counseling with specific goals. If you don't know what you want out of it, it's hard for them to help you! CBT can be pretty useful at helping you get rid of unproductive thought patterns. My counselor gave me homework and we met every other week which help extend the value of the sessions. I'd compa…
/r/TheRedPill13/08/14 04:06 AM
2

why pay 30$ for a pair of pants at H&M? The fit on your $8 WalMart pants are likely to cater to the 75% of Americans that are overweight. The cuts and fabric suck and it does you no favors. The best thing you can do for your wardrobe is make sure it fits right and it's unlikely that WalMart clothes will work. At least H&M cuts their clothes slimmer so that it looks decent on more athletic types, although I prefer Uniqlo for budget clothes since they last longer and are cut better for a minor inc…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 05:23 AM
3

When does she say this? What is the context? Treat it as if your wife said "I'm vaguely dissatisfied." and go from there. If you look at the context you should be able to figure it out.
/r/askTRP12/08/14 02:09 AM
6

First step is to secure your own financial independence. It would be pretty easy to put aside 80% of that and be "retired" with a six-figure income in 5 years. Even if you keep working, you don't have to work and it makes all the difference. Plus frugality is pretty much gold digger repellent. I wouldn't get married until then, you can wrap all that up under a prenup and it would ought to be off limits to any future divorces. If you aren't more experienced with women by then, you can quit your j…
/r/askTRP12/08/14 01:18 AM
3

Spend everything you make plus your future earnings via debt, retire at 65+. It's the dumbest idea I've ever heard.
/r/askTRP11/08/14 06:59 PM
0

Also, don't try to hook up with their friends. If you make it awkward for their friends to come over, your roommates will resent you. Instead, see if you can go out with them and use them as social proof to pick up other girls.
/r/askTRP11/08/14 05:12 PM
3

The solution to this scenario is simple. Take control of your finances and spend much less than you earn. Instead of paying for luxuries and convenience by trading the finite hours of your life for money, learn to do without and do it yourself. When you are putting aside half your paycheck into paying down debt or investments, you'll find yourself in a much different situation than the poor schlub above. http://www.mrmoneymustache.com/ might be a good place to start.
/r/TheRedPill11/08/14 05:08 PM
2

Eat her out first, It's going to be over in 2 minutes or less. Don't apologize.
/r/askTRP11/08/14 03:15 AM
1

There's got to be a better way to do that than to make it into a confrontation. Just tell him that his ex is poison and you don't want to be around her any more.
/r/askTRP07/08/14 11:15 PM
1

Why do it at all? Just fade the relationship out to zero over a couple months and then walk away.
/r/askTRP07/08/14 10:54 PM
1

I recommend buying fewer, but top quality, clothing items. For him, probably better to start with cheap while he works out what his style is.
/r/askTRP06/08/14 09:42 PM
1

/r/malefashionadvice and look through the Building a Basic Wardrobe. Works well if you live in a big city. Don't be afraid to just wear the "uniform" it works just fine and who gives a fuck if the fashionistas think it's generic.
/r/askTRP06/08/14 09:39 PM
1

Why would she tell everyone you asked for nudes? I don't see any logical end to that game plan. All you need to do is point out that she didn't need to send them and then she looks like a slut in front of everyone. Is it supposed to piss off her boyfriend? Alienate him from you? Is it just her guilt for sending them causing her to hamster that it's somehow your fault? I'd wait until she brings it up again in front of everyone and then say "Well, you didn't have to send them. Want me to delete th…
/r/askTRP06/08/14 09:35 PM
1

You can't negotiate desire. If she's not turned on, she's not going to be interested. Your best chance is to wait until she ovulates and see if she's more receptive then.
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 08:52 PM
2

You are doing the right things in the wrong order. She isn't going to respond well to dominance behaviors until she knows that you have a higher SMV than her and fears that you will leave her. It's not going to happen overnight, but at some point it's going to be pretty obvious that you have lots of options and the best option available to her is to do whatever it takes to keep you around. It takes a while. If you are countering 8 years of not being in control, it's going to take a while for her…
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 08:50 PM
1

http://annualletter.gatesfoundation.org/#section=home
/r/TheRedPill06/08/14 12:36 AM
3

"Fuck TRP for actually working." That's my quote. I don't hate TRP or the world or women, but the truth is quite ugly and it can be difficult to adjust to. Getting to the acceptance phase is just as difficult, because then you have to act on what you know. There's also no good guidance out here and a complete lack of moral framework. If my wife married me for BB and I have no need for her - do I just chuck her out of the house and get a divorce? Is there even a reason to stay? Before TRP I didn'…
/r/TheRedPill05/08/14 11:22 PM
5

The more you help them the more of them reproduce and the more of them the less food they have and the chance of violence increases greatly. That's demonstrably false. When the survival rate of children increases, birth rates plummet and population reaches a natural limit then begins to fall. I understand why you'd think what you do, but please stop spreading that myth.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/14 09:25 PM
19

Every time someone gives you a suggestion, you reply with an excuse. Do you realize you are doing this? How can you improve if you view everything as outside of your control? I already know why you don't have friends, if this is your attitude towards life no one is going to want to be around it.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 08:51 PM
7

Start pushing your limits. You should be doing something you are slightly afraid of doing every day. Get used to and be comfortable with a little fear. It's a sign that you are pushing just beyond what you can do and are growing as a person. At the end of the day social anxiety is an excuse. It may be valid, but it's still your responsibility to overcome.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 08:27 PM
3

Not allowed to do anything outside or too afraid to?
/r/askTRP05/08/14 08:20 PM
5

Lift, get a job, lift, avoid your house, lift, forget about changing your dad. Well maybe order the MMSL primer and stealth it into his possession while admitting nothing.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 07:50 PM
1

Why don't you try the MAP program from the MMSLP? Simple and effective.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 07:14 PM
1

Isn't that what you've been doing before? Is it working? How long have you been trying it?
/r/askTRP05/08/14 06:53 PM
2

Are you lifting? Do you feel like you are in charge of your destiny? Do women notice when you enter the room? It's really easy to do things like abundance mentality when you are literally surrounded by abundance. Amused mastery is a cakewalk when you don't feel the need to bend to others whims. Right now you are imitating alpha so it wears off after a while. A good place to start is by analyzing what you want out of each interaction and then holding true to that goal.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 06:51 PM
1

How are you going to find someone? What steps are you going to take?
/r/askTRP05/08/14 06:34 PM
1

That's not sexual harassment. Sexual harassment isn't usually a crime and involves using a position of power to derive sexual favors or create a hostile environment. It's work/HR/civil suit territory. What you are thinking of is sexual assault - groping her in her sleep probably falls in that category assuming that she didn't want it. Given that you were both half asleep, etc it's a case that's not going to go anywhere. If she does go to the cops, they'll call you in for questioning, you'll say …
/r/askTRP05/08/14 06:29 PM
1

You are 25 and presumably have been interested in women since you were 15. That's 10 years of trying and it hasn't worked yet. It's time to throw the old playbook away, it doesn't work. You obviously know it's not working since you are posting here, but you want to hold onto it anyways. Why don't you tell me what you are going to do to fix your situation if you know everything about it?
/r/askTRP05/08/14 06:07 PM
2

Just give it a week then text her like nothing happened. If she's liking your instagram picture two hours later, that means she feels like she fucked up.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 05:20 PM
0

Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. - Albert Einstein You've been holding up women as the meaning for your life for 10+ years now and haven't gotten anywhere. It's time for you to admit that it just doesn't work and do something different. Six months of hard core monk mode isn't going to make you any less laid then you are now. It's certainly preferable to suicide, that's not going to get you laid either.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 05:08 PM
2

The problem is that he can't get a girlfriend.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 05:08 PM
2

At some point it really sinks in that a woman's love will always be conditional and you can't rely on women to help when you need it. Then you might question the value of a permanent woman.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/14 04:46 PM
1

I know it's true on OKC, no clue on POF but it's a pretty obvious feature of a dating website.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/14 04:21 PM
1

See the thing is you are still in this mentality of words instead of actions. Don't talk about canceling it, just do it. She can't make you spend money, so you don't need to discuss it. Just stop doing it. Also make sure you prioritize any pre-marriage debt. If you divorce, it will have a 50% return.
/r/askTRP05/08/14 03:27 AM
15

Your results get filtered based on how attractive your photos are. So if all your results are fat chicks, that's because nobody clicks on your photos.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/14 03:11 AM
2

Do you have something constructive to add? Why does Starting Strength suck? Am I supposed to be disappointed with gaining 30 lbs a week on my squat? Seems to be working just fine for now.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 11:48 PM
3

Starting Strength takes like 30 minutes x 3 times a week and the results are huge. I did CrossFit for like a year (which is basically HIT) and I've gotten more results in two weeks of SS. I'm not really getting the benefit.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 11:35 PM
4

Hot Babe and then a score. It's a PUA thing as far as I can tell.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 10:18 PM
1

Been there, done that. No point in asking her to get a job - she'll agree to get a job but will make some effort but then she'll end up without a job. Words in this situation are meaningless. You sit her down and tell her that you've been setting some goals for yourself and identifying your priorities. You should have actual, thought out priorities in your life as well as goals that reflect those priorities. Share them with her. Then you tell her that in order to make your goals happen, you need…
/r/askTRP04/08/14 10:15 PM
2

Most of the fun is in the placing of your hand on her neck rather than the actual choking. You don't need it to be rough for it to be dominant. I've never left a bruise, it's harder than you'd expect. You'll definitely need to come up with some sort of way for her to signal that you need to let go.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 08:59 PM
3

Why not just opt out of any explicit sex for behavior exchanges?
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 08:36 PM
-2

Holy wall of text. So as we are fixing the bed I decide to sabotage the whole makeup from earlier. Dumb. You realize your mistake agreeing to her terms beforehand, but this isn't the way to handle it. If you don't want to fuck on her terms, then just get up and make yourself and sandwich or something. Or just enjoy the sex and reframe later. What exactly did you agree to? You probably could have gotten to the end point with less drama by just avoiding "the talk."
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 08:12 PM
37

My wife last week hops up top in bed and pulls out a move she claimed to be unable to master for years. When asked: she knew how to do it but didn't for 3 years because I'd ask her to do it. I almost facepalmed. Mental response: Really bitch? You are going to not do something I like in bed for years just because your too lazy to get on top and do some work? Why would you even admit to that? Now that some dread is on the table, what was off limits before is suddenly fair game? What else is she ho…
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 07:19 PM
1

I am sure that I never read any memorable news in a newspaper. If we read of one man robbed, or murdered, or killed by accident, or one house burned, or one vessel wrecked, or one steamboat blown up, or one cow run over on the Western Railroad, or one mad dog killed, or one lot of grasshoppers in the winter — we never need read of another. One is enough. If you are acquainted with the principle, what do you care for a myriad instances and applications? To a philosopher all news, as it is called,…
/r/askTRP04/08/14 07:03 PM
0

What happens when you take home a girl in front of her?
/r/askTRP04/08/14 06:51 PM
8

Just take this article, do the opposite and you'll be drowning in pussy.
/r/TheRedPill04/08/14 06:09 PM
1

My wife's dad was an unreliable idiot that ruined their lives. I'd definitely explore that line of thought, maybe if you can resolve the daddy issues you'll have more luck forming healthy relationships.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 07:02 AM
1

You sound like my wife. If you manage to find a guy Alpha enough to not take your shit, you'll bump heads all the time. He'll eventually roll over, next you or run hard dread until you've got no choice but to fall in line. This probably has a lot to do with how trustworthy your dad was. If he made shitty decisions, it's only natural that you can't trust men to make decisions. Also, remove your identifying info. It's not smart.
/r/askTRP04/08/14 06:39 AM
3

I wouldn't chit chat. Keep the conversation direct to the point of being mildly rude. I would have opened with "What do you want?". Then I would have said no or "I'm busy" to what she asked for. Who gives a shit how you handle this interaction? It's 100% unimportant.
/r/askTRP03/08/14 07:42 PM
1

I just meant that you shouldn't be surprised that she's flipping out. That was the plan. Start making your statements simple and direct. If she's telling you to apologize, you say "I'm not going to apologize.". Getting sucked into the argument ( you are still getting involved at this point ) is just going to make it last longer.
/r/askTRP03/08/14 02:41 PM
2

