Broke up with an ex because of long distance about 6 months ago. Now we're living in the same city (london) because i got a new job. We reconnected after I came to the city -i messaged her. She told me she had a boyfriend (she is LDR with him) but that didnt stop us from banging.

So ive been hitting it a couple times a week for the past month. Last time was Wednesday. On thursday she says not to message her over the weekend because her LDR is in town. I currently only have one other plate that im banging at the moment so I gave her a shout instead.

So my question is, has she actually made me HER plate? I went radio silent after Thursday and then she just messaged me this:

her: "the only reason you want to see me is to fuck, and if that doesnt happn within 20 mins you just move on to the next".

me: "k"

her: "it jsut points to your motives. thats the reality. if you arent gratified immediately, you leave. way to be as basic as possible."

Is this a shit test or a comfort test? It seems like our relationship is very transactional in nature. I give her my attention and she gives me sex. Fair enough. So is she just pissed she aint getting that validation stream/attention that she wants from me?

I havent responded yet. What you guys think? She s obviously just using me. Has she made me her plate?