I'm a bit confused at the moment. I'm having two main problems:

1) I find it hard to get a date 2) If I do, then I find it hard to get a 2nd date

Bear in mind I only date girls I'm attracted to, sort of a "fuck yeah/fuck no" thing. The problem is, the girls I'm attracted to don't seem to be attracted to me, and I don't know if its my skills or if its my face. I'll list reasons why I think it could be either of them:

1) Skills: With women I'm not attracted to, I can easily escalate, flirt with plausable deniability, kino, and so on. I can't really do anything wrong, it seems. But when I'm into a girl, I tend to hold back, and just have a fun evening. I don't "risk" flirting, because unlike the less attractive women, the attractive ones don't come by that often. So if I could get more dates with women I'm attracted to, then that would help a lot, I think (with abundance mentality). The problem is I'm at a loss on how to do that.

2) Face: My body isn't bad, and I'm still working on it, my stats are 6ft1, 160lbs, 10%bf. But the reason I think my face is an issue, even though I don't personally dislike my face, is that I find it hard to get dates (on dating sites). Of couse I can lower my standards and its easy, but its pointless to lower my standards because honestly I just find it disgusting, I really don't want to have sex with them at all. But the few dates I do get with girls I'm attracted to, never make it past the 1st date, and although I might not be doing everything I should to generate attraction/escalate, I'm not really doing anything "wrong" either (I hold frame and don't act needy), so I still think if I was attractive enough for them physically, then they should still want a second date, where I would feel more confident.

I feel like I'm trapped, because either I can't get a girl or I don't want them. So I end up with nothing, and honestly I'm just fed up with it. I can't lower my standards, and I don't want surgery on my face. So the only light left in the tunnel is my "skills", but the question I want to know the answer to, preferably from people who've been in the same situation as me, and because I'm too much of a wuss to try it first without advice, is:

Is it all down to flirting and escalating, or is it that I'm actually trapped with no hope?

When I go on dates, I find them very attractive (because, to me, they are), so I can get them out there occasionally, and I don't feel like I'm punching above my weight (and I don't think other people look at us and think that). I suppose it just blows my mind that I could be doing naturally with girls I don't find attractive, the very thing I should be doing with girls I do find attractive. I just can't believe that not acting like that results in a 2nd date being denied, it seems too harsh, and since its so hard to get the date in the first place, it keeps leading me back to thinking my face is the problem.