First part is a Field Report, scroll down for question.

[FR]

Had an interesting Saturday night at club. I recognized a lot of people there and spent most of the night catching up with people I used to talk to.

But nearing the end of the night, I was pretty tired and was just sitting alone watching the live band perform. Sure enough this girl comes up to me, she’s really hot, but I can tell she’s pretty drunk. Had this been two years ago, I wouldn’t have wasted any time at all to take this broad home.

She started grinding on me while I was sitting down, and she was asking me to dance. I told her, I’m enjoying watching the band perform, I’m cool if you join me but I’m not dancing right now. She left for not even 5 minutes and came back. She was trying to dance with me again, but gave up and sat down next to me. We sat down mostly in silence, we exchanged a few looks, but nothing else. Then she started leaning on me, and trying to kiss me, and I was like okay, fine let’s go dance.

We danced for a little bit, and were even making out. Some other dude rolled by, I think she knew him. He started dancing with her, but eventually she came back to me. But then, she went back to the other guy, and I was thinking “I’m not playing this game right now”. I totally could have too, it’s happened so many times before, and I’ve overcome the tug of war, but I just wasn’t into this girl all that well. I mean sure, eventually being horny got the better of me and I went to dance with her, but it was only because she was making it too easy.

I’m pretty happy with how I was able to show restraint.

Afterwards, I saw this other girl, she was just dancing by herself like an idiot. I thought it was the funniest thing and I started dancing with her. We were just having fun. It wasn’t about kino, or game. I was just enjoying the moment. I grabbed her number afterwards and we had a date the next day.

I spent the date trying to figure out her values and hobbies. It turns out we enjoy a lot of the same things, and we hold a lot of the same values. Normally dates are me just trying to find a way to f-close. This was more about vetting, and she seemed to fit almost everything I look for in someone on a surface level. It was pretty surprising, because normally when I vet girls I find a lot of things I don’t like. Practical things ya-know? I guess it’s refreshing to meet a girl who doesn’t have daddy issues.

However, last time I was in this boat, it wasn’t until afterwards that I noticed some red flags about a girl. By then it was too late, I caught feels bad and she ended up flaking over and over again. Then again, My guard was a lot lower, and it didn’t take much for me to really lower it. It ended up putting me in a really dark place, hence how I found the Red Pill. A lot has changed since then.

I’m definitely a lot more cautious, and I’m more able to logically approach relationships.

[Question/TL;DR]

What are some things I should look for for the next few dates?

I know her hobbies, values, school, and work.

What should I be gauging next, or trying to find out?

What are some red flags to vet for?