Finding life purpose/mission

NotElDiez · 2019-06-06T11:32:54+00:00

I think that if you don’t find your purpose in your job environment, you should see as your purpose your life style. Try new things, some dance classes, sports, combat sports, trekking, skydiving, motorcycling, biking.. Try whatever you want, even if you think that you wouldn’t like that activity. I’m sure that in this way, you will find your purpose.

oooKenshiooo · 2019-06-06T11:22:45+00:00

I always thought most thing sin the world are extremely shallow. I am not interested in money or a career.

However, I do love playing music, doing bjj and exploring spirituality. So that is what I do. Anything else I do, I do to further these three things.

Eventually I was so good I became a teacher, which I find to be an extremely rewarding experience. It is more than just teaching skills... If done right, you can positively influence people on their path.

This then started to permeate into every aspect of my life, even into my dating life. :D

Bigboyleggos · 2019-06-06T15:35:21+00:00

i believe that's the thing that finally can make me happy, make me want to get up early from bed and get going.

Ive been driven since my teenage years, ive always been content but never "happy" for any length of time. My perspective may help you see that your focus on being "happy" is part of your struggle.

Here we go! I spent most of my child hood wrenching on hotrods, building cool shit around the house and repairing things with my dad and grandpas. Mechanical abilitys from a young age... level 99!

I started my first "business" at 14, cutting grass for neighbors. Started with one neighbor paying me to do theirs, by the end of the summer I had 10 lawns i was cutting twice a week in our neighborhood at $40 each. Loving life!

Year two, im 15, i have business cards made. i add edging, repairing bare patches, trimming shrubs and trees. I doubled my clientele and saved enough to buy a zero turn and a shitty old s10, my first car! Loving life!

Year three & four, consistantly adding more clients. im fucking loaded, looking back this is hilarious. I thought i was loaded making $1500/week. I sell shit box s10 & buy a nicer s10 and bigger mower. Im running into issues with running the whole gig on the downlow. I have people calling that dont live in my sub, new customers that want a contract & proof of insurence. I need an employee, i have too much work for one person and i now hate cutting grass. So i sell my gear and give my clients to a friend of my dads that runs a landscaping company.

At 18 im graduated, over my small towns bullshit & move 6 hours away. I Live in a campground for the summer and start working construction. The new adventure is awesome and im loving life!

Fast forward a few years, im self employed, making good money building cool custom shit every day but I spend so much time working I never pursue hobbies. Im not enjoying life and burned out.

That fall I sell my LLC, house, snowmobiles, rent a garage with appartment and build my first legit off road rig. Jeep cj on tons & 37s with a dodge 5.7. Bad ass! The following spring I buy a little cabin for the dog and I. Pick up a sales gig and lifes great. I work 40hrs a week monday to friday, off road & camp on the weekends. Life is great!

I continued this for a few years but began hating my coworkers. College brats that whine constantly and never pull their weight. My two weeks vacation is not enough. I have a serious ltr now, im Not feeling challenged and need more. Not satisfied with life.

I sell the cabin and buy a house to flip in a subdivision while still working my day job. Its rough, i work 7-3p mon-fri at day job then come home every weeknight and all weekend on my house. Its a struggle, im always tired but it feels great. I wake early every morning ready to kick ass. Fuck yeah world, im the shit, suck my fat polish cock! Loving that grind!

I finish the house sell it, buy another to flip and remodel it inside & out. Ive spent a few years grinding & remodeling at this point, i really like this second flipper and decide to keep it. I still live here today. I start getting burned out on day job + hobbies. I drop current hobbies, put a wood shop together and start building custom furnature as a side hustle. Loving it. I propose to ltr, shortly after the pressure from her family to become her little bitch combined with her new found confidence and comfort with the almighty ring is fucking insane. Not enjoying life!

I find trp, start reading & realize that while im killling it in many ways, im failing in several more. I start setting boundaries and taking what i want. My new hobby is part time personal growth. The new boundries and perspective have turned things around. my bride to be is back in her place and very happy. Were killin it and loving life. We get married and the boundaries with inlaws evoporate. I spend a few months resetting boundaries with them, all is well and life is great.

We currently have a baby on the way. This creates all sorts of excitment and turbulace. Im now strong enough to manage what i need to and things i cannot control roll off my back. My next task is to become physically strong. Im 6' 210 lbs, im not fat but working out 1-2 times a week isnt doing much for me. I have a house paid off thats 100% remodeled, a good job, hobbies and a great wife. Its time to improve another sector of my life. Physical fitness, ive fucked around and half assed it for too long! New challenge, fuck yeah, life is great.

Are you noticing a trend? Each new challenge brings me fulfillment, a sense of purpose. Finishing or mastering that new challenge is succeeding. Succeding brings a short time of happiness that fades quickly when the challenge fades. I then add a new challenge and continue.

There will never be any one thing that makes you happy forever. Happy is a temporary high attaind by the masculin when he challenges himself and succeeds. Always challenge yourself and never ever think for a second that your 'done'. Accept new challenges, live that Grind, learn anything you can and give it your soul. This brings purpose and fulfillment to life. Each time you succeed take a moment to savor the happiness and dive directly into your new challenge.

There, I gave ya my two pennies with 1985 stamped on the face... Good luck!

hiem3w · 2019-06-06T12:22:57+00:00

Trying to work on this too. Goal right now is to constantly try new things. New music, food, workout routines, events at uni, read different stuff from the sidebar, try meditation, boxing, new skin products, skydiving, talk to old and new friends and try to hang out and do new things together, etc etc etc. Helps keep my mind at ease, even if it’s only for a bit.

acp_rdit · 2019-06-06T12:40:34+00:00

Imagine you are 6 years old again and some old person asks "what do you want to be when you grow up?" It doesn't have to be realistic or even possible. But from that seed come ideas. Your tombstone has space for one line...what does it say? None of this "loving husband and father" bullshit because anyone can do that by just showing up. What dream did you run toward while you were racing death?

The hardest thing for me about deciding on one "mission" is giving up all of my other, mutually exclusive, dreams to focus it. But I know that if I don't choose on one thing I'll have made the choice to not accomplish anything.

KaRzual · 2019-06-06T13:44:38+00:00

Man, someone asked me what I want to do, if I had a bank account of $100 mil. It shook me for about a week before I could even answer them.

I had been sky diving before, and it was the purest feeling of adrenaline and freedom flying through the sky like that.

I have a long-term plan to secure enough money to spend 12-18 months attending a solo skydive school, and base jumping school in the USA shortly after that.

I'm about 4 years away from this goal. I've joined the military to see other countries in the meantime, get paid to keep fit, and potentially move into a more physically demanding job role to keep my body in top shape for when the time comes. I'm fucking psyched for it.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-06-06T23:54:52+00:00

Decide which Nobel you want to win first.

Title	Finding life purpose/mission
Author	KaRzual
Upvotes	7
Comments	14
Date	June 6, 2019 11:13 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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