Friends randomly started disrespecting me

readingblastoise · 2019-09-18T06:36:51+00:00

So i joined university and networked with lot of people

And most of them started randomly started disrespecting me in front of others people this week

I didn't have friends growing up

here's what it sounds like to me -- they're disrespecting you in front of others because you are perceived as "low value" -- they do so in an effort to preserve their social status

could be wrong, but I've experienced this shit first hand -- when a "buddy" disrespects you in order to win over a girl or a group of people, and they don't think you know what's going on lol, or don't care for that matter -- those people are not your friends

my advice to you is go to work on yourself, keep socializing, and let the haters be your amusement

FereallyRed · 2019-09-18T07:02:03+00:00

I think they're just bantering with you, fuckwad.

You know, teasing, shooting the shit, taking the piss.

You say disrespect but not examples, yet you notice it's happening on multiple fronts to you. That makes me even more sure you're misreading/mishandling interactions.

fartt123 · 2019-09-18T07:37:01+00:00

Weak frame. don't laugh at anyone's joke. don't ask about their day. Don't say what's up see who talks to you. those that do are your friends those that don't. Aren't. Then talk to everyone. in my experience you'll only find 2 to 3 true friends everyone else is just crowd that you know.

LeatherBoundWisdom · 2019-09-18T12:39:24+00:00

I used to be a very supplicating nice guy, but an epiphany has helped me demand respect.

I will live right, or I won't at all.

I'm willing to put it all on the fucking table, every facet of my relationship with you, in the event you disrespect me. I don't scream or get angry, I'm just fucking done and you no longer matter or exist. When I'm disrespected on that primal level, I feel it deep in my gut. This heart wrenching what the fuck am I doing with my life? I decided I never want that feeling again, and if you try to make me feel this way you can go fuck yourself off a cliff.

Every single time I've ever had this resolve, however, it was communicated crystal clear in my interactions and my relationship with people only got stronger. I was more happy and open as a result of feeling secure, they were better able to interact with a secure person making them in turn feel secure. We're all suddenly very comfortable and having a good time.

vondoom900 · 2019-09-18T14:23:27+00:00

Bants.

jjj2576 · 2019-09-18T17:00:12+00:00

I give you permission to give less fucks about receiving validation from other people.

danieltroungesister · 2019-09-18T06:20:30+00:00

Talk less, do your own thing

Title	Friends randomly started disrespecting me
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Date	September 18, 2019 6:15 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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