Guy trying to start fight with me

elgodo7 · 2019-03-09T02:03:11+00:00

funny how the police officers tell you to get violent. while others say you did the correct thing. Those who practice martial arts are way less likely to need to attack someone first even if they are in your face you have the confidence to know you can destroy most men. Undertrained officers are a big problem lack competence to do the job.

robatusf · 2019-03-09T01:57:44+00:00

"I wasn't worried about being beaten up" -- and so you handled the situation well. You should only employ violence when NECESSARY.

Two kids tried to mug me once -- threatened to kill me and everything if I didn't give them money -- but once I saw they had no weapons (and I was 30-40 pounds heavier than either one of them) I just laughed at them and told them to go back home to their moms. And lo and behold, after a while they fled! To this day that's one of the proudest episodes of my life.

Startlivingfornow · 2019-03-09T01:24:25+00:00

Good play. If you look at this from a social point of view, he was trying to suck you into his frame. If you had let him, he wins even if you beat the shit out of him.

Always stay calm, tell them that you don’t know them and you have no issues and move on.

If they escalate more, ignore or counter frame them by saying shit like ‘You seem like a good guy, man. I’m here to have a good time.’ And move away.

People can’t draw energy from a non-reactive emotional state. They’re looking for fear or someone who matches their level of anger.

Best case is to not engage at all.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-03-08T23:48:00+00:00

He sounds super beta. You handled it correctly.

Lifeblows9691 · 2019-03-09T00:48:41+00:00

Ex police officer here.

Some punk ass in your face threatening you? You are allowed to defend yourself. Thump his ass. Make damn sure that you have witnesses that will report that you did nothing to start it. Enough with the crap in this world of letting bullies and aggressors get away with this behavior. They dont know how to act civil then beat their ass.

sweatybuyer · 2019-03-09T01:40:33+00:00

You could use your words to make him look stupid. Stuff like "why are you being so aggressive dude, relax", "bro you're creeping the girls out with your behavior", "why are you trying so hard to impress the girls". Just make him look dumb and don't get sucked into his aggressive frame. If that doesn't work, then yes, defend yourself physically.

thatbadrogue2 · 2019-03-09T08:41:00+00:00

easier to kill someone than break a limb in today's society, choose carefully on how you handle your anger release. Assault charges are very real, and detrimental to life pathing. I think you did what you did, as well as you could have. If you had witnesses which i assume you did with your friend circle it'd have swung in your favor regardless when the reports got filed - granted no underage drinking was involved.

FiveStarTendieDinner · 2019-03-09T00:05:39+00:00

Handled well but carry weapons with you at all times.

Title	Guy trying to start fight with me
Author	baldeagle0304
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	March 8, 2019 11:44 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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