"good vibes" help

yellowmonkeyzx93 · 2016-08-18T08:20:56+00:00

I like to use the Batman and the Joker analogy. At the moment, I think you're mostly in Batman mode.

You have to be like the Joker. If you think about it, the Joker is really trying to have a swell and fun time for himself because in the end, everyone dies. He truly lives in the moment. You have to enjoy life's moments from time to time.

There's a saying.. "There's a time to play and there's a time to work."

So, if it's time to play, then play hard. Have a good time for yourself and with others. You have to learn to laugh at your own flaws too. I'm not talking about insulting yourself. It's a mark of a great man to humour himself by laughing at his flaws. It shows he acknowledges his flaws with class.

frerri · 2016-08-18T10:02:59+00:00

Meditate

redditatt · 2016-08-19T01:43:08+00:00

Watch alot of standup comedy, pay special attention to their delivery, and emulate.

Pabsmanhere · 2016-08-18T09:47:13+00:00

The only way to grow is to change your behavior. Start practicing social interactions that you would never normally have; the more extreme the better. When I was younger for example I tried on purpose to create awkward silences and then studied the behavior of the other people. After a while I became more comfortable with sometimes not saying the right thing and also learned a lot about what makes people good in a social setting. I watched what skilled socialites did and also realized most people actually suck at it too.

Also, figure out who in your family fucked up your social skills when you were younger and become appropriately pissed off at those people. Social skills are essential human learned behavior that is passed on by family and tribe. My tribe failed me and caused me a lot of suffering later on. Part of my transition to becoming comfortable and honest in pretty much any social setting was accepting my past and holding people responsible. Only then was I able to break free and truly take personal responsibility over my social interactions.

Title	"good vibes" help
Author	__goodvibes__
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Comments	4
Date	August 18, 2016 8:04 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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