Forgot to mention - if absolutely backed into a corner, tell her that her behavior is childish and unacceptable.
/r/askTRP03/08/14 12:28 AM
1

You need to see the humor in it. This is funny, her following you around saying "we" need to make a decision when it's clear that you already have made one. Ignore the texts, don't even mention them. You don't even need to read them. Let her flip the fuck out and give it a good chuckle when she does. This is the essence of amused mastery. There's nothing she can do. The crazier she gets, the less likely anyone will side with her. Words are 100% unnecessary. You kicked the beehive in your bee-pro…
/r/askTRP03/08/14 12:15 AM
1

Theoretical question for you: What if tomorrow I decided to live with the morals of Jesus? Every time I was faced with a decision, I'd simply do whatever Jesus would do and carry on. After some years of this behavior, I would exhibit the behavior of Jesus without needing to particularly think about it. It would be a habit and my personality. To any observer, I would appear to be exactly like Jesus and for all purposes it would be true. At what point does it cross from an act to who you are? Reas…
/r/askTRP03/08/14 12:06 AM
3

Well whatever you do, don't tell people this. Let them live in their comfortable delusions about a "fast metabolism" and move on.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/14 11:43 PM
1

You've got to ease into it. You can just grab your balls back, regrow your spine and tell her to fuck off in a day. She needs time to adjust to the changes in the relationship, it's at least a 6 month to 1 year process.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 11:35 PM
1

You would have been better off just ignoring it like the shit test it was. She wasn't looking for a divorce, just trying to push you into compliance. A simple "No" would have sufficed.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 11:33 PM
6

Your mistake was not making it look effortless. Most people are allergic to hard work and don't want to be reminded that it's necessary for results.
/r/TheRedPill02/08/14 11:26 PM
3

The worst enemy of progress isn't failure: it's a comfortable, easy existence.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 02:25 AM
1

It's probably more about their relative attractiveness levels than libido. I had an ex that wasn't so much of a looker but she wanted sex 24/7 to the point where I was over it.
/r/askTRP02/08/14 02:24 AM
14

The real issue is that he doesn't just tell her the computer is staying and she can get over it. If he had done that to start, she would have been over it years ago.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/14 09:28 PM
2

It's not a shit test, it's a statement of fact. If she hasn't volunteered to make it up in other ways, it's because she either isn't that attracted to you or she figures you'll deal with what you get. Up your SMV until she's willing to do whatever it takes to keep you around and doing so turns her on.
/r/askTRP01/08/14 08:31 PM
4

I enjoy a lot of girly things too. I'm not going to change my preferences just to fit in a stereotype. Still, you've got to acknowledge the social image that some of these things convey. I wouldn't tell a first date that I can sew, cook and I'm oddly impressed by women that do their makeup well. Instead I'd go with brewing beer, backpacking or lifting weights, all manly endeavors that I enjoy. I wouldn't order a Cosmo at a bar if I planned on picking up girls or I'd at least have them throw it i…
/r/askTRP01/08/14 08:02 PM
2

Translation: I'm being nice to you, but you aren't being nice back to me. The fact that she wrote this means she's still highly interested, but doesn't feel like you are interested in her. It's a good sign that she knows her needs aren't being met and can identify what she needs. I'd reply with "I didn't know you felt that way. Any compliment I gave you right now would come across as insincere, so I'll just work on it in the future." There has to be something about her that is worth complimentin…
/r/askTRP01/08/14 07:44 PM
2

You can't make people change. At best you can point them in the right direction, but even that often backfires. Also, your parents aren't going to listen to you. There's a high chance it will all blow up in your face. The ones most invested in a world view are often those that are the most damaged by it. Just think about it from your Dad's point of view. If he goes redpill then he'll have to admit that he's fucked up for his whole life. Isn't going to happen. His brain will work like hell to mak…
/r/askTRP01/08/14 04:43 AM
1

What's wrong with just letting her talk? Ask questions and let her go on for a while. Change the subject if she starts getting repetitive. She's probably mildly attracted to Johnny and is processing the emotions by means of talking about it. That's a good sign, she's discussing it with you instead of hiding it. My wife does this all the time - she bounces ideas off people as part of her process of making up her mind. It's interesting to watch her plan or decision evolve as she gages the reaction…
/r/askTRP01/08/14 01:05 AM
1

His behavior probably didn't match his demeanor either. That sets off bullshit detectors like mad.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 05:33 AM
4

Prepare yourself for shit tests galore. A white girl might overlook you handling a shit test poorly, a black girl will try to tear your ass to shreds.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/14 04:54 AM
3

I'd just refuse to talk about it. If she wants to discuss her antics, she can do it with someone else.
/r/askTRP31/07/14 03:56 AM
1

I can't speak to the theory, but I have in the past used anger to drive a point home when it was being ignored. It was a tactic that was effective, but then again I had a lot fewer tools in my toolbox at that time. I would guess that very occasional, justified outbursts of anger could be useful in establishing boundaries that aren't negotiable and extremely important. It's not a tactic that I use
/r/askTRP31/07/14 03:28 AM
1

Date a Mexican or Irish woman? Tell her you want to have lots of kids.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 09:15 PM
3

Working out isn't going to do much to make her lose weight. Her weight is a simple equation of calories in versus calories burned. MyFitnessPal will sort her weight out guaranteed if she maintains accurate records. It's literally impossible to not lose weight if she follows the calorie recommendations and accurately measures her serving sizes. I recommend you buy a digital scale, they are cheap and make it really easy. Exercise can make her lose weight if she does so much activity that it erases…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 08:31 PM
1

Nobody's standing in your way. Do it.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/14 08:24 PM
1

Playing a sport is high status in high school. Obviously it's better to be a football player, but something like baseball should be plenty to get you laid. Just not lacrosse, cross country or golf - it needs to be a sport people give a fuck about.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 08:19 PM
2

I know that once I achieve enough I'll be able to go somewhere with my life. Be careful with that thought process. You'll never wake up one day and be done. It's better to think of self-improvement as a continual refining of yourself that will last a lifetime. If you aren't enjoying life right now, a change in your circumstances isn't going to fix it. Focus on being happy right in the here-and-now. That doesn't mean you ignore the future, you just have to enjoy the journey as well as the destina…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 08:11 PM
43

If I really want to stir up the pot: "What panties are you wearing right now? Your sexy date night panties or the crappy ones you wouldn't want anyone to see?" "Um, the sexy ones." "Interesting" Let the hamster out of it's cage.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/14 08:04 PM
3

"Why aren't you answering my question honestly?" "What question?" She repeats it "Oh, that one." Ignore "You look so hot when you're annoyed." "It's really killing you not to know, isn't it." "You know, you never addressed that..." "Sure didn't" All need to be delivered like you are enjoying torturing her by not answering her question.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 06:30 PM
2

Forgot to add - yes, she might leave you when she goes up to 7. That's the risk you take if you want to date a quality woman. It's also possible that she'll never feel quite like a 7.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 05:54 PM
18

I used the phrase "I didn't go out and buy a house and a bed in order to sleep on the couch when you get mad." She slept on the couch for 3 hours before returning and complaining that I was supposed to go get her.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/14 05:43 PM
7

Dread is probably pretty pointless here. She already seems attracted to you, you'll just make her neurotic. She may need guidance and encouragement for losing weight. If she's open to it, set clear goals with her and track her progress together. If she simply sets MyFitnessPal to -1 lb per week and tracks everything she eats, she'll lose weight in a healthy way.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 05:32 PM
1

Don't hit on them OR their friends. If you make it uncomfortable for their friends to come over, they'll get annoyed. Instead see if you can go out with them as social proof. If you are out at a bar with 3 attractive girls, you'll get plenty of attention.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 04:42 PM
2

I'd suggest you go find the MMSL primer and follow the MAP program. Work out, increase your SMV and see where that gets you. You've got time and she seems nice enough, but entering into a marriage where she's got little attraction and no sex drive would be a mistake. If she was enthusiastically giving you BJs, that would be a different story.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 04:39 PM
2

I exaggerated that I didn't say a single word, I was running game, it just didn't really involve talking. Also, don't underestimate the power of just being in the right place at the right time. I was sitting in the hot tub practicing building social rapport since that's a weak point of mine. There were a couple guys there and people in and out, I was chilling and drinking a beer. A younger guy hops in the tub - he's probably about 18 and black and scrawny as hell. I introduce myself, we chat a b…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 02:17 PM
1

It's probably because you waited too long to ask her out.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 01:50 PM
1

Honestly? I'd find it hilarious. She already tried making me jealous about the singer at the piano bar but trust me when I say my laugh was genuine. I don't have an issue with her finding other guys hot or guys hitting on her. It's the nature of the game and it's to be expected. It's just doubtful that she can get another high status man to commit. I'm not the jealous type and I'm not big on convincing girls that don't want to be with me to stay. I'm fine with her or without her, if she asked me…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 04:15 AM
1

She didn't see the leg wrap, I didn't encourage it and I made it clear that I was married and uninterested. She deals badly with stress and manages to get stressed over small workloads. I've been doing my best to up the beta so she can feel safe in the relationship. I've never said anything bad about her appearance other than I expect her to be as attractive as she can be. I've also been paying special attention to making her feel loved and that I'm attracted to her, which is the truth. I've bee…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 01:31 AM
1

The context should make it obvious that it's a date. You don't invite your female friends to go ice skating alone with you right? The more ambiguous the personal situation, the more obvious the date ought to be. Also, don't do dinner and a movie. Dinner can be long and awkward and the only good use for a movie is making out. Maybe drinks? Coffee? Museum? Feeding ducks in the park?
/r/askTRP30/07/14 01:12 AM
1

Sex has never been much of an issue, but its been less of late since there's more stress in her life. It's both purposefully induced stress - I made it clear that she needed to lose weight and seek a decent paying job as well as some situational stress like moving. I was getting laid an average of once a day, that's down to 3-4 times a week now that I refuse to accept duty sex. It gets to be a lot of sex for her, but then again it's been like that since we met.
/r/askTRP30/07/14 12:58 AM
2

So are the other girls checking you out or are you checking them out? Both? I'm not making it seem like I'm being actually desired, it's actually happening. In the first example, I didn't say a single word to the girl and she initiated by wrapping her legs around mine. I'm not paying her back for anything. She's just become hyper-sensitive to other attractive women. I'm not staring, but then again it's hard to gage where that line is since the observer (my wife) is hardly objective. If I catch a…
/r/askTRP30/07/14 12:16 AM
5

The female to male transmission rate for HIV is 0.01–0.38% for unprotected sex. Incidence rate in US females 19-25 is around 0.06%. College campus of 30,000 -> 15,000 women x 0.06% = 9 infected women x 0.25% chance of catching HIV = around a 2% chance of catching HIV after fucking your whole college campus raw.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/14 12:04 AM
9

when she says a 'soft no' then comes back for the D, refuse. Interesting tactic. Never even thought of doing that. I get a lot of soft no's.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 11:17 PM
4

I can't speak to anyone else's experience, but there was a real tipping point in my case. A move to a place with lots of younger women, a high quality haircut, some new clothes and gains at the gym pushed my SMV higher. I went from seemingly invisible to IoIs everywhere. That increased my confidence and gave me better abundance mentality which in turn has improved my SMV. There's a threshold you need to hit before the trickle turns into a flood and you just aren't there yet. I don't think it's a…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 10:39 PM
1

If he does that, he needs to have a drink with his guy friend and let her assume that he's with the girl. That way he can let her shitstorm get all the way up to nuclear before imploding it by providing a pic of him hanging with his friend. There's winning and then there's winning with style. The next time he goes out for drinks she's gonna have to STFU about it.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 09:04 PM
3

It's difficult to ride out dread game with someone you love. It's easy to lay the trap and watch it work, but it can be tough to stand quietly by as it devolves into an emotional train wreck that you caused.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 09:00 PM
19

No, that makes the mistake of putting what's already known into words.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 07:50 PM
2

Any time you find yourself worried about being beta, realize that choosing your actions based on the perceived reactions of others is as beta as it gets. Ask yourself what you want, and if it doesn't directly interfere with someone else's happiness, proceed in that direction.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 07:43 PM
1

