Fwb asked for more respect.

RPNorvell · 2020-01-21T00:31:35+00:00

She sees herself as your girlfriend, so shes starting to act like one.

bigdudecfc · 2020-01-21T00:55:59+00:00

Your confusing her with your behavior,if you treat her like a gf she'll want gf treatment nothing wrong with her request stop doing things that create situations like this.

HurricaneHugues · 2020-01-21T01:48:37+00:00

Don't change a thing. What she wants is more power over you.

scorpionkg · 2020-01-21T03:46:06+00:00

If you do what she wants, she will get bored and left you. Keep this rush feeling if you wanna to continue banging her.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2020-01-21T04:48:09+00:00

Don’t apologize.

wkndatbernardus · 2020-01-21T02:59:57+00:00

Sounds like Aretha Franklin in Blues Brothers except she was a hard working woman that brought home the bacon (and ate a lot of it too). Doubtful there are many like her anymore.

folded1000time · 2020-01-21T17:25:51+00:00

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teka7 · 2020-01-21T12:05:21+00:00

How can I handle this so I can maintain the upper hand or gain even more control/power?

you already gave the answer....tell her exactly this

She's very cool and nice. I do like hanging out with her, I'm happy with our current relationship. I don't see her as a girlfriend at the moment, not for a while.

superbad4life · 2020-01-21T13:56:53+00:00

I'm not in abundance at the moment and would like to build a rotation. She's the only girl I'm seeing currently.

What's stopping you? If you want to build it up then go do it.

As for the power struggle, I think that it is more of your mentality. If she wants to leave, let her leave. She is trying to negotiate for more power - either more respect or I leave. Bringing this full circle, if the ideas is to get more plates, then who cares if she goes? You are not required to elevate her status because you know there are other women. She's trying to clamp down your options.

bbcbarbarossa · 2020-01-21T14:08:27+00:00

You're not using her as sex is a two way street. She's getting the same out of it.

hoopingblob · 2020-01-21T13:27:49+00:00

"The only thing that you get respectfully is my dick! Now suck it...respectfully"

Imperator_Red · 2020-01-23T04:20:14+00:00

Find more women to fuck

Jabbermouth · 2020-01-21T07:08:47+00:00

Successfully handling plates is a skilful endeavour that should only be taken on by people who know female nature inside out.

Guys who don't know what they are doing usually escape unscathed by luck rather than design because they've hooked up with lack of self-respect sluts ( cause plates are, by definition, sluts- no debate: sleeping with a guy on the regular who is not a boyfriend is sluttery- it's not even a one night stand where they can blame the drink/ drugs) who've other options.

The UNlucky get her pregnant and end up with a kid with a woman they are not into and the resulting drama this brings later down the line when she realises you're only there for the kid and her 'accidentally' getting pregnant has backfired.

Paying her respect? Lol. She's the one with no respect for herself.

Drop her nicely now cause she obviously wants this to go further. You don't. How do I know? Because she wouldn't just be a fwb for you.

It's the right thing to do and it also the kindest- put her out of her misery

And if you DO go for one last bang, use a condom!!!

spedoid · 2020-01-21T15:56:42+00:00

She's trying to work her way towards being her girlfriend. It's honestly not a bad thing. It means you're doing a good job and she likes you. But here are the facts:

If you just start doing date-y things with her BECAUSE she asked for it, she's going to go down the rabbit hole with it and start to demand more things. All women are like this. It is best to keep things the way they are for now, at first. If you want to change the situation then do so but it has to be YOUR choice and she has to know that.
If she is cool and nice, she is aware that just fucking you is not what she wants to be doing. She wants that emotional connection or whatever.

Just keep doing what you're doing. If you don't want to escalate emotionally, TELL HER. Just be totally honest with her. Be 100% honest with her and maybe tell her you need more time to decide if you're ready for commitment. I always tell girls that "In old relationships I let stuff move too fast and it didn't work out" and that seems to always do the trick. They respect that you've had prior ex's and whatnot. Hell, even when I was younger and didn't have any ex's I would pull the "muh ex's" card. Gets you another few weeks or months, for sure.

If she's a decent quality woman she's not going to be content with you two just fucking and never going out and doing anything.

My advice: Tell her you need some more time. Then when she is asleep at your place, go thru her phone. Read her texts and DM's. See if she's flirting with other guys or not. I guarantee that will give you a better insight as to if you really like her or not. If she is totally dedicated to you then dating her might not be a bad idea anyway tbh.

Title	Fwb asked for more respect.
Author	Jezek_zan
Upvotes	19
Comments	39
Date	January 21, 2020 12:26 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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