Fiancé is worried about my well being.

Fuk_Boonyalls · 2015-01-31T17:10:46+00:00

This is classic behavior. Women being attracted to men who engage in high risk sports always want them to stop once they have commitment from them. Their desire for them wanes quickly after. Stay the course if it's what you want to do and disregard the shit test.

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tyofwa · 2015-01-31T17:01:56+00:00

If cage fighting is who you are, then that is the high-order bit. If who you are isn't right for her or her social circles, then it may be a something she has to accept or this isnt the right relationship for her.

cage fighting is a pretty extreme example, but the precedent it sets is vital. Perhaps you will want to race a car at the local county track, or get into rock climbing, or any number of risky hobbies. F#@king do it and kick ass at it! It is how you choose to lead your life and she can choose to be part of it or not.

feminazis_stalk_me · 2015-01-31T17:24:10+00:00

When you let a woman determine what you do, who you talk to and where you go, you might as well castrate yourself and put your balls in her purse for safekeeping. If you give up on your passions for a woman, you will always resent her for it, and she won't respect you for folding like a lawn chair.

She may even give the ultimatum "Cage fighting or ME! Choose!" in which case, the ONLY answer is:

"This is who I was before I met you, and this is who I STILL am today. This is also who I'll be tomorrow, with or without you."

Be prepared to cut her loose if she can't deal. Rocky Balboa put up with Adrian's shit tests again and again. If he gave in, there would have been no Rocky sequels, right?

abalos · Sat Jan 31 16:54:21 2015 UTC

Dude, you're cage fighting. You are not guaranteed to be fine. That's okay. The message isn't "I'll be fine" but "I'm not afraid".

abdada · 2015-01-31T16:43:15+00:00

Feels to me that it's either a shit-test (probably) or validation/attention seeking (less likely).

InformalCriticism · 2015-01-31T17:49:54+00:00

She just fell for you is all. If you don't want her to worry about you, then let the relationship fall apart/be beta. What you're doing isn't "safe" by ordinary standards. Your opponent wants to strike you or cause enough harm or threat of harm to force you to submit every time you step into a competition - you are not wearing much protection at all. Is it reasonable to believe you can convince your fiance that you're going to be fine because of your training and hard work? Anything can (and does) happen.

If you are going to continue to fight and keep this girl, then I recommend going undefeated and that will ease her worry over time. /s

[deleted] · 2015-01-31T19:14:35+00:00

Don't validate her concerns? What makes you think you need to defend yourself from her..

Moldy_Gecko · 2015-01-31T20:00:56+00:00

All I gotta say, is no matter how ready you are, there is always someone better that will fuck you up. Her worry is understandable, you just gotta let her know that It's what you want and will do and she needs to find a way to come to terms with it.

Beast66 · 2015-01-31T17:06:08+00:00

Show her some articles on the safety of MMA and Cagefighfing. Show her you understand the risks and that they're manageable. I'm sure you can understand her position and concern that you'll get hurt, so just put yourself in her shoes and think of what would convince you. As for the stigma, someone else's opinion on what you love should have no bearing on your decision. It's a part of what you love and they should either deal with it or get out.

crasher555 · 2015-01-31T18:51:11+00:00

I'm gonna get down voted but here goes.

When one partner demands another partner give up a hobby, resentment might occur.

But always remember, relationships are about compromise, you have to determine who or what is more important, your hobby or your woman.

This being the red pill, everyone is going to tell you to ditch the woman. But she is your fiance for a reason. Maybe you could pick up another hobby? She does have your best interest at heart.

Relationships are about growing together and discovering new things you would not have found on your own. Maybe you could be a trainer and pick up another hobby like flying small planes? Think out of the box.

Title	Fiancé is worried about my well being.
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Date	January 31, 2015 4:12 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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