Your actions should show clear intent, but your words should leave room for plausible deniability. Good: "I was thinking of going to the natural history museum this weekend, would you like to go with me?" The personal invite and no mention of friends should be clear signals that this is a date. Unless the girl is oblivious, she's going to get the hint. When you meet her there, give her a quick hug use a little incidental contact as you walk around, like touching her on the elbow to bring her att…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 06:37 PM
1

No response is just as much of a failure as a big reaction to it. It makes you look hurt and possibly vindictive. I don't think these are shit tests. She probably feels bad that she burned a friendship and is extending an olive branch by prodding you into talking to her. I'd accept the offer, just don't get wrapped up in her and you won't be an orbiter. You slept with her. Big deal. Act like an adult and keep a friendly, but mostly professional demeanor with her. Imagine how you'd act if you nev…
/r/askTRP29/07/14 06:23 PM
2

I'd ask for her phone number so I can text her if she's making too much noise. Then I'd tell her she can also text me if she'd like to make too much noise.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 05:22 PM
6

Honestly? I'd high five the girl with your buddy and then drop her as a plate immediately after. Your friend can't be trusted. His behavior is somewhat understandable, but you shouldn't rely on him to act in your best interest in the future.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 05:16 PM
1

It could also be intentional interference from your mutual friend. Is it possible that she's interested in you? Are you sure that the girl you are going on a date with orchestrated this?
/r/askTRP29/07/14 05:11 PM
-1

The overall goal here is to raise a daughter that is happy with her life right? Riding the cock carousel doesn't really hurt a woman's chances at a successful marriage so much, she can just pretend to be innocent later. I'd be rather unconcerned with restraining her sexuality. My main goal would be to raise a daughter that has value beyond her looks. Most of the post-wall horror stories are from women that have no value besides their appearance and discover too late that it takes years to develo…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 05:03 PM
1

I've gone on a date from OKCupid blind and had a great time. I wasn't interested in dating her, but we had a fun time and ended up becoming friends. Personality and the absence of pressure makes a date enjoyable.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/14 03:21 PM
3

Maybe work on that then.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:24 AM
2

You aren't her priority. That's the message. Congratulations on getting the memo, now you learn to deal with it. Basically you are her plate.
/r/askTRP29/07/14 04:24 AM
1

Whatever you do, don't point him towards Red Pill. It will blow up in your face. It's too easy for him (or his wife) to paint you as some sort of misogynist and that can cause trouble in your social circle. Just slip in little pieces of targeted, non-controversial advice without using any of the terminology, but only when he comes to you with a problem. If those things work well, he might change his mind about it. Of course you should hesitate to tell him where you learned it - if you show him t…
/r/askTRP28/07/14 09:38 PM
1

Is your dick really small? Do you smell bad? Do you suck in bed?
/r/askTRP28/07/14 07:27 PM
2

I forgot to add this to my post, putting it here so that you see it. Don't just show up at the gym and push some weights around. You'll make some progress that way, but you'll make much more progress in much less time if you follow an established program like Starting Strength (book by Mark Rippletoe) or StrongLifts 5x5. If you need to learn more, there is a /r/gainit/ subreddit that has a FAQ.
/r/askTRP28/07/14 06:49 PM
1

If there was a female version of Red Pill, it would tell women that all men are attracted to new, young and hot. They are looking for women with a certain hip-to-waist ratio that are seem caring and do their makeup. It would be full of tips on how to make yourself as attractive as possible. Over there, some girl would post about how her boyfriend is 1 in a million and doesn't care about all that stuff. She'd possibly be right in that he'd stay faithful to her until the day he dies. The reality i…
/r/askTRP28/07/14 06:44 PM
8

You aren't eating enough. That's why you aren't making any gains. Get the myfitnesspal app and set it to gain 1 lb per week. The rest will likely come with time. I wouldn't jump straight to a medical conclusion unless your doctor suggests it. It would be nice to take a testosterone pill and instantly stop being a little bitch, but that's not how it works. You've got years of patterns to reverse and you aren't going to be different overnight. This post is part of the problem. There's nothing diff…
/r/askTRP28/07/14 03:18 AM
22

She's getting ready to cheat on you, her brain is just rationalizing it. She picked a fight over some BS reason and now she's going to feel justified when she fucks someone else.
/r/askTRP28/07/14 02:58 AM
1

You shouldn't have gotten sucked into the argument in the first place. The only way to win is not to play and it takes 2 people to have an argument. If she left, change the locks and go enjoy your normal life as you normally would. If she's bluffing, the non-reaction from you will force her hand. If she's not bluffing, then you'll probably be getting the divorce papers in the mail.
/r/askTRP28/07/14 12:48 AM
5

The real issue (assuming your gf is enjoying the situation) seems to be that you are uncomfortable with being in control. It would be unfair to her if you were to either lose respect for her because she submits to you or if you used her compliance in a way that caused her harm. If you sense yourself getting into either of these situations, it's on you to correct your own impulses.
/r/askTRP24/07/14 09:52 PM
3

Just curious - would you mind giving me some tips for latinas via PM? Or we can start a thread if you want.
/r/askTRP24/07/14 05:39 PM
-1

http://marriedmansexlife.vanillaforums.com/
/r/TheRedPill24/07/14 04:19 PM
3

Go browse around /r/MakeupAddiction for a few minutes and then tell me that natural = lazy. The women that are doing it well can make themselves look flawless without it looking like they are wearing makeup.
/r/askTRP24/07/14 04:01 PM
5

You are confusing a very small minority of women with the majority. Most women get a bit annoyed when unattractive guys are obviously drooling over their cleavage, but not enough to actually do anything about it. Some women get upset that they are "treated like a piece of meat" but what this usually boils down to is the reverse of the male TRP - her mom taught her that she was awesome and that her personality was the only thing that counts. In real life, that turns out to be a lie and women can …
/r/askTRP24/07/14 03:45 PM
7

What most men don't understand is that the "natural look" means a style of doing makeup, not the absence of it.
/r/askTRP24/07/14 03:40 PM
1

What exactly is RSD? I found their website, but I don't want to join on Facebook if they are a PUA group. Anyone have some actual experience?
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 10:02 PM
2

You've impressed the author by gaining weight, collect your prize!
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 09:48 PM
2

Aren't MRA's working on solving the problem? Some part of the solution in a democracy is going to be attempting to change public opinion or at least control the discourse on it.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 09:12 PM
1

This is one place where I completely disagree with most people in TRP. Having a complaint is not a sign of weakness and should not be treated as such. Men should be able to express their dissatisfaction without being emasculated by women, much less other men. We may all need to put on masks of quiet strength in society, but I don't see why there's no place for just letting down the pretenses at times. If you look at the feminism movement, it was rather effective for righting some societal wrongs…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/14 07:27 PM
2

I think you are supposed to take a shower before you fuck in their culture. You are just missing some sort of cultural cue, get a girl to walk you through it (or hire an escort to teach you).
/r/askTRP23/07/14 04:25 PM
0

WIFE: Why are you boiling them? I want to have them like [friend] had them last week! YOU: Would you like to cook these potatoes? WIFE: But I want the same ones that he made!! YOU: What difference does it make? WIFE: I want everything to be perfect YOU: What's more important, the potatoes being perfect or everyone being in a good mood when our guests get here?
/r/askTRP22/07/14 08:21 PM
1

Why not you are so right, I don't have time for this.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 07:54 PM
0

Consent requires you to be mentally able to understand the consequences of your actions. That's why the law doesn't consider minors or the severely mentally handicapped capable of granting consent. It applies just as well to people that are somehow mentally incapacitated even if it's temporary - if you were somehow unable to grasp the risks of a medical procedure, they would ask your family to make the decision for you or a doctor would pick the option in your best interest. Consent requires the…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 07:14 PM
-6

Your argument goes as follows: Girl goes to party, get's obviously fucked up, her friend realizes this and pushes it into sex which she doesn't reject. You act as if this can't be rape because the woman is responsible for her own actions. I'm saying that both parties are responsible for their actions. There's a spectrum of responsibility for the partner - it's pretty obviously rape if one person is incoherent and the other is stone cold sober, but perhaps we can forgive the guy (or girl) for not…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 06:47 PM
-4

Sure, but if your friend walked your drunk ass to the car, stuck you in it and cranked the key for you his actions would be unethical and illegal. That wouldn't stop you from going to jail or make it not your fault, but it wouldn't absolve your friend of guilt either.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 06:28 PM
1

I know it will be monotone paperwork all day long and I will hate it after some time. You don't know that. It could be the best job of your life. Even the worst of jobs can be fun if you have the right coworkers and attitude. Even if your job is terrible, it can just pay the bills for the rest of your awesome life. for the next year I will be stuck in the first one, dead end job Is it illegal to leave that job or something? Take the job, keep interviewing. If you find something better you just s…
/r/askTRP22/07/14 05:28 PM
5

That argument wasn't really over the potatoes now was it? I have a hard time believing that your wife is getting that worked up over roast potatoes. If I had to take a stab at it, it's probably about her sister, family expectations or you stealing her thunder by doing the cooking.
/r/askTRP22/07/14 05:18 PM
-1

Your post seemed to leave no possibility of a rape occurring because someone was too drunk to really understand what was going on but not so drunk that they've passed out. I'm sure most of us have gotten to states where we were still active but our decision making ability was gone. That's why you drink with friends that moderate your behavior to make sure you don't do anything you'd really regret. The girl's story is somewhat plausible, but the fact that she wants to maintain the friendship sugg…
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 05:08 PM
2

Perhaps you could say "I don't want to rush into a relationship, I'm not sure yet where this is going." That tells her that she's not your girlfriend without saying "There is no commitment here"
/r/askTRP22/07/14 05:04 PM
-9

There's also a point where a person is so drunk that they are unable to make reasonable decisions. At that point, legally and ethically, continuing to have sex with the person would be rape. As a practical matter it's not always possible for an observer to tell when a person is in such a state and the accuser is admittedly in a state where their testimony would be unreliable, so it's virtually unenforceable.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 05:00 PM
5

She has issues, but seems self-aware and is working on them and improving. I'm not sure what more you would want from her. Keep all your "rules" to yourself. All of them are 100% in your control and there's no need to state them explicitly. Just frame the relationship properly. I'd just call her over like a booty call and never call her my girlfriend.
/r/askTRP22/07/14 04:47 PM
2

The response came from one girl: "There's another table over there". The content of the rejection is meaningless, pay attention to how she delivered it and the context. Don't make the mistake of taking her stated reason seriously. I would have looked over leisurely as if I hadn't looked before (possibly having her point it out), look faintly surprised when I saw it and then turned back to her and said "Well that table hasn't got any attractive women sitting at it." and gage the reaction. You'll …
/r/askTRP22/07/14 04:36 PM
3

One of the main issues may be that gay men provide a guy with validation that most women seem incapable of providing. Every time I hang out with gay guys it's compliments galore and of course this is going to irritate a wife or girlfriend.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/14 04:12 PM
5

It shows: 1) You don't have the balls to just ask for her number 2) You rely on your job to provide you a sense of importance 3) You are prime material for a beta provider 4) You are so clueless that you think a woman is actually going to call you or is impressed by your job title Handing a woman your business card is so lame that I've seen women do an eye roll when they get one. Ask her for her number, send her a text with your name (without checking to see if it went through) and tell her you'…
/r/askTRP22/07/14 04:02 PM
2

It's like kicking the tires on a car. If the car can't even take that, it must be a shitty car and you don't want it.
/r/askTRP21/07/14 11:41 PM
13

Showing up in a women's studies class and challenging their opinions is the equivalent of showing up to a church and challenging their belief in God. It's pointless, rude and will not work out well for you.
/r/TheRedPill21/07/14 06:00 PM
2

You can't change the past, but you can choose how you react to it today. Getting caught up in shame or anger isn't a productive response. Try to replace it with a better feeling - perhaps be grateful that you've come this far.
/r/askTRP21/07/14 04:57 PM
2

The good news is that this girl is going to teach him volumes about maintaining frame. If the other team has your playbook in hand, that just makes it more of a challenge.
/r/askTRP21/07/14 04:17 PM
2

