Failed a few "indoor" dates lately, need advice

vandaalen · 2020-02-26T22:53:41+00:00

Make sure you are not sitting at tables like in a restaurant, face to face. Try to sit over the corner or use the bar, so you can be near her much easier.

pilot333 · 2020-02-26T21:53:31+00:00

While I could give pointers, I think it’s more important to focus on the fact you’re obsessing about kino. You don’t need kino to close dates. In fact the last two first dates I went on (closed both) I didn’t bother with kino. The one was kind of handsy with me though. I come from the idea that women already know whether or not they’d like to fuck you early on. Kino or not, shitty game or not, if she wants to fuck you, she’s going to welcome you. It can help turn her on etc but honestly not worth obsessing about it like you are. Use it when you can.

If you really want to do kino, do it on the way to your car or when you’re back at your/her place escalating.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-02-26T22:02:12+00:00

Go to a nicer venue, a more upscale lounge and sit next to her.

For kino, look up the DiCarlo Escalation ladder. Basically, its high five/arm touch/elbow touch > touch her back/touch her thigh/play with her hair > kiss/touch her ass/inner thighs > foreplay > sex.

Note some push/pull.

This sounds like a bunch of pre recorded stuff but it will all flow together as your game improves.

Edit: you dont need to overdo it with kino either. Best to make the kiss brief as well unless you're in the bedroom.

WIA20XX · 2020-02-26T23:02:52+00:00

Pool and darts are good for "natural" kino at bars. Dancing is best. If you can find an adult arcade, that's a good look.

If you are just gonna sit next to the girl, measure hands, thumb war, palm read (jokingly or seriously).

Domebeers · 2020-02-26T23:45:21+00:00

OP, if you are afraid to sit next to her, how on earth are you going to fuck her? lol. (Kino is very important if you want a first date lay, IMO)

Do you have a house/place to fuck? Start your date at the bar, SIT NEXT TO HER, not across, and come across as comfortable in the presence of women. Order a drink, and when it's done tell her you hate bars and then take her to your house for the rest of the date.

A trick to help your mental is to pretend you have already fucked them. Give it a shot.

A trick to help you kino is to do palm readings on the girl. You obviously make it up but the point is now you are touching her hand. See? You didn't die. Now go touch her shoulder after a joke. Then rest your hand on her leg. Maybe give her a kiss. Wow, you're still alive? Crazy.

Bar dates in general, move around the bar, or move around to different bars. Don't stay at a single place for more than an hour.

Nighthawk_Black_ · 2020-02-26T22:09:37+00:00

Have a few drinks be fun don't be awkward

SalporinRP · 2020-02-26T23:38:57+00:00

What's the best way to go with bar dates? (especially kino wise, as we sit a little bit apart)

The way I got around this was by taking dates to this bar near me that has these half-circle shaped booths meant for 2 people. I'm not sure what the situation near you is, but a fair amount of bars near me have those type of booths.

You can also just have a drink at the bar itself so you are guaranteed to be right next to her.

I believe my biggest problem is lack of kino and touching, and maybe the fact that I'm not a big fan of sitting in those places with girls 1 on 1.

I prefer more active "fun" dates as well but being able to have a flirty casual round or two in a bar setting is a good skill to have. Drinks are such a good first date idea because it's low investment in terms of time, money, effort, etc.

That's why I usually go for drinks for the first date then if it goes well switch to something more fun for the second.

throwawaycunt1997 · 2020-02-27T03:05:19+00:00

Bah. OP, I haven’t taken anyone to any cafés or bars unless it was a pit stop on the way to something else. Mall dates, expos, pool halls are the places to be. Stay in motion, and you have an excuse to grab her hand or guide her on the crook of her spine.

Bonus points if she doesn’t know how to play pool.

The1ndex · 2020-02-27T05:09:48+00:00

Arcade.

There is a big arcade in my city that also has a bar/food area.

I don’t drink so I take them straight to games. I show them my favourite games, and start messing with them a bit, like gently tickling or pushing them to keep their score lower than mine. I will even throw them on my shoulders and have them shoot baskets from up high. At this point, physical touch is good to go.

Even if things don’t go well between us, I always have fun.

Mall.

The mall is a creative playground. Make up your own adventure.

Tell her to pick out an outfit for you. When you come out of the change room, ask her to check your butt out, and to touch your shoulders to see how the fit is( if your shoulders aren’t jacked, lift).

Then pick out an outfit for her. Check her butt out and touch her shoulders and arms just as she did to you.

Physical is 100% on

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-02-27T07:27:39+00:00

🤔

Kino is overrated, being masculine, doing your own shit and focusing on having your own fun gets bitches wet without you even touching em.

Focus more on having YOUR kinda fun and less on what will make HER happy and these problems will disappear,it’s simpler and more effective than learning 1002 kino moves.

Last first date I had I did minimal polite kino and even held off on the kiss. Second date was at my place and in 10 minutes of drinks she had her massive titties out and was deep throating the D.

It’s the ATTITUDE, you give too much of a fuck about them and bitches sense that shit.

First step, don’t do what you don’t want to. You said you don’t like bars, stop doing that, do what you like to, if she doesn’t follow your lead, next until you find one that does.

This also works for ONS btw just on a massively compressed time scale. Too much kino is feminine. Kiss is not. When you’ve turned her on enough she’ll be the one grabbing your arms, your thighs etc, all you gotta do is kiss her once or twice well and take her back to your place.

Learn that PUA kino is indiscreet and bitches love confident, masculine, discreet men...in short “this Man fucks and is not unsure about it”

Title	Failed a few "indoor" dates lately, need advice
Author	LuckyRedPill
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Date	February 26, 2020 9:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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