First Date help!!! new to the redpill.

iHeartCapitalism · 2016-10-31T02:21:20+00:00

Your post tells me that you are very new to TRP.

Answering your questions won't somehow make everything go great because there are so many details that you'd be missing. The interaction as a WHOLE is what matters - not how you shake her hand or paying/not paying for her ticket.

So, clear your schedule entirely until Thursday - and read the sidebar.

fnordsnord · Mon Oct 31 2:47:59 2016 UTC

"The tickets are on me. You get the popcorn."

homelessWOOKIE9 · 2016-10-31T03:44:51+00:00

frame of mind: enjoy yourself, have fun. You're new, you just need reps. If it's your first date in a while, it won't go great. Oh well, practice for the next one. So just enjoy yourself!

McCoop_ · 2016-10-31T17:01:41+00:00

1) If you decide to pay for tickets tell her to cover drinks and popcorn or whatever you may want. If you make way more money than her just pay for it all. The main point here is to make a decision that isn't a discussion. "I'll get the tickets, you get the snacks." for example.

2) Outcome independence. Whether or not this date leads to future dates, you should try to just enjoy yourself and gain experience. Don't worry too much about "impressing" her or trying to make her like you. If you are excited to watch the movie focus on the movie (still a good idea to escalate a bit). If you don't care about the movie, focus on kino (touch) escalation while you are sitting next to each other. If this is your first date ever, you should focus on demonstrating confidence in the interaction. This is done by leading and being comfortable with yourself during the date.

3) If you have met before, a hug is usually a good move. I like to give a firm handshake with tinder girls on the first meeting. Sometimes I reach out a hand and they go for a hug. In any case just be confident in your decision. If you think a hug is appropriate go for a hug. If you are planning to hug, don't show up smelling like you just left the gym. In general, it is a good idea to smell nice without being able to smell you before you enter the room.

4) A hug is a good way to gauge initial interest. If she responds negatively to the notion of a hug, odds are she isn't very attracted to you. If she makes effort to touch you (on the arm for example) it is a good indicator of interest. When you are in the theater you can put your arm around her or on her leg if it feels natural. If she moves your hand away or tells you to stop, its usually pretty clear that she isn't attracted to you or isn't comfortable with public touching. If she responds well escalate to next step: Basic hand touching (arm, shoulder, hands) >Suggestive hand touching (on thigh, sides, face/head) > sexual touching (inner thigh/clit, tits, neck, kissing). This is just a rough idea but it should be pretty intuitive once you start.

5) After the date, take some time to reflect on the night. Where did you do well? Where did you make a mistake? Where can you improve for the future? When did she show indicators of interest or disinterest? Mastery comes with experience. Experience comes from confidence to try even when you have failed before. Don't worry about meeting up with this girl again, the main focus is working on yourself.

You should do some more reading but this is a decent place to start.

1Maverick1 · 2016-10-31T05:21:17+00:00

Mmmmm....

Sounds like you need to go and make some mistakes. If you're already over thinking this stuff then you need experience. I wouldn't worry too much about how other dudes would handle it. Even if you followed our advice and it worked. You still won't know what doesn't work.

TheStumblingWolf · 2016-10-31T07:10:04+00:00

Red Pill isn't some quick fix you can just ingest before a date. It takes a lot of time to absorb and implement. My advice is to just try and make your evening as long as possible and only aim for having fun. When you absorb TRP more later on you'll be able to tell if you made any mistakes. For now - disregard them.

Title	First Date help!!! new to the redpill.
Author	RandomForest07
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	October 31, 2016 12:45 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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