Invite her over to cook dinner together.
/r/askTRP21/07/14 04:00 PM
4

Upping the dread game (when she's clearly running her own dread game) is likely to put them into a cycle that's going to end in regrets. Running dread in a marriage needs to be subtle, nonverbal and private. There are no points to be won by putting it on Facebook. I'd just call her up and tell her that she needs to take the picture down since you are getting messages from your female friends or family asking why she's in photos with random dudes in Florida and its giving people the wrong impress…
/r/askTRP19/07/14 09:05 PM
2

There's no secret conspiracy here. When you ask a woman what she wants, she's in a cool state having just been asked a logical question. She'll spit out the answer that she thinks is what she's supposed to want and is societally acceptable. At the moment, she may even prefer slow, passionate sex since she's not turned on. When you just do it to her in the bedroom, she's in a hot emotional state and she's going to go with instinct. Everyone does this. Your rational mind tells you that you aren't …
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 07:09 PM
2

Just don't tell them what you do for work and leave it mysterious.
/r/askTRP18/07/14 06:54 PM
12

That's the problem here - he can't find Alpha until his frustration level hits 100% and he says fuck it and destroys the relationship.
/r/TheRedPill18/07/14 02:46 PM
1

There's a test called the ASVAB and it will give you scores in a couple of different areas. For the Air Force at least each job has a minimum score, but it's typically pretty easy to meet. For instance the Air Force will list a job title such as General Purpose Vehicle Maintenance and you'll see that you need to score at least 44 on the mechanical portion of the test. You'll see that the mechanical score on the test consists of 25% General Science, 25% Mechanical Comprehension and 50% Automotive…
/r/askTRP17/07/14 11:25 PM
1

Your future - join the Navy or Air Force and sign up to be a car mechanic. Get the GI Bill. In 4 years you can either go to college, be a car mechanic or continue your Navy career. Social circle - it only takes one to learn how to skateboard. Go do interesting things and other people will want to join you.
/r/askTRP17/07/14 10:56 PM
2

I'm going to have to agree that part of the problem is probably ADHD (or serious time mismanagement). Unless your wife creates her own habits and structure, these sort of problems aren't going to go away. You can get meds that help, but a lot of the fix is just building yourself an environment that plays to your strengths and covers your weaknesses. If the problem is something like ADHD, then your reaction needs to be different. Adding stress to the situation will produce the opposite reaction -…
/r/askTRP17/07/14 05:16 PM
26

So your problems are: She works out every day, staying sexy. She's working on a career to keep her options open. Those seem like pretty common sense, reasonable things for a woman to do. If you were talking to your sister, you'd probably recommend doing those things. Honestly, it seems like you don't want her to get a degree to limit her options. I'd suggest that you'd be better off improving yourself so that you are the best option available to her. Let's face it - if she can't manage her time,…
/r/askTRP17/07/14 04:57 PM
1

Unless the cash up front is worth your time, I wouldn't bother. There's no good way to monitor her profit (is she going to keep accurate books? on whoring?) so it will be easy for her to sidestep your arrangement. The end game is probably a list of clients that she sees in person. If she meets a guy through cam-whoring, do you think she's going to give you 10% of the cash she gets for fucking him? There's also no guarantee that she isn't already working as an escort. Don't be a chump. You've got…
/r/askTRP17/07/14 04:31 PM
2

Can you get with her again? What do you want out of this interaction? Is it possible? I wouldn't devote tons of time to it since the potential payout of a long distance booty call isn't all that amazing. By all means you can put her on a back burner, but I'm guessing she'll be just as receptive if you only text her when you are in town.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 11:54 PM
0

Yes. If you do get any such pictures, you should delete them immediately. I'd actually be slightly (only slightly) worried that the conversation you are having with the above chick is actually being conducted by an FBI agent. I mean 16, across state lines seems a little suspicious. Do not ask for anything that would be illegal in that chat.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 11:12 PM
2

Having her send you a picture of her naked is highly illegal. I'm pretty sure crossing state lines with her is probably illegal. Do you even have a method of travel to get there? It's going to look pathetic if you have to cross 3 states on a bus to get laid. The legality concerns are only about the pictures. The concern about the distance is that she's a waste of time because far away = instant next.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 11:06 PM
1

You aren't entitled to a handsome body, a good job, friends or attractive women. Life isn't even fair, even if you are doing all the right things it's going to take a long while to turn around. It took you 9 years to go from hero to zero, it's going to take years to get back to it. The more time you spend dwelling on the things you don't have the more angry you'll be and it will show to others. Pick one area that bothers you the most and put together a plan to get it fixed in 3 months. Execute t…
/r/askTRP16/07/14 11:02 PM
6

You don't because getting nudes of a 16 year old is illegal. Why the fuck are you wasting any time on a chick that is several states away? You could be using that time to talk to chicks that are near you.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 10:54 PM
1

Your high school should have a gym (hopefully not just for football players). Ask the coach how you can get access to it. Introduce yourself to the guys you meet there, ask if you can swap in between sets or get a spot if it's crowded. Make sure your clothes fit well and are appropriate for your age - /r/malefashionadvice can help, just remember that you'll need to dial it down for high school. Also, I guarantee that your social status is better than you imagine it to be. Most people in high sch…
/r/askTRP16/07/14 10:34 PM
2

You act like you're big and a player but in reality you're not Two ways to read that A) She's shitting on your frame or B) Her hamster is running and she's trying to pretend that it's all an act. Either way, you can treat it like B) and reply with "You gonna be a psychologist next?" Once she admitted that she was into you I would have immediately tried to escalate with "Well why don't you come over and show me" or something to that effect. If she didn't escalate, I would have just ended the conv…
/r/askTRP16/07/14 10:14 PM
2

You put 2.5 million female teachers in charge of 30 million male students and you are going to get more than just a handful of incidents. It's just the sort of thing that makes the news.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 10:05 PM
1

Just go to coffee and then say you are going to do <insert exciting activity> next and ask if she'd like to go. If you want your friends to do interesting stuff, why don't you be the person that invites them?
/r/askTRP16/07/14 09:13 PM
3

That's kinda fucked up but upvoted for honesty. I try to keep that side of me in check.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 07:50 PM
1

I'm attracted to it because then I could go play the field while not giving up the stability of marriage. You can have a stable relationship for having kids and rotate girlfriends to keep things interesting. For all the Red Pill talk of spinning plates, I'm not sure why it's so opposed to a marriage structure that allows you to be married and spin plates at the same time. I'd be hesitant to actually pursue it since I could see it going really badly, but I can certainly see the appeal.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 07:47 PM
1

It gets better. One day you'll be walking along feeling like you own the world and realize with a smile that you do.
/r/TheRedPill16/07/14 06:48 PM
-1

It can come off that way if you appear too concerned. If you are 100% confident and don't really care, poisoning the well works like a charm. It's even better if you can get her to come to the conclusion herself. You can also feign some concern to her safety or the like. Example "I'm not sure what that guy's after, I'd avoid getting too drunk around him. Have fun at the concert!"
/r/askTRP16/07/14 03:20 PM
3

You can just borrow a dog from a friend and take it for walks. Dog parks are great.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 02:41 PM
9

I'd poison the well. Drop one small hint that he's just trying to get into her pants and that you find it kinda funny and pathetic. If he hits on her, you are validated, if he doesn't then you'll be fine too.
/r/askTRP16/07/14 02:04 PM
0

Sorry, thought you meant that she declined your advances. In any case, you should pay attention to the actions rather than the words. I'd send her a text at 9PM and ask if she wants to come over. She seems worried about her reputation so be sure to keep it quiet.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 11:53 PM
1

Join the military? They'll install a pair of balls for you. I can handle getting yelled at because you get yelled at all the time in basic training. Once you get over the initial discomfort you realize that nothing bad comes from being yelled at and if the other person were to escalate to physical, you have legal protections that are likely to result in them getting fired. Just not reacting wins you half the battle.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 10:45 PM
2

When you come back from your trip, you sit her down and tell her that you've enjoyed your time with her, but you need to leave to pursue an opportunity and you aren't interested in attempting to continue your relationship. You can tell her that you don't need to break up until you leave, but you would certainly understand if she'd like to call it quits now. Make it short, sweet and crystal clear. Do not get into the reasons, that just gives her an opportunity to try to argue with it or will fuck…
/r/askTRP15/07/14 10:31 PM
1

Forget the words and look at the actions. She turned down your advances and doesn't want to go on a second date. The explanations as to why are meaningless, she's just not attracted to you. If you see her again, say hi but don't pursue it any further.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 10:25 PM
1

Why would she give you a choice if she was planning on robbing your place? She'd just make up a reason why her place doesn't work. If you get a bad feeling, tell her to meet up with you for a drink first by her house. Most likely thing that could go wrong is she's just a hooker and is going to try to get paid.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 10:21 PM
1

While getting yelled at, do not respond other than to address direct questions. Don't make up excuses (explanations are excuses). Don't look scared or angry, just be a calm rational person and make him look like he's losing his shit. Acknowledge that you understand, but you do not need to agree. Later on, approach him in an environment where there aren't others around and you calmly tell him "The way you spoke to me yesterday was both unprofessional and disrespectful. Please do not speak to me i…
/r/askTRP15/07/14 10:18 PM
0

I'm not sure what exactly you are gaining from bragging about your conquests to your guy friends or their girlfriends. You don't have to keep it secret or anything but I just don't see the endgame to talking about it.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 10:01 PM
1

If you have an Android phone, it should keep the number in your Google contacts even after you delete the number from your phone and show the name when it rings. That gives you the ability to get rid of the number but retains the ability to retrieve it if you run into her again. Just be careful with voice dialing, for some reason my phone decided that it wanted to dial my exes cousin instead of my girlfriend.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 09:49 PM
3

The child support is the property of the child, not the mother. Any agreement signed by the mother prior to the child's birth is irrelevant to the child's right to be supported by it's father. The court is going to act in the best interests of the child and enforce child support regardless of any agreement between the parents.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 04:50 PM
0

I just have tendency to do nice things for almost anyone for no reason Most people do nice things for other people because they think that others will like them as a result. Doing someone a favor creates an unclear social obligation, which actually hurts your attempts to form a connection. If you want to make friends, ask them to do a favor for you instead. No one is saying you should change your behavior, but you should understand that it isn't going to make you well liked.
/r/askTRP15/07/14 03:18 PM
1

World views are in essence models - a simplification of the world around you. It's something like a map, it doesn't have to have everything on it or be perfectly accurate to be useful. In fact, you might even have more than one map and pick the one that fits your goals and situation the best. The measure of the usefulness of a model is if it accurately predicts future events. I'm guessing you are here because your previous model has failed to deliver the results you are looking for. If you want …
/r/askTRP15/07/14 02:44 PM
2

I'm still not understanding why you need to interact with her. Stop going over to his house whether you own the property or not. Call him on the phone if you have to.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 12:40 AM
2

Stop talking about doing things or planning on doing things and just start doing them. You don't need the perfect plan or to fix everything at once. Go running. Right now. There you go, you got some exercise. Write down two things you want to get done today. They don't have to be big or important tasks, just something you've been meaning to do but haven't done yet. Go do those things. Take the rest of the day off. Tomorrow, exercise again and do 2 more tasks as soon as you wake up. If you do tha…
/r/askTRP14/07/14 10:57 PM
1

Where did you find your quality male friends?
/r/askTRP14/07/14 10:34 PM
2

I used to have that problem, but not any longer. If I fuck up, a day later it's forgotten. Bringing something up from the past is an argumentative technique. If you hold frame through it - neither getting upset that she did it nor conceding an inch then your wife will stop doing it.
/r/TheRedPill14/07/14 07:18 PM
2

While you are worked up over this issue, which will ultimately have zero impact, actual decisions that affect your life are being made quietly in back rooms. It's an incredibly successful strategy - pick an issue that has no actual importance (birth control paid for by your employer, immigrant kids hopping the fence, some Marine that's locked up in Mexico), make a huge shit show over it and people will be so distracted that they won't bother with the big issues. Recognize the news for what it is…
/r/askTRP11/07/14 04:44 PM
2

In sales they call this "Don't sell the sale." Once you've got the outcome you want, drop the subject immediately and move on.
/r/askTRP11/07/14 12:41 AM
2

