how do I get over the fact that im extremely behind guys my age in pretty much all aspects of life (sex especially)

CreateANewAccount___ · 2018-10-22T14:54:33+00:00

Never compare yourself to others, but always measure against who you were yesterday. Or last week. Or last month.

Whether it’s sex, lifting, career or anything in your life, self-improvement is a personal journey. You can never know your own success or progress if you’re measuring with someone else’s ruler.

Drake is a megastar but if we compare his net worth to someone like Jeff Bezos, he’s nothing. Know that this is your journey to take and grow on so you should only be looking at yourself.

FixYourselfFirst · 2018-10-22T15:12:47+00:00

I'm extremely behind.

Duh, you just started. Of course you are behind those that have been at it for 2-3-4 years. And if you focus and work hard, in 2 years, some other new guy will be impressed watching you lift.

FieldLine · 2018-10-22T16:46:49+00:00

It isn't not as hard as you think to catch up. The standard "better than most guys" isn't particularly high.

_Try_Try_Again_ · 2018-10-22T17:26:31+00:00

Instead of focusing on those ahead of you, realize how many are behind you because they don’t garbage heap to teach them. You’re focusing on the wrong thing. You are the focus.

LuckyRedPill · 2018-10-23T06:14:27+00:00

Hey man, I'm at a very similar situation like yours. I'm 24, and all my friends are far ahead of me in school and girls.

For a while I had the same thought patterns like you, but I realized a few things:

there's a good reason they stay my friends, they like me a lot and I like them, so I'm probably the only one to think about it this way.
There must be at least one thing that you are ahead of each of those around you. With some I'm just a lot smarter, (with all) better shape and my health is far better then all of them since I eat clean and workout.

Good luck :)

dobbekz · 2018-10-22T16:50:41+00:00

How old are you?

F_Dingo · 2018-10-22T19:12:06+00:00

Never compare yourself to others because you'll always find something about yourself to be disappointed about.

SoulOf1Lion · 2018-10-22T20:12:59+00:00

Get rid of that jealousy and focus on whats meant for you, put your energy back into you.

Title	how do I get over the fact that im extremely behind guys my age in pretty much all aspects of life (sex especially)
Author	heman240
Upvotes	6
Comments	19
Date	October 22, 2018 2:44 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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