guy halts convo

EfficientPin8 · 2019-11-15T13:57:20+00:00

Join in the conversation. If he is being real serious you can say little humorous things to make him look like the straight man, but be subtle so it doesn’t look like you are overtly attacking him. If you can’t join in the conversation then when he asks for a pen you could say “ sure it’s only $20 and that’s a special deal for you bud.” When he pauses to think for a comeback you say “ just pulling your chain guy here you go.” You just mastered him.

Turn the pen thing into a spotlight moment. Playfully say, “ look you be careful with this thing OK my friend? My grandfather worked in a plastic factory, and this was the very last pen he made before he passed away. It’s been in my family for 11 generations. Can you handle it?”

It sounds like he knew what he was doing and had some of this planned in advance. That definitely put you at a disadvantage. But you can always employ amused mastery with some humor here & there.

BPasFuck · 2019-11-15T17:11:00+00:00

You're exactly right. Dude tried to take a big, malicious shit all over you, and was partially successful.

You can ignore it.

You can make an excuse, leave, and work some other chick.

You can insert yourself into their conversation, and take your power back.

That last one is the best one. But I suspect you're not quite ready yet. But, you'll never be ready, without trying a time or three. It's a real paradox.

Fact is, just by being aware of this sort of shit, you're miles ahead of most clueless dudes-- so you have that going for you.

kclanton80 · 2019-11-15T16:24:54+00:00

Next time, cut him off as soon as he moves in. Tell him you two are speaking and you need a minute. Don't tolerate rudeness and disrespect. It's not like he is going to punch you, or maybe he will but who cares. Respect first.

Most bullies fold as soon as they are challenged, but people rarely challenge them. He felt entitled to talk to her because he saw she was open to talking with you. he lacked the courage to do it before he saw you were doing it.

whammyfeet · 2019-11-15T18:03:13+00:00

First of all, do you think Channing Tatum would give a shit about any of this? What I would have said was “damn... can’t complete your own assignment, didn’t bring a pen to class... good job on putting on your own socks.”

Domebeers · 2019-11-15T17:17:16+00:00

amog destroyers aren't taught anymore or?

2019-11-15T17:56:27+00:00

Easiest thing to do (which I use 90% of the time) is just ignoring and acting unfazed when he asks for the pencil. The most realistic thing I would do in this situation is just look at him like he’s crazy and hold frame and just chill out

juliusstreicher · 2019-11-15T20:21:52+00:00

You did well, under the circumstances. Glad you were quick thinking in the pen request thing. You are correct in that he AMOGed you.

You need to also reassess this chick in your scheme of things. She totally dissed you for the opportunity to talk with Chad. Next time she wants to buddy up with you, make your apologies and go hit on some other chick.

Also, memorize all that Chad did, and use it yourself later on.

smartfunction30 · 2019-11-16T01:32:48+00:00

These are some things you can do:

Taking a case where he said:

hey bro give me a pen.

- uh... say please.

If he says anything other than please, like dude what the fuck, just give me a pen so I can write this down, then you say

- hey, you're being disrespectful. Say please if you want to take something from someone. And don't give him the pen. He will try to make you look like an ass for not making his request. Then you will feel really bizarre. And you hold your fucking frame and don't give him a pen until he says please.

Hey bro, can I use your pen?

- Say please?

- no, I don't know where they sell hens. Act like you misheard

Or you can just ignore. I mean if he asks again then you can reply, but you don't have to answer just because someone asks you a question.

During the time you are getting the pen for him, activate your body really slowly, it's not urgent for you to get him this pen. The opposite choice is to snap to attention for him.

warburgio · 2019-11-15T13:28:11+00:00

Learn social skills.

Dont call him out. Either get involved in their convo, disengage by walking away, do smth over the top like throwing an overdone gay fit and stating im still here bitches, when he asks for the pen just say yh sure let me just grab it from my bag boss and then just continue reading ur book, or just be unreactive.

1000001 options better than standing there like a sad silly puppy waiting for ur turn.

i-am-the-prize · 2019-11-15T15:36:20+00:00

I feel like this could have been a post about: "so I almost got into a fight with a guy... what should I have done" literally, like a physical fight.

And the answers are the same:

1) do not fight, it's stupid and 'violence' (unless your life/property were in great peril) is losing control/breaking Frame

2) and how you "handle it" is accomplished long long before the fight starts, by training for years (in the gym, at martial arts, combat sports, weapons)

so OP, you didn't/couldn't handle him because

1) you were AMOG'd

2) you have him on a pedestal

3) you haven't prepared enough

good news, you're self aware enough to know you were p0wned. yes, the pen-move was what you think it was.

more good news: it's in your hands and up to you to get better, stronger, wiser, bigger, more attractive. Next time you can interrupt one of his convos'.. when you're ready. Be interesting to see with a 'new you' how he deals being on the defensive...

TheBunk_TB · 2019-11-15T14:21:26+00:00

Have the guy take you out for a beer.

Title	guy halts convo
Author	DenseCarry2
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	November 15, 2019 12:26 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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