It's just a distraction. It's an issue of no importance for people to get worked up over. The best move is to just ignore it.
/r/askTRP11/07/14 12:35 AM
4

What a load of bullshit. Women are having plenty of sex, they just aren't talking about it with their friends. Women aren't some special creatures that value love any more than men do and you can't put the blame on men if they become sluts. The reality is that women are under enormous social pressure to at least pretend they aren't hooking up, so women are going to present the image of being an angel while fucking whoever they want while no one is looking.
/r/askTRP10/07/14 11:50 PM
1

It definitely sounds as if there's more going on than meets the eye. Play less attention to the content of a woman's complaints and more attention to the context. That will get you closer to the real issue.
/r/askTRP10/07/14 09:26 PM
1

You are trying to fit everyone and everything into black and white categories and it's a pointless exercise. You are here talking alpha vs beta, PUA vs Husband, country vs city you are trying to simplify an incredibly complex issue. The conclusions you come to will inevitably be flawed. TRP is about the dynamics of attraction for women. It's about becoming the kind of man that women will be interested in. PUA is about moving from the street to the bedroom with women. Taking it much beyond that i…
/r/askTRP10/07/14 06:36 PM
1

You didn't go say hello? If she's attracted to you she's going to be annoyed because she's giving you the green light and you aren't doing anything with it. If she's not attracted she's going to be annoyed because you are staring at her tits. If you get caught looking, smile like it's no big deal and see if she returns the sentiment.
/r/askTRP09/07/14 11:44 PM
1

You don't need to be home except for when you sleep and eat. Do your homework and study at school, get a job to pass some of the time and spend your time out at parks and the gym. If you can figure out somewhere to cook your meals, then you don't even have to be home for that. Your living situation is toxic and best avoided. There's no reason that you can't spend every waking moment out of the house and just return to sneak in and go to bed without talking to your mom.
/r/askTRP08/07/14 07:38 PM
3

On the other hand, she tried initiating sex even if she was bad at it or insecure. It's not like she's been initiating sex her whole life, maybe you could have just forgiven the lame method.
/r/askTRP08/07/14 04:47 PM
2

Maybe your relationship has just fizzled into a comfortable but boring existence. I'd get out of the house more, work on yourself more and make your life more exciting in general. All the things she are saying are fairly reasonable but uninvested responses. It sounds like your relationship is basically dead but both of you are going to stick around forever (or at least until the lease is up) to not hurt each other. If nothing has improved in a month, I'd ask her how she'd feel if you dated other…
/r/askTRP08/07/14 12:56 AM
3

I wouldn't do it. Not that I put any special significance on your first time, but it might as well be with a girl that you are actually into. Once you sleep with her, she's going to do her best to worm her way into being your girlfriend and if she's in your circle of friends there's no way to come out of this without looking like an asshole. To your next point - you never actually say you want to be friends with benefits. In any event, she's not your friend so it's a booty call. You only invite …
/r/askTRP08/07/14 12:29 AM
1

My life would be 100x easier Hilarious comment of the year. Your life will not be easier when you get married.
/r/askTRP07/07/14 09:45 PM
2

The human brain is really good at making up stories and filling in the gaps to explain past events, and those stories don't have to be true in order for our brain to store it as a memory. To some extent, some of the lying may even be subconscious, her brain is just trying to make a story that fits with her world view. In particular the brain will go nuts trying to rationalize data that doesn't fit, I.e. "I'm a nice person" and "I just keyed that guy's car." In other cases the lies are just her t…
/r/askTRP05/07/14 11:32 PM
1

The answer to that is "Do you want to know what I do to make money or what I'm doing with my life?"
/r/askTRP04/07/14 05:53 AM
1

Just do what you want (so long as it doesn't hurt others) and don't apologize for it. Stop thinking about what everyone else wants and worry about what you want.
/r/askTRP04/07/14 05:49 AM
1

When you are in any situation where you aren't sure what to do, ask yourself "What do I want out of this interaction? Is what I'm doing getting closer to that?" Pick an action that aligns with your goals, otherwise just walk away. Don't be afraid to offend anyone, unless you'll need to deal with them later. Simply pursuing what you want without apology will get you a lot further than you realize.
/r/askTRP04/07/14 05:44 AM
0

If your business isn't making money and manages to suck up all your time, it's not worth doing. Unless your business is likely to earn more in the near future, perhaps you'd be better off with a regular job or just spending less time on a business that isn't paying off well. You don't have to fix it overnight, but I'm sure you can try a few ideas to change the money vs time equation in your life.
/r/askTRP02/07/14 10:29 PM
1

Are you sure about that? I've been doing carefree bad assery for a couple years now and it's working out great. Net worth is through the roof, I'm taking off for a 5 month vacation and I'm keeping my job. Just had the balls to do it.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 12:03 AM
1

Your problem boils down to not eating enough. Get myfitnesspal for your phone (free) and start counting calories. I've put on 15 lbs in the past couple months and I look much stronger than before.
/r/TheRedPill12/04/14 12:01 AM
1

Courts are starting to shift their stance on this. Alimony for an indefinite time period is rare now, it's more likely to be rehabilitative and conditional alimony. The court says "Sure you were disadvantaged, we'll give you 4 years of payments so that you can go to school and then 2 to get your career started." If the woman doesn't follow through with actions, then it can be revoked. It's not the open-ended type payment that you probably imagine. It's also typically limited to half the duration…
/r/askTRP11/04/14 11:56 PM
2

Here's my point: She says she's hates how her exes were, but those are the guys she chose to date. She says she didn't like her role in the relationship, but she stuck around anyways. She hates random hookups but gets wasted to the point of passing out at a party. She's a good girl, but had sex at 15 and sends you sexy snapchats. When her words and her actions don't match up, pay attention to the actions.
/r/askTRP11/04/14 06:10 PM
1

Add her on Facebook and then like her sluttiest picture immediately. Send her a message in a few days asking her if she'd like to hang out. That's a pretty clear but plausibly deniable invitation. Your ex will likely hear about it and confront you, at which point you'll respond she's hot and you'd like to sleep with her. The more bad press she gets from your ex, the better.
/r/askTRP11/04/14 04:14 AM
2

You can't say anything to her, but I don't really buy that story. Sounds like a convenient excuse for why she's not a virgin, but she's not fucking you. It's possible, but it doesn't make much sense. Also, the talk about virginity is meaningless. Judge her by her actions, not her words.
/r/askTRP11/04/14 03:57 AM
1

You perhaps misunderstood that. A woman's perceived value as treated by society is 99% about looks. A woman's actual value to society is obviously different. I'd agree that it's a problem, but I don't have a magic wand to wave to make it better. In the meantime, I've got a life to live and it helps to be provided with an accurate model of how the world works. So for now, a woman's perceived value is directly tied to her looks in the eyes of both men and women. Example: What do you think of Hilla…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/14 09:03 PM
2

If TRP was about guys, we'd say that guys are programmed to go after young woman that are physically attractive. Does it mean that you can't control it? No. Does it mean men can't be professional around attractive women? No. Does it mean that you can't decide to marry a woman with a great personality that's a little less attractive? No. Does it mean that every guy is going to cheat on his wife if a smoking hot 19 year old woman asks him to? Well, hopefully not. I'm pretty sure you get my point. …
/r/askTRP10/04/14 08:52 PM
15

Women aren't out there giving away $12 panties to guys they fucked in a bar. Those things are expensive and she's not going to want to give it away.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/14 06:04 AM
1

I'd be interested in hearing where she was planning on leading that conversation. She was obviously intent on having it, so it was probably a segue into some conversation topic she wanted to have. It could have been nothing more than her being interested in how his mind works to suggesting an open relationship or maybe even setting up a threesome. He'll never know now because he shut it down with anger instead of giving her enough rope to hang herself. It's easy to spot a trap and just not take …
/r/askTRP09/04/14 05:55 PM
2

You've had no difficulty in your life. While I wouldn't wish hardship on anyone, it does forge character. Create your own hardship in your life - set goals that you aren't quite sure you can meet and then bust your ass to get them. It can be lifting weights, starting a business with no more than $500, learning another language in a month. Whatever fits your passion at the moment. The goals and dreams will coalesce later. At this point, if you have a rough idea of the direction you'd like to take…
/r/askTRP09/04/14 04:54 AM
-1

Perhaps you could have handled that without attacking her. She wants to discuss something, and it would probably do you good to hear it even if you aren't going to agree to it.
/r/askTRP09/04/14 04:43 AM
1

Take your expenses and tally them up. Draw a line down the middle - on one side will be necessities and on the other side will be wants. If it's isn't food, shelter and thrifted clothes, it's a want. Tally up the necessities and split it based on your relative incomes. Get your paycheck deposited elsewhere, and transfer in your share of the necessities into the shared account. Use that to pay the bills. Stop paying for everything else. She can pay for her own mommy car and the cable. Don't argue…
/r/askTRP09/04/14 12:18 AM
2

My wife can give me "the look" all she wants, doesn't bother me a bit.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/14 07:36 PM
2

When I was in high school, my dad would attempt to micromanage some of my life. I put myself in his shoes and realized that his life was pretty boring - basically just work and TV. With all that free time on his hands, of course my dad was involved in my business. My dad always liked learning, so I told him that some of my practical high school courses also took enrollment for adults and I thought he'd enjoy something like that. He ended up signing up for Astronomy at a local JC and my problem w…
/r/askTRP08/04/14 05:18 PM
1

You are really, really overthinking this. Plan something you'd enjoy that you can do with or without her for whenever you feel like it. Call her up and invite her. Example: My buddy and I are going to hit up a baseball game Friday, should I grab you a ticket? Then go to the baseball game (or whatever) and enjoy the game, not worrying in the slightest about how your date is going.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/14 12:41 AM
1

Words are meaningless here. Start flirting with other women. If you wind up with a phone number or a date then go on it. She can either up her game, break up with you or tolerate it. Any of those options work for you.
/r/askTRP07/04/14 11:04 PM
3

Forget about fixing all your problems at once. Just start with something. Lifting is a good place to start because exercise actually makes you happier which can help with minor depression. Your goal is just to be a better person next month than you are today. Pick a weak area, research how to fix it, then come up with a plan and just start doing it. The key is not to get caught up in analysis, just take action and you can correct course later. It's going to take time to build new, better habits …
/r/TheRedPill07/04/14 12:49 AM
4

I just tell my wife that I'll be home when I'm done.
/r/TheRedPill07/04/14 12:33 AM
1

You are approaching women at random, and it's no surprise that your batting average is shit. When you walk up, every woman you talk to knows exactly what you are after and it's no surprise that you are met with flat out rejection. The first step is to generate attraction. Then approach the women that have demonstrated that they are attracted to you. It's a much more subtle approach, but when you can read a room and determine which girls are interested, your success rate will go way up. If no one…
/r/askTRP05/04/14 09:21 PM
1

You should respond, but only because she might have some sort of STD or pregnancy problem she needs to tell you about. If it's not one of those two things, tell her you aren't interested in discussing it.
/r/askTRP05/04/14 09:06 PM
2

Ignore her words, pay attention to the context and her actions. She was probably embarrassed and felt like you'd reject her. The words are just whatever she seized upon in the moment which is interesting as well. She's trying to impress you and feels like she's falling short. Myself, I'd call her the next day so she doesn't have 3 days to tear herself down and never mention what happened. That will tell her a few things - you are still interested in her, what happened isn't a deal breaker and yo…
/r/askTRP04/04/14 04:56 AM
2

What would you want her to do if the tables were turned? It seems a bit extreme for you to end the relationship so long as you've been completely honest. If she enjoys the relationship in it's present form, then I don't see what's wrong with her sticking around. On the other hand if she's head over heals for you and a little delusional, then I'd do her a big favor and end it if she doesn't. I had to walk away from a friend that became FWB that became my girlfriend. She was awesome, but low SMV a…
/r/askTRP03/04/14 04:02 PM
2

This is just standard latina / chicana girl bullshit. I'd pretend to understand it, but that's a game I had no luck playing in the US (Mexico is another story completely). She's probably about twice as nervous as you I'd guess and under the impression that white guys are only looking to bang. I'd pay more attention to her actions than her words. I'm somewhat sure that you are supposed to read the signs and make your move. She may try to instigate you into something... I think you were supposed t…
/r/askTRP03/04/14 04:56 AM
0

