Help with gym approaching

somejerseydude · 2019-10-22T21:27:49+00:00

IMO gaming girls at the gym falls under the category of shitting where you eat. Things don’t work out you’re either the weird guy who hits on girls at the gym or worse, the guy who gets me too’d and has their reputation ruined at the gym

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2019-10-22T21:59:21+00:00

I have a good amount of experience in indirect game in this area so I will tell you all I know. Whether it's sidebar material or not remains to be seen and ain't up to me.

First, only do this if you can either:

A. put up with working out near girls you either get rejected by or girls that are now exes.

or

B. Can easily change gyms if need be.

That settles the whole "shitting where you eat" question.

First of all, that "sexual connotation" shit is a bunch of nonsense. Every girl looks like a ho when squatting.

I say the three most important parts of pulling at the gym are, in this order:

1) Be noteworthy.

This one is far and away the most important IMO because it facilitates everything else. If you can't become noteworthy in some aspect at the gym then you're fighting an uphill battle. It's not impossible but this one makes everything much easier. Be strong, be shredded or be athletic and show it off but not to a point of being annoying.

2) Befriend the staff.

The staff are your wings here. More accurately you're just playing off of them but you're using them in the same manner. If the fit girl sees the staff coming up to you to chit chat then you gain a lot of clout. Furthermore, those girls almost always talk to them too. If you can become a big name in that group then you're a big name at the gym and those girls will come up to you, which overcomes every issue you just mentioned. Those girls also will use the social grape vine to let you know they're interested. It's some high school shit. They ask one of the trainers about you knowing they'll tell you they said something and it's an open invitation. All that standoffishness is meant for every other guy at that point. The passive DHV befriending them gives can not be overstated.

You might be asking at this point how is this not #1? Staff don't befriend out of shape people as often as fit people. You might be witty as fuck but these are fitness people and fitness people would always rather befriend the fit witty fuck. And again, it facilitates this interaction. I have had numerous trainers come up to me and talk to me because they're impressed by the weights I hoist. Impressing someone is key to befriending them. If you want to get invited to their gatherings (yes it happens) and even more so if your target is a trainer being noteworthy is big. Big hugely.

3) Now we get to something that I have received controversial opinions about but fuck them this is my system. The Neg, is king at the gym. We all know a well placed neg is a powerful thing but more importantly, it is most powerful on people who are self conscious and fit people are borderline obsessed with themselves.

Landing a solid one, especially in the first interaction - where it is most important to do this - is hard for a lot of people but just remember subtle is the most important part. If you say something bland or worse, truly insulting, you blew it. You might wanna avoid this part if you're bad at it but this is the best place for it so don't discount it.

The main reason I advocate for the neg is because we are trying to avoid two things.

3a) Long winded conversations. We've all seen the dude that will tell a girl his life story while she politely listens, nods and sits on a machine not doing her work out. This guy is the reason most girls look like they don't want to be bothered. Women are nice, they will listen to your pitch and not tell you to fuck off while secretly thinking "I wish this guy would fuck off so I can work out". You want to make an impact as fast as possible with as few words as possible and while they're trying to process it, you go back to working out and you live in her head for the remainder of her work out. Which brings us to:

3b)Being the one to re-initiate. First of all, if she is the one to re-initiate, congrats, that was a tight neg. If it was sloppy, you may have no choice to re-initiate because as stated before, these women are self-conscious. You may have obliterated her self-confidence and now she's afraid to talk to you again even though she really wants to. Remember, her response to a neg is supposed to be a laugh or at least a smile.

So, if she comes back, you basically won, at very least it's your game to lose. At this point you are supremely unique to her in the gym. She's used to guys chasing her all over the place and now she's doing it to you.

I recommend at this point just going for the number close, "I'm not much for talking at the gym, I like to focus on my work out so let me get your number and we'll talk later." Then you text her for logistics when you feel the time is right. Alternatively, you can have a dialog with her but I highly recommend you keep it strictly to your regular rest period. If she's talking longer than your rest period say, "hold on, let me get this set real quick."

Just remember whenever you're in an environment you want to do pick up in just think, "what does the 'alpha' here look like?" that question should provide you multiple avenues, this is just one of them. I would say it has the best chance of success and also leaves you the least vulnerable if you fuck it up. If you accomplish this you effectively make the gym your domain.

HurricaneHugues · 2019-10-22T22:15:25+00:00

Can't you pick up girls anywhere else but the gym?

Title	Help with gym approaching
Author	jaw8625
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	October 22, 2019 8:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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