Hi TRP, thanks for all your advice and ideas. After months I feel I've fully swallowed the red pill and my interactions with women are finally where I'd like them to be. I've finally discovered my inner game. Before it was fleeting--something I could only catch if I was in the right mood or with the right woman, but now it seems to be constant and there's no more second-guessing myself.

Now on to my FR. I've bolded some areas where I'd like a second opinion or another idea on how to handle it.

We matched on Tinder and I had some banter back and forth with her. Just some fun, joking text game. Eventually I got her number and asked her out, saying I could only do Friday or Sunday. She said Friday, then flaked and asked me for another day, I said Sunday and she said that was fine.

So we meet at a neat little bar neither of us had been to before and I get there a bit before her. As she walks in I'm talking to the bartender and the folks next to me so I think all I did was say hi and finish up my conversation while she looked at the drink menu. Eventually I say to her "I'll buy the first round, you buy the second" and she says "Deal." Something I learned from Tom Leykis was to never buy women drinks...I like phrasing it this way, as there's no awkwardness about splitting a check or who's gonna pay for what or anything. I've done this a few times now and girls are always receptive and have no problem with it.

We're talking and everything's going along fine, she's laughing, we're flirting, lots of agree and amplify, etc. At one point I said the word "retarded" and she replied with something like "oh don't say the R word" without a hint of irony. I don't recall exactly, but I said something like "I don't really care, I'll say whatever I please" and then quickly changed the subject. No fuss was made and we moved on to talking about whatever. I held frame (no way in hell would I ever apologize for saying "retarded") but maybe I could've agreed and amplified? Joked around a bit? It wasn't the best response but it was far from the worst.

There was a point in the night where a couple very attractive women sat next to us and I lightly considered starting up a conversation with them, maybe even flirting. I figured this would trigger both parties' pre-selection desires, leading both of them to inflate my perceived SMV. But I took too long to bite the bullet on this, and a couple of guys (it seems they already knew the girls) sat down and were chatting them up before long. Ah well. I may try this next time.

We finish the second round and I decide to take us over to another bar I had been to where they have games like table tennis, jenga. It was a short walk away so we decided to brave the cold. I put my arm around her shoulder as we walked but noticed she wasn't receptive. This could be because she was shivering and had her arms folded, but it still seemed to me like she didn't want my arm around her. Ah well.

Arriving at the next bar, the guy tells us they close in 20 minutes but we say we just want a drink and a quick game or two of jumbo jenga. He says that's fine. This time I bought my own drink and she bought hers. We go to play jenga and she seems particularly cold (as in, personally) to me. We're sitting across from each other, rather than her sitting next to me, and I made the decision to not sit next to her, seeing if she would come and sit next to me on her own, but she never did. I lose both rounds, we finish our drinks and head back out into the cold.

At this point I figure that that's it, we're gonna go back to our cars and leave with just a hug. The old, blue-pilled me might've been more desperate at this point and might've been trying harder, but I decided to just maintain frame and think whatever happens happens. I suppose this was outcome independence but in the moment I wasn't thinking of it like that. It just was what it was.

Back at my car I notice she's still hanging around me, clearly not ready to leave yet. She then starts working her feminine charm which reminded me why we men do any of this in the first place. She starts bombarding me with straight-forward, quiz-like questions about my field of study that she knows I can answer without a hitch--clearly feeding my ego. I was A-Okay with this and, if there are any TRP ladies out there reading this, I encourage you to tap into this part of your femininity. Men love excuses to show off their knowledge--really makes them feel like a man--and I must admit this made me more attracted to her, and probably her to me, too.

I'm leaning up against my car and she's standing across from me. I flirt and tease her, poking at her stomach sometimes and she eventually takes a spot next to me, so I put my arm around her waist and pull her in. This was the first time she was actually physically receptive the whole night. I ask her if she wants to listen to music, she says yes and we get in my car. This has worked every time I've tried it btw...Especially when you're a musician like me, music will inevitably come up at some point in the night and I'll say something like "Oh you should listen to such and such if you like such and such." I play her a few songs then we start making out. Everything's going great. My mouth is all over her titties and she tells me that I have to play very, very hard for her to get anything out of it. I tore into one of the nipples like you would a tough piece of beef jerky, pinched and clawed at the other one and she moaned and moaned. I said "You're gonna have bruises after all this" and she said "I usually do."

I try to get a hand in her pants and she tells me she's on her period. Not sure if this was a shit test or not, but I complied. I pulled out my cock and put her hand on it and she stroked it. She didn't finish or anything but still. After a while she would say I have to go home soon but we would keep making out. I wasn't sure how to handle this one, either, other than putting my mouth on her titties. Was this a shit test, guys? Do I go cold and say "alright then, it's been fun" but with a smile on my face? Was she testing me to see how much I wanted her to stay? I would like some advice on this one.

She would also say to me "We'll do that next time" which I interpret as dangling a carrot. In between kisses and nipple biting I basically tried to set up the next date, making the mistake of asking when she's available, instead of saying when I'm available. Oh well. She said "I think maaayybe I can do Friday" which is the kind of crap I don't like putting up with, but I said "That's actually the only day I can do" (which is half-true). But whatever. I think this might be the one area I really faltered the whole night, which is good!

Then we went our separate ways. She texted me later saying "Hi! Hope you got home alright, it was nice meeting you tonight! I had a good time :)"

How I'm going to proceed: I don't want to fall for that carrot I listed above. She knows that she basically offered me sex (or something close to it) the next time we meet. She knows I'll want this. She wants to see how hard I'll work for it. If you guys have a different opinion, I'd like to know, but this interpretation seems correct to me.

So I'm basically going to keep up my same text game from before of just sorta not giving a shit, joking around, etc. I responded to her text this morning joking that I actually got into a fatal car accident and I'm messaging her from hell (which I landed in probably because I was oh-so-naughty last night). Then if we're in a particular hot text back and forth I'll try and set up the date there.

One last thing: I'd like to point out that she's joining the Peace Corps come March so she clearly has no interest in an LTR. Just a bit of fun with me for the time being.

Thanks again for all the help guys. This community has a razor sharp insight that can't really be found anywhere else. Remember to

Lift

Hold frame

Agree and amplify