The sidebar on MFA is gold. Target t-shirt, uniqlo jeans, a pair of chucks and you'll be getting looks all day off a $80 outfit.
/r/askTRP03/04/14 03:04 AM
1

Why don't you just pay for the move?
/r/askTRP02/04/14 04:54 AM
5

Distance is a part of compatibility. Surely there are many women in your town that would be compatible with you too? I'm sure you'd also fall in love with them as well. LDR are tough - you can't really build attraction from a distance, nor can you provide stability. Trying to run dread game will likely backfire - she'll just think you are cheating on her and either do the same or leave you. Dread game only works if she's got a lot to lose. If she's in another town and isn't willing to follow you…
/r/askTRP02/04/14 12:34 AM
1

You've got a victim mentality here. Even if it's true that being male is holding you back, how does focusing on that improve you? How does it help you achieve your goals? I'd go look up your previous performance reviews and focus on the weak points that were identified. Ask your boss to do quarterly reviews of your performance so that you can get feedback on your progress towards being the best nurse you can be.
/r/askTRP02/04/14 12:17 AM
9

Objectively, you should forget about that girl and get a new one that is closer to you. What's the point in having a girlfriend if you aren't getting the benefits of having a girlfriend?
/r/askTRP02/04/14 12:04 AM
1

Hey! It's the same author that has a feminist boyfriend.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 10:12 PM
1

Not necessarily. It may even improve your appreciation of women. When you need something desperately (like food) it's nearly impossible to appreciate it. You are so consumed with your desire and efforts to obtain it that you don't truly enjoy it. You certainly enjoy the absence of hunger, but it's not a lasting enjoyment because it will be back again in a few hours. When you don't need it, you are free to be picky, to take your time and just enjoy the experience for what it is. Now that your bul…
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 10:00 PM
3

Since the title of this post is "How would you handle her?" I'll answer that question. I'd start dating other women and introduce some serious dread game. Any time she stopped me while making out, I would walk out of the place and not return for 3 days. I'd imagine her purity would go right out the fucking window. Once I'd gotten 2 years worth of sexual frustration out on her body in a week long period, I'd break up with her. There's nothing good that can come out of an LTR with a woman that's w…
/r/askTRP01/04/14 09:35 PM
5

If you read the article it's all about her husband's actions and she's basically an observer. Hopefully now that she's all out of options, she'll figure out that she just needs to join him.
/r/TheRedPill01/04/14 04:12 PM
2

Are you an introvert or do you lack social skills? Perhaps it's both. It's tempting to judge your value on your good points and then rationalize away your weak points. I did this for a long time with my physical fitness before realizing that my attitude towards it was really a bunch of excuses. The same applies to my social ability. Everything can be learned. Warren Buffet had a difficult time socially, but he overcame it with hard work (and the book How to Win Friends and Influence People). It …
/r/askTRP01/04/14 02:52 AM
1

It's not difficult. Everyone, including your ex, is going to understand when you say that you are no longer interested in maintaining any contact.
/r/askTRP01/04/14 02:19 AM
2

Don't put it all on yourself. It's a tough way to be brought up and just getting yourself to a happy, healthy future is enough of a challenge. The outcome for your sister and your brother isn't your job and it's not really in your control. Getting your shit together should be your #1 priority. Just the fact that you are getting a job, getting healthy and improving yourself will speak volumes to your brother and sister. If you can demonstrate that your life is a success, then they will be incline…
/r/askTRP31/03/14 11:21 PM
2

Well that's the heart of the problem isn't it? If there was a female version of the red pill, they'd be talking about how to keep 5 beta orbiters with occasional but unpredictable sex while getting ahead at work by flirting with the execs. Then proceeding to find a successful older guy at 25 and bend him to her whims, making him buy everything while still screwing around behind his back. Then they'd divorce after a few kids and live off the proceeds from alimony and child support while fucking w…
/r/askTRP31/03/14 08:32 PM
3

OP clearly wants his sister to end up in a place where she's not just a plate to some Alpha guy. If he didn't give a shit, he'd give her tips on how to steal the other girls boyfriend. Just because I'm biologically attracted towards hot and new doesn't mean that I have to act on it. I can understand my attraction, be comfortable with it, and then choose to act in a different way. If OP wants his sister to act in a way that's different than her biological nature, then he needs to provide an examp…
/r/askTRP31/03/14 08:13 PM
4

I sew. I prefer conversations with women. I'm not really into fast cars. I'm slightly fascinated by how women do their makeup. I actually know how to match clothes. At the same time, I brew beer, I can fix my own car and I sew to make my own backpacking gear. Nobody makes fun of theses things, at least not that I'm aware of. Honestly, I'm not even paying attention. I'm doing what I want to do without worrying about whether or not I fit into whatever role I imagine society wants me to fulfill. Th…
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 08:04 PM
6

I'm married and it's not hurting my life. If I want to go to the bar and have a beer, I do it. If I want to go camping or fishing, I go do those things. My wife can tag along if she likes (unless I'm taking a break from her) and it's no big deal. It's all the benefits of being single (doing what you want) with all the benefits of being married (dinner on the table when I get home, constant sex). The expense is pretty minimal, I catch a tax break for being married, she contributes a little bit to…
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 06:56 PM
2

Why would you watch a movie like that? It's a Disney movie so it just screams "innocent and safe" so your date can hamster away all her concerns about coming over to your place.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 06:25 PM
2

It seems like your sister has realized that A) Men can cheat and B) Other women can steal your boyfriend. It seems like her behavior is pretty rational - she's hunting a boyfriend. If some girl was able to poach her boyfriend, why can't she get one the same way? What's lacking here is positive male role models. How is your Dad as a role model? How are you as a role model? If she had good patterns to follow, she'd probably be looking for a guy that acts like either of you. You aren't going to con…
/r/askTRP31/03/14 06:11 PM
1

It's more about what you tell yourself. If you focus on improving yourself, it's easier to keep that motivation from day to day. If you focus on external factors, it's going to be tough to keep your motivation when you are either banging a hot girl or not experiencing any external benefit. We all lie to ourselves. At least you can be honest about the lies that your tell yourself and choose the lies that move you in the right direction.
/r/TheRedPill31/03/14 05:57 PM
2

I studied Computer Science in college. What I do now has nothing to do with what I learned in school. Most people have no clue that Computer Science is about programming and math, its really easy to get a job in any computer related field. They'll automatically assume that you are some sort of computer wiz, and they won't be wrong. It's just a degree, not a career. Finish the degree and then do whatever the fuck you want for your career.
/r/askTRP30/03/14 05:59 AM
1

not doing anything with my life right now just waiting There's your number one problem. Start working on something, anything just don't drift through life expecting it to turn out well. A retired Colonel from the Marines once gave me some great advice: "Be proud of the job you do, and do a job that you can be proud of." Hitting the gym and mastering your diet would be a good place to start. Build small successes, keep at it and let them snowball into success. At some point you'll wake up one day…
/r/askTRP28/03/14 10:45 PM
3

Just because you can't hit her, doesn't mean that you can't retaliate. Women destroy each other without lifting a finger. Pay attention to what her buttons are and then slyly push them in a scenario where she has a lot to loose. She'll flip the fuck out, you act innocent, she get's a social or authoritarian smackdown and no one can blame you for being the bad guy.
/r/askTRP28/03/14 09:03 PM
1

I also feel the urge to grab hot women and punch people that annoy me. They aren't urges that are useful in my life, so I ignore them. I don't see how that makes me any less fulfilled. If you can find a societally acceptable was to fulfill your urges, then knock yourself out. Don't expect it to make you feel fulfilled.
/r/askTRP28/03/14 06:26 PM
9

I hate this alpha/beta distinction between people. They are traits and it's better to have both. There is no person that's 100% alpha. If you can hold down a job and maintain a calm demeanor, those are beta qualities and you need them to succeed. If you want to see a society that has 100% alpha men - look to the ghetto. It's fucked. There's no incentive to be beta in the ghetto and the result is disastrous.
/r/askTRP28/03/14 06:21 PM
2

I'm not sure if these are shit tests, they may just be a reflection of her own issues. Is there a constant thread to what she wants you to comment on or when she gets upset? That will probably give you some insight into what she's worried about. Forget the actual content of her complaint and focus on it's context and you'll likely get down to what the real problem is. It's not your obligation to "fix" her problem, but if it's your girlfriend you might help her out. You'll do better if you addres…
/r/askTRP28/03/14 06:10 PM
8

Beta traits are what holds our society together. Without engineers showing up every day for work and fathers keeping a family together, you'd end up with a dysfunctional society. In an environment where some men are getting more than their fair share of women, it's only logical that some men are going to get the short end of the stick. Better to keep them earnestly striving towards a goal they'll never get than to let them realize that no matter how hard they try to appease people, they'll never…
/r/askTRP28/03/14 05:43 PM
1

Your attitude should be that you find it funny and pathetic. While not acting threatened by them, subtly undermine them by hinting that they are just trying to get into her pants. She's not going to believe it if you tell her, but if you can get her to come up with it on her own then you are golden. It undercuts their whole game. If they do something nice, they are a chump. If they badmouth you, they are just trying to get into her pants. If one gets out of hand, make it clear that it's her job …
/r/askTRP27/03/14 09:31 PM
1

You tell her you aren't interested and then you refuse to give her a reason why. Trust me, giving her a reason just makes it worse. Tell her you've deleted any compromising pictures.
/r/askTRP26/03/14 10:21 PM
2

You remind me of my grandpa What cologne does your grandpa wear? I can pick some up if that's what you are into. Honestly, you just need to get her alone somewhere and then have sex with her. If you don't she's going to get pissed because you aren't following through.
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 10:19 PM
2

You can't really have low social reputation at a college. It's not high school and no one gives a fuck. 99% of people at your college probably have no clue who you are. You can have a high social reputation, but having a low social reputation is pretty much impossible. Work out and improve your social ability. When you come back, sample clubs and hobbies to find groups of people that are socially active, welcoming and have something in common with you. Expand those connections into a wide social…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 09:55 PM
25

"If I care to thank the waitress, I'll do it in my tip." or after she's gone: "No matter how many times you thank her for doing her job, she's not going to take you in back and fuck you."
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 09:41 PM
4

I don't talk to my friends about Red Pill or Reddit. I don't teach them how to get women. If they want advice from me, they will come ask for it and I will give it to them without reference to any of what gets talked about here. If they don't listen, then I simply won't give them advice again. This community only works because it is semi-anonymous. What we are talking about is socially unacceptable and should not under any circumstances be directly communicated in real life conversations. If you…
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 09:39 PM
-1

It's not cyclical, it's never happened before. It's quite possible that we'll end up with a state that merely makes a show of appeasing feminists on unimportant issues while actually behaving in a way that completely ignores a nonsense issue. I'd argue that we are in fact, already there in the US. Let the feminists argue over whether or not birth control should be paid for by health care. It's just a distraction while the real issues are debated and decided on before they ever meet the public's …
/r/TheRedPill26/03/14 09:20 PM
1

A really good manipulator might feed you small dumb lies about unimportant things for you to catch all the time to make you feel like you are outsmarting them. Then they'd hide the big lies really well and you'd be unlikely to detect them or recognize what you'd stumbled across if you did figure out that it was a lie.
/r/askTRP26/03/14 05:46 PM
1

Completely agreed on that. If he just started hitting the gym and bought a whole new wardrobe, it's only reasonable that OP's wife would suspect that he's cheating.
/r/askTRP26/03/14 05:41 PM
16

Wow she really showed her cards in that argument and you didn't even pick up on it. She thinks you are cheating. Her iPad wasn't broken, she tried to get into your computer to snoop on you and caused it to get wiped. The next step in this argument is to get upset with your vague plans for tomorrow - a jump that has literally no connection to the laptop situation. It only makes sense in her mind because she's worried that you are cheating. If you've just started implementing an action plan to imp…
/r/askTRP26/03/14 05:11 PM
5

