Hey guys! If you're wondering why I'm using a throwaway, it's because I have a lot of personal connections on my main account. And I figured I might aswell keep at it and stay active in the community, with an all new and fresh account.

Without further ado, onto my question:

Quick introduction: I'm a 6'5" 18 year-old (male?). I've been trying out Tinder for a month now, and I've gotten about 40 matches. Considering that it's quite a small town, I'm very satisfied with the result. I'm attractive, and I have a strong profile overall. I have trained at the gym for about a year now, and I've developed a very strong physique. Thanks to Greyskull LP, I've got an overall good looking body, with the popular attributes: visible and strong abs, large chest, strong back and decent shoulders and arms. I've also got plenty of fun interests (surfing, DJing... etc).

Alright, now you've got the overall picture. This is only relevant because it's to take into consideration.

Anyway, I have been chatting with this really nice girl. Been to two dates. Unfortunately, I have come to realise I have basically been playing it softer than softball. Probably would've came to her house and polished her nails to be honest. The reason for that is because I've been very religious on the fact that I shall not screw this one up. Basically go ham. It worked great, but now I've gotten the classic fade. We were having great contact, but now I've obviously got an opponent(s). She has been doing the reply really slow treatment on my ass. Meanwhile she has been actively chatting on tinder.

Now normally I wouldn't care, but for some reason this has turned out to be a real big deal for me. And I have been trying too hard to be nice, that it totally backfired. I believe I gotta go back to my roots, and just stop being such a pussy. I haven't shared the fact that I am indeed pretty muscular. I just haven't really gotten the time to stick it in there. For all she knows I might as well be chubby. Since it's winter here, I have only worn knitted with long sleeves.

I've been reading the comprehensive Red Pill guide, and as you may suspect, am indeed new to the community. I couldn't really find any information that could be applicable directly onto this situation however.

And this isn't really the only case, even if it doesn't work out, where I need to drop my self-proclaimed nice-guy attitude. I don't know, maybe it's the seasons, but I have been really struck by the nice guy attitude. I have been kicked in the balls by it. I gotta take control over this. And as I mentioned earlier, I have the basic assets to do just that.

So, to summarise, and get to the point:

  • I want to drop the nice guy attitude, and show it. Basically the competitor deep within has woken, and I would like to beat the other guy.
  • Building onto my previous point, I need to work on my self-confidence/self-esteem (From what I understand they're different? Which ever is caring about what others think), and just stop giving a fuck. And we're not talking shooting up the town square-not-giving-a-fuck, I mean not giving a fuck under controlled circumstances. Such as beating my competitor.
  • And to ask a direct question; What should I do to make myself the most desirable? Stop replying to her infrequent texts (I'll probably only get one, and then she'll message in a few days, or maybe not at all)? Or just do some random shit? As long as you can back your advice up, I'm happy to try it out.

While I (hopefully) get some replies on this case, I'll be reading up on the red pill. Hopefully I can check in with a bit more knowledge, and perhaps give some advice or two (once I get the basics down).

Thanks for taking your time, you rock, TRP!