How can I practice holding frame?

abdada · 2018-05-10T13:15:14+00:00

Frame is 100% derived by outcome independence -- that's it, nothing else.

The person who has the most power to leave (without emotion) is the one who holds the strongest frame.

If you have 10 side hustles paying more than your regular 9-5 job, you hold frame over your boss always.

If you have 10 side plates giving you more sex than your regular LTR, you hold frame over her always.

You don't "practice frame" -- you create options for the outcome you seek. If your goal is to do "XYZ", you should also have 5 other options you'd be fine with if XYZ doesn't happen at the cost or in the time you'd like it to.

Frame = options = outcome independence

GayLubeOil · 2018-05-10T15:15:33+00:00

The only way to practice is to do. Go to your local university while holding a pro Jesus anti abortion sighn and do your best to bring people to the light of Christ.

That's holding frame. If your not willing to put yourself in compromising situations to push yourself forward and are just here for cool tricks implicitly your fine being a beta forever.

purplefidgetmidget · 2018-05-10T15:38:22+00:00

When someone says something, force yourself to not immediately react. Consider what they have said, and then choose your behaviour. At first it may take a while to get used to doing this, but it will help immensely.

A lot of shit tests from girls will be to provoke an emotional response, so they'll hit you with something completely out of the blue. They're trying to shatter your frame, by making you act defensive, explaining, apologetic etc.

One of the best things you can do is learn what you shouldn't do (this is in the sidebar somewhere) and then practice not doing it, and not being a reactive person when someone says something.

After you do this for a while it will get more natural and you'll learn to silence your desire to be reactive, and you can be confident and hold your frame. If in doubt, use amused mastery to figure out what you should do.

zboo1h · 2018-05-10T17:43:17+00:00

Find out where you're uncomfortable, and go there and be comfortable.

For some people that means just going outside on a walk, feeling like you're being watched or being goofy for going on a walk - who does that?

Besides outcome independence and cultivating options in your life, it also has to do with becoming comfortable with discomfort.

LeftAndRed · 2018-05-11T06:18:52+00:00

Tell people how to experience the world to start.

“Whoa, that’s crazy” “That’s the stupidest shit I’ve heard all day.” “I think you’re interesting.”

When people evaluate objective reality by your assessment they are within your frame. This is why alphas compliment so much. Accepting the compliment validated and brings them into your frame.

TCMThommy · 2018-05-11T00:11:29+00:00

Journaling and actively thinking about what frame you intend to hold. "I'm going to enjoy myself tonight. Wonder who will get to meet me?" "Real strong men are rare gems in this beta world. Woman will feel honored and thrilled to have the opportunity to meet me."
I'm the prize etc.
It actually has me walking around with a smirk on my face and confidently meeting women as I walk around.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-05-11T16:56:16+00:00

There's different synonyms of frame that might help you understand it better.

• My favorite is "State of Mind" - feeling confident, happy, calm, at peace, etc.

• Keeping your "Chill"

• He's "like a rock"

Can't think of any other ones at the moment but you get the idea. Frame is not something that is strictly TRP taught. Some people learn to build and hold frame on their own through experience and adaptation (sales jobs, CEO of a company). Some people practice it in other ways (stoicism).

Title	How can I practice holding frame?
Author	streaxy
Upvotes	9
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Date	May 10, 2018 1:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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