A Sigma is an Alpha that can't play well on a team. I suppose I would fall somewhere in the role of Sigma. I'm not playing the politics game at work because I'm busy stacking up investments to render having a job optional. I'm working out, I'm obtaining goals, but I'm mostly doing it all myself. In a social situation, I might play a role, get what I want and drop out. I've got no clue what that author means by challenging the Alpha, because that's a shitty way to get what you want. Make the Alph…
/r/TheRedPill25/03/14 11:42 PM
1

PowerTalk, as I understand it, is just subtext with a point to it. Some people out there are always playing around in the land of subtext and if you can't get it, you miss the real conversation. Then again, maybe I'm just oblivious to it? I don't really care to play with the sociopaths, so it's not the most important tool in my shed. If I was planning on climbing the corporate ladder, I'd be doing things differently.
/r/TheRedPill25/03/14 10:20 PM
1

What you've got right now is a perfect opportunity for experimentation and growth. You've got easy access to an entire population of people that you aren't going to see again in a few months. How can I stop letting other people's perception of me define my own perception of myself? You are just projecting your own perception of yourself onto other people. Everyone is so caught up in their own shit that they haven't got time to pay attention to your life. What you need to fix is your own self-con…
/r/askTRP25/03/14 12:12 AM
1

Ever read a character description in a book? The author doesn't flat tell you the guy is powerful, confident and rich. Instead the characters description makes slight remarks towards his height and size (powerful) or perhaps dialog with another character makes it known that they are confident. If you read a book in straight talk - you'd find it incredibly boring. You wouldn't buy into the characters because you didn't have to figure out what they were about. Powertalk is simply talking with a su…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 11:04 PM
4

Picture for the curious.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 10:40 PM
1

Pictures taken with a good camera by a competent photographer in good light will add a lot of value to your picture. OkCupid basically sorts you by clicks on your picture, so having a good picture is the #1 thing you can do to improve your results. By the time I was done with OkCupid I was getting a couple of messages a day. Not all of them were interesting to me, but it's a lot better than sending out messages all day. My general observation is that in most interactions, it's the woman that doe…
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 09:46 PM
2

what value were you getting from the interaction ? Where else can he go to talk about his problems without being ostracized?
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 09:39 PM
1

Take really good pictures, write a good profile (OkCupid blog has info on what works), download the app to your phone and make sure that profile or answers to the questions aren't weeding out responses. Forget about sending messages to women. It's pointless. Just wait for them to come to you in any way and then respond.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 09:09 PM
-4

Then you've never dated a black woman.
/r/TheRedPill24/03/14 09:02 PM
3

The news is just a form of gossip. Little or nothing of what you learn in the news will be applicable to your everyday life. You can't do a thing about what's going on in Crimea and it means nothing to your plans. Go on an information diet and just cut out the useless information.
/r/askTRP23/03/14 08:02 PM
1

Typical night - I come home from work, dinner is on the table. We talk over dinner and go to gym later. I try to get into bed before 10 at least since I do better in the morning and at my job if I'm well rested. She gets caught up watching TV, talking to her mom on the phone or doing the dishes. She doesn't come to bed until 10:30 or 11 at which point I'm rather tired. She starts by demanding a back rub or cuddles and this proceeds to low effort sex. We both go to sleep and probably do it again …
/r/askTRP21/03/14 02:51 PM
0

You know, I see this shit all the time in regards to ADHD. Over-prescription is a problem, but that doesn't mean that ADHD is any less of a problem. I'm sure doctors have over prescribed SSRIs, but that doesn't make your opinion a qualified one. If you or your wife are on SSRIs and the side effects are affecting your life, the appropriate response is to get a second opinion from a different doctor. You might even try a time period without them, but that should be done in consultation with your d…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 08:05 AM
2

Does she have a clear understanding what you want from her? You know, I've never directly communicated my desire for her to drop 30 pounds, dress sexy and be submissive in bed. That might be something that she would have an easier time in meeting my needs. I'm kinda coming to the realization that I'm really pissed off because I spent all this time increasing my SMV and she's stayed at the same spot. I could probably work out some deal with her to make herself into a 10 rather than figuring out a…
/r/askTRP21/03/14 07:35 AM
2

I've certainly provided security and I've provided attention as long as it doesn't interfere with my other goals. We are at a point now where she understands that I have Important Things To Do and her need for attention does not trump that. I read Married Man Sex Life, but not the others. Unfortunately, MMSL seemed to be mostly geared towards men that needed to increase their alpha qualities and their SMV. It's not quite as useful to men that may have gone too far down that path. I somewhat unde…
/r/askTRP21/03/14 07:25 AM
2

Seems pretty harmless to me. In other news, about 10 guys this week hit on your wife and she turned them down. She's a big girl and she can handle it. If she brings it to you in a serious way, then she wants you to handle it. I'd just let this one go if you can. If you complain, this guy might lose his job for the crime of being super awkward.
/r/askTRP21/03/14 07:12 AM
1

That's not a bad idea. We went to a counselor twice who actually took my side completely and clued me in to a tactic my wife was using to deflect criticism. It was actually pretty amazing to watch, he subtlety called her out on her bullshit while not pissing her off or being the bad guy. If only I had that sort of ability with people. Definitely something on my bucket list.
/r/askTRP21/03/14 06:21 AM
1

No, they are all poor. She's from Mexico. Her mom recently got laid off from a long career job without a plan for retirement, her dad owns a business that must make some money but can't handle his own finances and her brother works intermittently. They're all shit with money, but thank god that she doesn't expect me to pay for their fuckups. At most, we'd support her mom if she couldn't work and that costs like $200 a month. I do have some respect for their culture's family based retirement plan…
/r/askTRP21/03/14 06:00 AM
30

Can we just accept the fact that she's a mediocre porn star that figured out how to hit the publicity button by invoking feminism? She's played it masterfully and I'm sure she made a ton of money. She's an actress and she's playing a part to cash in. There is literally nothing more to be understood by any of this than how easy it is to get everyone involved in some sort of pointless drama.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 05:53 AM
1

I'm not sure motivation is the problem. I don't think she has any confidence in her abilities and gets stuck in unproductive mental states. I'd teach her how to get out of it, but she won't listen to me.
/r/askTRP21/03/14 05:50 AM
1

Hell, she's out of town right now missing me. I also haven't really got a weekend just to take off, too much prep work to do for my goals. We are setting off in a month or so to backpack across the US from Mexico to Canada (will take 4+ months). She's decided that she wants to go with me and it's not just a gesture. I'm hoping that 4-5 months of real adversity and plenty of silence to contemplate her problems leads her to a more productive mindset. If she quits on day 10, well in some ways I've …
/r/askTRP21/03/14 05:35 AM
4

That is an amazingly accurate description of marriage. Even if you hold frame and don't give in to her endless demands, you still can't rely on most women to reliably provide value.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 03:43 AM
5

I prefer "Call me if you change your mind" as you walk away.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 02:26 AM
0

Every state that allows it stipulates that both parties must consent to be married in order for a relationship to be considered common law marriage. South Carolina for example: The criteria for a common law marriage are: (1) when two parties have a present intent (usually, but not necessarily, evidenced by a public and unequivocal declaration) to enter into a marriage contract; and (2) "a mutual agreement between the parties to assume toward each other the relation of husband and wife." Common l…
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 02:23 AM
2

Our biggest hamster is telling ourselves that our decisions are logical. Our brain is a giant pattern matching machine is amazing at matching our sensory inputs to similar interactions in the past. It then colors that input with emotion to help us decide how to act. For the most part, this part of the brain can make reasonably good, incredibly fast decisions on autopilot - for instance athletes tend to play better when they aren't thinking about it with their conscious brain. We operate under th…
/r/askTRP21/03/14 01:51 AM
1

In order for it to be considered a common law marriage, you have to intend to be married. It's not as simple as living with a woman for X number of years. It's just not possible to accidentally get into a common law marriage.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 12:25 AM
3

I've had an awkward relationship with them from early on. I knew they had no interest in from first week in. Why would you give them cake then? Never talk to those women again. Not even a hi in the hallway. If they come by to apologize after being ignored, tell them that they embarrassed you in front of your coworkers and you are no longer interested in maintaining any level of contact with them. Then follow through. If they lock themselves out and text you to let them in, fuck em. Let them sit …
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 09:41 PM
2

If it's a woman, just respond with a little smirk. The mystery will get her mental hamster running and that can only end up in good places for you. If it's a man, ask him what his wife looks like.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 09:12 PM
1

It means she's taking an authoritative tone with you. It's an imitation of how your mother calls you by your full name when you are in trouble. In most cases it's just a playful tease or feigned shock. Good signs in a flirting situation.
/r/askTRP20/03/14 09:01 PM
2

Complaining about this won't make society change. Telling men to just suck it up and deal with it doesn't help the situation either. When your best friend comes up to you with a real problem and you brush it off as something he should just deal with, well you aren't helping the problem. Just as women are the perpetrators of slut shaming, men are perpetrators of the belief that men aren't allowed to have insecurities. The reality is that there's a gaping void when it comes to support systems for …
/r/TheRedPill20/03/14 08:02 PM
1

I'd hand him the book "The Way of the Superior Man" by David Deida and ask him to read it. It's pretty red pill at it's core, but not in a way that's offensive or adheres to traditional rules of masculinity. My ex handed me a copy of it and it works pretty damn well.
/r/askTRP20/03/14 06:59 PM
2

If you want TBP theory, read up in /r/relationships Resist the urge to post while poor sap after poor sap gets run over in the same way while everyone encourages him to buy her flowers.
/r/askTRP20/03/14 04:05 PM
1

Your whole story makes perfect sense until "I got angry and we end up fighting the next week." How do you fight with someone that's not your girlfriend? Who cares if she's banging a guy from work? What else did you expect? it jus angers me the way she has acted If your expectations are different than reality, the only one that's going to suffer is you. It's far more effective to change your expectations. You banged a slut and she turned out to be a slut. How is this a surprise? Were you intendin…
/r/askTRP19/03/14 07:16 AM
2

Where the fuck do you get alpha friends? Watching beta friends get crushed by women is just cringe inducing.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 05:34 AM
1

Firstly, next this girl in an instant. How shitty do your mood swings have to be that your own family won't put up with them? She's probably bipolar. Doesn't matter, not your problem. Beyond that you can expect reasonable mood swings from any girl. Give the girl bonus points if she can handle her own bad mood and fix it on her own. If you are into a LTR, it's going to work out really well for you if you can derail her bad moods. It's a simple as recognizing the pattern (Talked to her mom -> Felt…
/r/askTRP19/03/14 05:06 AM
4

We are all a work in progress, myself included.
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 04:57 AM
2

Game plan: Ignore her until she fucks you.
/r/askTRP19/03/14 04:42 AM
2

Telling your mate that you don't tolerate cheating is pointless. If I heard that from a woman, I'd assume that she'd been cheated on in the past and was either nursing a wound or had a string of relationships with cheaters. Neither one is a relationship I'd be inclined to pursue. The default for a relationship is not cheating, why would you need to reinforce the point? I understand that you were hurt in the past, but it's unfair and damaging to carry that anger into future relationships. Your ex…
/r/TheRedPill19/03/14 04:41 AM
3

Here's a hint: OKCupid doesn't show you all the profiles when you first start. They rank everyone and show you profiles with similar rank. Unsurprisingly enough, you start at the lowest rank and it's full of fat chicks. Put up good quality photos (got an amateur photographer friend?) and if people keep clicking your photo, you'll get to see the hot chicks.
/r/askTRP19/03/14 02:56 AM
3

Are you sure you are that ugly? If it's that bad I suppose there's plastic surgery. I doubt it's at that level. It's more likely that your approach is going wrong. If you are approaching women that have expressed no interest in you, then you are fighting an uphill battle. Better to generate some initial attraction by being attractive or well-dressed. I'd suggest you hit up MFA and try one of their starter outfits to see where that gets you. It's a much easier game when the woman has already sign…
/r/askTRP18/03/14 09:25 PM
2

this was her first ever online date Bullshit.
/r/askTRP14/03/14 09:31 PM
2

You can't change what happened in the past. No matter how many times you go through it in your mind, you can't redo a thing. What is in your control is your reaction to it. You could have a productive, positive reaction or you could allow the past to make you bitter and angry. Your anger doesn't hurt your ex, or the guy that fucked her. They are all living their lives completely unaffected by the way you feel. The only person your anger damages is yourself. How you react is a choice. Remember th…
/r/askTRP12/03/14 11:32 PM
1

