Not sure it's the right subreddit to ask this question, but I'll give it a shot. Not a native speaker btw, sorry for upcoming mistakes. I'm 24 yo, testesteron level is good, above average, can set the clock on morning hard-ons. After being in an Ltr for 4+ years and a break up that I initiatied, I have serious issues now with getting hard for the first 2-3 times with every new girl. After this ltr I had 3 girls, one of them for 7 months on and off - and again after first 3 fails everything was perfect - we were fucking like rabbits, getting hard right after we start kissing etc. Same with other 2. Girls were attractive, good-looking. I know it's in my head, but I dont know how to deal with it.

Same happened yesterday, went on a 2nd date with chick from tinder, ended up at my place, knowing this will happen, even took a cialis pill - nothing, didnt help. My dick only woke up a little couple times, but fell again even when she was masturbating and I was trying to put a condom on. Ended up fingering this chick, she was begging for sex "please fuck me" but I was not able to. Told her "have to earn it" blah blah, think she was okay with that and asked when she's going to see me again so all good with her in this case. But in general, I'm so tired of that... I want to enjoy casual sex and one night stands, but I can't. I think the issue is every new girl does things different - and it takes time for me to get used to her and relax. Any of you redpillers had that problem? How do I fix it? Thanks

upd. not watching any porn for more than a year, jerking off maybe once a week only. lifting weights as well.