Getting over approach anxiety.

BitingInsects · 2014-07-20T06:23:41+00:00

It helps when you visualize what you want. Say you know for a fact there are hot girls at the bookstore. You genuinely happen to be interested in a book (meaning: you aren't at the bookstore solely for meeting girls. Because that's creepy).

Visualization comes into play in several ways. Your room should already be tidy just in case you pick a girl up and bring her home that day. When you go out you should feel and be clean, shower and brush your teeth even. Have some towels or wipes in your bathroom in case you bring a girl home and she wants to feel comfortable. Have the music ready, ambiance. Keep the car clean in case she wants to have coffee/lunch with you from the bookstore.

I've had a few drinks so excuse the rant. These are general examples, but they are small baby steps that subconsciously take your mind off of the initial contact and help lead you towards what you really want.

Modified_Hackware · 2014-07-20T05:08:27+00:00

Start asking people in the street what the time is. Then ask them what colour their socks are today. Then ask them the last time they took a shit.

Then ask them out.

Blake55 · 2014-07-20T04:30:09+00:00

Outcome independence is one of the best things you can have. I recently went on an out-of-town conference where there were about 1500 people my age. I just kept approaching and stopped caring. I crashed and burned a heap, but by the end I was able to gauge what was working and what wasn't. I still have some approach anxiety, but I at least know what I can do when uninhibited by fear of embarrassment. I also came to appreciate that girls have the same anxiety, which made it a lot easier.

machimus · 2014-07-20T07:45:25+00:00

Rhetorical question, have you ever had a girlfriend? (Not judging)

Title	Getting over approach anxiety.
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Date	July 20, 2014 4:08 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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