Have you fixed your dead bedroom problem?
/r/TheRedPill12/03/14 11:24 PM
2

It's just a girl throwing a wrench in your gears to see what happens. If you already have a strong sense of self and goals then you'll pretty much pass most shit tests without even thinking about it. A perfect example: "Why don't you cuddle with me this morning instead of going to the gym before work?" It can be intentional or subconscious, but the right choice is to continue with your priorities. You can see here that if going to the gym is your priority, then you are going to pass this shit te…
/r/askTRP10/03/14 11:50 PM
2

Sounds perfectly reasonable. Just tell her that you think she's attractive and fun to be with, but you don't feel the same level of connection with her and you need to move on. Maybe she'll even let you keep sleeping with her while you date other women. If you handle it like an adult, it seems like there's a good chance that you can exit this drama-free.
/r/askTRP07/03/14 02:02 AM
1

Maybe just say you are reading it yourself (or the woman's version). If you tell him to read it, he'll probably resist. If he thinks it's his idea (trust me, he'll read it just to impress you) then it will sink in better. I'm hesitant to recommend it because the author buries deep truths into what sounds like spiritual mumbo-jumbo. There are parts where I'm skeptical even though the rest of it has worked out pretty well. At least the book isn't as abrasive as TRP and is unlikely to offend. I nev…
/r/askTRP07/03/14 01:09 AM
5

Mini-rant: This is what I hate about this place. Feeling love for someone is not oneitis, it's a normal, desirable feeling. The goal for most guys isn't a solo existence filled in with a rotating cast of fuckbuddies. You can love a woman but understand that she is not the only woman out there capable of fulfilling your needs. A woman being more emotionally invested in the relationship is a pretty typical dynamic. If you are over oneitis then you will find this in nearly every relationship you ge…
/r/askTRP07/03/14 12:17 AM
1

He's sweet but he's gotta bit of a temper He's a typical "nice guy," not an actually nice guy. He's been mislead into believing that if he behaves nicely to you, that you'll reciprocate in the form of a relationship or sexual favors. When you see his temper or observe his behavior with others, you are seeing glimpses into his real personality. He may be somewhat frustrated that his advances never seem to go anywhere. In essence, the way he presents himself to you is a lie and your intuition know…
/r/askTRP06/03/14 11:00 PM
9

I'm not seeing the problem. She doesn't seem to be pressuring you to be in a permanent relationship or to be her child's father figure. It seems like those are responsibilities that you are putting on yourself. Is it possible that she's just enjoying an uncomplicated relationship without a defined end game? If you are enjoying it and she likes it too, where's the harm? You are taking a potential future problem and making it today's problem by breaking up with her. Focus on yourself and get all y…
/r/askTRP06/03/14 10:48 PM
1

There's a ton of possible causes. Minority women could perceive online dating as a good place to find a white guy, where if they wanted a person of their own race they would do it in their social circle. Perhaps white guys just write better messages than asian or black guys. There isn't a reaching conclusion to be drawn here, other than race does have an impact in the dating game.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 08:55 PM
2

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-race-affects-whether-people-write-you-back/
/r/TheRedPill06/03/14 12:23 AM
2

She isn't going to respect you just because you want it to be so. Seeking her approval is going to leave the power in her hands. Winning her respect should not be your goal, rather you should seek to be someone worthy of respect. I'd suggest that you stop trying to direct your wife in the least. She's rightfully calling you out when you treat her like a child. If you want her to follow you, you've got to make your game plan look more fun than hers. Then she can get the choice between following y…
/r/askTRP02/03/14 12:13 AM
10

If he makes her look great, his team will do really well which is good for promotions all around. She'll know that he is indispensable and will be frightened to lose him so she'll be forced to be closely allied with him. If she gets promoted, he'll have an easy time getting her job. If he wants a raise, she won't have much of a choice. If she jumps ship to some other company, he'll probably get her job and an offer from her new company. OP's going to need to ditch the chip on his shoulder and sh…
/r/TheRedPill01/03/14 12:56 AM
1

What is it exactly that you want out of this relationship that you aren't getting?
/r/askTRP01/03/14 12:16 AM
13

Think about it from game theory. You are basically two players to a game where you have an option to play the "nice" card or the "mean" card in reaction to what has happened in the past. The winning strategy to this game is to play the nice card if you start the round and then continue to play the nice card so long as your partner does the same. If your partner plays the mean card, you return the favor, penalizing their behavior. It seems like your girlfriend played the nice card when she mentio…
/r/askTRP28/02/14 11:03 PM
3

Bullshit. Slut shaming is propagated by women in order to preserve the indirect power of controlling access to sex. When sex is incredibly easy to get, men lose motivation to agree to lifetime marriage contracts and the like. You aren't seeing boys out there calling high school girls sluts for wearing a low cut top or men's groups trying to shut down prostitution. Marriage and monogamy exists for the benefit of men, not the benefit of women. If society didn't enforce monogamy in some form, the m…
/r/TheRedPill26/02/14 10:42 PM
8

It also has been shown to significantly improve performance in sports. They are teaching you to meditate because it's actually effective, not because it's part of some bullshit plan. If you meditate on various scenarios and play them through successfully in your mind before you go into battle, you'll be able to perform better and react more quickly to unexpected events.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/14 11:52 PM
10

I'm going to go through a play-by-play of what went wrong. We had our ups and downs, some arguments, we both had bumps and nevertheless, we supported each other through it. You have this idea that you are supposed to get support and strength from your romantic partner. I agree that it would be awesome, but needing support translates to being weak to a woman. The reality is that her expectation will be that you will be strong for her when she needs support while you will never need support becaus…
/r/askTRP21/02/14 09:55 PM
16

It's beyond salvaging. You screwed up when you agreed to sacrifice your life for her. Why would she want a guy that's willing to give up his hopes and dreams for a pretty face? Everything you do screams weak, insecure and doormat. If you want women to fall in love with you, you've got to be the opposite - strong, secure and willing to aggressively seek what you desire. Don't base your life around a girl. Ever. You won't get what you want or the girl. Let this be a life lesson, go pick up some ot…
/r/askTRP21/02/14 09:38 PM
2

I dated a woman like you describe and she was submissive as hell. Most women in my experience enjoy being in charge and being the boss when they are at work or competing and then they want to come home to relax in a situation where they don't have to make every decision. It almost seems as if the more dominant a woman is, the more dominant she wants her mate to be. Don't think about it as a hierarchy, just think about who's going to make the day to day decisions about getting from Point A to Poi…
/r/askTRP21/02/14 06:17 PM
5

Pay close attention to a woman's relationship with her father. If she's got issues with her dad, she'll have issues with you.
/r/askTRP21/02/14 08:12 AM
2

It's not your life to live and you don't get a vote. It's not like he's making an irresponsible choice here - he knows the girl and her background. Long distance relationships are kinda bullshit, it's pretty typically to move it a little faster if you want it to work out. If you want to suggest anything, suggest that he wait until the endorphins wear off to consider proposing. He could help her get her own place in AZ so that they can be closer or move out to Seattle and those wouldn't be irreve…
/r/askTRP14/02/14 06:40 PM
3

Stop worrying about what she wants and just worry about what you want. The rest will work itself out on it's own.
/r/askTRP12/02/14 01:44 AM
3

Shit tests can also be a sign that she doesn't feel secure in the relationship. Now a certain amount of insecurity can serve to keep her on her A game, but when it's constant it gets tiring. Some of the shit testing is just a reflection of her own insecurity about men or relationships and no behavior on your part is going to cure her of that.
/r/askTRP11/02/14 06:21 PM
2

I disagree. We teach Math even though most people will never come close to the level of a serious mathematician nor even use Algebra in their daily lives. We teach these subjects because they train our brains to work their way through a problem using logic. There's a serious deficit for average people in making good use of the technology around them, coding and troubleshooting will help them to develop the mental skills needed to do simple things like fix their own PCs, write Excel macros or scr…
/r/TheRedPill11/02/14 06:12 PM
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Don't ask, just figure it out later. Take her somewhere that she'll need ID or meet someone new and "forget" to introduce her so that she introduces herself.
/r/askTRP09/02/14 01:05 AM
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If you want people to see you as an individual rather than a stereotype, you may need to break your stereotype in an obvious way. Once you've done something that would be out of the ordinary for your cultural group, people will be forced to evaluate you as an individual. As a practical matter, it's going to need to be your appearance as that's all that most women are going to see before they've sized you up. One way would be to lift weights until you are noticeably bigger, but that would take ye…
/r/askTRP08/02/14 11:42 PM
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It's naive to think that what was once the most effectual mating strategy is now the most effectual one in light of current technology. To stick to old strategies while new ones are more effective isn't "accepting reality," it's denying it's existence. I'm not knocking those that want a traditional relationship, female or male. If people want to pursue those relationships, I'm nothing but happy for them. I get worried when people that choose traditional relationships assume that anything non-tra…
/r/askTRP07/02/14 06:22 AM
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I've only been around her for a few weeks, but it seems to me that a subset of the sub is seeking for a rationalization of traditional relationship values (that rationalization hamster works for everyone, guys). In that context, purposefully allowing your wife to sleep with other men would be disgraceful. Rationally, things have changed in the mating world. Birth control and condoms make it possible for a woman to sleep with other men and virtually guarantee that her offspring will belong to her…
/r/askTRP07/02/14 04:13 AM
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My response was for the white knights that surround her. If you correct your boss, it's not going to work out well for you. There's really no point where it's appropriate to criticize a coworker in front of other people. In fact, just abandon the whole idea of criticizing anything and you'll win a lot more friends. If you want them to change their mind, they need to believe they came up with the idea themselves. What's the endgame here? Corporate success? Nailing the girl? I doubt that she's obl…
/r/askTRP05/02/14 01:00 AM
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If I question something she's doing, with a level head, every other person in the vicinity (or later on if it's brought up) is just waiting in the wings to be the nice guy and suck up to her, agree with her plan or whatever, so then I look like I'm just being unfair. That's easy to deal with. Say "She's a big girl and she can answer for herself."
/r/askTRP04/02/14 11:00 PM
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The slut shaming really pisses me off. If a woman wants to fuck 31 cocks (I've certainly fucked 31 women) than that is her choice, and I don't see how it lowers her value. Let's face it that every guy here would do the same if getting laid was as easy as it is for a woman. If TRP is about choice, then respect the choices of others.
/r/TheRedPill06/07/13 01:15 AM
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You've got an ideal of the way the world should work. Now it's come face to face with the complexities of reality and of course it doesn't hold up like it "ought to" in your mind. Be very careful about trying to make the world fit a series of rules and black and white categories. That's ends up being the realm of extremists and fundamentalists and it's a path towards anger and unhappiness. You'll never convince the world to behave like you think it should. It's far better to take your values and…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/13 07:32 PM
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"I'm going out to this new mexican place saturday night, come with me" I always preferred something I was going to do regardless. It gives the impression that you are living a fun, exciting life with or without her and you've given her an invite to tag along. Besides, dinner is fucking boring and it sucks for a date. "I'm was thinking of grabbing a bottle of wine and hitting up a concert in the park Saturday afternoon, you interested?" If she's not sure, I'd give her a short deadline so you can …
/r/TheRedPill03/07/13 07:56 PM
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ON IT. Grew up in the cult with a father who wasn't a JW.
/r/MensRights09/05/09 05:22 PM
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Tracking back the links to the original articles, I actually rather enjoyed http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2008/05/how-to-be-a-man/
/r/MensRights30/04/09 08:05 PM
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I didn't see any mention in the article about them getting equal pay out of the deal. I think their issue was with not being classified as health professionals while doctors were considered health professionals and deserving of benefits.
/r/MensRights28/04/09 10:51 PM
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They tend to be employed in areas such as white-collar clerical work and hold three quarters of the jobs in education and healthcare Health and education workers, in comparison, earn about $620 a week the average US wage of $616 a week Women are paid less than men
/r/MensRights21/04/09 04:16 AM
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